Insensitive reaction recieved from Aqua Friend

I confided in my aqua guy friend about this psycho crush I have from our mutual friend. I publically rebuff his interest in public because I dont like him and his antics is pretty much driving me up the walls...

instead of empathising...my aqua friend find it amusing, funny and it seems like he is not concern at all as a friend. why would he act this way?

Ok, how did you want him to act? You had every right to be upset at the other friend, he also has a right to his own emotions. One thing you must know about aqua is, our feelings are ours (we own them) & yours are yours...don't mix the two up. YOU are upset, he is not..two different things. Unless you want him to fake it.

Posted by RainbowBunny
I confided in my aqua guy friend about this psycho crush I have from our mutual friend. I publically rebuff his interest in public because I dont like him and his antics is pretty much driving me up the walls...

instead of empathising...my aqua friend find it amusing, funny and it seems like he is not concern at all as a friend. why would he act this way?

is it just me....or why is all the reference to bunny going around here? >_>

c'mon guys. Shheeesh. *shakes head*


Obviously you like him if you keep hanging around him, despite you being driven up the wall.
Face the reality: you enjoy it. Or else you'd not have him in your life at all.

I dont know why you wouldn't just "Cut him out" of your life if you find him annoying. People can see that already just from your posts.

Did you confide in your Aqua guy friend to make him jealous?

Posted by RainbowBunny
I confided in my aqua guy friend about this psycho crush I have from our mutual friend. I publically rebuff his interest in public because I dont like him and his antics is pretty much driving me up the walls...

instead of empathising...my aqua friend find it amusing, funny and it seems like he is not concern at all as a friend. why would he act this way?

I've had my mates or sister telling me some weirdo is stalking them, I laugh too and find it amusing, even they would laugh..but after if it turns into one of those convos then id listen and advise. I've had weird guys going stalker crazy mode on me but I agree it is a serious matter and you would want the other to feel concerned. I'm sure he was concerned deep down but is reaction came out at an instant as funny. Don't take it too seriously..talk about it

Sometimes people respond with humor because they either don't know what else to say or use it to cover up some other emotion.

Relax, you said it is a mutual friend that has a pscyho crush on you. The aqua knows him and knows he's harmless and is laughing at the guy's antics. He's sitting back in his lawnchair with a bag of popcorn enjoying the show.

Unless the guy is threatening you or abusing your personal space, no harm, no foul. Maybe he has had a lot of big crushes on girls and this is his MO. He'll probably move on to someone else before too long.

🙂

Is there a restraining order on this other friend? If there isn't then it means it's not such a big deal to you either, so why should he take it seriously? He is not the one with an admirer here, you are. Go legal on this other person 1st, then maybe others will take it seriously as well. How did YOUR family act when you told them about this? They are the ones whose sympathy should matter because you got blood ties..your friend owes you nothing. He listened, didn't he? That's all he needed to do as a friend. It's not his job to comfort you or save you from this other person. Go to your family for comfort & to the police if you need protection or want to feel safe. This thread is ridiculous.

I get it. You feel he was being insensitive when he laughed or shrugged you off.

You're taking it seriously, but he's not. It's never right to trivialize or dismiss something that is causing anger or fear in another person, however, I can't imagine that if you 2 are really true friends that you'd keep a friendship with the type of person who would purposely laugh with the intention to hurt you. If he's never been that insensitive kind of friend before, why assume the worst now?

It's ONLY YOUR obligation to take something that's serious, seriously. It's distracting & unconstructive for you to keep score of how many people sympathize with you or agree that you're a victim.

If he offended you by laughing, as each other's friends, you should be able to ask him this very question yourself. Tell him that you took it slightly personal & THEN judge how you're gonna react to the whole situation once he's had the chance to defend himself

If after you've expressed your feelings about it to him, he still continues to dismiss your feelings then maybe you need to take a break from the friendship or reconsider it as a whole

If he does however apologize, then drop it & move on. No need to lose sleep over this.