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i hate you aquas!
nah... i just want a freakin aqua to fall in love with.
but that will never happen
but that will never happen
tell me about it! eegh
I'm sorry to hear seaclovers...I had one said he loved me but I can't say it back because I think we're not compatible...They have their guards up all the time and some can appear to be so rude and controlling but I put my foot down and set my barriers.They can't cross mine and I won't cross theirs.It seem like all these little tests they throw at you just a way to protect themselves and I tell them that I know.They froze and looked at me like little children who got caught by their mum!😛
They are fun, silly, witty and loyal friends.Every signs have some bad seeds(have a look at the Scorpio board!LOL!) , so just move on.I'm sure that you'll find a nice Aqua who loves you 🙂
They are fun, silly, witty and loyal friends.Every signs have some bad seeds(have a look at the Scorpio board!LOL!) , so just move on.I'm sure that you'll find a nice Aqua who loves you 🙂
Stop falling and allow him to fall first, it's that simple, giving your heart to any man before he's made up his mind is a NO NO, Aqua men are commitment phobic by nature, not that he won't settle into a relationship but it has to be his idea, it really does or you will get hurt every time.
I'm going to be 100% honest with you. When I pull those disappearing acts on someone who is interested in me, it's because I've come to the conclusion that me & that person just won't work out the way I thought it would. When an Aqua first starts dating someone, we'll be all ears & really try to give the person a chance, we'll let them talk, we'll let them naturally give themselves away before we do any of the typical Aqua "investigating" & we'll really have an inward battle with ourselves as to rather or not we want to continue to pursue that person OR be pursued by that person. But once we've made up our minds that it's not worth it OR if one minute we like you & the next we kind of don't, then the disappearing acts start to happen.
"i really really absolutely HATE your disappearing acts and how you give the wrong impression all the time. leading me on to think that we could be completely happy together with a relationship.
and what happends—"
There are 2 reasons an Aqua might lead you on.
1. They really might like you & feel comfortable enough showing you that they can do some of the chasing, once they've already seen that you've done your part.
OR
2. They are testing you to see if you'll continue to chase them once they've finally broke out of their stubborn shell & showed their true interest to you. For example, Libras loved to be chased, so an Aqua will purposely NOT chase them in the beginning just to see if the Libra wants them bad enough. Once they see that the Libra wants them bad enough & sticks around (even though the tables have been turned on them), then they'll start to put the wall down & finally show their true feelings.
BUT sometimes we Aquas can like a person Monday-Friday & for on Saturday & Sunday see something in that person that we do not want to deal with & since we guard our hearts so close, the easiest & best thing for us to do is move away & FAST. If an Aqua thinks that you're all talk & no action, that you only say what you think they want to hear, or if you come on too strong too quick, it's a really big turn off. It sucks sometimes that we can be like day & night. One minute, we want to spend every moment with you & we'll make ourselves believe that a creating a relationship with you is worth it, BUT the moment we spot too much pride, not enough intellectual compatibility or some other flaw that wasn't hidden well enough, we'll jet faster than a 747.
and what happends—"
There are 2 reasons an Aqua might lead you on.
1. They really might like you & feel comfortable enough showing you that they can do some of the chasing, once they've already seen that you've done your part.
OR
2. They are testing you to see if you'll continue to chase them once they've finally broke out of their stubborn shell & showed their true interest to you. For example, Libras loved to be chased, so an Aqua will purposely NOT chase them in the beginning just to see if the Libra wants them bad enough. Once they see that the Libra wants them bad enough & sticks around (even though the tables have been turned on them), then they'll start to put the wall down & finally show their true feelings.
BUT sometimes we Aquas can like a person Monday-Friday & for on Saturday & Sunday see something in that person that we do not want to deal with & since we guard our hearts so close, the easiest & best thing for us to do is move away & FAST. If an Aqua thinks that you're all talk & no action, that you only say what you think they want to hear, or if you come on too strong too quick, it's a really big turn off. It sucks sometimes that we can be like day & night. One minute, we want to spend every moment with you & we'll make ourselves believe that a creating a relationship with you is worth it, BUT the moment we spot too much pride, not enough intellectual compatibility or some other flaw that wasn't hidden well enough, we'll jet faster than a 747.
