I don't understand him...

Posted by compy
When they like you, they do the opposite. Actions speak louder than words. They would deny any connection, but act exactly the opposite. He has always kept his options open, after filling up his curiosity about you (first three months). Then he put an ending. Since there was no deep connection between you, he still keeps in contact with you because he doesn't feel he owes you anything, emotionally speaking. It's perfectly fine with him. You should move on without remorse. He would be happy for you.

Posted by compy
When they like you, they do the opposite. Actions speak louder than words. They would deny any connection, but act exactly the opposite. He has always kept his options open, after filling up his curiosity about you (first three months). Then he put an ending. Since there was no deep connection between you, he still keeps in contact with you because he doesn't feel he owes you anything, emotionally speaking. It's perfectly fine with him. You should move on without remorse. He would be happy for you.

Posted by Destiny07

Posted by compy
When they like you, they do the opposite. Actions speak louder than words. They would deny any connection, but act exactly the opposite. He has always kept his options open, after filling up his curiosity about you (first three months). Then he put an ending. Since there was no deep connection between you, he still keeps in contact with you because he doesn't feel he owes you anything, emotionally speaking. It's perfectly fine with him. You should move on without remorse. He would be happy for you.

I really don't know what to do because I still do love him and have strong feelings for him but he confuses me quite a lot. He says he's not given up on me and tells me he loves me to death, also that he feels so strongly for me but at the same time I see him liking girls photos on Instagram and they're pretty much attractive too and live in his hometown. At the moment I don't know what to do I told him I'm giving up and he asked me why would I give up over arguments over fb? He's so confusing and I'm not going to contact him, if he wants he should reach out to me.

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Posted by compy
When they like you, they do the opposite. Actions speak louder than words. They would deny any connection, but act exactly the opposite. He has always kept his options open, after filling up his curiosity about you (first three months). Then he put an ending. Since there was no deep connection between you, he still keeps in contact with you because he doesn't feel he owes you anything, emotionally speaking. It's perfectly fine with him. You should move on without remorse. He would be happy for you.

I really don't know what to do because I still do love him and have strong feelings for him but he confuses me quite a lot. He says he's not given up on me and tells me he loves me to death, also that he feels so strongly for me but at the same time I see him liking girls photos on Instagram and they're pretty much attractive too and live in his hometown. At the moment I don't know what to do I told him I'm giving up and he asked me why would I give up over arguments over fb? He's so confusing and I'm not going to contact him, if he wants he should reach out to me.

They hide their own love interests and keep them out of the virtual world. He did this to me. I was puzzled and furious at first, but then, why would I compete with someone else when I have already gained my very special place inside his heart? They are not ordinary. Expect the unexpected. If he rejected you out of the social media without reason it may be something. But it's a lot more complex than that.

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Posted by BAV

Posted by compy
When they like you, they do the opposite. Actions speak louder than words. They would deny any connection, but act exactly the opposite. He has always kept his options open, after filling up his curiosity about you (first three months). Then he put an ending. Since there was no deep connection between you, he still keeps in contact with you because he doesn't feel he owes you anything, emotionally speaking. It's perfectly fine with him. You should move on without remorse. He would be happy for you.

Compy, isn't this exactly like my story with my Aqua? Or at least very similar?

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Posted by bittercupcake
#1 why are you so jealous if he likes other girls pictures?

so what if he does? it doesn't mean anything and you

are letting your insecurity get the best of you

#2 he said he loves you and cares about you. i doubt

that he is lying about it

#3 he's pulling back because of his insecurities. he's afraid

you will find someone else and break his heart.

