How would you have handled this situation?

Yesterday was my aqua crushes bday. On the same day his best bud fellow aqua "T" wanted to take me to lunch as a thank you. I brought up how it was aqua crush's bday and I wanted him to come. T said it was cool cause he forgot and t went to see if mutual friends wanna come. Three people could join 2 of which are these two colicky and not so decent girls. They are only nice to male friends so I knew then it wasn't gonna be a good lunch. Right on cue the girls dominated the convo only talked to the others. Didnt even acknowledge me even when I tried chiming in the convo. I started to get uncomfortable halfway into it and just stopped trying at that point and just shut down

In the car in the way back the mean girls asked if they wanted froyo to supplement the bday and I was just staring out the window since I obviously wasnt part of the convo and my aqua crush who was sitting next to me whispered "you don't need to be anywhere do you (or something like that in the am I wasting your time sorta question). Which I found odd. I felt outcasted at the froyo shop too. And while they were at the register paying for theirs he noticed i wasn't with them and came over to me and said said "your not getting any ?" And I said no and he went back to the register.

The day started off good when I wanted to take him to lunch and me being the scorp that I am I let the two chicks ruin things. All its doing is making me look like an idiot. I hate feeling that way

God what must he think every time this happens

Thank you for the reassuring thought. Lord knows I tried that day. I sooooo tried talking to them at various times either making jokes or asking questions and they wouldn't either give me a full answer or went "heh" at my jokes. All in all the aqua crush may or may have not noticed but either way I will never win over people like the aqua can so easily. One if the mean girls in particular was never nice to me since day one. How can that be?

I envy the aquas sometimes: their charisma and ability to excel in social situAtions.

But you are right he did notice something or maybe naturally cared about my well being but on that particular day I wished he did something to save me in there cause I was drowning no matter what I did

Ahh sweetie! This sucks. I'm not sure how I'd have handled the situation, it's hard with Aquas in a group because they're so group-oriented. They're better in a group than they are one-on-one. You handled it well, didn't storm off, tried to join in etc. I'd try and get him on his own next time.

Libra thank you. We do end up alone sometimes but it's never on a date or hang out sorta way. It's true he's great in groups but hes great individually too because he always knows what to say but with me he just never knows what to say. Even asking what I'm doing for any holidays never comes to mind I think the last time we were alone it got to that awkward silence and I asked him stuff about him and he still wasnt talkative like he normally is. What is it about me that the aqua can't be himself and always knows what to say

Sometimes he'll hear his aqua best bud or others ask me questions about myself and he'll be surprised because he didnt know those things about me. But it's like if he tried hed find out basics about me too

But S far as the mean girls I think one is late August (Virgo?) and the other idk

I think that girls only act this way when they are jealous......
Im not sure what to think about his shyness—?
I mean I could see him being shy to ask you BUT him being shy to answer your questions about him......thats odd? Maybe there is something about his life he is ashamed of and doesn't know how to tell you? I know for me it is kinda like that...

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
I'm afraid that I'm not very well versed on the technical astrological aspects of scorpios but I know a few, one being a brother and another a close friend since childhood. What they all seem to have in common as far as my own personal observations go, is a wonderfully natural, almost devil may care magnetism about them that they can turn on and off like a switch. It can be difficult to resist their intense allure when focused on someone.

There's a quote that comes to mind from Marianne Williamson about a person's greatest fear not being their inadequacies, but their ability to shine and become great which I believe suites the situation perfectly. Even if you don't know it, you are blessed with an ability to shine, and if you chose to do so, to conquer anything that comes your way if you allow yourself to. Never be afraid to turn on that switch, especially in the face of adversity.

And if all else fails, brush up on some basic psychological technique. Clicky people like that tend to gravitate towards the status quo whether it's out of fear of rejection or reasons that may go deeper into themselves. A few tactfully placed wise cracks or insights can easily turn around the balance of power in any social scenario. I mean, even the most chatty people have to take a breath eventually, right? The best thing that you can do is to refuse to shrink away. If you don't care about their opinions of you, you have nothing to lose by standing your ground.

I wouldn't worry too much about how your aqua crush thinks of you on days like this. Since he seems to keep checking on your well-being I would say that that indicates he cares about you to some extent be it as a friend or something else. Just let him see that light that you carry inside of you and everything will work out the way it is supposed to in the end.