"i really do hate you guys.
im a saggie and i hate that im so attracted to you guys and then always fall for you but my heart always, always gets broken.
im done with aquas! theres really no point at all!
i give you space, i dont be jealous, i accept your faults, and i spoil you with the little tid bits you tell me you like."
Well, the one thing about Sagg. that Aquas love is your ability to be very direct, opinionated & spunky just like us. BUT the one thing that we don't always admire about Sagg. is that they are sometimes too agressive or pushy when it comes to something they want. Aquas want to take their time when it comes to getting to know someone, they want to take things slow & give themselves time to see if there really is potential. Versus the Sagg. sort of immediately clings or jumps into liking us too fast before we feel the time is right & that in itself is a turn off for Aquas.
If you know how to turn on an Aquarius & keep her/his interest sparked, you should be fine. But understand that with Aquas, we don't fall for others quickly & we only tend to gravitate towards others who are patient with our slow ability to really cling to others. Your Aqua may sense that you are trying to be in a relationship too fast just for the sake of saying you are in a relationship & may wonder why you are moving too fast, considering you probably still have alot of learning about us to do just like we have some learning about you to do.
im a saggie and i hate that im so attracted to you guys and then always fall for you but my heart always, always gets broken.
im done with aquas! theres really no point at all!
i give you space, i dont be jealous, i accept your faults, and i spoil you with the little tid bits you tell me you like."
Well, the one thing about Sagg. that Aquas love is your ability to be very direct, opinionated & spunky just like us. BUT the one thing that we don't always admire about Sagg. is that they are sometimes too agressive or pushy when it comes to something they want. Aquas want to take their time when it comes to getting to know someone, they want to take things slow & give themselves time to see if there really is potential. Versus the Sagg. sort of immediately clings or jumps into liking us too fast before we feel the time is right & that in itself is a turn off for Aquas.
If you know how to turn on an Aquarius & keep her/his interest sparked, you should be fine. But understand that with Aquas, we don't fall for others quickly & we only tend to gravitate towards others who are patient with our slow ability to really cling to others. Your Aqua may sense that you are trying to be in a relationship too fast just for the sake of saying you are in a relationship & may wonder why you are moving too fast, considering you probably still have alot of learning about us to do just like we have some learning about you to do.
"i give you space, i dont be jealous, i accept your faults, and i spoil you with the little tid bits you tell me you like."
This is the disadvantage of these boards. You lose who you are normally, then resent others when the "strategy" is a bust.
Be yourself, if a man (any man) likes it great, if he doesnt FUCK 'EM.
This is the disadvantage of these boards. You lose who you are normally, then resent others when the "strategy" is a bust.
Be yourself, if a man (any man) likes it great, if he doesnt FUCK 'EM.
Oh wow, lol.
wrote this on another thread --- lol seaclovers, just because you get along swimingly doesn't mean it has to turn into a romantic interest you know?
the nature of the sign characteristics is extremely generic, you can't be living your life based one what people write from one or two experiences they've had with similar suns...huh?
LadyM, is exactly right !
This is the disadvantage of these boards. You lose who you are normally, then resent others when the "strategy" is a bust.
Be yourself, if a man (any man) likes it great, if he doesnt FUCK 'EM.
BINGO !!! with all these strategies, when do you have time to be yourself?
There is not strategy to be with someone - it is NOT a business partnership, there is no script, no amount of understanding astrology or waiting or nurturing will bring out what isn't - sheesh.
I also don't agree that any sign's any more commitment phobic that the other, they all have different definitions. The problems start when we try to get others to use or live our definitions instead of just letting people be or moving on
wrote this on another thread --- lol seaclovers, just because you get along swimingly doesn't mean it has to turn into a romantic interest you know?
the nature of the sign characteristics is extremely generic, you can't be living your life based one what people write from one or two experiences they've had with similar suns...huh?
LadyM, is exactly right !
This is the disadvantage of these boards. You lose who you are normally, then resent others when the "strategy" is a bust.
Be yourself, if a man (any man) likes it great, if he doesnt FUCK 'EM.
BINGO !!! with all these strategies, when do you have time to be yourself?
