Expectations

Aqua's, what kind of expectations do you have for others? As by others, I mean significant others, friends, family, co-workers, etc. Are your expectations high? low? indifferent? non-existent? And what happens when those expectations are not met?

On the flip side, I read an old post from several years ago where one Aqua said they had expectations for other people. However, when someone put expectations on him, he avoided and dodged that expectation.

So....if you do have expectations of others, how do you feel if they have expectations of you?

Example:
You tell your s/o you love them. Do you have expectations of them? Most likely. If they tell you they love you, does their expectations of you make you nervous and send you into hiding?
OR
You have expectations that a professor will be knowledgeable and a good teacher. Does it bother you that the professor expects YOU to put out 100% effort to learn and make excellent grades?

(I'm not asking this for my relationship, I just thought the old thread was quite interesting and made me think of asking yall this).

Honestly when I was younger they were not as high as they are now....

I mostly focused on can I have fun with this person and can they be loving to me to take away that infamous lonely feeling we all have....

Once I found communicating effectively was a problem with some due to differences in intelligence... I decided I don't care what you look like if you are a dumb broad who can't understand me I will never feel satisfied... Yeah I know it's cold... But it's best for them too... The. Waste their time with me only to be hurt in the end.

And now as of the past 3 years or so I've totally made my standards so high and unrealistic... It is hard to ever find someone who will fit it...
I used to not care really all that much about looks... At the end of the day it's pretty fleeting a person will never look good their whole life
BUT after my experience with the woman I dated who were not pillars of fitness themselves but yet held men to such high standards on looks.... I dunno it's sorta disgusted me and now I pretty much expect you to just that a pillar of fitness... Maybe not absolutely perfect but definitely fit... Yup it's shallow but I've decided to look at it as the woman who are not in as good a shape don't take as good a care of their bodies... You could even say once it gets to a certain level it's almost a hygiene thing.

Does that mean I don't hold myself to those same standards... Oh no I very much do... I've avoided females who have shown me interest because I did not feel I met with the same standards I was holding them too and thus, it is obviously not fair. I would never have a double standard like that.... That's selfish and immature!
I know Im not perfect I don't expect them to be perfect... I think I just want to be able to respect who they are as a person and them respect me as well.

In regards to my coworkers, I have expectations of them but I've always been the boss or in a position of authority so I expect them to do the job. If not then I don't really have expectations of them to do anything. I've learnt to detach that from a job perspective a long time ago.

Family, well can't really say much on that seeing I don't really have one. I consider most of my close friends family so in that sense there's the usual expectations such as wanting them to be there for me when I need them etc etc. Likewise if they have expectations of me I'd gladly help out and fulfil their needs partly because I love helping people and the other because I love the people I call a 'close' friend.

As for the s/o it depends I guess. Once I feel I can trust the girl then I'd have no expectations from her. I've already decided to love her so unless she shows me otherwise then there will be no questions asked. I'd do whatever she wants me to (within reason).

If it helps I use to have a lot of expectations from people and friends alike. I guess I have lost faith in humanity as a whole but I've found that you get hurt by caring too much. It doesn't mean I've stopped caring it's just that I've turned off the expectation part of me. If people don't do anything for me then there's no point going out of my way to please them apart from just neutrally caring.

Thanks for your responses, guys!

I think caps try to live up to other's expectations, sometimes too much. And we have a lot of expectations of others. It is very disappointing to get let down time after time because so many people don't live up to the expectations we hold for them as well as ourselves. For instance, being there over and over for a friend, then they're not there for you. Discovering that truth is quite painful.

@NYAA - I understand. Nothing wrong with holding them as well as yourself to the same expectation.

@aquasnoz - Very cool that you wouldn't hold your trusted s/o to any expectations and just love them because you do.

- I expect (me and others) to be respected as people and treated fairly.

- I expect others to keep their word/promises.

- More I don't remember.

- There may be some more I'm not aware of, but I guess they are culture based.

If you don't meet those expectations, then you shouldn't expect the same from me.

I try my best to meet others' expectations of me. But truth to be told, I don't like it when people expect of me more than I think I'm capable of. I don't like to feel like I'm taking advantage of them either. That's why I keep my expectations of people at a minimum.

haha trucap I think I went through that which is why I'm more resistant to it now. It's almost like being half assed at caring when you know it's not returned. I do have a really high threshold for that stuff but once someone crosses it that's it defriended forever. I would go out of my way to cut them out of my life with no reason given.

As for the whole s/o thing. I'm not sure all aquas work like that tho. My aqua female friends tend to have huge expectations as if they want their partner to be psychic *shrugs*. I'm a big believer in trust, for me to be with someone I must first trust them with all my heart which is why I have no expectations later on. If any it would be that I expect them to love me back with the same way, allow me to do what I want without questions or expectations.

Simple.

When dating I expect a man to be a man. No bitching, no going thru my phone, no nagging me...Please allow me to be the bitch in the relationship!

In all areas of life I only expect to be treated with respect. I dont expect confetti to fall from the sky or to have a red carpet laid out beneath me, just respect. Everything else, I can do for my self.

well not that much further into astrology but if an individual has dominant aquarius in their chart, you can probably hazard a good guess. I'm an aqua sun but still can't figure out the lot of you. You're all a blend of different mixes, no wonder astrologers say no two are alike, consistently.

to reply, well if i am already with them, my expectations of them are already filled. good and bad, through the tides of economic world crisis, and family turmoils, families giving birth, the cycle of death and growing old, ect. you just keep on going. You stick with them through the thick and thin.