Man can you come and comment on my posts when life gets me down pls ^.^

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I think that girls only act this way when they are jealous......
Im not sure what to think about his shyness—?
I mean I could see him being shy to ask you BUT him being shy to answer your questions about him......thats odd? Maybe there is something about his life he is ashamed of and doesn't know how to tell you? I know for me it is kinda like that...

This.

Except I have a far bleaker view.

@aqua. Who knows if its because if me I don't know but he isn't as talkative even when I ask him things others have before but he still didnt say anything yet did when others asked him previous times. I wouldn't call him shy. He's do charismatic but I'm finding it impossible to get him to want to ask me things. For a long while we werent speaking because HE thought I was mad at him when I never was but the second I initiated conversations he starts talking regularly

The mean girls have been "b"'s. lately and hes like wtf is up with them. But did he keep his distance with them or anyone else nope. Just me.

Hey nos. what is your "view"

LoL I can say this much I am always thinking the scorpio at school is mad at me lately haha and I have been keeping my distance recently 😢 I mean gosh I dunno.... I feel so weird about it after how last semester ended! I should so start a thread on this but I doubt anyone could explain her to me haha. You know maybe he's afraid of making you mad or upset and then losing you somehow again possibly?? I mean there is always the your just totally wrong about his feelings which I doubt seriously..... Scorpio wrong about intuition lol good joke ^.^

I mean Aqua u could be right about being platonic but him always looking out for me thing is weird. Because why would be like that so much if hes always at a loss for words but not like that with people hes normal with

There has to be something there but I guess we'll find out when he really find out I adore him

And test post a thread about yours

Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Hey nos. what is your "view"

Well just from bits and pieces I'm just kinda guessing this crush is still one sided as in you haven't actually made your intentions completely clear. This is just based off what you've said so far and what I think.

He's not getting closer to you either way. Seems like you've made yourself available to him so either he's not picking up on the actions or you're being very neutral and protective of your feelings to the point he is oblivious to it. So on that, have you tried telling him something about yourself? a little secret? If not then he might just be as guarded. Can you imagine if someone always making themselves available that you might be interested in but never really giving off the vibe of wanting to be something more? It can be confusing.

But that's just a possible explanation.

What I don't understand is whether he likes you or not, he's not doing anything about it. Which is why I agree with NYAA there's got to be something that is restricting him from opening up with you. It might be the way you are with him. It might be he's trying to keep his distance. Or it can be in fact you are indifferent to his friends? I'm not sure.

People often wonder why I have the friends I do. Some even talk about them like you do and I always tell them to give them a chance, to not be so quick to dismiss people. Don't get me wrong you probably don't think bad of them but and they probably did try to exclude you for their own selfish reasons but that is why I spend time with people. Ask them things.

Which brings me to the same question as NYAA... why isn't he doing anything?

Nos you are right about everything. I am pretty sure about giving off an indifferent vibe and that's mostly because I don't know what he wants and also I don't wanna be clingy. I mean I'm always fascinated by people and their views on anything in life. I love learning. Maybe I come across as too fascinated so I always hold back but I so think 25% if it has to do with him just not getting me or assuming the wrong things. The other day he asked if I wasnt busy could i help him with something so I did but he gave me space as if he didnt want to disturb me while I was doing it but he will interrupt anyone else when they are so I don't know what that is.

Regardless of how he sees me when it comes down to it I'm just trying to be myself and somehow regardless of whatever the situation is he reacts differently when it involves me vs anyone else. It isn't an exaggeration. A mutual friend of ours who's closer to me notices the same thing. What we can't figure out is why the aqua holds back and my actions seem to dictate his actions. I just want him to be him.

With any secrets about myself. I used to tell him about myself before that whole arguing thing happened but even now that things have picked up he still hasn't tried to ask me basic things like how was your Xmas. But I can see why he wouldn't. He doesn't think the change in our closeness in the past was his fault. He thinks I just all of a sudden pulled back and probably doesn't try cause he assumes I won't tell him either way still

I mean the only reason we actively communicate now is I put myself out there originally at the beginning of this year and he follow suit right away and approaches me all the time but it still remains to be surface level topics unless he brings me into a convo he has with someone else

I also know its one big stupid misunderstanding that won't be fixed unless I do something to continue fixing it

I don't think it's gonna come from having a talk with him, I think it's gonna have to come from my actions and like u said NOS, from being obvious that I'm trying to bring him into my world

I mean like I said no matter how many times hes seen me reading a GMAT prep book he was so surprised when he heard me telling someone my goal for 2013 was MBA program. Ya think the GMAT was a big hint but I don't know

You are so right tho

If my memory serves it was that one argument in that other thread of mine right? I can't honestly tell you how he handles confrontations personally but I know for myself that once someone cross the line and breaks my trust it is close to zero chances to win it back.

