How do Aquas test you

Hi everyone ......
I'm not sure if everyone knows about my story, I'm in a relationship with an aqua guy and it sure has it's ups and down times. How do aquas test u?
So my aqua has a couple of his exes on his fb, and that's cool. He's still friends with them. Recently (few months now) whenever I post some pictures on my fb he wont click the "like" on any of my pic(s) and that is ok, but he has "liked" some of his ex gf pic(s) (his ex has a bf) whatever anyone likes I see it on my newsfeed
What does it mean? Is this a test?
Otherwise he talks to me fine.
Thanks for all the suggestions.

Ok thank you oldman
Was curious as to what was on his mind.

No he's not doing that to test you

Maybe if he was talking to them in front of you or something like that, I could see considering it a test. But simply liking pics? Nope

I see where @Oldman is coming from. But at the same time, why wouldn't you like your own girlfriend's pictures?! I thought the point of Facebook was to connect with those you're the closest to! If a man can like his own brother's, uncle's or momma's pics/post, I don't see why he wouldn't like his own girlfriend's stuff.

I can see why he wouldn't be all over your page posting everywhere but simply liking a picture shouldn't be something that a boyfriend purposely won't do.

How about just asking him?! Just be like, "Hey, why don't you ever like my pics? Am I not cute enough?!" and say this in a playful way & see what he says from there.

Hi and thanks, it's actually a ldr. And he travels a lot through work, so I thought he was doing this just to see what I would do because we don't see each other often,
He has "liked" some of my pics before but for the last 3-4 months he hasn't, but he's been hitting the "like" for his ex gf pic(s) It just makes me wonder that's all

I'm not saying that these thoughts should be crossing your mind BUT....have you ever had suspicions or any doubts about him & his ex girlfriends?

I'm asking b/c some women secretly fear there's unfinished business there, but pretend like Facebook posts are the real problem.

If he wasn't liking his ex's pics in particular, but was instead liking other women's pictures a lot, would it bother you as much?

I did before, about a year ago when he wanted to go separate ways. I thought ok maybe he has someone. (I thought we were just friends) one of his ex (another ex) put a couple of pics on his fb And I casually asked him, so how are u, how's your gf? His response....I am not dating no one. I kinda smiled and said well your fb says otherwise. He deletes those pics and a few days later deletes any other pics with an ex (2-3 from before) and fbs me saying, ok I deleted all them. (I was surprised, because I thought we were only friends) anyways a few months ago he actualy comes back and says ilu, so I just don't understand what he's upto. I guess it will get to me if he was liking other women's pics.
I don't want to ask him, he will think I'm stalking him, creeping his fb. Lol
I put up a few pics up on fb yesterday and he didn't like none of them. Maybe I should stop liking his pics.

Ok so the real problem is that somewhere deep inside of you there's this lack of trust or uncertainty lingering in you about him based on suspicious activity he's had with ex's before

If your intuition is telling you even a little bit that there's something to him constantly showing love on his ex's pictures, then follow your instincts.

And him thinking that you're stalking him would be so unfair. It's Facebook. All the info that people post on that site comes to you! 99% of the time, you don't even have to go looking for it. So you seeing it is b/c you guys are Facebook friends & not b/c you're Facebook stalking him. It'd be a cheap shot and/or a cheap way out of the conversation if he used this against you when you start asking him hard questions

Bottom line: if you feel that the real problem behind it all is that you feel he's showing more love/attention to other women more than he is with you, then call that to his intention. I'm sure he's not testing you nor is his intention to hurt you or make you feel negatively about it

Maybe he's still attracted to his ex & him constantly liking her pics is his way of passively-aggressively signaling to her that the interest is still there. Or maybe they're still friends & he sees it as harmless.

Who knows. Just ask him. If you 2 ever plan on having a lasting relationship, being able to communicate about uncomfortable things is 1 of the most important skills you'd need to learn anyways! You've gotta trust him enough to know that if you tell him how you're feeling, he'll actually listen to what you're saying as opposed to finding a sly way out of it by making you feel bad for speaking your mind.

His response, his body language, his tone & his demeanor will probably tell you everything you need to know.

Thanks! This pic of his ex that he "liked" was nothing of a great pic. (I'm not saying because it's his ex) the pic is not even clear, he "liked" it a couple of weeks ago, and I thought no big deal, he will "like" one of mine. Don't know why it's been on my mind all day today. Anyways I did confront him with the question about his ex...a little more then half a year, and his response "we are good friends"
I've read that aquas have lots of friends and have their exes as friends.
I did just a little while ago generally sent him a text asking him, just havnt got his response back yet.