There is not strategy to be with someone - it is NOT a business partnership, there is no script, no amount of understanding astrology or waiting or nurturing will bring out what isn't - sheesh.
I also don't agree that any sign's any more commitment phobic that the other, they all have different definitions. The problems start when we try to get others to use or live our definitions instead of just letting people be or moving on
Well I think what any of us read on these boards should not completely take over who we are & how we think as people. Getting advice on this board is no different than getting advice from 15 friends who each give you their points of view from their own experiences. If you completely subject yourself to what you read & almost become a robot, saying & doing everything someone advises you to do, then of course, that is taking it so far. Some times I helps to get advice from others with this very same problem & sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Therapy doesn't always work for EVERYBODY but hey, I still agree that therapy of any kind should still be an option. I think it just comes down to being open to other options. Sometimes when everything your doing to help or confuse a situation doesn't ever work for you, it's wise to seek out other opinions. I don't think the boards & advice are the problem as much as I do the actual person & how naive or robotic they are. Always stay true to your heart & be open to other's opinions on similiar matter (the board) but at the end of the day, find the advice that you can roll with & try it out.
And when it comes down to trying to figure out why your Aquarian isn't consistent with you, sometimes you have to step back & re-evaluate the situation & think about not only what he could be doing more or less but always what YOU are or aren't bringing to the table.
In my own experiences, here are the some of the reasons I've pulled the famous "disappearing act" or lead someone on:
1. They never really could stimulate me intellectually. When an Aquarian asks you a question or an opinion about something, they use the way you respond to -in a way- judge how you think & what kind of person you are. Those who give us short answers or seem to shy away from deep conversations will never last with us
2. Always coming on to me too strong or always being too affectionate before the time is right. We like love just like everyone else, but we are not desperate for affection 24-7. We don't mind a kiss & a hug every often but we're not the kind of creatures that like to make out all day or cuddle up with you UNLESS we know for a fact that the cuddling will last long-term.
3. Always saying what he thinks I want to hear instead of speaking from the heart. Aquarians want someone who is real. We'd probably end up falling for the person that takes their time to say the L word versus the person who is too quick to say it. Aquarians aren't desperate for a lot of flattery because in the beginning stages of getting to know someone, our main focus is to see if that person's morals, values, opinions, sense of humor, etc. is atleast 80% compatible with our own morals, values, opinions, etc. In the beginning, it's all "hey, just show me your true colors & we'll flatter eachother & brag about one another later." We like to get straight to the point, without all the mushy & sweet talk first. "Hey who are you, what are you about & what can you offer me." If all that person wants to do is avoid all of those talks & all of those stages first, then we'll avoid you all together.
4. When that person keeps pushing too hard for a relationship. Trust me, the fact that an Aquarian is asking you all of those random & weird questions is a good thing; it means we actually want to get to know you. But if we feel that your only focus is to just be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship with "somebody" then we'll quickly start to back up because we'll start to believe that you either have alot of baggage, or jump into things too fast
In my own experiences, here are the some of the reasons I've pulled the famous "disappearing act" or lead someone on:
1. They never really could stimulate me intellectually. When an Aquarian asks you a question or an opinion about something, they use the way you respond to -in a way- judge how you think & what kind of person you are. Those who give us short answers or seem to shy away from deep conversations will never last with us
2. Always coming on to me too strong or always being too affectionate before the time is right. We like love just like everyone else, but we are not desperate for affection 24-7. We don't mind a kiss & a hug every often but we're not the kind of creatures that like to make out all day or cuddle up with you UNLESS we know for a fact that the cuddling will last long-term.
3. Always saying what he thinks I want to hear instead of speaking from the heart. Aquarians want someone who is real. We'd probably end up falling for the person that takes their time to say the L word versus the person who is too quick to say it. Aquarians aren't desperate for a lot of flattery because in the beginning stages of getting to know someone, our main focus is to see if that person's morals, values, opinions, sense of humor, etc. is atleast 80% compatible with our own morals, values, opinions, etc. In the beginning, it's all "hey, just show me your true colors & we'll flatter eachother & brag about one another later." We like to get straight to the point, without all the mushy & sweet talk first. "Hey who are you, what are you about & what can you offer me." If all that person wants to do is avoid all of those talks & all of those stages first, then we'll avoid you all together.
