Aquarius man and FWB relationship

I hate when women do this shit.

What exactly do u mean? I cannot tell a long story super shortly

I was in a same situation with aqua woman for about a year. The problem was that she insisted that we are fwb but tried to develop a real relationship without declaring it. In the end she said it's not working and we should stop trying, that she doesn't see a future with me. As she drifted away from me I started to show more and more feelings, so now she doesn't want to see me at all. She responds only if I call her or message her and she is still kind, but won't have sex with me and is very very cautious as if she is afraid to show her affection towards me. So my advice is if you want to make him commit - keep up with the nonchalance. Read Rilke. My ex's point of view on love and life is basically solitude/isolation/free space/love is impossible and so on and so on...

I like how you think fwb is more sincere than fuck buddies. Jokes!

What do I think? Nothing. Have fun torturing yourself.

Well I have had fuckbuddy relationship. You go to their place, do it and then leave. No other communication, no cuddling. So there is a definitively some difference between fb and fwb.

Posted by taurusinsane
Well I have had fuckbuddy relationship. You go to their place, do it and then leave. No other communication, no cuddling. So there is a definitively some difference between fb and fwb.

interesting, why?

so if you have this type of "relationship" where there is no communication (?), WHY are there expectations??

Wha? I never said that in this relationship i have with this guy is without communciation.

What i meant was that when i had one fbuddy then we didnt talk about our lifes, didnt have these deep convos like i do have now with this one. And he sometimes forget that we do have mostly fck relationship, because he asks me out to be with his friends etc. usual fbuddies dont do that. I would never show my fbuddy to friends, or connect mentally

Oh ok..

fwb, fbuddy, same thing.

you settle for very little.

you will get just about that.

games is all that is.

ask yourself if you want to keep playing them.

At this moment, when i dont have time for full-time relationship and neither do i want to because i am not a relationship person. But let that be..

I just get these weird jealousy and controlling questions from him that a man, who dont have feelings, dont care about. I havent even once feel jeaolusy for a guy i dont have feelings, i even encourage them to meet other girls. Thats why im confused.

I dont think of it as a game. I like this relationship we have, it just confuses me that he says one thing and then acts like a boyfriend.

I enjoy our time, our connection but when he feels something for me, then the relationship isnt as stated- fwb.

You are just fooling yourself.

you like him and you want more. Stop lying to yourself.

Well i do like him but i hope he has something for me too. I like this relationship but just add feelings and i would be happy

You're going to get hurt.

ok truecap, but why do u say that. based on what?

Posted by taurusinsane
Well I have had fuckbuddy relationship. You go to their place, do it and then leave. No other communication, no cuddling. So there is a definitively some difference between fb and fwb.

I'm just saying. That's your definition of fuckbuddy. I would have no hesitation to become close friends with a fuck buddy because romantically I won't involve myself. Also to some they have open relationships where they fuck anyone they want to.

That's beside the point isn't it because you really want to find out if he likes you more than just a sexual object. That my friend, good luck on finding out.

Posted by taurusinsane
ok truecap, but why do u say that. based on what?

Because he is clear that it's only FWB and you're secretly hoping it will come to more, that he will develop the same feelings for you that you have for him.

FWB has an expiration date. It's a temporary arrangement. As soon as one of the parties find someone they're wanting to take seriously, the FWB arrangement becomes null and void.

ok i will be one the background because i dont want to open myself to a person who will not stay.

fyi i had the talk with the man and he said that because im (as me) so "heart in a cage, high walls up, busy" girl then he didnt understand what i wanted and this fwb way he hoped to get to me slowly. so, everything is ok and we are still not a couple, taking it slow. i need so much time to open myself up, but it is good that he is there to catch me. im in tears.

Posted by taurusinsane
fyi i had the talk with the man and he said that because im (as me) so "heart in a cage, high walls up, busy" girl then he didnt understand what i wanted and this fwb way he hoped to get to me slowly. so, everything is ok and we are still not a couple, taking it slow. i need so much time to open myself up, but it is good that he is there to catch me. im in tears.

Good!! It takes a lot of communication, a little vulnerability and flat out honesty to get what you want out of a relationship. Hiding your emotions and desires wasn't doing either of you any good. It's hard to go out on that limb, but sometimes one of you has to do it. Glad you got it out in the open and hoping this works out for yall!