BeaCancer91
@BeaCancer91
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He's just trying to figure things out. I do this but you know the messages boards tell you to
leave us completely alone. Wrong. Don't hound him but let him know you're still here. Prepare yourself though
he will still do this to prove the loves still there in his mind even if you guys are together for years down the road
but they'll be fewer and few and he's a lot more attentive than before.
leave us completely alone. Wrong. Don't hound him but let him know you're still here. Prepare yourself though
he will still do this to prove the loves still there in his mind even if you guys are together for years down the road
but they'll be fewer and few and he's a lot more attentive than before.
I agree. They do this alot. This is how they figure you and other things in life out.
Let him do his own thing but still let him know you are supportive.
Let him do his own thing but still let him know you are supportive.
let me ask you this. why is independence so important. what does it offer you.
so you guys have this innate desire for knowledge and discovery that you need to go off and obtain?
Posted by AquaMermaidPosted by thisiscrap2
so you guys have this innate desire for knowledge and discovery that you need to go off and obtain?
Yes! And we would appreciate if instead of trying to restrict us, you become our wings and fly with us. Be the person we can be comfortable around.Don't run behind us with expectations.Understand us first.click to expand
I see. When you aquas wanna fly free and do your stuff, i shouldn't expect him to take me with him lol...
Posted by HuldraPosted by thisiscrap2
let me ask you this. why is independence so important. what does it offer you.
What a classic Scorpio question! lolclick to expand
Hehe I like my independence and I have a need for learning too (i dont think i have aqua placements) but damn it, throw me some love and i'll come running!!!
😄
Posted by AquaMermaid
What emotions is to you, freedom is for us. It's not to cheat or make someone feel insignificant on purpose.
It's not that we don't understand a need for freedom, cause all people want that...I guess what I don't get is how easily you guys can just shut off and detach from second to second.
i psychologically cant understand it. Supernatural beings i tell ya!
If we r in a serious relationship and I don't hit u up at least once a day - I'm not that into you anymore and figure out a way to break things off. It's not about txting non stop but we sure want to know how u doin cuz we miss you and care for you. Nothing more unappealing than a feeling of being controlled and confronted for every a,b or dot we wrote less to you. If you come up with the same stuff all the time then we get bored of talkin to you. Little 'miss you' etc are highly appreciated but if the convo gets dull nd it's all about "what r u doin? Hm nothing and you?" Etc... lol we rather not text
Posted by thisiscrap2
let me ask you this. why is independence so important. what does it offer you.
if we don't have that, we get suffocated and it will end up in rejecting you.
i, personally, need time for myself...to get in touch with me, the very me, with my beautician, with my friends, with my coffee time, with my books, with my thoughts, with my manicure-padicure, with my walks to shopping, with my hair stylist, with my house cleaning, with my planning for/fantasising about the future, my holidays, etc...plus my job, plus my kid, plus 1,000,000,000 things
Posted by mzPosted by thisiscrap2
let me ask you this. why is independence so important. what does it offer you.
if we don't have that, we get suffocated and it will end up in rejecting you.
i, personally, need time for myself...to get in touch with me, the very me, with my beautician, with my friends, with my coffee time, with my books, with my thoughts, with my manicure-padicure, with my walks to shopping, with my hair stylist, with my house cleaning, with my planning for/fantasising about the future, my holidays, etc...plus my job, plus my kid, plus 1,000,000,000 thingsclick to expand
We all need that I think, but I can see why aquas need it seeing as your minds are going a mile a minute with things and the amount of people that interact with you every day. Its chaotic. Recharging is needed
Update;
Thank you everyone what you said was definitely true. He does need his space, and he does pull away to "recharge" so to speak, and once he's finished he does return ten fold. As for the person who said something along the lines about being sure if this is the sign I want.. I've dated an Aquarius male before, but each sign has it similarities, and differences it worked well, but we ended it because he had himself to work on.