An Aqua friend of mine is trying to do exactly that. It's not that I dislike her in fact I still do! Charming person and lots of fun but that's where it stays, I refuse to talk anything past the superficial level because I just can't place my trust in her. She persists and I admire that but my trust is hard to come by. Goes back to the feelings of another person dictating and telling you how you should feel. I hated that part of her thinking she understood me and assumed she knew me.

But what can I say we're both stubborn. I can see her actions but I choose to ignore them. Maybe some words in there might help too. If any advice can help diffuse this... see if he wants to talk about things. I'll leave it up to you.

I will say I always find it hard to resist when someone TRIES to tell me something but doesn't tell me. Always gets an answer out of me that way. Such a sucker for that tactic.

Lol no it wasnt me in the thread of yours. To refresh, his boss got fired due to their depts low perf. I got asked to join aquas dept to fix the issue after his boss got canned. Aqua and I are the best if the best in the company. But once I transferred he always took off to other depts and I barely saw him And was left holding the bag. I felt so let down I confronted him and he listened nothing changed tho. That led to me getting pissed off over time and I lashed out in true scorp fashion by giving up and was curt when he wanted to socialize. He didnt like that. He really wanted me to talk to him. Any late last year he told a coworker close to me it wasnt neglect he just new I was one if the best in the company and wasnt used to being alongside someone more skilled than he was. He always was the one who knew the most so he figured hed let me do my thing and let me dictate how we did things in the dept. the other part was cause he said i never wanted to talk to him and he didnt know why but that he wasnt the kind if guy to ask someone what's wrong. He also said the hardest moment for him was when I was so upset at him one day when we were arguing and it got so heated I ended up in tears. He said it was so hard for him because he didnt know what to do

So it's not a trust thing. He is fairly open to anyone about what his days are like but he never talks about deep things with anyone. But he did reveal one thing that was a very personal thing but it was when we were arguing. i guess the other reason why I don't take that step is I feel like I'm not good enough or idk how to describe it. Like I hear him thanking people all the time for their help (which they rarely do) but he depends on me all the time and he doesn't do the same. A coworker told me before that he brings me up l the time in convos which surprises me because of how hes around everyone else more

My point is this if he truly cares about it he only shows it when I'm not around but if I'm present its totally different

Oh yes! Now I remember! Sorry I'm so bad with things like this apologies! I usually form mental connections with people's avatars and what they share on DXP haha. *smacks self*

Though another view: Maybe you've spoken some sense into him. He realises this dependence and he felt really sorry that he's ashamed to face you. Hard to say. It does stack up to your reasoning that there must be something but his pride isn't letting him open up to you because you've shot it to pieces 😛

Hmm I can't really say for certain at the moment but I admire your courage to keep working him! Personally now (after getting the refresher SO SORRY) I think he still trusts you, maybe he's trying to prove to himself he is worthy of you somehow. Just keep being your warm self around him as you said. I have a feeling you'll know when enough is enough 🙂

Noz deep down I know he cares on some level. He's an aqua after all but some days I question if he cares about ME. I mean he compliments people all the time but I rarely get one from him. He depends in me alot but rarely thanks me but will thank them for the rare help others. He'll ask them about their weekends but doesn't ask me and if he does its at the most random times. Like I was putting something away in his office and randomly he asked me if I was gonna watch the Super Bowl. I said enthusiastically "of course the 49ers are in it!" And he just smiled and went back to work and its like what the heck!

If it helps any this is his chart:

Sun aqua
Moon cap
Mercury aqua
Venus Pisces
Mars Capricorn
Jupiter Pisces
Saturn cancer
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune sag
Pluto libra
Ascendant gemini

Interesting he has one of his ruling planets in scorpio

Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Noz deep down I know he cares on some level. He's an aqua after all but some days I question if he cares about ME. I mean he compliments people all the time but I rarely get one from him. He depends in me alot but rarely thanks me but will thank them for the rare help others. He'll ask them about their weekends but doesn't ask me and if he does its at the most random times. Like I was putting something away in his office and randomly he asked me if I was gonna watch the Super Bowl. I said enthusiastically "of course the 49ers are in it!" And he just smiled and went back to work and its like what the heck!

