How would you have handled this situation? (Page 2)

Posted by everevolvingepithet
*head melt*
I've no idea what to advise there lol, really. Hopefully it'll all work out though. 🙂

Its alright advising myself didn't work either.

But yes directness works on him. He doesn't understand metaphors lol.

Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ "yesss?"

Well I didn't want to assume he wanted to cop a feel in the middle of the office so I assumed he was getting my attention.

HAHAHA.

He hasn't touched me since we argued last which was like a couple of months ago cause its been great since i clean slated the bitterness (this statement sounds naughty btw lol)

Anyway, point is he seems to take direction from my actions cause he didn't start being ok til i was ok...so maybe if i touch him...maybe he'll do it in return like Simon Says?

haha.

Sighs.... So the 3rd wheel and the aqua. Got into the third wheel situation yesterday and didnt feel too good

Was in a 3rd person meeting with aqua and another coworker. Everything was fine until coworker who constantly seeks validation kept cutting me off. I think "when is this meeting over"

Then when meeting was over and we were all about to leave aqua asks the coworker if they heard about the current pipe situation. I think "wow. I must not look like I know current events." So u stayed so I could jump in the conversation but not once did he even glance my way to show I was in the convo. Do I had enough and got up to leave and what do you know their convo ends few seconds later

Once I was having lunch with a coworker and he asked to join us (he hadn't had lunch with me in eons so I thought it was odd) and if course I got third wheeled again. So after ten minutes I was finished with my lunch and I couldn't take it anymore so I get up to throw my garbage away

Aqua says I better get back to work too since ScorpioFemale is leaving. So I said "oh nooooi don't let me ruin your guys conversation". And he's like no I'm leaving.

I don't get it. He won't socialize with me but yet if I leave he leaves.

I don't get him—? 😢

Posted by everevolvingepithet
He could be looking for a stamp of approval from you or something like that?

Can't expect my attention if he keeps doing the 3rd wheel thing

You gotta give it to get it

Cause its just pushing me away again

Posted by everevolvingepithet
You seen like hard work sometimes.🙂
Bullet points and being exact would clear matters I think, the 3rd wheel thing just sounds confusing now going of what's written.

Lol how do I seem like hard work when hes keeping tabs from afar yet not just coming up to me

LoL yeah this dude sounds like he's totally being shy about this..... Man you know him following to all these convos is so obvious haha.... I think he just doesn't realize or he's being shy.... I mean he's not shy just shy with you :/

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
LoL yeah this dude sounds like he's totally being shy about this..... Man you know him following to all these convos is so obvious haha.... I think he just doesn't realize or he's being shy.... I mean he's not shy just shy with you :/

Thing is Nyaa if hes "shy" or hesitant. It's side effects are making me feel more and more worthless

Its hard to get over that

Posted by ScorpioFemale79

I've only liked him past couple of years tho I've always adored him as a person. I haven't said anything because if the arguments. Believe me I tried quitting and he didnt want me to and I've tried moving in and dating others but that didnt work either. I just am so into him. The thought of one of us quitting makes sad because we may or may not keep in contact

Oh gosh its like a mirrored situation to me lol.. why oh why!!? 😢

Posted by ScorpioFemale79

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
LoL yeah this dude sounds like he's totally being shy about this..... Man you know him following to all these convos is so obvious haha.... I think he just doesn't realize or he's being shy.... I mean he's not shy just shy with you :/

Thing is Nyaa if hes "shy" or hesitant. It's side effects are making me feel more and more worthless

Its hard to get over that

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Look you are not worthless to him... Aww man Im glad I got some water in me or I'd totally be insensitive.... Trust me I think to an extent you are just being overly sensitive.... Just keep in doing what your doing it wouldn't hurt to be more social and interject your comments into the conversation. He is being dumb with no alone time with you but 'we' Aquarians can be dumb. And look I think it's better to be happy with the friendship thing and have patience with it.... If its gonna go somewhere he's gonna smother you with attention anyways at some point... So enjoy the non shalant while it lasts haha

Just get him out alone, away from work, and plant a big ole wet sloppy kiss on him! See what he does with that.

Posted by truecap
Just get him out alone, away from work, and plant a big ole wet sloppy kiss on him! See what he does with that.

lol hhehehe i like that plan 😄

Posted by Angeleyes17

Posted by truecap
Just get him out alone, away from work, and plant a big ole wet sloppy kiss on him! See what he does with that.

lol hhehehe i like that plan 😄

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I third that plan! You guys should both just plant a big sloppy kiss on your aquas!

Posted by Angeleyes17

Posted by ScorpioFemale79

I've only liked him past couple of years tho I've always adored him as a person. I haven't said anything because if the arguments. Believe me I tried quitting and he didnt want me to and I've tried moving in and dating others but that didnt work either. I just am so into him. The thought of one of us quitting makes sad because we may or may not keep in contact

Oh gosh its like a mirrored situation to me lol.. why oh why!!? 😢

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That's what i said about your comments LOL.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius

Posted by ScorpioFemale79

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
LoL yeah this dude sounds like he's totally being shy about this..... Man you know him following to all these convos is so obvious haha.... I think he just doesn't realize or he's being shy.... I mean he's not shy just shy with you :/

Thing is Nyaa if hes "shy" or hesitant. It's side effects are making me feel more and more worthless

Its hard to get over that

Look you are not worthless to him... Aww man Im glad I got some water in me or I'd totally be insensitive.... Trust me I think to an extent you are just being overly sensitive.... Just keep in doing what your doing it wouldn't hurt to be more social and interject your comments into the conversation. He is being dumb with no alone time with you but 'we' Aquarians can be dumb. And look I think it's better to be happy with the friendship thing and have patience with it.... If its gonna go somewhere he's gonna smother you with attention anyways at some point... So enjoy the non shalant while it lasts haha

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The only reason i'm being sensitive is cause like @angeleyes said about her situation about her being jealous of his friendships becuase she wants to hang out with her aqua too.

I feel the same way. Sure things are better now. Sure we talk a hell of alot more but man he still just doesn't talk to me the same way. Like he doesn't know what's going on in my life unless i just tell him whether he wants to hear it or not yet i can hear/see him asking everyone how "something" is...i.e. holidays, weekend, meetings, birthdays etc.

I think to myself "Doesn't he want to know how my life is going?" At one point I figured he didn't give a crap about me so I stopped caring and just did my own thing. He hated that, he'd subtly mention why I didn't say hi/bye to him anymore, he got mad when i talked to this other dude at work (who was also an aqua and totally not "dumb" and/or "forgetful")

So its either you talk to me or not. Be consistent!

Posted by truecap
Just get him out alone, away from work, and plant a big ole wet sloppy kiss on him! See what he does with that.

LOL we'd know forsure then. Hard part is getting him out of work.