Lost Interest?

I met this aqua guy almost two months ago and we hit it off very well. We live about two hours away from each other but have managed to see each other almost every weekend. Three weeks ago he told me that he liked me a lot and this doesn't usually happen to him. Two weeks ago he mentioned he spilled his feelings again. Now, last weekend I he said he wanted to spend the 4th with me, so he did. He got drunk and asked if I was seeing someone else because he's not and doesn't want to. Also, said he doesn't want me to see anyone else either because he just wants us to see each other. Any who, sober he asked me to spend 5 days with him at his beach house for the 20th. All good signs, or so I thought.

He isn't the best at communicating. I know that everyone isn't attached to their phones but geesh he's really bad. Last week we started talking about past relationships and how his previous girlfriends/women he casually dated would have an issue with how detached he could get. How he would go days without saying something but he said it's not that I wasn't interested in them he's just isn't good with communicating and . I just chalked that up to bull and him just not being that into them. Now since meeting we haven't talked all day and night and I don't expect to since we're not together. Neither do I expect to speak everyday. So this is where I'm at now. I got home last Tuesday and he reached out Wednesday. We exchanged 2 or 3 texts and the no response. He reached out on Thursday and exchanged 2 or 3 texts and no response. I haven't heard from him since then and we're supposed to be leaving for our trip on Sunday. I'm this close to just calling him, declining to go on the trip, and just tell him off and be done with him..

Outside of the communicating thing one would think he's very interested but now, especially after not speaking with him since last Thursday I think that he's just lost all interest :/. Thoughts?

If you want to communicate with him, then communicate with him. Stop waiting for him to message you, then be angry when he doesn't. He invited you to spend time with him for five days, so he's clearly interested in you. Maybe he doesn't want to communicate too much so that you two have something to talk about when you're on the trip?

From what ive read this aqua is clearly into you. They dont express how they feel verbally most of the times but seems like he already spilled some beans.

Aquas are honest people. I would take his word.

Please keep ur emotions in check, dont assume and do not overreact. U may ruin a good thing.

Aquas are really not good with communication , especially via text. Him not texting u doesnt mean he doesnt think about u. In fact it is when they like someone so much they may pull back cuz feelings are weird to them.

If u get too emotional u wont be able to handle his aqua ways. If u wanna be happy with an aqua, keep him company, enjoy him, look for opportunities to laugh together, adventures anytime!! do not nag him, give him the love and then the space and freedom he craves. U should have a good balance of giving and recieveing. Keep things cool.

Text him and say the countdown has began for the trip. And that ur excited about it. Yeahhuuu 😄

Go and enjoy girl. Aqua is one of a kind. Ull have the time of ur life.

Good luck.

I would say the only way to find out is if u pull back and see if he reaches out in the next few days.

something may have come up. Dont initiate another contact. Wait and see if he reschedules to meet up with you. In the meantime keep urself busy and dont overthink it.

So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

I don't think he lost interest, but I do think that you put a bad taste in his mouth.

It def. comes off as judgmental/critical especially after he told you how he communicates and you say that you're unsure yourself if you even want to go. Criticize and you don't seem enthused to even go. I don't blame him for pumping the breaks on the trip.Who wants to be stuck with someone for 4 or 5 days and the vibe is funky?

Posted by missmissy

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

I don't think he lost interest, but I do think that you put a bad taste in his mouth.

It def. comes off as judgmental/critical especially after he told you how he communicates and you say that you're unsure yourself if you even want to go. Criticize and you don't seem enthused to even go. I don't blame him for pumping the breaks on the trip.Who wants to be stuck with someone for 4 or 5 days and the vibe is funky?

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I agree with missy.

If ur text msg was something like " hey , how are u? I was wondering if the trip u mentioned about is still on this weekend? Please let me know. X " that would probably give u a better answer."