Like the scorpio girl I rarely told her anything that you could consider a compliment except for maybe the day I mass texted her.... To me she just seemed like a girl that probably got compliments all the time and I didn't wanna bore her with that. You sure he doesn't think the same like your confident enough to not need reassurance so he doesn't say anything? Thinks you know or w/e honestly I'm sure you don't you just want reassurance from him lol... But how is he supposed to know that ^.^ gosh you scorpios !

I'm pretty sure he thinks I don't need it. But yet others do?

Around the same time as when we argued alot and he thought inwas mad at him, he used to third wheel me alot. Hed spend the whole time talking to the person and only looking at the other person. It always made me wanna cry or quit and I pulled him aside after it happened and he got defensive and was like okkkkkkkk ill look at you

And yet he was the one thaT said I never looked at him. But surprisingly when I initiated attention a few weeks ago and consistently he hasn't 3rd wheeled me since

Funny how that works

By the way, compliments are always wanted

Oh and btw, i would have ignored them too. I have this leo girlfriend and her bff is another leo. Me and 1st leo are cool and 2nd leo acts weird around me... she doesnt laugh nor talk much around me, but she still comes to my place with 1st. In the beginning i thought it was shyness so i tried to make her feel comfy by striking up convos with her, she never responded with too much warmth so i just stopped trying and ignored her. I mean, how you gonna come to my house, stare at the ceiling and act like you are in a vegetable trance when i try to be accomodating? I just let her be and pretend she doesnt exist while i talk up a storm with her friend. I dont have time for that shit. Dont come to my house if you dont like me and i wont have to treat you like an invisible force.

Just because you like him doesnt mean you should like or hangout with his friends. Yeah, friends are important to an aqua but doesnt mean that its a must to be with all of them at the same time, especially if they dont like each other. Hang out with him if its only with people you feel comfortable with and please dont diss or say anything bad about the ones you dont like infront of him... bad move. Why is he still a crush if you've known him for so long? Does he seem to like you back, more than friends type of like? And whats a froyo lol?

It's frozen yogurt

I've only liked him past couple of years tho I've always adored him as a person. I haven't said anything because if the arguments. Believe me I tried quitting and he didnt want me to and I've tried moving in and dating others but that didnt work either. I just am so into him. The thought of one of us quitting makes sad because we may or may not keep in contact

A best friend (Leo) promised to come visit every few months after he moved but he never did. He's happy where he lives now. Anyway aqua is everything to me and frankly I find it sad that he doesn't know because I can't tell him

Aww, girl! Thats so sad. Just continue being friends with him then if having him either way is so important to you. Thats the sweetest thing i've ever heard, but how long are you willing to keep your "secret" all to yourself? Dont you think he should know so that you could completely move on should he reject your advances? I know rejection is hard to a scorp but so is ignored feelings, especially when you are liking someone. I have a scorp moon and scorp planets so i know all about the pretending things are cool when they arent, but i also know that my crushing stops and am set free the moment i fully know where i stand with a person. I just wish you the best outcome for your dilemma *hugs*

Only reason I don't is because work is involved.

Oh, ok

sounds like he spent his birthday the same way i did lol....I hate celebrating my birthday unless i have something planned that usually results in humiliating my friends.....But i hate it when ppl know its my birthday and feel the need to celebrate it.....which ends in everyone coming to my house making mess, me being force fed a cake that had a whole bottle of blue food dye in it and listening to all my "friends".....talk and talk and talk.....and not just talk but over each other this circle in particular needs a fucking talking stick im tell you.... within the first three ours i had drank and smoked myself into oblivion.....I'm also having a joint birthday extravaganza with my other aquarian friend were all going paint balling! cant wait to get back at them 🙂

but I do know how it feels when u have yappy fucking bitches in the room and they wont shut the FUCK UP!!!.....sometimes I like to envision their reactions if i just randomly smashed an ash tray over their heads

ohh and to answer your question Id do either 2 things.....get really really smashed and make a scene....or dont get smashed and make a scene......

theres a movie you should watch its called "MENTAL" its an aussie film its really funny and its got tits and bum 😉

On of the girls was Virgo? *shivers* I don't get along with Virgo women very well.