I like the independence, and the space, I don't like to be constantly smothered all the time, I'm not clingy, I just like being on the same page.
The only thing is...we can't seem to keep our hands off each other, sex all day sex all night. Its not a problem, because we still have conversation, and other things we do. We have a lot of chemistry in ever aspect.
Thank you everyone what you said was definitely true. He does need his space, and he does pull away to "recharge" so to speak, and once he's finished he does return ten fold. As for the person who said something along the lines about being sure if this is the sign I want.. I've dated an Aquarius male before, but each sign has it similarities, and differences it worked well, but we ended it because he had himself to work on.
I like the independence, and the space, I don't like to be constantly smothered all the time, I'm not clingy, I just like being on the same page.
The only thing is...we can't seem to keep our hands off each other, sex all day sex all night. Its not a problem, because we still have conversation, and other things we do. We have a lot of chemistry in ever aspect.
Awwwww thank you.🙂
@AquaMermaid
@AquaMermaid
Posted by thisiscrap2
let me ask you this. why is independence so important. what does it offer you.
Dependent partners are a huge turn off. I want to be able to do my own thing without having to feel guilty for it. Anyone who doesn't allow me my time and independence (clingy, in other words) smother me. An aqua wants their space, however they are willing to give you space too. You can do your own things, then come back together recharged with fresh new topics to talk about.
Posted by thisiscrap2
i psychologically cant understand it. Supernatural beings i tell ya!
Not trying to be rude here, but if you can't understand it, then you'll never be happy with an aquarius.
Posted by BeaCancer91
Somebody please! Lol
I've known my Aquarius man for four years. We've been "talking " as far as relationship wisw for two months. He's told me he loves me, and is falling heavily for me. We've been intimate, and that made us very close. We began talking day to dawn. He's spoiled me endlessly, always wanting to see me, call me..ect
Recently he's drew distant. He's got no emotion. He still saying I love you, but I feel pushed away his communication has sort of diminished. Instead of saying something first thing in the morning its now a lot later.
He won't answer messages for several hours, or ignore them totally. Today he finally aaks "can I see you I just want to be in your presence." While all the while still being distant??
I'm losing my nerve. He's pushing me away and pulling at once. He apologized for it saying he's sorry, he loves me.
Nerve slipping. I came here because he's truly a good man, this is different. I feel like a pingpong ball.
Shed some light?
Hold your own when he goes distant. Don't rely on him to make you feel secure - find it within yourself.
Aquas like to know they can do their thing and that you trust them and they can come back to you without you complaining about them being who they are. Once they see that this little "quirk" of theirs doesn't upset you, they'll feel much more into you because you accept them for who they are.
Oh, I know it's hard. I know it sucks. But, stick it out and you'll start seeing this happening less and less. They have to be able to be theirselves and know that you're comfortable with this. Then, they will relax and loosen up. Once they feel accepted and understood, they will love you like no other.
Give him time.
Aqua love is the best! The most loyal and supportive love I've ever had.
Posted by truecapPosted by thisiscrap2
i psychologically cant understand it. Supernatural beings i tell ya!
Not trying to be rude here, but if you can't understand it, then you'll never be happy with an aquarius.
click to expand
I'm trying to understand it. I mean i'm independent too but the difference is when I want my space and I get approached I am friendly/cheery
It seems like when they are being distant or focused on something they tune you out. That's rude.
Posted by thisiscrap2Posted by truecapPosted by thisiscrap2
i psychologically cant understand it. Supernatural beings i tell ya!
Not trying to be rude here, but if you can't understand it, then you'll never be happy with an aquarius.
I'm trying to understand it. I mean i'm independent too but the difference is when I want my space and I get approached I am friendly/cheery
It seems like when they are being distant or focused on something they tune you out. That's rude.click to expand
How's that attitude working out for you?
Posted by thisiscrap2Posted by truecapPosted by thisiscrap2
i psychologically cant understand it. Supernatural beings i tell ya!