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

Sounds like to me he's protecting himself. You said "Hey I'm unsure about this weekend",

I would have stopped reading right there and gave you the same answer that he did. :/

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

oh no!!!!

why would you say it like that? that was slightly mean.

i would've responded the exact same way and I'm not a male nor am I an Aqua!

i would say it because I'd be 1) insulted by that text and 2) because I got irritated and hope they read between the lines and see that I'm irritated

Posted by NostalgicCappy

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

Sounds like to me he's protecting himself. You said "Hey I'm unsure about this weekend",

I would have stopped reading right there and gave you the same answer that he did. :/

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Exactly. I'm sure he still would like for you to be with him just not under these circumstances.

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Posted by missmissy

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

I don't think he lost interest, but I do think that you put a bad taste in his mouth.

It def. comes off as judgmental/critical especially after he told you how he communicates and you say that you're unsure yourself if you even want to go. Criticize and you don't seem enthused to even go. I don't blame him for pumping the breaks on the trip.Who wants to be stuck with someone for 4 or 5 days and the vibe is funky?

I agree with missy.

If ur text msg was something like " hey , how are u? I was wondering if the trip u mentioned about is still on this weekend? Please let me know. X " that would probably give u a better answer."

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I totally agree with this. I respond much better if someone is light and airy about communicating with me. If I feel like someone is threatening or putting pressure on my need for independence and freedom, I stop dead in my tracks. At that point, there's no moving me. Fixed Air.

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Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

oh no!!!!

why would you say it like that? that was slightly mean.

i would've responded the exact same way and I'm not a male nor am I an Aqua!

i would say it because I'd be 1) insulted by that text and 2) because I got irritated and hope they read between the lines and see that I'm irritated

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I wasn't trying to be mean :/

So you don't think he's lost interest/is done?

I'm not sure if I should just call in a few days after giving some space or do it sooner...

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Posted by seezythescorpion

Posted by missmissy

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

I don't think he lost interest, but I do think that you put a bad taste in his mouth.

It def. comes off as judgmental/critical especially after he told you how he communicates and you say that you're unsure yourself if you even want to go. Criticize and you don't seem enthused to even go. I don't blame him for pumping the breaks on the trip.Who wants to be stuck with someone for 4 or 5 days and the vibe is funky?

I agree with missy.

If ur text msg was something like " hey , how are u? I was wondering if the trip u mentioned about is still on this weekend? Please let me know. X " that would probably give u a better answer."

I totally agree with this. I respond much better if someone is light and airy about communicating with me. If I feel like someone is threatening or putting pressure on my need for independence and freedom, I stop dead in my tracks. At that point, there's no moving me. Fixed Air.

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Uh oh. So just rubbed him the wrong way or he's just done for good?

I think u worded it the wrong way. Im not Aqua and don't have much experience, but if it were me I probably would've responded with something similar. It just sounds like mixed signals. You stated you were unsure about the weekend trip, and then want to know what's going on with it. That trip would've been hella awkward. I wouldn't wait too long to reach out to him. I mean he told you his interest for you 2 times and also stated he doesn't want to see other people because obviously his interest is in you!!!! I think you should ask him how he's doing, or something light but cute maybe? Just to let him know the interest is still there.

Posted by lagyaal
I met this aqua guy almost two months ago and we hit it off very well. We live about two hours away from each other but have managed to see each other almost every weekend. Three weeks ago he told me that he liked me a lot and this doesn't usually happen to him.

It sounds promising

Posted by lagyaal
Two weeks ago he mentioned he spilled his feelings again. Now, last weekend I he said he wanted to spend the 4th with me, so he did. He got drunk and asked if I was seeing someone else because he's not and doesn't want to. Also, said he doesn't want me to see anyone else either because he just wants us to see each other. Any who, sober he asked me to spend 5 days with him at his beach house for the 20th. All good signs, or so I thought.