Oh and yes, she likes a lot of his pics too on fb. Not sure how close her bf and her are.

Thank you krysrenee7 ....
I think I'm going to lay low for awhile, and see what happens. It's probably nothing, like I said before, for some reason it's been on my mind today. I really don't notice him being distant or different towards me. And he does have a couple of ex's that are weird and seem like they are obsessed over him. But he's reassured me in the past that there is nothing going on and that he loves me.
Thanks again and I appreciate you being here for me. 🙂

I am so over facebook problems... this is why I deleted my profile... the rules are never the same for girls as guys...

Thank good I don't ever have to deal with stuff like this...

PM

i dont think you have to get tested by any guy because there's this white witch on youtube that says you can attract an aquarius man O_O

I think its creepy to "like" every single comment or picture somebody puts on Facebook.

Plus, I don't understand what the big deal is with the significant other having to like each other's pictures and comments.

And, I don't understand what the big deal is if they like someone else's pictures. Sometimes pictures are fun, or cute or just a flattering picture. So what if they like them. Is it every single picture or comment they're liking? Probably not.

It's not disrespectful to you if he likes someone else's stuff. Good grief!!

Do you go click like on other people's pictures and comments? Probably.

Exes are just exes. If there was something going on they'd be together wouldn't they? If it was an amicable break up because they just didn't feel it for each other or had different goals, then why can't they be friends?

So, it seems you're the one with the problem. Quit over analyzing what happens on facebook. It's a social media. Focus on how he treats you and what you have. Don't destroy it over Facebook. If it bothers you that much turn off the "show the likes" page and quit spying.

Back to the testing question....

I doubt it is a test. He's just being the way he always has.

But remember, aqua is the friendship sign and they have lots of friends. They are probably the best sign for remaining friends with exes unless they were burned really bad. So, indirectly, not purposely, it's only a test if you make it one. He will observe and see how you handle his friends. If you can't accept his friends, male AND female, then you might find your aqua man backing off and gradually disappearing on you. If you act all jealous and irrational, you will find your aqua man backing off and disappearing.

Just saying. Chill, girl!!!

you all WORRY too much.

if he cheats he cheats, c'est la vie.

but he won't be coming back.

that's how you play the game of life and love. Let him free, set him free...let him be.

if he comes back, he's yours forever. If he doesn't ever come back, it was never meant to be...


most women around here worry to death about relationships, even men too. Why?

not good enough. not fat enough. not skinny enough. not rich enough. not poor enough. not exotic enough. not smart, not dumb ect

Jesus. If he don't love you and want you, fine. Keep it moving.

Posted by truecap
Back to the testing question....

I doubt it is a test. He's just being the way he always has.

But remember, aqua is the friendship sign and they have lots of friends. They are probably the best sign for remaining friends with exes unless they were burned really bad. So, indirectly, not purposely, it's only a test if you make it one. He will observe and see how you handle his friends. If you can't accept his friends, male AND female, then you might find your aqua man backing off and gradually disappearing on you. If you act all jealous and irrational, you will find your aqua man backing off and disappearing.

Just saying. Chill, girl!!!

i don't have alot of friends AT ALL. infact this is the ONLY social group i'm in too. I dont like men with too many friends either. They come in all sun signs. I remember....when i had fb, they had 400 to 1000 friends on fb and you wonder why? maybe it's for money making skills and they need them for social networking = cash.

Posted by mindofaquarius
truecap - yeh but what about cheating? I don't say he cheats but ex is ex is not 100% true.

its one thing to not be hyperactive on fb - like my bf he is rarely on fb and when he is he only shares/posts funny vids or such stuff and tags me lol BUT its another thing to interact with their exes on fb and excluding you. like why do you show others more attention than your own gf? it's like he isn't commiting to you in public. I don't know how it is when both of you go out if he holds your hand often or clearly introduces you as his gf to others. but it doesn't really seem like he is committed to you in public - why? because it might hold up a chance to flirt around.

i'm not saying he does but sorry - that's such a no no - giving his exes more attention than you lol + for everyone to see. that's really disrespectful in my eyes - just my opinion because I guess my ego is too big to share eny ego stroking from my man with other chicks lol

(I messed up on the first one)

Then here it is:

If there's no trust, the relationship won't go far anyway.

If she isn't happy with the amount of attention she's getting and wants more than he's willing or capable of giving, then perhaps he's not the right man for her. Go date a Cancer, they'll give you all the attention you want. Aqua's just aren't focused on that stuff like PDA.

If he isn't willing to act like they're in a relationship and isn't willing to make it public, then it's not a real relationship and he's either stringing her along, shopping for better or doesn't know how he feels.