I agree with Vulcan. Some sarcastic "jokes" would have been appropriate. I would straight up inject myself into the conversation or override the girls, whether they liked it or not. Of course, my cap mercury is kind of rude sometimes. lol!

There is another way to go as well and my cap sun in the workplace directs this suggestion. Since it was work related, I probably would have drawn the girls out with questions - okay, it's not really manipulative since its work relationships - but people like to talk about themselves. If you let them, they tend to like you and since it's work - you're better off playing "nice" than being rude. Not fake, truly be interested.

But in the end, he noticed you were uncomfortable and he really seemed concerned. THAT is a good sign. What it means is unknown, but he does care about your feelings.

^^^ And, by asking them questions, you might find something to use against them in the future!!! (the scorpio rising directed that one).

Virgos are lovely people once you get past all the quirks! Not too sure which part is directing that one 😛

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
sounds like he spent his birthday the same way i did lol....I hate celebrating my birthday unless i have something planned that usually results in humiliating my friends.....But i hate it when ppl know its my birthday and feel the need to celebrate it.....which ends in everyone coming to my house making mess, me being force fed a cake that had a whole bottle of blue food dye in it and listening to all my "friends".....talk and talk and talk.....and not just talk but over each other this circle in particular needs a fucking talking stick im tell you.... within the first three ours i had drank and smoked myself into oblivion.....I'm also having a joint birthday extravaganza with my other aquarian friend were all going paint balling! cant wait to get back at them 🙂

but I do know how it feels when u have yappy fucking bitches in the room and they wont shut the FUCK UP!!!.....sometimes I like to envision their reactions if i just randomly smashed an ash tray over their heads

The thing is he knows they are *B's* but most of the time he will socialize with them becuase he socializes with Everyone! Except me somehow he will give me space cuase my actions seem to dictate his. I donno. Also because they are "nice" most of the time but they are only nice to the males at work, I rarely see them get along with the females. If they do its on a civil type of conversation where they have no one else to talk to.

Posted by aquasnoz
Virgos are lovely people once you get past all the quirks! Not too sure which part is directing that one 😛

😛

Posted by truecap
On of the girls was Virgo? *shivers* I don't get along with Virgo women very well.

I agree with Vulcan. Some sarcastic "jokes" would have been appropriate. I would straight up inject myself into the conversation or override the girls, whether they liked it or not. Of course, my cap mercury is kind of rude sometimes. lol!

There is another way to go as well and my cap sun in the workplace directs this suggestion. Since it was work related, I probably would have drawn the girls out with questions - okay, it's not really manipulative since its work relationships - but people like to talk about themselves. If you let them, they tend to like you and since it's work - you're better off playing "nice" than being rude. Not fake, truly be interested.

But in the end, he noticed you were uncomfortable and he really seemed concerned. THAT is a good sign. What it means is unknown, but he does care about your feelings.

Oooh I got the bdays wrong they are [and these are just guesses - I'm about 60% sure i'm correct]:

Sun Libra 1.49 Ascendant Sagittarius 7.04
Moon Aries 24.06 II Capricorn 8.48
Mercury Libra 5.51 III Aquarius 14.16
Venus Leo 18.05 IV Pisces 19.41
Mars Virgo 26.01 V Aries 20.19
Jupiter Sagittarius 29.55 VI Taurus 15.28
Saturn Gemini 20.32 VII Gemini 7.04
Uranus Libra 17.38 VIII Cancer 8.48
Neptune Sagittarius 2.57 IX Leo 14.16
Pluto Libra 1.55 Midheaven Virgo 19.41
Lilith Scorpio 23.48 XI Libra 20.19
Asc node Capricorn 23.22 XII Scorpio 15.28


AND THE OTHER IS

Sun Libra 0.54 Ascendant Sagittarius 6.18
Moon Pisces 20.45 II Capricorn 7.55
Mercury Libra 21.22 III Aquarius 13.17
Venus Leo 17.22 IV Pisces 18.41
Mars Scorpio 17.05 V Aries 19.24
Jupiter Virgo 23.01 VI Taurus 14.40
Saturn Libra 0.18 VII Gemini 6.18
Uranus Scorpio 22.47 VIII Cancer 7.55
Neptune Sagittarius 20.03 IX Leo 13.17
Pluto Libra 20.53 Midheaven Virgo 18.41
Lilith Libra 19.13 XI Libra 19.24
Asc node Leo 19.17 XII Scorpio 14.40

The second person ^^^ is the meanest of the two and it happens to be a LIBRA and I never get along with. I didn't even know she was a Libra until right now and what do you know it makes sense.