So far so good, Aqua moving along nicely, you've hit friendzone status, and he likes you, wants to upgrade that, maybe after the vacation

Posted by lagyaal
He isn't the best at communicating. I know that everyone isn't attached to their phones but geesh he's really bad. Last week we started talking about past relationships and how his previous girlfriends/women he casually dated would have an issue with how detached he could get. How he would go days without saying something but he said it's not that I wasn't interested in them he's just isn't good with communicating and . I just chalked that up to bull and him just not being that into them.

Wow really, oh the irony of not being the best at communication. He tells you about one of his flaws, and you basically say, he's full of shit and lazy.

Posted by lagyaal
Now since meeting we haven't talked all day and night and I don't expect to since we're not together. Neither do I expect to speak everyday. So this is where I'm at now. I got home last Tuesday and he reached out Wednesday. We exchanged 2 or 3 texts and the no response. He reached out on Thursday and exchanged 2 or 3 texts and no response. I haven't heard from him since then and we're supposed to be leaving for our trip on Sunday. I'm this close to just calling him, declining to go on the trip, and just tell him off and be done with him..

What the fuck is wrong with you? He texts you on Wed, he texts you on Thurs, but he is terrible at communicating? So instead of texting him about the vacation, you just wont go because you don't feel pandered to?

Posted by lagyaal
Outside of the communicating thing one would think he's very interested but now, especially after not speaking with him since last Thursday I think I think that he's just lost all interest :/. Thoughts?

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Oh the thoughts....

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

My advice is move on, and learn your own lesson regarding space. Him revealing to you that he isn't the most communicative of people, is not license for you to beat him over the head with it. No one has time for that and an Aqua in particular is just going to be like "I don't need that kind of negativity in my life".

Posted by KittyKnitter
my guy doesn't really communicate unless he has something to talk about and he doesn't initiate much

just saying hi and not knowing what to talk about doesn't make any sense to him

even though every morning i send a hi, hope you are having a good day, stay safe and hugs message

i get nothing all day

and then maybe a "goodnight, chat tomorrow,hugs". only if he has something to ask or tell me does he message earlier

8 years and this is often the extent of our communication sometimes even when he is not busy

unless i begin a chat. i am more effective communicator so i initiate more, lead the chat to things i want to talk about. what i want to know about, i ask.

you have differences in your style s of communicating

that is not something you can expect him to change

if you want to feel connected, then take the lead in keeping the line of communication open

many men are not verbal or very verbal about their feelings but sounds like he said it already

if you want to know more, why not just ask?

just because a guy doesn't reach out as often as you would like doesn't mean he doesn't care

he could be waiting for you to do it first and wondering the same thing as you

it doesn't matter who initiates. the main thing is that you connect and communicate.

I agree, I had the same situation in my previous rela - too many people can't get through a day without someone holding their hands ... sheesh - what did they do in the old days when all you could do was send smoke signals lol

@tcta Err.....setting the savanna on fire because the previous smoke signal was too thin...? 😄

On a positive note, that's how agriculture was invented!

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Oh the thoughts....

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

My advice is move on, and learn your own lesson regarding space. Him revealing to you that he isn't the most communicative of people, is not license for you to beat him over the head with it. No one has time for that and an Aqua in particular is just going to be like "I don't need that kind of negativity in my life".

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Gennie,

I'm not sure if you read my replies to the others but it's not that I didn't want to go, I just worded my text all wrong. I meant unsure as in unsure of whats going on.

As far him "pandering" to me, that's not the issue. I'm used to someone communicating with me, not all day or heck even every day but 5 days of no contact with a trip pending is what made me unsure of what was going on on his end. I feel as though because we have two different communication style s I shouldn't just have to accept it and go along with what he wants. I think he should meet me halfway on this.

Posted by Caplove
I wonder if this can still be saved though. Op, are you going to call him? It sounded like he really liked you.

The relationship or the trip can still be saved?

I will because based on the feedback here he may have misinterpreted my text message. On the other hand, him going 5 days of contact then telling me the trip isn't a good idea anymore has me feeling pretty uneasy and thinking that he's lost interest. I'm still going to reach out to him though.

