Feel like such a bad person :(

So I'm getting to know this guy.. just casual. He's a Gem and a lot younger than me.. (don't know why I'm attracting the young lol)..

On Tues I got a message from My Aqua guy asking what I'm doing.. Told him I'm at wrk till 4. He asked if i can come over to his place.. without thinking, i just said yes thatS fine.. After wrk I drove to his place.. talked... listened to music... ended up having sex which was so fun.. but i just feel like I was sucked back into all that. I was soo convinced that he has a selfish side and just wants me for sex only.. and wanted to move away from that. I get one message from him and I fall for it...

Do Aqua guys really have that much effect on others..or is it just me? 😢

Posted by Angeleyes17
So I'm getting to know this guy.. just casual. He's a Gem and a lot younger than me.. (don't know why I'm attracting the young lol)..

On Tues I got a message from My Aqua guy asking what I'm doing.. Told him I'm at wrk till 4. He asked if i can come over to his place.. without thinking, i just said yes thatS fine.. After wrk I drove to his place.. talked... listened to music... ended up having sex which was so fun.. but i just feel like I was sucked back into all that. I was soo convinced that he has a selfish side and just wants me for sex only.. and wanted to move away from that. I get one message from him and I fall for it...

Do Aqua guys really have that much effect on others..or is it just me? 😢

hmmm don't know.... where's truecap? she's the lady with the aqua. *searches under the sofa and table*

who else is with an aqua guy here?

well anyway, why do you feel bad? Did you do something bad?? The other guy isn't even in the picture, just "casual" ...what is casual? Putting a pair of casual pants and throwing it out the next day?

if you love being with him, go for it.

Yeah, I think they really do have that much effect because they are just fun to hang out with. Always have something interesting to talk about and there's lots of laughter - just overall fun! Irrestistible! Then you get there and oh my, the sex appeal!! All it takes for me is one little-boyish conspiratorial grin, I melt, and I'm in like Flynn! Don't beat yourself up Angeleyes!!! It's happened to all of us!

Well, at least you know what you do/don't want so you can proceed accordingly.

Posted by lisabethur8
well anyway, why do you feel bad? Did you do something bad?? The other guy isn't even in the picture, just "casual" ...what is casual? Putting a pair of casual pants and throwing it out the next day?

if you love being with him, go for it.

Casual is in just getting to know him.. hes really into me and makes effort with me but hes really young and i dont see a future with him. Im a working woman and iv always been independant when it comes to my life and choices i make. Hes only 23yr and just finished University.

😐

Posted by truecap
Yeah, I think they really do have that much effect because they are just fun to hang out with. Always have something interesting to talk about and there's lots of laughter - just overall fun! Irrestistible! Then you get there and oh my, the sex appeal!! All it takes for me is one little-boyish conspiratorial grin, I melt, and I'm in like Flynn! Don't beat yourself up Angeleyes!!! It's happened to all of us!

Well, at least you know what you do/don't want so you can proceed accordingly.

OMG that boyish look he gave me that day..i just melted.. he gave me that cheeky look to..i knew what he want to do in that moment..he wanted to me take full control which i was shocked about that... The conversations we were having were so random and fun.. he showed me his house coz its still under construction and was messy and dusty.
Its just in Feb after the V day situation and him not chatting to me much after i thought i should back off from him and move on...find someone in my life who genuinely cares and i can have a relationship with..be someone's gf.. one message from him to come over and i ran towards him.. its crazy!! lol.. i really didn't expect myself to do that...lol i just don't get why can fall for him soo much like that.. He mentioned what i got for him is Infatuation which maybe true.. i dunno

I have a male aqua friend who told me one time that he wasn't a bad influence, he just liked to see if he could get people to bend their own rules and standards. He thought it was an interesting study in human nature to see how far he could convince them to go.

Bad, bad, playboy, that aqua!! lol!!

As far as your aqua, though, angeleyes, you still have feelings for him and you can't help yourself, even though you know better for your own sake. You pretty much admit that. Just recognizing it is half of the battle. You'll get stronger and stronger. But don't beat yourself up!! At least you had a good time!! 🙂

Nothing is wrong with enjoying the moment. However, make sure those moments do not get your feelings all out of whack because then those moments will no longer be enjoyable.

truecap

Is that what Aquas do? Study you? See how far you would go and do for them? Coz I do get that feeling he does that with me.. calls me a —good girl —coz I don't bunk off from work.. but I have shown him that I have made effort to go and see him.. im just really confused I guess coz iv never felt like this about any guy.. iv had guys asking if they want to link up etc and at times I cant be bothered or make up something.. with my Aqua guy I just tell the truth or just jump straight up and go towards him.. grrr hate these feelings stuff!! 😢

Well, I don't think most aquas are like that, but that one I know is. Other aquas I know really aren't like that.

Perhaps you should talk to him. They do like straight forwardness.

ha ha samer old bullshit girl going to meet some one for sex then says oh i worry he only wants sex,sure,who r u kidding,why did you go there

MoonWolf, ahh the judgemental type..

truecap, I do try but he kind of blows it over.. it doesnt become a discussion. Our conversations get mixed up so much. Its just odd now someone can have soo much of an effect on your mind. Question, are Aquas observers?

I've heard they are stereotypically. Maybe some of them will respond. Or you can start a new thread on that trait. ??