Does aquarius guy like to be chased?

My crush and I are friends. He knows I have so many guy friends.
I asked my crush to get lunch tomorrow after his final exam.
He told me in the chat, "I don't have time for lunch tmrw. I have to come back and write my paper. Clock is winding down."
I sent him a crying sticker
Then he said, "not a good time."
Then I said, "ok that's fine. Good luck on exam and paper!"
He didn't say anything back for 10mins.. and I was about to give up.
Suddenly, he said, "Wednesday will be fine. I am looking forward to your treat. Yay.
I said, "always pick a expensive restaurant."
He said, "If you treat me in a cheap restaurant. Then It means
You don't really regard it as a valuable friendship."
I didn't say anything back though.
Later on, he suggested to drive to the city to get good food... But he realized he has study group on Wednesday. So he suggested to get breakfast together instead.

Is this a good sign that he might like me or just friendly?
Do you think he knows that I like him now?
Did I chase him too much? My friend told me she hasn't seen me show interest in him.

P.S. I also asked him to watch movies twice. The first time I paid for him and the second he paid for me.

Thank you!

I'm a libra sun, leo moon...

Spending time with you could mean anything. Just get to know him, whatever is meant to be will happen naturally.

But if you hold back or do too much that will hinder natural progression.

Posted by IAmMystified
Spending time with you could mean anything. Just get to know him, whatever is meant to be will happen naturally.

But if you hold back or do too much that will hinder natural progression.

Thank you for your advice. I never be in a relationship, telling you the truth. I don't play mind game. If I like someone, I will show them
However, I feel like I did something wrong in the past by showing them I have feeling for them. That's why I never be in a relationship.
I want to make thing differently this time. So now I'm scared that I come off too much.

I normally ask most of my guyfriends to lunch/dinner/movies! I dont see it's wrong. However, when I crush on some of them, I'm scared to do it, and think too much.

I understand the feeling of not knowing what to do seeing as you don't have any examples to follow to what "works".

The key to dating and friendships is YOU being YOU. That has to remain constant. Never be anything other than what you are. Get to know them naturally as you would anyone else...but flirt..smile..be complimentary and thankful.

That's all you can do really. If that doesn't work, then he isn't the right guy for you. You can't force someone to like you either. But there truly is alot of men out there worthy of dating so if this guy doesn't appreciate you for you...then someone else will.

Keep that in mind.

I would stop asking him to go do things. You've asked for lunch and the movies twice. Sit back and now let HIM do the asking. You're about to cross that line of chasing too much.

If it's a group outing, make the plans when there are several in the group present (including him).

Aquas like to know someone's interested, they definitely need the green light, but they don't like to be chased. It will send them running because they might perceive it as desperate.

Hope that makes sense.

You're already starting to be on pins and needles too soon about small things. And as a man, and an Aquarius man at that, he'll notice & it most likely will turn him off moreso than turn him on.

He's a man 1st before anything, so don't get so wrapped up in the signs that you forget that it's in most men's true instinctive nature to hunt and chase. Don't strip him of that instinct b/c if you do, you'll end up being the food he eats out of the fridge, not b/c he's actually hungry, but simply b/c it's there. Newsflash: Food tastes the best when you're really hungry. A woman who figures out how to be an available challenge is a woman who gets the attention and heart of the man. Problem is, most women don't know how to balance & be both b/c they're either too much of 1 or the other with no balance. Never forget that.

Should you start that 1 dumb mind game where the female suddenly steps back, stops being herself & starts acting like she's not that interested? Nope, b/c he's not stupid, he'll sense that you doing so is a rehearsed move & he'll run like hell if he gets even the slightest sense that you're one of 'those girls.'

You can't change that you've already thrown the bone a few times, but from here on out, let him throw a little bait for once. Let him come to you. Let him live out his primal nature to hunt. Let him offer to court you. And as he's proving himself & showing through his actions and words that he's into you, then reciprocate so that it's clear on both ends that the attraction is mutual.

If you notice that this guy isn't really trying or making moves that you associate with interest, then woman-up, accept that & don't see that as code for try harder or 'chase him.' Don't even begin that crap we ladies do when we start to take things personal. There could be 1 million reasons he's not chasing you hard that may or may NOT have anything to do with you personally. So stop yourself from the analyzing before it drains you and becomes apparent to him.

You've already done your part to showcase interest. Now let him do his part and his job. It'll either start something beautiful or it won't. Either way, be woman enough to accept either outcome =)

So guys... should I cancel the breakfast plan tomorrow OR I should keep it?

Now I'm so confused!!

Posted by 1thgirls
So guys... should I cancel the breakfast plan tomorrow OR I should keep it?

Now I'm so confused!!

Keep the plans but stop taking initiative. Let him be the man!

😢 Okay... I will keep the plan then. But he hasn't initiate by telling me when and where we're gonna go yet.
I'm so tired of waiting and initiating game!

don't wait, have back up plans. The whole point is to have a life whether he's in it or not.

Stop waiting for him. Do your own thing. If he confirms plans then he does, if he doesn't then who cares!

I haven't asked him again about tomorrow's breakfast though... I wanna know if he will initiate anything, BUT he hasn't yet.
So now I'm trying to decide if I should say anything or just silently cancel the plan. 😭

Posted by IAmMystified
don't wait, have back up plans. The whole point is to have a life whether he's in it or not.

Stop waiting for him. Do your own thing. If he confirms plans then he does, if he doesn't then who cares!