Yes, it's THAT simple.

But, really, all this is just over analyzing facebook. Pay attention to his actions. He can talk to someone on a public forum, and THAT is not cheating!!! Private messages might be another story. Why should he spend his facebook time talking to the gf when they get face to face time? Why say it on facebook when you can text it or make a phone call? Facebook is intended to keep up with people you don't see everyday.

seriously. I dont even know if my husband has facebook to be very honest. I just ASK him. I dont have fb, so i dont care since i closed it long ago. However i dont know if my husband has one secretly or not. All i had to do was ASK.
he honestly said, no, but my family from far away does send him stuff/links to show baby photos and stuff which are linked from facebook. I believe him. He don't have it he don't have it. I LET HIM BE.

Trust

if you dont have it in ANY relationship, even business (working for a big company, and your boss appoints you on a higher position, your boss needs to also TRUST you)

if you are worrying up the YING yang what he does. Then seriously.......a relationship is NOT for you.

I find out many things about you without you knowing... then I ask the questions. If you answer any of those incorrectly, you're out. lol

It all comes down to trust

I can't say whether or not you should trust him or not

But when the real issue is trust, it's easy to hide behind that. It's not that it's his ex's & the fact that he's liking their pictures that is really bothering you. It's that somewhere deep inside of you, you didn't trust him. And the fact that he's doing these things on Facebook just brings trust issues that were ALREADY there to the forefront

If you want to get to the bottom of this, 1st start with yourself. 1st, ask yourself where these sudden trust issues are coming from. Ask yourself if these trust issues are even sudden!!! Sometimes when we think long & hard enough about something, we realize that the issue of trust actually started long before when we thought it did.

For all you know, it could be that you have trust issues with EVERY man. If that's the case, then you feeling suspicious about this Facebook stuff is just your way of looking for a reason to not trust him or be cautious. OR it could be that you never trusted him to begin with. OR it could be that in the past, he's done/said some things that have understandably provoked insecurity/lack of trust. Whatever the source of this lack of trust is coming from, figure it out!

Once you figure out the source of where these trust issues are coming from, then address it with him. Not only for your sanity, but for him too. If the problem is fixable, & if you want to be with him, you owe it to him to bring it to his attention so that he at least has the chance to fix it.

Exactly! Krys is right on the money. You don't trust him.

Does he even know how you feel about it? Or are you just letting it eat at your insecurities?

Best thing to do is speak up and nip it in the bud the very first time you have these thoughts or this feeling of something that bothers you. Otherwise, it builds up in your head and increases your insecurity, which makes you over analyze, which will eventually destroy your relationship because you will be giving out insecure vibes.

How is he supposed to know it bothers you unless you tell him?

Exactly just open up to him about how you're feeling.

1. By doing so, you relieve your brain of all that pent up pressure from all those racing thoughts lol
2. By doing so, you are doing your part in showing that you value communication
3. By doing so, you are showing your vulnerabilities. If he perceives "the talk" as you having some trust/insecurity issues, at least he will know who/what he's really dealing with in the relationship. If ladies deserve to know what they're getting into & what's to expect ahead, men deserve that same heads up
4. By doing so, you are stopping before it gets started the dangerous cycle of suffering in silence with the false impression that doing so will gain respect from a man
5. By doing so, you are calling things to his attention & giving him a chance to fix something that IS actually fixable
6. By doing so, you will know most of the answers to your question in how he responds! His tone, demeanor, body language & responses (or lack thereof) will speak volumes!!!!

Soooooo long story short lol....You have more to GAIN by speaking up than you have to lose

Facebook doesn't destroy relationships, people destroy relationships.

Thank you so much, each and everyone of u! I bit the bullet and sent him a general text asking him, he didn't reply back. I was confused, usually he gets all defensive and he hasn't been doing that lately. (I really didn't want to be arguing about something like this over texts) Anyways next day he "likes" my picture. And texts back ilu. 🙂
I'm just curious, thought -
What are the signs that an aqua is testing you?
Thanks again!

From my experience, these are a couple of things they want answered and can only learn by observation:

Do you stand up for yourself or are you going to be weak-minded?
Do you think for yourself or do you just go along with the crowd?
Can you carry an intelligent conversation with original thoughts and ideas?
How are you going to act when they need space?
How are you going to accept their friends?
Are you going to get jealous if I spend time with my family/friends without you?
Are you tolerant of other people, strangers, family?
Are you kind to the less fortunate?
Are you a true-blue friend to your friends?
Do you have your own life or are you going to make them the center of your world?
Can you hold your own in a social situation?