4. When that person keeps pushing too hard for a relationship. Trust me, the fact that an Aquarian is asking you all of those random & weird questions is a good thing; it means we actually want to get to know you. But if we feel that your only focus is to just be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship with "somebody" then we'll quickly start to back up because we'll start to believe that you either have alot of baggage, or jump into things too fast
yeah.
i think my problem is that when i do find someone that stimulates me on all levels, i tend to get my hopes up. then of course when everything is going great for a little while, it ends.
and i get butthurt because i allowed myself to get my hopes up, and i feel like a fool.
i know i allowed myself to be the fool, but i just wish i wasnt so ready to be the fool so soon.
i dont fall very easily, and it seems the aquas and aries are the ones who make me the jesture of the court faster then i dont know what.
of course when my pride is hurt, i put up a huge wall, and i know aquas want things to be normal and the same if there ever was a confrontation, but i cant help but not act the same.
how can i when youve left me sitting on the floor in my jesture suit all out of laughs and really hurt?...
and to be honest, i really dont believe i came on too strong. he was the one who initiated alot of the cuddling and asking me to come over. i never would call him first, and at the christmas party he was the one who reached for my hand, allowing all his work buddies to know we arrived together.
we have alot, i mean alot, of the same family values and just values in partiular, which is why we connected so easily.
we share the same sense of adhd haha humor and i tease him alot(of course he not used to that haha)
i am very concerning, and hes told me that he actually likes that i am.
i just dont get it.
i just know that when he gets back and whenver he decides to contact me, or come into my work (which he tends to do) i wont know how to act. ive been played for a fool and so of course im ganna have my guard up, but i know that might piss him off because im not ganna be completely normal around him.
and im afraid that will ruin whatever poteniality there is.
i think my problem is that when i do find someone that stimulates me on all levels, i tend to get my hopes up. then of course when everything is going great for a little while, it ends.
and i get butthurt because i allowed myself to get my hopes up, and i feel like a fool.
i know i allowed myself to be the fool, but i just wish i wasnt so ready to be the fool so soon.
i dont fall very easily, and it seems the aquas and aries are the ones who make me the jesture of the court faster then i dont know what.
of course when my pride is hurt, i put up a huge wall, and i know aquas want things to be normal and the same if there ever was a confrontation, but i cant help but not act the same.
how can i when youve left me sitting on the floor in my jesture suit all out of laughs and really hurt?...
and to be honest, i really dont believe i came on too strong. he was the one who initiated alot of the cuddling and asking me to come over. i never would call him first, and at the christmas party he was the one who reached for my hand, allowing all his work buddies to know we arrived together.
we have alot, i mean alot, of the same family values and just values in partiular, which is why we connected so easily.
we share the same sense of adhd haha humor and i tease him alot(of course he not used to that haha)
i am very concerning, and hes told me that he actually likes that i am.
i just dont get it.
i just know that when he gets back and whenver he decides to contact me, or come into my work (which he tends to do) i wont know how to act. ive been played for a fool and so of course im ganna have my guard up, but i know that might piss him off because im not ganna be completely normal around him.
and im afraid that will ruin whatever poteniality there is.
i just dont get it.
it's not a science experiment 🙂
if it was the right time, then all will fall into place but it isn't.
the nature of your sun makes it easy to get along with some signs, doesn't mean you have to turn it into a romantic interest with each one...with experience you learn to stand back and observe more instead of involving more...
or better yet, have a step-by-step talk with whoever you're involved with if you find yourself getting too involved to find out if you both are on same page.
Never feel guilty for letting yourself be open to experiences. If you become bitter and rob yourself of the good things life has to offer because you were hurt, then you're the one who has lost out...put it down to lesson learnt...tap into the Sag optimism and try not to get involved with how you can be for others to accept you. It's futile.
it's not a science experiment 🙂
if it was the right time, then all will fall into place but it isn't.
the nature of your sun makes it easy to get along with some signs, doesn't mean you have to turn it into a romantic interest with each one...with experience you learn to stand back and observe more instead of involving more...
or better yet, have a step-by-step talk with whoever you're involved with if you find yourself getting too involved to find out if you both are on same page.