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Posted by KittyKnitter
my guy doesn't really communicate unless he has something to talk about and he doesn't initiate much

just saying hi and not knowing what to talk about doesn't make any sense to him

even though every morning i send a hi, hope you are having a good day, stay safe and hugs message

i get nothing all day

and then maybe a "goodnight, chat tomorrow,hugs". only if he has something to ask or tell me does he message earlier

8 years and this is often the extent of our communication sometimes even when he is not busy

unless i begin a chat. i am more effective communicator so i initiate more, lead the chat to things i want to talk about. what i want to know about, i ask.

you have differences in your style s of communicating

that is not something you can expect him to change

if you want to feel connected, then take the lead in keeping the line of communication open

many men are not verbal or very verbal about their feelings but sounds like he said it already

if you want to know more, why not just ask?

just because a guy doesn't reach out as often as you would like doesn't mean he doesn't care

he could be waiting for you to do it first and wondering the same thing as you

it doesn't matter who initiates. the main thing is that you connect and communicate.

I agree, I had the same situation in my previous rela - too many people can't get through a day without someone holding their hands ... sheesh - what did they do in the old days when all you could do was send smoke signals lol

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I don't need to talk to someone every day. 5 days of no contact does seem like a lot though. That seems like someone who isn't interested and that's what had me uneasy.

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Posted by KittyKnitter
my guy doesn't really communicate unless he has something to talk about and he doesn't initiate much

just saying hi and not knowing what to talk about doesn't make any sense to him

even though every morning i send a hi, hope you are having a good day, stay safe and hugs message

i get nothing all day

and then maybe a "goodnight, chat tomorrow,hugs". only if he has something to ask or tell me does he message earlier

8 years and this is often the extent of our communication sometimes even when he is not busy

unless i begin a chat. i am more effective communicator so i initiate more, lead the chat to things i want to talk about. what i want to know about, i ask.

you have differences in your style s of communicating

that is not something you can expect him to change

if you want to feel connected, then take the lead in keeping the line of communication open

many men are not verbal or very verbal about their feelings but sounds like he said it already

if you want to know more, why not just ask?

just because a guy doesn't reach out as often as you would like doesn't mean he doesn't care

he could be waiting for you to do it first and wondering the same thing as you

it doesn't matter who initiates. the main thing is that you connect and communicate.

I agree, I had the same situation in my previous rela - too many people can't get through a day without someone holding their hands ... sheesh - what did they do in the old days when all you could do was send smoke signals lol

I don't need to talk to someone every day. 5 days of no contact does seem like a lot though. That seems like someone who isn't interested and that's what had me uneasy.

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Just call him. Be light and sweet, apologize if your text came off harsh and that is not how you intended it, you just were unsure if the trip was on because you had not heard from him in a week's time. Also say, you get that he is busy but you just got a little unsure of his plans for the trip since their was no confirmation.

Try your hardest not to make it seem like criticism about him but more so a genuine misunderstanding.

OP I do agree that he needs to meet you half way but as your relationship develops with him you will have time to talk this over. I get it because I am dealing with an Aries with a Venus and Mars i Aquarius so the detachment makes me put my guard up and that causes me to jump to conclusions too quickly.

I am more open to falling in love, where he is more cautious. Seems like a good learning leason for me and maybe this one is for you too.

Please keep us updated! I really hope you go on this trip!

Just call him, if he he read your post on here he would probably chuckle at your worries, he will respect you give him space, so will think nothing of doing the same for you. So don't worry, just call him about the trip, I bet he will be fine x

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Posted by Gennie
Oh the thoughts....

Posted by lagyaal
So this morning I said,

"Hey I'm unsure about this weekend. I know you said you're bad at communicating which you're right because it causes issues. Let me know if what's going on with this weekend".

and he said "honestly I don't think this weekend is a good idea"

:/ I definitely think he's lost interest.