Not really tests, but these are the traits they require for the most part.

Of course, I can't speak for aquas, but this is what I've picked up on the last year and a half.

Posted by truecap
From my experience, these are a couple of things they want answered and can only learn by observation:

Do you stand up for yourself or are you going to be weak-minded?
Do you think for yourself or do you just go along with the crowd?
Can you carry an intelligent conversation with original thoughts and ideas?
How are you going to act when they need space?
How are you going to accept their friends?
Are you going to get jealous if I spend time with my family/friends without you?
Are you tolerant of other people, strangers, family?
Are you kind to the less fortunate?
Are you a true-blue friend to your friends?
Do you have your own life or are you going to make them the center of your world?
Can you hold your own in a social situation?

Not really tests, but these are the traits they require for the most part.

Of course, I can't speak for aquas, but this is what I've picked up on the last year and a half.

That's a pretty good list!
Detailed yet concise.

I just got done with an interview and I got the job so I'm feeling pretty awesome right about now!!!
😄

Thanks for the confirmation NYAA.

Congratulations on your job!!!!! Yippee!!!! What are you going to be doing?

Oh it's not too too special but it's something.

My friend is leaving their entry accounting position for something better since they decided to give the staff job to someone from the outside.

.... Lucky bastard

He's leaving me to close out the year for him haha :/
Hopefully his work is good.

It's for the Convention Center Bureau downtown here in New Orleans. They are responsible for bringing business to the city so the fine dining restaurants and hotels down here can flourish. They are responsible for all kinds of stuff... They got there hands in everything not just like sporting events such as the sugar bowl or Super Bowl.

Sounds like an exciting place to work! I'm happy for you.

NotYourAverageAquarius,

CONGRATULATIONS 🙂

Posted by truecap
From my experience, these are a couple of things they want answered and can only learn by observation:

Do you stand up for yourself or are you going to be weak-minded?
Do you think for yourself or do you just go along with the crowd?
Can you carry an intelligent conversation with original thoughts and ideas?
How are you going to act when they need space?
How are you going to accept their friends?
Are you going to get jealous if I spend time with my family/friends without you?
Are you tolerant of other people, strangers, family?
Are you kind to the less fortunate?
Are you a true-blue friend to your friends?
Do you have your own life or are you going to make them the center of your world?
Can you hold your own in a social situation?

Not really tests, but these are the traits they require for the most part.

Of course, I can't speak for aquas, but this is what I've picked up on the last year and a half.

WOW that actually makes sense.. but how do you know if you've passed the Aqua test? would they keep you in your life (still keep that usual distance) or cut you off completely?

Would this determine to the Aquas what zone they put you in with all this? lol

Posted by Angeleyes17

Posted by truecap
From my experience, these are a couple of things they want answered and can only learn by observation:

Do you stand up for yourself or are you going to be weak-minded?
Do you think for yourself or do you just go along with the crowd?
Can you carry an intelligent conversation with original thoughts and ideas?
How are you going to act when they need space?
How are you going to accept their friends?
Are you going to get jealous if I spend time with my family/friends without you?
Are you tolerant of other people, strangers, family?
Are you kind to the less fortunate?
Are you a true-blue friend to your friends?
Do you have your own life or are you going to make them the center of your world?
Can you hold your own in a social situation?

Not really tests, but these are the traits they require for the most part.

Of course, I can't speak for aquas, but this is what I've picked up on the last year and a half.

WOW that actually makes sense.. but how do you know if you've passed the Aqua test? would they keep you in your life (still keep that usual distance) or cut you off completely?

Would this determine to the Aquas what zone they put you in with all this? lol

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Good questions! Only the aquas can answer them.

I would think if they keep coming around and stay with you, then you passed. REally, it's not so much as passing a test, it's more like they appreciate the qualities in you that's important to them and that they can determine whether you can accept their eccentricities.

Let me try this again:

CEU said:
"How many women are equally devoted to developing who they are, positive character qualities, as they are to daily readying their physical appearance and their personas?
Before or after a man or a woman has undressed you (universal you) physically, there is the undress of who you are as a human being."

______________________________________

And therein lies the secret as to why men (or women) all of a sudden disappear on somebody. They find the true personality underneath the facade and decide that this person is not the right person for them. Doesn't mean they're a bad person, but just that they're not completely compatible. Then again, some are not very attractive on the outside and beyond remarkable and amazing on the inside. Which answers why some physically average or unattractive people seem to have successful long term relationships because the personality underneath is beautiful.

Of course, I may be off on some tangent that is completely off target. lol!

Oh, and some are very attractive on the outside and completely horrible on the inside.