Never feel guilty for letting yourself be open to experiences. If you become bitter and rob yourself of the good things life has to offer because you were hurt, then you're the one who has lost out...put it down to lesson learnt...tap into the Sag optimism and try not to get involved with how you can be for others to accept you. It's futile.
Oh libra women...*sigh*
You need to take a stand, one thing an aqua respects (even if they bitch and moan) is a person who doesnt take their shit too often any individuals shit. Be assertive as well, know your likes and dislikes. Call him out on his BS, yeah he'll disappear after to lick his wounds and regroup. If he returns you know you he likes you enough to own up to the error of his ways. If he doesnt... find a real man.
You need to take a stand, one thing an aqua respects (even if they bitch and moan) is a person who doesnt take their shit too often any individuals shit. Be assertive as well, know your likes and dislikes. Call him out on his BS, yeah he'll disappear after to lick his wounds and regroup. If he returns you know you he likes you enough to own up to the error of his ways. If he doesnt... find a real man.
wow.. yeah..
unusualcancer, you are right. i notice that because i really like him, giving him his space is because i dont want to loose him. haha and look what happend. haha jk.
and me not contacting him is because i want him to contact me first just to initiate that process because im afraid that if i do then ill push him away..
lady_m, yes i know the whole thing about taking a stand. i had to before he left to clarify things between us, and it wasnt until i did that that he actually responded to my messages. so i understand that.
aniyarae- yeah i pretty much know who i am as an individual. and im comfortable the way i am. i know i cant change him, and i dont want to, i would never want to change anyone. i just wish i knew him better to make better judgments. i just feel alittle jipped when he cut the chord on communication for 2 weeks after everything was going so great. not to mention it was during christmas..
we shall see. im still on a rebound with aquas. and my oppinion thus far about hating them is still there. maybe ill get a kind enough aqua to show me otherwaise! haha jk!!!
unusualcancer, you are right. i notice that because i really like him, giving him his space is because i dont want to loose him. haha and look what happend. haha jk.
and me not contacting him is because i want him to contact me first just to initiate that process because im afraid that if i do then ill push him away..
lady_m, yes i know the whole thing about taking a stand. i had to before he left to clarify things between us, and it wasnt until i did that that he actually responded to my messages. so i understand that.
aniyarae- yeah i pretty much know who i am as an individual. and im comfortable the way i am. i know i cant change him, and i dont want to, i would never want to change anyone. i just wish i knew him better to make better judgments. i just feel alittle jipped when he cut the chord on communication for 2 weeks after everything was going so great. not to mention it was during christmas..
we shall see. im still on a rebound with aquas. and my oppinion thus far about hating them is still there. maybe ill get a kind enough aqua to show me otherwaise! haha jk!!!
cappygolightly!! omg that was halarious!!! they are like cats!!!
and the funny thing is have you ever seen that robin williams standup where he talks about cats!!—
"who loves kitty" hahahaha
me and him watched that on thanksgiving and were dieing!! haha
yes.. he is a cat, and maybe if i open a can of tuna, he'll come.. but of course its for the tuna and noting else.. hahaha jk!
and the funny thing is have you ever seen that robin williams standup where he talks about cats!!—
"who loves kitty" hahahaha
me and him watched that on thanksgiving and were dieing!! haha
yes.. he is a cat, and maybe if i open a can of tuna, he'll come.. but of course its for the tuna and noting else.. hahaha jk!
George Carlin's skit on Dogs and Cats is a hoot. You should check it out.
Pretty eyes.
Thank you!
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i really really absolutely HATE your disappearing acts and how you give the wrong impression all the time. leading me on to think that we could be completely happy together with a relationship.
and what happends—
you leave. say you wanna just be friends, come up with bogus excuses and act like every moment we shared didnt mean anything and it was just another moment in time. nothing more.
i really do hate you guys.
im a saggie and i hate that im so attracted to you guys and then always fall for you but my heart always, always gets broken.
im done with aquas! theres really no point at all!
i give you space, i dont be jealous, i accept your faults, and i spoil you with the little tid bits you tell me you like.
wtf!!—