My advice is move on, and learn your own lesson regarding space. Him revealing to you that he isn't the most communicative of people, is not license for you to beat him over the head with it. No one has time for that and an Aqua in particular is just going to be like "I don't need that kind of negativity in my life".

Gennie,

I'm not sure if you read my replies to the others but it's not that I didn't want to go, I just worded my text all wrong. I meant unsure as in unsure of whats going on.

As far him "pandering" to me, that's not the issue. I'm used to someone communicating with me, not all day or heck even every day but 5 days of no contact with a trip pending is what made me unsure of what was going on on his end. I feel as though because we have two different communication style s I shouldn't just have to accept it and go along with what he wants. I think he should meet me halfway on this.

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Right, but you also said that in that time when you were looking for him to communicate with you, you didn't bother to pop out of the blue with a "Hey, what are we doing for the trip?" Communication works both ways, and so it looks like pandering from this angle.

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Posted by KittyKnitter
my guy doesn't really communicate unless he has something to talk about and he doesn't initiate much

just saying hi and not knowing what to talk about doesn't make any sense to him

even though every morning i send a hi, hope you are having a good day, stay safe and hugs message

i get nothing all day

and then maybe a "goodnight, chat tomorrow,hugs". only if he has something to ask or tell me does he message earlier

8 years and this is often the extent of our communication sometimes even when he is not busy

unless i begin a chat. i am more effective communicator so i initiate more, lead the chat to things i want to talk about. what i want to know about, i ask.

you have differences in your style s of communicating

that is not something you can expect him to change

if you want to feel connected, then take the lead in keeping the line of communication open

many men are not verbal or very verbal about their feelings but sounds like he said it already

if you want to know more, why not just ask?

just because a guy doesn't reach out as often as you would like doesn't mean he doesn't care

he could be waiting for you to do it first and wondering the same thing as you

it doesn't matter who initiates. the main thing is that you connect and communicate.

I agree, I had the same situation in my previous rela - too many people can't get through a day without someone holding their hands ... sheesh - what did they do in the old days when all you could do was send smoke signals lol

I don't need to talk to someone every day. 5 days of no contact does seem like a lot though. That seems like someone who isn't interested and that's what had me uneasy.

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well yes that is a bit long ...

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Posted by Caplove
I wonder if this can still be saved though. Op, are you going to call him? It sounded like he really liked you.

The relationship or the trip can still be saved?

I will because based on the feedback here he may have misinterpreted my text message. On the other hand, him going 5 days of contact then telling me the trip isn't a good idea anymore has me feeling pretty uneasy and thinking that he's lost interest. I'm still going to reach out to him though.

I was thinking about the relationship. The trip would be nice too, but I think that may be out of the question by now. Am I right?

Just call him and be as honest as possible, be an open book and lay it all down. The thing is, 5 days is a lot but as Gennie pointed out, you didn't really communicate w/ him during that time. Be fair w/ him. He's still human and wants to know you're interested in him too. He texted you Wed, texted you Thur and then might have been waiting for you to reach out to him w/ something.

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Thank you. I ran into him last night and he pretty much said that he jumped the gun with asking and feels like we're moving too fast but tried to kind of pin it on me while saying "he's not good at this".Wth? HE asked me to go. HE said all that stuff to me about seeing other people (despite being drunk) and then a week or so later we're moving too fast? He even told his roommate that I was going so he seemed excited about it, but we're moving too fast? Yea ok.

Then other guys were trying to talk to me while we were out and my girlfriends said he was watching me all night and he looked pissed when they were talking to me. Eventually he came over to where I was sitting on the couch and then positioned himself on the back of the couch so that I was between his legs and then he tried rub my shoulder -___-

I don't get it.

He's officially getting the boot from me.

First this is an aqua guy. Never chase one. Start as friends. These guys like sags are slow to commit and run away quickly. And by messaging him asking it is chasing to them. I'm an Aqua and have tons of experience with Aqua men. They need the friendship aspect to stay safe. In fact male or female being their best friend is the best way to win them over.