By the way, I tried chiming in and the girls just ignored everything I said and well sure HE did notice but he did nothing about it either. He never does...he has this thing about

oh wow a lunar piscean being mean!? I say she's got some personal demons to be so mean to other people. On that note I've never met a Leeb to be rude, I have a Libra rising myself. This is so strange!

*looks up scorpio vs Libra*

Ahh, bitches. I'm not one to really speak up, myself, so I would have either not went altogether, if I knew what they were like, or would have stayed quiet the whole time or left. Whether it's his bday or not, I don't like being in situations that negatively affect my mood...because, if my mood is affected, that means others are going to be affected, too, when I start showing it. Aw, I usually get along with libras, too.

The fact that he noticed you weren't talking and asked about it...yet did nothing about it, would make me irritated. I guess he wouldn't have to cater to my moods, but I know if my friend was acting uncomfortable and unhappy, I would at least try to give them a lot of my attention or do something else to make them feel better. If he ever asks you to go out with those girls again then he is just plain stupid.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Libras are rarely mean without cause, if that is even the case! This is the guys anyways, have you ever given her reason to act the way she does?

No she's like that with every one except the males. I don't know why she's a *B*. She's mean in general. She hasn't been mean to me persay but she has been bossy and just ignores you...with others she's down right mean.

THey never did anything, they probably did something annoying that she didn't like but that's still no reason.

Posted by Scenic
Ahh, bitches. I'm not one to really speak up, myself, so I would have either not went altogether, if I knew what they were like, or would have stayed quiet the whole time or left. Whether it's his bday or not, I don't like being in situations that negatively affect my mood...because, if my mood is affected, that means others are going to be affected, too, when I start showing it. Aw, I usually get along with libras, too.

The fact that he noticed you weren't talking and asked about it...yet did nothing about it, would make me irritated. I guess he wouldn't have to cater to my moods, but I know if my friend was acting uncomfortable and unhappy, I would at least try to give them a lot of my attention or do something else to make them feel better. If he ever asks you to go out with those girls again then he is just plain stupid.

He didn't ask me about it. After lunch we were in the car (we all carpooled) becuase the mean girls asked if he wanted froyo (he looooooooooooooves froyo) so while we were going there I was just staring out the window. He knows that I usually do that if I'm bored or upset so he probably noticed. That's when he said "You're not busy are you?" (In the I hope we're not wasting your time kinda question).

I don't know why he asked that lol, I wouldn't have gone to lunch if I had alot of work to do besides LUNCH was all my idea, and he didn't know cuase those twats took over.

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by ScorpioFemale79

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Libras are rarely mean without cause, if that is even the case! This is the guys anyways, have you ever given her reason to act the way she does?

No she's like that with every one except the males. I don't know why she's a *B*. She's mean in general. She hasn't been mean to me persay but she has been bossy and just ignores you...with others she's down right mean.

THey never did anything, they probably did something annoying that she didn't like but that's still no reason.

I think it's a situation that would be a bit tricky to navigate being that it's a work environment and it's not like you can just call her out on it, as sexist as it sounds I think it's one of those things that is probably frowned upon in most places, although it depends on what she's done and who's seen it too, I'd be happy to speak up most times but in my experience it doesn't always go down too well and office politics/special preference gets in the way of more logical approaches. That's not to say the situation cannot be dealt with it's more finding the right way to go about it.

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Oh she's careful as to when she does it. She doesn't do it in front of people, or management...she'll be mean to this one chick alot for no reason. Probably thinks the girl is annoying, but she does it when no one is around and sneakily makes up shit to the boss about her.

Which brings me back to the topic at hand.

I need to nab my aqua, but he's a tough one he is. He is the most confusing man I have ever known. All working relationships aside, I know aquas are naturally caring individuals but its just certain things he does with just me that I just don't get it. I flip flop with platonic/interest every damn day and no one notices. Becuase its so subtle.

Like for instance the day he brought me a smoothie, he didn't say anything he just gave it to me in the (I asked him to bring one/bringing your woman something) kinda action. He never verbalizes the nice things he does for me. Like when he used to pass by and just touch my arm...he was subtle about that. I even said "Yes—?" assuming he touched me cause he needed my attention and he just smiled and kept on passing by. WTF is that—?