Not trying to be rude here, but if you can't understand it, then you'll never be happy with an aquarius.
I'm trying to understand it. I mean i'm independent too but the difference is when I want my space and I get approached I am friendly/cheery
It seems like when they are being distant or focused on something they tune you out. That's rude.click to expand
i could also say that if you want to be alone but you act friendly/cheery when approached...you are faking friendliness...
i am not rude and i find it fair to tell sb: "sorry could you call me/visit me/etc later?...i'm reading/surfing the internet/ having my coffee/etc now"...
maybe that is why i rarely gossip...i simply don't allow people to disturb me and i always tell them how i feel about things/their actions.
it's not rudeness...it's asking for my right to privacy
Posted by truecapPosted by thisiscrap2Posted by truecapPosted by thisiscrap2
i psychologically cant understand it. Supernatural beings i tell ya!
Not trying to be rude here, but if you can't understand it, then you'll never be happy with an aquarius.
I'm trying to understand it. I mean i'm independent too but the difference is when I want my space and I get approached I am friendly/cheery
It seems like when they are being distant or focused on something they tune you out. That's rude.
How's that attitude working out for you?click to expand
Him tuning me out, or me doing the same and tuning him out?
Not successful on our parts. We going in circles!
Posted by feby
Sometimes it's best to not try and understand it....just go with the flow of it all. And yes I see the irony in that, being an aqua and all lol
We have to understand it so we don't take further offense to it, but I don't think I get it.
This whole thing is giving me a headache lol
@mz Im not being friendly when I'm interrupted as being fake, it's more just being i guess civil or politically correct. Whatever the right word is, but of course I'll eventually make it known either by saying it or physically that I can't talk for endless amounts of time.
What aquas do soemtimes and not all of them. They will just respond but not necessarily listen.
I dont know it just makes me walk on eggshells sometimes.
What aquas do soemtimes and not all of them. They will just respond but not necessarily listen.
I dont know it just makes me walk on eggshells sometimes.
Posted by thisiscrap2
@mz Im not being friendly when I'm interrupted as being fake, it's more just being i guess civil or politically correct. Whatever the right word is, but of course I'll eventually make it known either by saying it or physically that I can't talk for endless amounts of time.
What aquas do soemtimes and not all of them. They will just respond but not necessarily listen.
I dont know it just makes me walk on eggshells sometimes.
i was pointing out how differently things can be perceived...not saying that you are fake...
try to understand that...there are always 2 faces of a coin...that's why people are compatible or not...etc
I get it now.
People are perceiving my behavior differently in the same way i'm percieving his.
Ah ha I see what you did 🙂
People are perceiving my behavior differently in the same way i'm percieving his.
Ah ha I see what you did 🙂
Hm
Sunday was his birthday. Around 9pm we sat under the stars talking til 1am. Around 2am we got a room for the night. We made love. It was very passionate. He was very affectionate. The most affectionate he's ever been. My aqua man is actually very very touchy to begin with lol..He was Holding me tight, kissing my lips. Morning came he's still holding me tight.
In that same moment he was all of sudden distant. We made our way back to his place he invited me in, he didn't say much, just cleaned up. He fed me, then I told him I had to go. He looked disappointed he asked"Why?"we hugged for a long while,before I left.
He works away out at sea for two weeks, and returns in two weeks..he has not tried to get in contact with me since 5pm Monday.. Before he left he kissed me 3 times very deeply.
This is normal?
@clueless cancer
Oh? Lol
Oh? Lol
Posted by thisiscrap2
I get it now.
People are perceiving my behavior differently in the same way i'm percieving his.
Ah ha I see what you did 🙂
bingo...
now start from here...
Posted by CluelessCancer
i stopped reading at "My Aqua man" and you're a crab.
😆 😆
here, CC, for you:
OP, i dont really have anything relevant to contribute right now. can't stay on long. jus passing through.