Posted by 1thgirls
I haven't asked him again about tomorrow's breakfast though... I wanna know if he will initiate anything, BUT he hasn't yet.
So now I'm trying to decide if I should say anything or just silently cancel the plan. 😭

Posted by IAmMystified
don't wait, have back up plans. The whole point is to have a life whether he's in it or not.

Stop waiting for him. Do your own thing. If he confirms plans then he does, if he doesn't then who cares!

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Stop putting so much life emphasis on him. Like I said: don't wait, have back up plans with other people. The whole point is to have a life whether he's in it or not.

Stop waiting for him. Do your own thing. If he confirms plans then he does, if he doesn't then who cares!

🙂 okay THANKS hun!

for the update...
He's being immature to me by kept arguing in the playful way on the group chat... then he left the group chat and telling me he's tired of arguing with me with all these bullshits (even he started first).

So I didn't think too much about it (bc he's always like this). So I messaged him on a private chat, asking if we're still going for breakfast.
He read but didn't reply...

That's it!! I'm done!!

Should I tell me that I don't like the way he did to me OR just leave him alone?

Posted by 1thgirls
😢 Okay... I will keep the plan then. But he hasn't initiate by telling me when and where we're gonna go yet.
I'm so tired of waiting and initiating game!

I always feel like if a man doesn't take inititiave, then he's not all that into you.

Girl, you're going to have to slow down and have a LOT more patience to date an aquarius.

If a man doesn't follow through on plans, make other plans. Then when he finally does follow through (like a few hours before said tentative plans) just say "Oh, sorry. When I didn't hear back from you I accepted another invitation".

Lets him know you're not waiting around for him and if he wants you he better step up. Lets him know that he's not going to get away with that wishy washy bullshit, that you're a hot commodity and have other options besides him.

And so what if that other "invitation" was Netflix and a tub of popcorn. He doesn't have to know that. 😉

Thank you!!! I won't wait around on him. I already made another plan with my friend. And of course, it's gonna be the last time I invited him. NO MORE invitations! Now it's his turn to do something if he's interested. I AM DONE!

Posted by truecap
If a man doesn't follow through on plans, make other plans. Then when he finally does follow through (like a few hours before said tentative plans) just say "Oh, sorry. When I didn't hear back from you I accepted another invitation".

Lets him know you're not waiting around for him and if he wants you he better step up. Lets him know that he's not going to get away with that wishy washy bullshit, that you're a hot commodity and have other options besides him.

And so what if that other "invitation" was Netflix and a tub of popcorn. He doesn't have to know that. 😉

well just like ANY man wouldn't it DEPEND on the woman chasing him??

if he doesn't like the type of woman chasing him, i dont know what these guys do?

just try to avoid it and run and run and run more?

or do they actually nip it in the butt and say, sorry, no go, (at least be kind right? about saying no)

I think he's a type of guys who seeks attention from girl... Which i won't fall for him anymore this time. I haven't talked with him since last night. And I will stay silence and calm like this til he said something. I'm already done my part.

Posted by lisabethur8
well just like ANY man wouldn't it DEPEND on the woman chasing him??

if he doesn't like the type of woman chasing him, i dont know what these guys do?

just try to avoid it and run and run and run more?

or do they actually nip it in the butt and say, sorry, no go, (at least be kind right? about saying no)

Don't go acting all weird on him when you do see him. Keep things normal as always. He'll definitely notice a shift or change in you and it will make him uncomfortable.

Keep in light, be interesting, be independent, smile, etc.

Thank you for your suggestion! I will act the same as before in front of him BUT I won't pay much attention to him like before anymore.
I will pretend that he's only a "friend" NOT a crush! 🙂

Posted by truecap
Don't go acting all weird on him when you do see him. Keep things normal as always. He'll definitely notice a shift or change in you and it will make him uncomfortable.

Keep in light, be interesting, be independent, smile, etc.

Posted by 1thgirls
I think he's a type of guys who seeks attention from girl... Which i won't fall for him anymore this time. I haven't talked with him since last night. And I will stay silence and calm like this til he said something. I'm already done my part.

Posted by lisabethur8
well just like ANY man wouldn't it DEPEND on the woman chasing him??

if he doesn't like the type of woman chasing him, i dont know what these guys do?

just try to avoid it and run and run and run more?

or do they actually nip it in the butt and say, sorry, no go, (at least be kind right? about saying no)

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hm yeah. hmm. i'd be suspicoius of that type. wanting attention from women is kind of red-flag. Means he likes anyone to pay attention to him. should be only interested in getting attention from ONE person he wants/desires.

are you sure you want this guy?

I mean... he always try to seek my attention since the beginning like pretending he's mad at me, teasing me, pick on me etc.
He doesn't do that to his female friends though (from what I know from one of his female friends. He never does these kinds of behaviors to her at all).

That's what I'm thinking right now. Im not sure if I really want this guy or not.
I know I like him, but not that much! There are something in him that I can't stand.

Then maybe you liked the attention too. Not that its a bad thing, sometimes us girls develop feelings because a cute/charming guy gave us attention.

We're all guilty of it 😄

hahaha.. You're right. I liked his attention before. But not anymore. Anyway, everything is fine now. He came back and started talking with me first.
But still try to arguing with me about stupid stuff. And of course, I'm not a soft girl who always tried to please him anymore. So I argued back bc I'm right.
And he doesn't left the group chat... but silent at the end (bc he admitted that he's wrong).

good now!

Posted by IAmMystified
Then maybe you liked the attention too. Not that its a bad thing, sometimes us girls develop feelings because a cute/charming guy gave us attention.

We're all guilty of it 😄