"Casual Cheating"?

I have had an on and off FWB relationship with an aquarius man, and I've looked at his chart and he's a proper aquarius. Anyways we eventually got to know each other well, and I fell for him and I know that a big no no with an aquarius FWB but at the same time people say aquarius prefer being friends first. So I thought of telling him how I feel? Just asking for advice on how to go about it.

That's also a no no.

You shouldn't get into a fwb relationship if you want more than that.

If he ends up not feeling the same way, just acknowledge where you messed up, learn from your choice (I hate saying mistake lol) and keep it moving.

Plz tell me you weren't born in 97 o.o

Don't expect those who enjoy casual sex to be the faithful type to begin with. There's a reason avoid relationships and sleep around. They aren't capable of committing.

Posted by Hemispheres
Don't expect those who enjoy casual sex to be the faithful type to begin with. There's a reason avoid relationships and sleep around. They aren't capable of committing.

+1 (at least, majority of the time)

Posted by Hemispheres
Don't expect those who enjoy casual sex to be the faithful type to begin with. There's a reason avoid relationships and sleep around. They aren't capable of committing.

I am very loyal to whomever I'm fucking. You can't say people who are involved in FWB situations are not capable of commitment. I love commitment. Just have not found "the one" again. I've never been married either

KaptainKahos

No I want born in 97, I just put down something random since it's a throwaway.

Anyways, when we started as FWB I didn't like him like THAT. It's just that as time went on I started falling for him. What I don't understand is people say aquarius prefer to be friendly then getting into thing more serious, the thing is I heard he's "seeing" another girl and I feel like if I don't say something now he'll ride off into the sunset with another girl.

Posted by Gooober


That's also a no no.

You shouldn't get into a fwb relationship if you want more than that.

If he ends up not feeling the same way, just acknowledge where you messed up, learn from your choice (I hate saying mistake lol) and keep it moving.

Lmao @ the gif

Posted by Throwaway1997
KaptainKahos

No I want born in 97, I just put down something random since it's a throwaway.

Anyways, when we started as FWB I didn't like him like THAT. It's just that as time went on I started falling for him. What I don't understand is people say aquarius prefer to be friendly then getting into thing more serious, the thing is I heard he's "seeing" another girl and I feel like if I don't say something now he'll ride off into the sunset with another girl.

FWB is just that friends with benefits, a fuck buddy, not a boyfriend. You can't go backwards from that, and they typically do not evolve into more.

i don't get the title of this thread either.. FWB = no pressure, no strings, no anything.. how can it be causally cheating? WTF

Not cheating on me cheating on the other girl he's seeing. That's another thing that kind of upset me, if we're sleeping together I feel like I have a right to know about this other girl. I could catch somthing. And if he was happy with this girl, why would he keep seeing me?

do you not protect yourself from STD'S and pregnancy? No condoms? you are in a FWB.... it's casual sex= no commitments.


If the arrangement was FWB and you caught feelings, for your sanity you might want to end it before you become totally consumed. But i think it might be too late for that. Good luck to you.

I feel bad for you @kalin, but I dated a Virgo who was the same way as you describe your Aquarius. I don't believe all aquas to be this way at all. I've grown up with them all my life. the ones who I know and love are very loyal. even Aquarius acquaintances I know are very loyal. I suppose you and I met our luck of the draw with our serial cheaters, but I think there is more to that than just the sun sign, you know? my Virgo ex would cry and whine about it too threatening suicide so I'd stay (we were both young) due to his manipulation and the cycle repeated on and on.

as for OP, I don't know. best to tell him now or forever hold your peace, but don't be surprised if he decides to leave. sometimes FWB solely means FWB. sometimes FWB can turn into something more...but...you will have to respect if he doesn't want to have a relationship because the whole basis of what you have was FWB. I wish you the best.

i didnt read the rest of the topic, need coffee. Hubby had to go to work early so made him breakfast. -_-

but did the film stars of Ashton Kutcher and Justin Timberlake skew your view of Aquarius men?? when they starred in the fwb films??

How come no one bothered with the women who played them?? *smh*

i mean in real life, justin Timberlake and Ashton Kutcher are serial monogamists, they are with Jessica Biel and Mila Kunis now.

Posted by AquaMermaid
This thread topic is hilarious 99% of men regardless of their sign don't develop feelings in a FWB. They aren't answerable to you because you agreed to sleep for less. Women bond through sex but men see it as just SEX. There is nothing more to it. Don't keep any unrealistic expectations.

