Confronting an Aquarius

I've posted a few times in the past on my particular Aqua guy in question. I'll try to keep this as short as possible.
I have known my Aqua for about a year and a half. For the first year we were friends. We both traveled overseas a lot for months at a time and when we were back in the U.S. at the same time things just progressed slowly.
He's very open about his emotions at times but then at signs of conflict or when he's hurt he tends to disappear. The positive is the disappearing acts have shortened in time span.
I try to be patient with him because he's had a rough year losing his mom and changing careers.
He has committed to me recently and is a good boyfriend overall. He has one habit though that simply drives me mad.
We will talk about making plans, and when he's busy or decides he doesn't want to come, he will sort of avoid me for a few hours or a day. This doesn't happen always but it happened for a third time since I've known him this past week.
He wanted to see me Saturday but I had plans. Sunday I contact him to see what he's up to and it turns out he will be close to my neighborhood later that day. I ask him if he wants to hang out. This his is around 2pm. It starts to rainstorm shortly after and I never hear from him. Around 9pm I'm annoyed that he cannot even give me a simple response.
I confront him and tell him he is the most difficult person to communicate with and I give up.
Right away he responds and gives the excuse it's raining out etc. I don't respond until the next day as I wanted to cool off. I then tell him very calmly that's it's not about him not hanging out with me. I'm upset at the fact he can't even give me a simple answer when I try to make plans with me.
And now he's silent. And I know him be now. I know he will eventually resurface after a few days- a week.
I guess my question is there any better way to confront an Aquarius man when they are like this?
Does this behavior ever go away with time?
Is he just an asshole and I should move on?

Tell him politely and calmly it bothers you and why it bothers you. Offer a better option for him when he changes his mind (please let me know so i can make other plans) and explain how that will benefit both of you. Stick to your viewpoint and don't be accusing. If he cares, he will comply.

Fyi. They don't like confrontation so keep it light, friendly and accepting.

if a man disappears on you, he's NOT into you. and if he is avoiding you not confronting you, he just doesn't give a damn about you.

sorry but, let's just cut to the chase here.

A man who wants to be with you will be there for you Always.

I was like that in my immature leave me alone Aqua days. It gets better with age.

Nothing you can do about it. Instead of focusing on the negative with an Aqua it's better to focus on the positives, strengthen and create a strong bond through the things you both have in common with one another and he'll naturally want more time with you, want to communicate with you more.

When he doesn't communicate go find something else to focus on. Let him recharge. Instead of fussing have a mentally stimulated conversation about life and you'll most likely get the answers you seek. A mentally stimulating conversation can move an Aqua to spill his or her guts.

Some Aqua's can be quite introverted and introspective about the world which can come across as not caring but we do care, it's just that we are mentally absorbed with our inner world.

Posted by tiki33
I was like that in my immature leave me alone Aqua days. It gets better with age.

Nothing you can do about it. Instead of focusing on the negative with an Aqua it's better to focus on the positives, strengthen and create a strong bond through the things you both have in common with one another and he'll naturally want more time with you, want to communicate with you more.

When he doesn't communicate go find something else to focus on. Let him recharge. Instead of fussing have a mentally stimulated conversation about life and you'll most likely get the answers you seek. A mentally stimulating conversation can move an Aqua to spill his or her guts.

Some Aqua's can be quite introverted and introspective about the world which can come across as not caring but we do care, it's just that we are mentally absorbed with our inner world.

hate to break it to you, tiki, i was never like that. if i didnt like a guy he would "get" it. I dont know why, but it seems like alot of guys back then were really smart intuitively. The dumb ones were just too stupid to even bother with, or you'd have to call the police on them.

so while you might have done that, be flaky to men back then, i was straight with them. The ones that i fell in love with, (my ex husband for example) knew i loved/wanted him. there was no wishy washyness there.

the wishy washyness is just someone who is playing games and likes the attention from women everywhere but doesn't know which one he wants. Because, why? he hasn't met the ONE.

it sounds typical for ALOT of men.

but if you're not the ONE. he won't care about you or make plans to be with you.

his chart:
sun- aquarius
moon- aries
mercury- aquarius
venus- sag
mars- aries
jupiter- pisces
saturn- sag
uranus- sag
neptune- cap
pluto- scorpio

my chart:
sun- pisces
moon- gemini
mercury- pieces
venus- aquarius
mars- Taurus
jupiter- aries
saturn- sag
uranus- sag
neptune- cap
pluto- scorpio

I think Aquarians are kind because they are so sensitive. But they're whole people, successfully so, and can avoid you very benignly when you're not as sensitive to the most normal desires in their lives. They don't feel a constant moral obligation ready to work out any problems in the way of unity. Not that they ever realize a negative side!