Posted by BeaCancer91
Hm
Sunday was his birthday. Around 9pm we sat under the stars talking til 1am. Around 2am we got a room for the night. We made love. It was very passionate. He was very affectionate. The most affectionate he's ever been. My aqua man is actually very very touchy to begin with lol..He was Holding me tight, kissing my lips. Morning came he's still holding me tight.
In that same moment he was all of sudden distant. We made our way back to his place he invited me in, he didn't say much, just cleaned up. He fed me, then I told him I had to go. He looked disappointed he asked"Why?"we hugged for a long while,before I left.
He works away out at sea for two weeks, and returns in two weeks..he has not tried to get in contact with me since 5pm Monday.. Before he left he kissed me 3 times very deeply.
This is normal?
very normal...i think you're overanalising...the same way my cancer man does...and i thought i was overanalising things...
but...you got a room...than he invited you to his place?!...what's going on there? why did you need to "get a room"?
@Mz
no reason at all really I was just being spontaneous, the room was closer than his apt.We..well I lol Didn't feel like all that driving so late at night.
And I'm guessing he's "recharging?" I'm use to his distance when he's thinking.. He will disappear for some hours, than pop up and say "I love you, I miss you."
no reason at all really I was just being spontaneous, the room was closer than his apt.We..well I lol Didn't feel like all that driving so late at night.
And I'm guessing he's "recharging?" I'm use to his distance when he's thinking.. He will disappear for some hours, than pop up and say "I love you, I miss you."
Posted by mzPosted by thisiscrap2
I get it now.
People are perceiving my behavior differently in the same way i'm percieving his.
Ah ha I see what you did 🙂
bingo...
now start from here...click to expand
It's the way it feels though, not including me in my conversations for instance or making fun activities like tennis all about him. I didn't even play cause he kept trying to hit the balls and not let me try and return the serve
It's rude.
Posted by thisiscrap2Posted by mzPosted by thisiscrap2
I get it now.
People are perceiving my behavior differently in the same way i'm percieving his.
Ah ha I see what you did 🙂
bingo...
now start from here...
It's the way it feels though, not including me in my conversations for instance or making fun activities like tennis all about him. I didn't even play cause he kept trying to hit the balls and not let me try and return the serve
It's rude.click to expand
maybe he's just the kind of man you're not looking for...thought of that?
maybe he is just a rude person which has nothing to do with men, aquas or anything else
i don't know...
Posted by BeaCancer91
@Mz
no reason at all really I was just being spontaneous, the room was closer than his apt.We..well I lol Didn't feel like all that driving so late at night.
And I'm guessing he's "recharging?" I'm use to his distance when he's thinking.. He will disappear for some hours, than pop up and say "I love you, I miss you."
then you might be just sabotaging your relationship...very crabby of what i've noticed about my crab...
@mZ no don't say that 😢
Posted by thisiscrap2
@mZ no don't say that 😢
i'm not saying anything...but this is the way you make him look like...now think how he might feel if you tell him all these things...
besides, always take what we say on here with some reservation...as we don't know you or him...
besides, any relationships has its limitations...we take them or not...complaining doesn't take us far anyway...
Posted by BeaCancer91
A
@Mz
How so?
exactly the way you do...overanalising, asking for things, then analising them again, judging, being suspicious, trying to prove "i don't know what"...i never knew i am so normal till i got involved with this crab man...can't you just take things at a face value—
@mz
We rarely talk about feelins. If we do its because I was so pissed off and ranted at him. But that hasn't happened in a long time. He's so roboty...I guess I don't feel connected because of the robotic nature.
We rarely talk about feelins. If we do its because I was so pissed off and ranted at him. But that hasn't happened in a long time. He's so roboty...I guess I don't feel connected because of the robotic nature.
Hm. Okay I understand.
One more thing..
He's tagging friends on FB, writing on long status's. I'm not mad by any means. Just observant. Still hasn't lift a finger to say a word. 😛 still normal?
