I think its really over this time

Nearing 15 year friendship with aqua male. I am female. We worked together many years ago and never lost touch. We have fought many times over the years, we care about eachother a lot and inspire eachother in our lives and are pretty close, I dare say best friends but who knows I said it once awhile ago but he didn't say it back. That part doesn't really matter.
He usually calls once a day and emails or texts every day to check in, send support, nice thoughts or basic life stuff.
Anyways at times we can have arguments, basic friendship stuff, someone lets the other down, someone gets offended, IDK were both pretty passionate and strong willed. We have taken some breaks over time due to having some rocky times, the longest being a year. But for the last several years despite a few arguments here and there, things have been really cool.

Anyways we got into the other day after I asked him a question he didn't really like. It revolved around if he got a new job I wondered if he would up and abandon friendship like before, he had done this, just literally disappreared for 6 months and ignored every communication. I asked in a sweet calm manner, a curious manner trying to open discussion, maybe just get reassurance.

He flew off the handle at the question, I tried to resolve it but to no avail. He said goodbye, wished me a good life, said he hoped my dreams come true. I tried getting him to change his mind, gently, I don't push...but just reminded him we could talk it out...I recently moved to a city over 10 hours away so we cant meet up for coffee or anything, but he just said we need to go our own paths and focus on our own lives.

My question is, is this forever? Was it maybe Mercury Retrograde? It feels rather permananet like its not going to blow over. I know for sure space is needed and my gut tells me he isn't open to communication of any sort. I said goodbye too and no animosity but any thoughts on whether he may come back in future to be my friend? Thanks guys.

who knows ?

But the aqua sun,moon and venus people I know are the friendliest people I know.

I'm sure you guys could keep in touch. At least email each other a couple of times a year ?

let him go and contact you whenever he wants to..

friendship can't be forced 🙂

I don't know he was just seemingly really resolved to just part ways, it just happened so fast and there was no discussing it on his end but typically weve been good at resolving arguments. His last email was Monday, it wasn't totally cold at all just seemed really final and wished me well and I just left it there and didn't respond, I could tell he just wanted to let it go and knowing aquas its best just to let them be and back off, it was not going to help me to keep pushing and keep asking to talk, so I wont reach out, Im just surprised.
Especially living in a new city I think hes just feeling like, whats the point, we cant meet up, if were gonna have problems I will just let it die.
That's how I assume he feels. Im gonna move on cause no use forcing a friendship but Im just confused after some hard work to get some things sorted over the years and all the memories why hed want to just up and leave for good. I hope this is just for now, but the reaching out cant come from my end just because it seems unwelcome and I spoke to that fact, just said I had tried and any more reaching out from my end seemed to be invasive and I got that and would do my best to move forward.
He said thank you for taking the high road, it doesn't go un noticed and I wish you the best, you deserve all the best and more and that was that.
I was hoping he would feel that was hasty and write later in the week but it seems like that really was the end or his pattern would be to have already written.
Hes been a good friend overall and is usually very in touch and does not like when we cant connect to catch up, treats me like kind of a sister or best friend, I don't understand how I hurt him so bad but I know I gotta not analyze to death and try to focus on me now etc.
But any more perspective is welcome from aqua.

Posted by beggarsblanket
who knows ?

But the aqua sun,moon and venus people I know are the friendliest people I know.

I'm sure you guys could keep in touch. At least email each other a couple of times a year ?

that's what Id like. It was a rough awkward time for us when I was leaving. We met to say goodbye 3 times, it was tough. He almost seemed clingy, scared to be left behind. Because we were off balance we had a tough time getting on the same page, both sides seemed to have fear of losing the friendship but because Id be so busy in my new job and he has a full life and career too, I think we tried to allow some space and adjustments and I think it just got to the point where we both secretly were feeling we really cared but that this might indeed be a good time to close the chapter, it was loosely discussed or questioned by us both, him more than me saying I don't want to lose our friendship and a big open talk about learning to just resolve differences...so, that's why at the first sign of trouble here he bailed so hard, I was like heeeyyy waitttt what about all the things we said...? Im not sure what the deal is, its everything I can do not to reach out but its as I said, everything inside me just says to not be contacting. I feel its unwelcome. I think Im in shock, lol