#4 the first three months went well because he was letting his

hearts and passion lead the way. but after he realized that it

was more or could lead to more. he pulled away because

he began to feel more deep feelings so his logic took over.

im guilty of pulling away from an LDR because I was afraid

the person I was talking to was going to find someone else

so I stopped communicating and began to detach myself from

the relationship. it's nothing to do with you personally, its the

insecurity of falling deep in love with you and then you come

out of nowhere and say 'hey I found someone else! sorry! move

on now!' that would be devastating to an Aquarius who let their

hearts dictate over their minds. so they try to avoid that scenario

#5 what you can do now is try and reassure him of how much you

care and just be there for him. Aquarius will usually pull away after

the 3 month mark because they might feel like they need things

to slow down and progress naturally. they don't like to make

hasty decisions, so just go with the flow. but seeing as you are a Leo

you probably will not accept this and will end up pushing him further

instead of inward. so....



I've recently been detaching myself from him and by that I mean not being too emotionally invested. He started following a bunch of girls who live in his hometown who are much more attractive than I am so ofcourse I feel some sense of disappointment because I feel like these girls are right there in his hometown and he could easily leave me for one of them. It hurts to think that so I try to not think too much about it.

He also has told me nobody comes close to his heart than I do, although I felt like he meant it when he said it, I do tend to focus more on his actions than his words. He is someone who has the most nicest, romantic and deep things to say but he doesn't do anything much to show me this is headed somewhere.

He also doesn't contact me for days on end and it makes me wonder what is he thinking. I've stopped reaching out to him because I'm quite literally tired of being the one to reach out, I even told him I'm giving up and he couldn't believe I said that. The way he sees it is that I shouldn't let his actions dictate what he feels for me in his heart.. I shouldn't give up in other words. But at the same time he's putting no effort in making anything work especially since this is a ldr. All he does is tag me in memes and says hello twice or rarely... and then he tells me everything is fine between us and I need to chill.

I don't understand him but when he wants to be sweet he can be but when we start arguing it's really bad. We argue till 4am. I wish I knew where I stood with him and it gives me anxiety everyday thinking about it.

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I've recently been detaching myself from him and by that I mean not being too emotionally invested. He started following a bunch of girls who live in his hometown who are much more attractive than I am so ofcourse I feel some sense of disappointment because I feel like these girls are right there in his hometown and he could easily leave me for one of them. It hurts to think that so I try to not think too much about it.

He also has told me nobody comes close to his heart than I do, although I felt like he meant it when he said it, I do tend to focus more on his actions than his words. He is someone who has the most nicest, romantic and deep things to say but he doesn't do anything much to show me this is headed somewhere.

He also doesn't contact me for days on end and it makes me wonder what is he thinking. I've stopped reaching out to him because I'm quite literally tired of being the one to reach out, I even told him I'm giving up and he couldn't believe I said that. The way he sees it is that I shouldn't let his actions dictate what he feels for me in his heart.. I shouldn't give up in other words. But at the same time he's putting no effort in making anything work especially since this is a ldr. All he does is tag me in memes and says hello twice or rarely... and then he tells me everything is fine between us and I need to chill.

I don't understand him but when he wants to be sweet he can be but when we start arguing it's really bad. We argue till 4am. I wish I knew where I stood with him and it gives me anxiety everyday thinking about it.

You should like my bff Leo who is in a 'situation' with an Aquarius. same thing happened between her and the aquarius that you are going through.

look, aquarius are consistent in the beginning then they pull back for various reasons. but thing is you need to LISTEN. aquarius are VERy straightforward in what they say. yes, he might be having doubts but if an aqua doesn't want to give up on you he will tell you. i can't say that he probably isn't talking to other women, most aquarius (and men) still keep other options open.

the problem with leos is that you guys expect consistancy 100% all the time. you want him reaching out to you everyday at least once +. aquarius don't work that way. they grow bored! that's too textbook and 'typical'. that's not a unique relationship that an ideal relationship. aquarius don't go based on ideals that are not their own. they don't follow rules or societal conventions. they follow their own.

