Is an Aqua done with someone when they initiate the ending of two?

I originally posted this yesterday... But at the bottom, new things had developed since then.

*UPDATE*

Things unfolded in the past two days (Friday/Saturday)...

His ex took over his phone and deleted my number and even went on his Facebook page and blocked me. She checks his phone regularly to make sure he isn't contacting me.

Anyways, he and I met Friday night and had the longest talk. He confessed his love with being with me and that he is at peace when he is with me. He was really depressed that night and torn about the whole situation.

He mentioned he has his doubts about being with her. And never wanted to let me go...

My time with him was deep Friday night as he confessed and opened up to me. We kissed and held hands the whole time.

But don't get me confused, I am NOT getting back with him... yet. Plus we never were in a committed relationship... He needs to figure himself out first before we even move on.

Yesterday, Saturday, I ended up going to his mother's wedding as previously planned. He had to come up with this whole story to his ex so she wouldn't suspect anything. He told her that his brother was picking him up. She made him call the brother to verify and hear his voice. He ended up having a friend cover for him and make up the story.

Anyways, I spent the whole day with him yesterday and even was with him after the wedding. At the wedding, we played off to his family that we were friends (which we basically are). He every once in a while touched my leg under the table to let me know he is still there. It was very sweet...

after the wedding he had an appointment to look at a room he is going to rent since the ex gf caused him to get evicted from his current place. We saw the room and met his future roommate. It was highly successful and the roommate absolutely adored me.

On the way back to his current place, he asked me if I would move in with him one day since the roommate takes renter couples. It was nice to hear as he sees himself with me... I told him that we need to get pass this situation with his ex and that we would have to be committed before even considering that.

Another thing he said to me was "everything with you works out great and goals are met... I'm really doubting the success of getting back with me ex."

he asked me to spend the day with him and his brother/ brother's wife this upcoming Wednesday to explore the city and do tourist stuff... so I will see him then.

*** Ok, my feelings about him after leaving me for his ex and then spending the past two days with him. Though things are back to how we were before, I am still on guard and much more aware of everything. I also told him, that I will not cut off other guys I'm talking to until we are in a committed relationship. Though we fled hands and kissed often this weekend... I'm really looking at it as a friendship now. I think that's what we need to do first...



So new update since yesterday (Sunday)...

I woke up and sent him a 'Good morning' message. He did not tell me that the ex and him planned to have coffee... She of course picked up his phone when my text went through. They argued and she walked out on him because we were still talking. Well he of course called me upset that I texted and I apologized telling him I did not know and wouldn't have done it if I did. He later called me depressed and I gave him words of encouragement and hope to help him get out of this funk he was in.

A few hours later he sent me a text to come see him at his job… He was in a different mood – A happier mood. He had a sense of relief… He was happy to see me.

He told me that the ex and him spoke in which he officially ended it with her over the phone. He mentioned she went crazy on him and that she also spoke badly about me.

He was very sweet to me the rest of the time we spent together – he bought me lunch and of course gave me kisses. He told me he is committed to me now and that he adored and loved me. He seemed happier and had a sense of clarity.

***As for my feelings, I am still going to take everything with a grain of salt and reiterated to him that I will still talk to others until he fully commits to me.



So after all what unfolded yesterday with his ex, my question to Aqua's is - When you're done with someone, are you done?

I have read your other posts and I think he sounds conflicted and confused.

My advice is that time will tell. Watch out of the small subtle clues now.

What is it that you want? Do you want him back knowing the ex is in the picture?

I was dating an aqua who after a few months of breaking up with me went back to her ex. Then she blocked me and wouldn't even engage in work related stuff. Now I am seeing someone her barriers seem to be coming down. They are hard people to figure out, but before you bother trying to figure them out you need to work out what is that you want?

He is in a mess that should not concern you. He is using you for now as a comfort in his conflict he has with the ex, because you are always there for him as a doormat. You should stay away, because she stringed him along and he cannot escape her and doesn't even seem to want to pull away. She has total control on him. You are just a collateral victim of their war. Nothing good will come out of it.

Hi All,

*UPDATE*

I just got off the phone with him not too long ago. He mentioned that he needs time to think about things and evaluate his life. He cancelled the plans with me for Wednesday, and mentioned he needs to spend the time alone with his Brother. I told him that I completely agree and am supportive of the decision to have a couple of days alone.

He reassured me that he is not talking to his ex, or anyone else. He told me that he loves me and that me being being supportive of his decision means the world to him. However, I messaged him on FB, and noticed he blocked me which is something that his ex did?

Anyways, I am not upset about his decision and totally supportive of him taking a time out to reevaluate his life. I'm not upset about it at all. I care for him a lot and I know this is the best thing he needs right now - Alone time.

He scheduled to see me on his day off on Thursday... So I will see him then.

my only advice for you for now....

you will be the one that get totally burnt ....

please....

leave now when you can....

if its meant to be it will be ...

timing is EVERYTHING....

please love yourself more and go on with life without him....

you are not an OPTION of anybody..

if he doesn't see you as his FIRST

walk away...

someone else will...

saying these with love.

Posted by saweetz1988
my only advice for you for now....

you will be the one that get totally burnt ....

please....

leave now when you can....

if its meant to be it will be ...

timing is EVERYTHING....

please love yourself more and go on with life without him....

you are not an OPTION of anybody..

if he doesn't see you as his FIRST

walk away...

someone else will...

saying these with love.

Thank you for your concern. I am contemplating of walking away as I know I could never trust him 100% anymore. I understand I shouldnt feel worried or question his time alone from me - which I have begun since seeing he blocked me on FB (Again something that only his ex did)... Its an added stress that i do not need. I will see him Thursday to hear him out - If he decides to be with her, I will walk away with dignity.

I agree with Saweetz - it can be hard to move on but you need to focus on yourself just as much as he is focussing on him.

Time seems to be of the essence to an Aqua which is different to how other stars view time.

You sound like a lovely, mature and level headed person. What he is doing to you will only bring you down in time. Trust me I have been the victim of it and it really messed with my head.

Do yourself the favour - put YOU first. Love yourself and always remember that there is someone out there who can give you just as much if not more than what you give them.

Posted by MrR78
I agree with Saweetz - it can be hard to move on but you need to focus on yourself just as much as he is focussing on him.

Time seems to be of the essence to an Aqua which is different to how other stars view time.

You sound like a lovely, mature and level headed person. What he is doing to you will only bring you down in time. Trust me I have been the victim of it and it really messed with my head.

Do yourself the favour - put YOU first. Love yourself and always remember that there is someone out there who can give you just as much if not more than what you give them.

Thank you MrR78. My feels are beginning to lean strongly towards yours and Saweetz suggestions.

Due to your suggestions, I posted a new post on "How to properly walk away from an Aqua guy?"

I would love to hear all of your suggestions and concerns.

Thank you,

Milani