+1

there's alot of men in every sun sign who are into sex without commitment.

maybe astrologers think that they are domiannt uranian types?

that don't make sense because Elizabeth Taylor is Uranus dominant and she is a serial monogamist, goes from one marriage to another.

i dont know about women bonding through sex only though....men do too.

Chicks want dick just like guys want pussy.

Posted by AquaMermaid

Posted by kalin
I think Aqua guys are born to be cheaters. My ex Aqua cheated on every single girl he has ever dated.
When he was chasing me, he had a gf and I didn't know.
When he was with me, he went out with a different girl every weekend. When I caught him, he just cried and swore that he'd never do it again and sure enough he did it again. After we broke up and he got a new gf, he still wanted to have sex with me so I had to ice him out. Then, he cheated on that gf with another girl in a few months so they broke up. Then, he cheated on that other girl with a new young girl in another few months... He is just a fucking serial cheater.

I never get tired of reading your whining about your Aquarius ex. My Scorpio ex was a total womaniser and physically and verbally abusive. I guess that must make all the Scorpio men in the world a big pile of shit and cheaters?? The OP is an immature girl who wants a relationship with a FWB. But you just need a platform to display your bitterness and tell your sob story even though it's not fitting. Talk about playing the victim card. LOL

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i was gonna say...

she says the same thing about Leo men too.


people on this site don't ever evolve from what they're been complaining YEARS ago. It's like they remain the SAME. same ole' pissed off about not getting the man and not being able to get a man to commit to them.

Don't you all think it's time to do something about it?? I mean after YEARS and YEARS of this.....would you not get upset at the lack of commitment any of you who are NOT in a relationshp and have been complaining and complaining for sooooo long.

i mean honestly, doesn't it get upsetting YEAR after year?

anyway, coffee anyone?

😄

Here you go:

that cute cat is eating all of it!! 😄

ok ok this is better, purrrrffeeccct:

Posted by Throwaway1997
Not cheating on me cheating on the other girl he's seeing. That's another thing that kind of upset me, if we're sleeping together I feel like I have a right to know about this other girl. I could catch somthing. And if he was happy with this girl, why would he keep seeing me?

If he's also seeing someone else, then the chances of him being receptive to you sharing your feelings is pretty slim. Like the others said, it's FWB for a reason.

However, if you do decide to tell him, then do it with confidence and without asking what he feels in return. Just say "I like you and I want to be exclusive with you" or "Dang it! I messed around and caught feelings for you". Then see what he does with the information. See what he has to say. If he says nothing in return, then you have your answer.

Whatever you do, DO NOT be emotional. He will probably be honest with you, even if it's what you don't want to hear, so keep it honest and keep the "emotions" out of it.
Just maintain your confidence and keep it about you. If he doesn't respond the same, be prepared to walk away - with confidence and dignity.

Posted by Gooober

Posted by Hemispheres
Don't expect those who enjoy casual sex to be the faithful type to begin with. There's a reason avoid relationships and sleep around. They aren't capable of committing.

+1 (at least, majority of the time)

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+2. Majority of the time indeed.

Posted by AquaMermaid
This thread topic is hilarious 99% of men regardless of their sign don't develop feelings in a FWB. They aren't answerable to you because you agreed to sleep for less. Women bond through sex but men see it as just SEX. There is nothing more to it. Don't keep any unrealistic expectations.

+1000. If I got a dime for every time I came across a woman who failed to comprehend a simple concept like that and feel all uppityabout how she's different and she'll make this FWB her's through sleeping with him, I'd be a very rich woman.

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by AquaMermaid
This thread topic is hilarious 99% of men regardless of their sign don't develop feelings in a FWB. They aren't answerable to you because you agreed to sleep for less. Women bond through sex but men see it as just SEX. There is nothing more to it. Don't keep any unrealistic expectations.

+1000. If I got a dime for every time I came across a woman who failed to comprehend a simple concept like that and feel all uppityabout how she's different and she'll make this FWB her's through sleeping with him, I'd be a very rich woman.

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Agree.

OK.

coffee for FW:

😄 😄

I told him my feeling and he didn't even seem that interested in the conversation,. Like I was a hassle.

Anyways I told him how much I liked him and how good we'd be together and he just let me go on
Until I was done and hen told me about this girl he's been seeing and he said the only reason we were still
Seeing each other was because they weren't official and hadn't slept together but he said that he planned
On dumping me soon and that he thought that this was mutual and blah blah blah.