that being said i can already tell this is not going to go anywhere. because all the aquarius and leo relationships i know are more or less the same. consistency 100% the first 3 months...then the aquarius pulls away...leo panicks....tries to get that back...aquarius pulls away because they don't want to fall in love so quickly....and then the leo's insecurity goes into overdrive and they pull away and start looking elsewhere....aquarius comes back....leos 'done' and wants aquarius to 'prove themselves'....aquarius are stubborn and WILL NOT prove themselves because deep down they want leos to 'prove themselves' to an aquarius........ the end?

thing is you both are the same deep down. he wants consistency as much as you do. you want someone to come and beg you just as much as he does. it's not gonna happen. compromise and communication is essential in this relationship more so than any other.

you want to know the fcked up part? Aquarius subconsciously test their lovers by pulling away and observing their behavior. they want to know how consistent, committed, and loyal you are. if they see you give up too soon...they will get hurt and begin to detach from you and try and move on. their logic will say 'she didn't want me badly enough to make a sacrifice and be there for me when i returned'

Recipe:

consistency and perseverance + communication and compromise = successful aquarius/leo relationship

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I've recently been detaching myself from him and by that I mean not being too emotionally invested. He started following a bunch of girls who live in his hometown who are much more attractive than I am so ofcourse I feel some sense of disappointment because I feel like these girls are right there in his hometown and he could easily leave me for one of them. It hurts to think that so I try to not think too much about it.

He also has told me nobody comes close to his heart than I do, although I felt like he meant it when he said it, I do tend to focus more on his actions than his words. He is someone who has the most nicest, romantic and deep things to say but he doesn't do anything much to show me this is headed somewhere.

He also doesn't contact me for days on end and it makes me wonder what is he thinking. I've stopped reaching out to him because I'm quite literally tired of being the one to reach out, I even told him I'm giving up and he couldn't believe I said that. The way he sees it is that I shouldn't let his actions dictate what he feels for me in his heart.. I shouldn't give up in other words. But at the same time he's putting no effort in making anything work especially since this is a ldr. All he does is tag me in memes and says hello twice or rarely... and then he tells me everything is fine between us and I need to chill.

I don't understand him but when he wants to be sweet he can be but when we start arguing it's really bad. We argue till 4am. I wish I knew where I stood with him and it gives me anxiety everyday thinking about it.

You should like my bff Leo who is in a 'situation' with an Aquarius. same thing happened between her and the aquarius that you are going through.

look, aquarius are consistent in the beginning then they pull back for various reasons. but thing is you need to LISTEN. aquarius are VERy straightforward in what they say. yes, he might be having doubts but if an aqua doesn't want to give up on you he will tell you. i can't say that he probably isn't talking to other women, most aquarius (and men) still keep other options open.

the problem with leos is that you guys expect consistancy 100% all the time. you want him reaching out to you everyday at least once +. aquarius don't work that way. they grow bored! that's too textbook and 'typical'. that's not a unique relationship that an ideal relationship. aquarius don't go based on ideals that are not their own. they don't follow rules or societal conventions. they follow their own.

that being said i can already tell this is not going to go anywhere. because all the aquarius and leo relationships i know are more or less the same. consistency 100% the first 3 months...then the aquarius pulls away...leo panicks....tries to get that back...aquarius pulls away because they don't want to fall in love so quickly....and then the leo's insecurity goes into overdrive and they pull away and start looking elsewhere....aquarius comes back....leos 'done' and wants aquarius to 'prove themselves'....aquarius are stubborn and WILL NOT prove themselves because deep down they want leos to 'prove themselves' to an aquarius........ the end?

thing is you both are the same deep down. he wants consistency as much as you do. you want someone to come and beg you just as much as he does. it's not gonna happen. compromise and communication is essential in this relationship more so than any other.

you want to know the fcked up part? Aquarius subconsciously test their lovers by pulling away and observing their behavior. they want to know how consistent, committed, and loyal you are. if they see you give up too soon...they will get hurt and begin to detach from you and try and move on. their logic will say 'she didn't want me badly enough to make a sacrifice and be there for me when i returned'

Recipe:

consistency and perseverance + communication and compromise = successful aquarius/leo relationship

I understand that I do. But you have to remember that I've been consistent with him ever since we decided to begin this ldr, I didnt detach myself after 3 months because I deeply do love him and care about him. There has been days where he's been so cold with me it's as if I've just become a stranger to him. When I ask him about his feelings he says he feels too much for me and too strongly.