Stop reaching out to him. Don't reply quickly. Next time he wants to have plans tell him you already have some. But say maybe another time. And just hang out and chill and talk. Stimulate his mind. He's into you but even so he's a flight risk. Don't question him if he doesn't text for three days just be chill. Like nothing happened. You're approaching this all wrong. Aqua can be emotional with the right person. You should have listened to other posts and kept yourself busy and not ask about Sunday. I could see the ending before you posted it. If I were in your position I would pull back now and go on and do my thing and be nice when he contacts you but cool as a cucumber.

What sign are you?

He got ahead of himself and excited and the got scared. This is normal male behavior. This happens all the time. Then they pull back and regroup. Your energy even makes me nervous lol too intense. Just go with the flow. And if he says he's moving to fast you say that's cool I just enjoy your friendship and am happy being friends. That'll relax him. But of course you should mean it.

If I had to choose between Aqua and sag I honestly don't know which is harder to get to commit. But they both need space, and someone who is relaxed values friendship and goes with the flow.

Posted by GreenEyedAqua
First this is an aqua guy. Never chase one. Start as friends. These guys like sags are slow to commit and run away quickly. And by messaging him asking it is chasing to them. I'm an Aqua and have tons of experience with Aqua men. They need the friendship aspect to stay safe. In fact male or female being their best friend is the best way to win them over.

Stop reaching out to him. Don't reply quickly. Next time he wants to have plans tell him you already have some. But say maybe another time. And just hang out and chill and talk. Stimulate his mind. He's into you but even so he's a flight risk. Don't question him if he doesn't text for three days just be chill. Like nothing happened. You're approaching this all wrong. Aqua can be emotional with the right person. You should have listened to other posts and kept yourself busy and not ask about Sunday. I could see the ending before you posted it. If I were in your position I would pull back now and go on and do my thing and be nice when he contacts you but cool as a cucumber.

What sign are you?

He got ahead of himself and excited and the got scared. This is normal male behavior. This happens all the time. Then they pull back and regroup. Your energy even makes me nervous lol too intense. Just go with the flow. And if he says he's moving to fast you say that's cool I just enjoy your friendship and am happy being friends. That'll relax him. But of course you should mean it.

If I had to choose between Aqua and sag I honestly don't know which is harder to get to commit. But they both need space, and someone who is relaxed values friendship and goes with the flow.

I like your thinking. Welcome to dxpnet, GreenEyed!

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Posted by GreenEyedAqua
First this is an aqua guy. Never chase one. Start as friends. These guys like sags are slow to commit and run away quickly. And by messaging him asking it is chasing to them. I'm an Aqua and have tons of experience with Aqua men. They need the friendship aspect to stay safe. In fact male or female being their best friend is the best way to win them over.

Stop reaching out to him. Don't reply quickly. Next time he wants to have plans tell him you already have some. But say maybe another time. And just hang out and chill and talk. Stimulate his mind. He's into you but even so he's a flight risk. Don't question him if he doesn't text for three days just be chill. Like nothing happened. You're approaching this all wrong. Aqua can be emotional with the right person. You should have listened to other posts and kept yourself busy and not ask about Sunday. I could see the ending before you posted it. If I were in your position I would pull back now and go on and do my thing and be nice when he contacts you but cool as a cucumber.

What sign are you?

He got ahead of himself and excited and the got scared. This is normal male behavior. This happens all the time. Then they pull back and regroup. Your energy even makes me nervous lol too intense. Just go with the flow. And if he says he's moving to fast you say that's cool I just enjoy your friendship and am happy being friends. That'll relax him. But of course you should mean it.

If I had to choose between Aqua and sag I honestly don't know which is harder to get to commit. But they both need space, and someone who is relaxed values friendship and goes with the flow.

I like your thinking. Welcome to dxpnet, GreenEyed!

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Thank you 🙂 I've been lurking for ages and finally decided to create an account lol