He's tagging friends on FB, writing on long status's. I'm not mad by any means. Just observant. Still hasn't lift a finger to say a word. 😛 still normal?
Posted by BeaCancer91
One more thing..
He's tagging friends on FB, writing on long status's. I'm not mad by any means. Just observant. Still hasn't lift a finger to say a word. 😛 still normal?
😄 who cares if it is normal or not...?!
psychology says a man won't talk unless they have sth to say
this cancer man surely made one thing: i don't care WHEN he writes back...he'll do it, anyway...
Posted by thisiscrap2
@mz
We rarely talk about feelins. If we do its because I was so pissed off and ranted at him. But that hasn't happened in a long time. He's so roboty...I guess I don't feel connected because of the robotic nature.
i think you are pretty confused...in one post you said i was wrong saying maybe he is not the man you are looking for, now you are saying you don't feel connected...i think you need some time for yourself...
Posted by mzPosted by thisiscrap2
@mz
We rarely talk about feelins. If we do its because I was so pissed off and ranted at him. But that hasn't happened in a long time. He's so roboty...I guess I don't feel connected because of the robotic nature.
i think you are pretty confused...in one post you said i was wrong saying maybe he is not the man you are looking for, now you are saying you don't feel connected...i think you need some time for yourself...click to expand
I do because this crap is keeping me up at night 😐
@thisiscrap
😢 don't stress yourself out okay—
@Mz
Lol, you are right. He finally messaged me is joyful, and chipper, saying he wishes he was home already he misses me. 🙂
😢 don't stress yourself out okay—
@Mz
Lol, you are right. He finally messaged me is joyful, and chipper, saying he wishes he was home already he misses me. 🙂
I get stressed out when there's no closure 😢 😢
@Thisiscrap
😢 I understand that. That drives me mad. Especially in the past it has -- but there will be certain points in you life where you will need to find peace, and closure on your own. No one owes you anything, the people who offer closure are being polite, and cordial. Find happiness within yourself. If something is stressing you out, and its not worth the headache it causes, and deep down you know this..let it be, let it go. You deserve to smile chica 🙂
😢 I understand that. That drives me mad. Especially in the past it has -- but there will be certain points in you life where you will need to find peace, and closure on your own. No one owes you anything, the people who offer closure are being polite, and cordial. Find happiness within yourself. If something is stressing you out, and its not worth the headache it causes, and deep down you know this..let it be, let it go. You deserve to smile chica 🙂
Posted by BeaCancer91
@Thisiscrap
😢 I understand that. That drives me mad. Especially in the past it has -- but there will be certain points in you life where you will need to find peace, and closure on your own. No one owes you anything, the people who offer closure are being polite, and cordial. Find happiness within yourself. If something is stressing you out, and its not worth the headache it causes, and deep down you know this..let it be, let it go. You deserve to smile chica 🙂
I know but its easier said than done. That's why I haven't really conceded yet. It's not about proving a point, its about setting boundaries i should have set in the beginning.
The second I concede, the second it goes back to the same way it has been...which in turn will make this problem erupt again.
He's a very affectionate aqua man. He smothers me with his love. I don't mind obviously, but he has moments of his distant nature, its never for longer than a day and it's not often
His birthday is not big to him, as he sees everyday as something to cherish, I don't mind the space, I actually like it, im not clingy, I do like affection and he does provide it perfectly. I've asked myself those questions before I decided to further commit. He was the one looking to commit to me, because of those very question I was slow to say yes, I'm happy I did🙂
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Recently he's drew distant. He's got no emotion. He still saying I love you, but I feel pushed away his communication has sort of diminished. Instead of saying something first thing in the morning its now a lot later.
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I'm losing my nerve. He's pushing me away and pulling at once. He apologized for it saying he's sorry, he loves me.
Nerve slipping. I came here because he's truly a good man, this is different. I feel like a pingpong ball.
Shed some light?