Or like how when we all went to happy hour and i pulled out my wallet to pay for my drink (i was standing next to another male coworker) and my crush bee lines straight for me [after not acknowledging me the entire night] and asks if I was paying for the other guy. When I said no, he said "Okay 😐" and walked away. WTF is that—?

Or like how if we go to potlucks, he always says his dish is from the both of us...as if we really agreed on that when we never talked about the potluck. WTF is that—?

Or how when us and another dept was in a limo going to the company holiday party, I had the only bottle opener in the limo. It was a keychain. A few times he stood up grabbed a beer walked over to me, opened my purse (without asking mind you) pulled out my keys and opened the beer, put the keys back and shut my purse and walked back to his seat. People and myself thought his "comfortableness" was so weird that new employees from other departments asked me if we were "together". I said no and they gave me weird looks. WTF is that—?

So you see how nuts I am right now. He does all this but at the same time he's quick to socialize with EvERYONE else.

I want to get to know him too and for some reason he doesn't try to be as social with me yet is always somehow around me or keeping tabs on me.

WHY WHY WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?

Could be just a friend thing (or a casual flirting thing. My aqua ex was a big flirter, though he didn't always want anything out of it. It was just for fun), but i'll tell you this, if he's interested, he'll keep leaving you guessing. I doubt he'll verbalize it if he hasn't done that with much else. When you gain more confidence, yourself, or in your belief that he's interested, tell him how you feel. If he's friendly with a lot of people, I'd be afraid he'd run to someone else, eventually. You could always ask him, 'are these things you're doing a friend thing, or something else?', etc. People don't always like to be backed in to corners like that, but however he reacts to that will give you a better idea of where he stands, even if he does the usual vague thing.

Aquas are just some people I have trouble understanding. They hide things, they play mind games that don't make sense, they can do things without it meaning anything, like flirting, etc. They just can't make it easy, can they! (Though, my aqua ex did make it easy at least on where he stood, feeling-wise) Good luck to ya, girl!

Posted by Scenic
Could be just a friend thing (or a casual flirting thing. My aqua ex was a big flirter, though he didn't always want anything out of it. It was just for fun), but i'll tell you this, if he's interested, he'll keep leaving you guessing. I doubt he'll verbalize it if he hasn't done that with much else. When you gain more confidence, yourself, or in your belief that he's interested, tell him how you feel. If he's friendly with a lot of people, I'd be afraid he'd run to someone else, eventually. You could always ask him, 'are these things you're doing a friend thing, or something else?', etc. People don't always like to be backed in to corners like that, but however he reacts to that will give you a better idea of where he stands, even if he does the usual vague thing.

Aquas are just some people I have trouble understanding. They hide things, they play mind games that don't make sense, they can do things without it meaning anything, like flirting, etc. They just can't make it easy, can they! (Though, my aqua ex did make it easy at least on where he stood, feeling-wise) Good luck to ya, girl!

That's the thing that confuses me, if its just a platonic thing added onto casual flirting. Why me— Even when we weren't really speaking anymore, he let all of my actions dictate his actions. It's like most days I feel like we're in this psuedo marriage thing based on how he acts.

But I am positive that its more than platonic. He doesn't touch people...but here he is passing by and touching me and doesn't say anything when he does or he'll randomly pass by and rub dirt off my arm. It also could be cuase I confuse him.

I need to nab him. I need to create a plan. I call it OPERATION BIZEE BEEVER.

Lol j/k.

But seriously. We have to come up with a plan people!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
He might look up to you a bit or see something in you that he doesn't others therefore takes liberties in little ways like that?

But if he looks up to me more why is he more social and funny and hilarious with everyone else. Is he putting on a show for everyone? I confronted him one time in our "not speaking to each other phase" why the hell does he talk to people more and he says cuase he has to build rapport with the people he works with and I said "but you don't need to build a rapport with me—" and he didn't know what to say.

For some reason he thinks that he needs to be a certain way with "everyone else" but with me he can just do whatever.