Also I've always been the one reaching out to him ever since he decided he can no longer be in the ldr. Even when he pulled away from me and we argued endlessly till the mornings. I would tire myself out telling him how much I care and love him but he would not even take that in. So I have no problem being consistent with him at all, I also don't mind if he doesn't text me for days just as long as he eventually does since I've always been the one reaching out.

TBH if I don't reach out to him then he never will. And you're right deep down we are the same, we both assume things of the other constantly, we end up laughing about it when the mood is good. I'm a Leo but I also have ascendent sign Aquarius.

He leaves everything up to me to decide but he was quick to remove me off his social media and not want to be committed anymore.

honestly sounds like he's struggling with his emotions and logic. all you can do now is give him space

let him know where you stand, what you want from him, and how this is affecting you without arguing.

then give him space...let him decide what he wants to do, he will let you know.

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Posted by sultrykitty
If this wasn't an LDR, I would actually suggest to you to stick with it.

This is exactly what the relationship with my Aqua was like in the beginning. We are together about 27 years now. I'm Leo sun /Aqua rising and he's Aqua sun/Taurus moon.

But the thing with Leo/Aqua is that we both need physical time together to reinforce our feelings for each other. Without that, we will tend to drift apart. I'm convinced that if Mr Aqua hadn't moved in with me, we would have never gotten past the "limbo" stage. There's something about physically BEING together that both of us NEED to keep things moving forward. Unfortunately, we both can also spend a good deal of time fantasizing about what our relationship *could* be like "if only".

Being in an LDR isn't something I think you'll be able to weather together unfortunately.

Posted by Destiny07

Posted by sultrykitty
If this wasn't an LDR, I would actually suggest to you to stick with it.

This is exactly what the relationship with my Aqua was like in the beginning. We are together about 27 years now. I'm Leo sun /Aqua rising and he's Aqua sun/Taurus moon.

But the thing with Leo/Aqua is that we both need physical time together to reinforce our feelings for each other. Without that, we will tend to drift apart. I'm convinced that if Mr Aqua hadn't moved in with me, we would have never gotten past the "limbo" stage. There's something about physically BEING together that both of us NEED to keep things moving forward. Unfortunately, we both can also spend a good deal of time fantasizing about what our relationship *could* be like "if only".

Being in an LDR isn't something I think you'll be able to weather together unfortunately.

I guess so but I wish he would be straight with me and tell me that. I don't like playing these mind games , it's almost like a cat and mouse game but I'm the one chasing. TBH it drains me out because he isn't willing to make up his mind.

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Posted by sultrykitty
If this wasn't an LDR, I would actually suggest to you to stick with it.

This is exactly what the relationship with my Aqua was like in the beginning. We are together about 27 years now. I'm Leo sun /Aqua rising and he's Aqua sun/Taurus moon.

But the thing with Leo/Aqua is that we both need physical time together to reinforce our feelings for each other. Without that, we will tend to drift apart. I'm convinced that if Mr Aqua hadn't moved in with me, we would have never gotten past the "limbo" stage. There's something about physically BEING together that both of us NEED to keep things moving forward. Unfortunately, we both can also spend a good deal of time fantasizing about what our relationship *could* be like "if only".

Being in an LDR isn't something I think you'll be able to weather together unfortunately.

I guess so but I wish he would be straight with me and tell me that. I don't like playing these mind games , it's almost like a cat and mouse game but I'm the one chasing. TBH it drains me out because he isn't willing to make up his mind.

Totally hear you. I agree with what aquanib said is going on. It's a heart vs head thing going on with him.

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