I just don't understand how he could prefer a practical stranger over someone who cares about him and loves him.
Now it's so awkward we still have to see each other because we run in the same crew, and our friends birthday is
Later tonight, and I really thought he liked me back. Should I even go?

backtokemet

I understand that but I don't wanna run away either and look like a coward.Like I'm avoiding him and this girl.

Posted by Throwaway1997
I told him my feeling and he didn't even seem that interested in the conversation,. Like I was a hassle.

Anyways I told him how much I liked him and how good we'd be together and he just let me go on
Until I was done and hen told me about this girl he's been seeing and he said the only reason we were still
Seeing each other was because they weren't official and hadn't slept together but he said that he planned
On dumping me soon and that he thought that this was mutual and blah blah blah.

I just don't understand how he could prefer a practical stranger over someone who cares about him and loves him.
Now it's so awkward we still have to see each other because we run in the same crew, and our friends birthday is
Later tonight, and I really thought he liked me back. Should I even go?

From his point of view, the casual hook up with no strings was mutual. Every FWB has an expiration date, and today is yours. I would go to the party, hold my head high, maintain my dignity and be my normal self. Don't let 'em see ya sweat. Sure, it'll be hard, but chalk it up as a life lesson not to FWB in your circle of friends.

And of note to your question regarding "how he could prefer a practical stranger over someone who cares about him and loves him."

Well, the other girl may care for him and love him too. Only difference between you and her is that she didn't FWB him. Keep in mind that most men don't respect women who agree to FWB. Next time don't agree to be someone's "relief valve".

I really apologize if that sounds harsh, but I'd tell my daughter the same thing, in the same way.

Posted by backtokemet
it's up to you to determine if you can go to that party and keep your cool (if that girl is there) ..
some women would advise you to bring a friendzoned guy with you (to "save face") but he'd see through that and you'd only look pathetic

whatever you decide, I wouldn't recomment being an immature vindictive woman

+1,000

Posted by flowingwater
Tell his girl. At the party, fuck him.

😈

That would be chaotic and spicy!!!!

I highly doubt that you would actually say that yourself.

I found his phone at my place, he must've lost it. I'm not sure if I should give it to him at the party or just call him. And honestly I'm a bit tempted to see his new girl.

Posted by Throwaway1997
I found his phone at my place, he must've lost it. I'm not sure if I should give it to him at the party or just call him. And honestly I'm a bit tempted to see his new girl.

I would just avoid the whole scenario and have someone you trust give him his phone back. You've got to move on with your life, not wonder what he's up to or who he's seeing, as hard as it sounds. Does your friend know about any of this?

He knew about the whole FWB thing I'm not sure what/if he know about this girl, the party isn't for another few hours though.

if an aquarius wants more they will ask u out right away and make you theirs.

Aqua man is mad at me , I handed him his phone and his gf saw and now he's mad. On one hand I wanna make up with him on another im pissed that he's blaming all this on me. After the party he swung by and we talked and I honestly don't know what to do next. I had been drinking so I said some really ugly things to him and his gf, and he played it of like I was a crazy victim of unrequited love. But I think some people knew better. I just need help.

Let it go.

Forget him.

Move on.

I don't like the usage of the word cheating here. He's not cheating on you. He's not obligated to you and remember that a guy will always prefer a "stranger" who he is bonding with over someone without standards who he is just sleeping with.

Posted by Hemispheres
Don't expect those who enjoy casual sex to be the faithful type to begin with. There's a reason avoid relationships and sleep around. They aren't capable of committing.

+1

This has been my experience with FWBs. They have issues and aren't relationship material.

What I want to know is what did he say/do that made you believe that he actually liked you?

Haha...

Damn well another lesson learned. Hope the advice you got helped you to move on and find another fwb. Or fuck it, just find someone who likes monogamous relationships..that way the next person has the same mind set as you.. You played a vindictive game doing that giving the phone back and then get mad. . Then he gets mad. Then words are exchanged. Only woman words are I cared about you but the guy's word. It was just sex. Ouch hurts like a bitch.. it was only sex to begin with.

Yep, they cheat, until they find The One. And they may even cheat on her, until they're sure she IS The One. That can take a while.

The thing is, is that you'll always know when they're cheating. Of course, they won't admit it and never will (they'll say you're not exclusive, you weren't really bf/gf, etc.) but on the other hand, you'll always know when they're being faithful.

Once they commit, you can be sure they won't step out on you.