Aquas don't make it obvious BECAUSE despite popular belief we do have feelings lol.... That also come along with very VERY strong pride. Aquas do not like to have their emotions toyed with... Honestly you could only toy with an Aquas emotions if they don't know that is what you are doing. We are very weird eccentric people and to be quite honest Im sure most of us truly do not feel we are understood. It is almost like a right of passage as an Aquarian when except this about ourselves..... So when someone comes along and tries to act like they all the sudden get us so to speak... We gonna put up our guards cause the older we get the more we think that's total BS and they maybe inherently some truth to that. That's not to say an Aqua can't try and explain where he/she is coming from.... Just is it worth exposing yourself and the way you think....

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Aquas don't make it obvious BECAUSE despite popular belief we do have feelings lol.... That also come along with very VERY strong pride. Aquas do not like to have their emotions toyed with... Honestly you could only toy with an Aquas emotions if they don't know that is what you are doing. We are very weird eccentric people and to be quite honest Im sure most of us truly do not feel we are understood. It is almost like a right of passage as an Aquarian when except this about ourselves..... So when someone comes along and tries to act like they all the sudden get us so to speak... We gonna put up our guards cause the older we get the more we think that's total BS and they maybe inherently some truth to that. That's not to say an Aqua can't try and explain where he/she is coming from.... Just is it worth exposing yourself and the way you think....

all i want is to date the guy.

I accept him how he is, however he is.

But he's just confusing me up the yin yang.

Posted by IntriguedScorp
Aquas being air signs filter things through their logical brains. This is a good thing when it comes to being upfront about feelings. Scorps we hate being upfront about our feelings if there is a chance we may be rejected--our egos will not allow it. However, with the Aqua you can be upfront. Mainly because Aqua will actually consider what you have to say and not make a snap judgement AND he will want to remain friends so he won't be rude if the answer is not exactly what you are looking for. Its all good on that area.

If he doesn't like you in that way, you will find yourself being great friends and mixing in his group. This is how they let people down--turn them into great friends. lol

On the other hand, if he does feel the same way--holy shitake mushrooms--you will be swept off your feet on a magic carpet ride. Mnths will have gone by and you'll think--how in the hell did I get here? These guys move in fast when they like you and find out you like them, too.

At least this is what I have found.

Being a scorpio I need to be sure about how he feels before I take what's mine 😄

But seriously, what the hell does he want from me 😢 ——

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Posted by everevolvingepithet
He might look up to you a bit or see something in you that he doesn't others therefore takes liberties in little ways like that?

But if he looks up to me more why is he more social and funny and hilarious with everyone else. Is he putting on a show for everyone? I confronted him one time in our "not speaking to each other phase" why the hell does he talk to people more and he says cuase he has to build rapport with the people he works with and I said "but you don't need to build a rapport with me—" and he didn't know what to say.

For some reason he thinks that he needs to be a certain way with "everyone else" but with me he can just do whatever.

He might be worried how he comes across to you? You make a good point about building up the rapport or not needing to with you, I dunno what to say about that one.
Just call him on it and I'm sure he'll try to treat you no different than the others.🙂

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When I call him out on his random decisions like that, he gets quiet LOL.

I mean one of the things we argued about alot was the fact that he always 3rd wheeled me. Which he totally denied he was even doing. But all it took was for me to initiate one convo with him on my own and what do you know the 3rd wheeling stopped.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
There you go! Are chicks involved though? Sometimes that puts a spanner in the works I think but I wouldn't have thought it was intentional if that were the case.

Well this is the reality of the situation. The timeline goes like this:

- Day 1: Meets, clicks instantly. Seems almost surrell becuase it happens so easily.
- Bonds til he relocates to another building
- Year passes by until both departments move into the same building. Scorp and Aqua pick up where they left off at
- Few months later...Aqua subtly starts being affectionate, starts using weird sneaky work related situations to have lunch.
- Scorp is asked by management to join the same department. Scorp agrees and Aqua immediately goes MIA alot and befriends everyone else.
- Scorp and Aqua argue for a long time on anything from why scorpio isn't saying hi or why is she always talking to that other guy alot to why Aqua keeps third wheeling her or being flaky or not being supportive/helpful.
- Scorp decides to stop being bitter and starts initiating convos more and corrects herself so she doesn't "seem" upset
- Aqua automatically responds and initiates more and most conversations. Starts doing random nice things like giving smoothies randomly, watching out for her/keeping tabs, being more helpful, bringing her into his conversations, and asking her for work advice etc.


And that's where we are. Makes no sense. Even for an aqua.

Lol @ "yesss?"