eos51
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Scorpio guy falling for an aquarius girl
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...wrong idea.
I responded by saying that I wasnt expecting anything more than friendship at that stage,
We exchanged more messages as time went on.
She returned again a few weeks later and wanted to catchup - I was out of town so declined. I could have made arrangements to see her but I didnt want to put her as a high priority given that it would be a waste of time knowing that there wasnt any prospect of a relationship.
I then went overseas for a few weeks, and she and I exchanged msssages on a daily basis. I felt her getting close to me but I played coy just so I didnt compromise my self respect by getting rejected if i appeared too keen.
I got back to my city and we agreed to catch up soon.
I started going out with another girl - a leo- who was great in bed but struggled to understand me. She admitted to having trust issues with me, I didnt do anything t breach her trust..
Valentines day, miss AF sends me a message with an image saying 'Be my valentine' - I sent her a vague message saying 'you have a good valentines day too'.
She returned once again to my city and last weekend we met for coffee, drinks and dinner. I noticed her eyes looked more beautiful than before.
I asked her to come to watch a sports match with me, and we are going to it tomorrow night - taking her out to dinner before that. She doesnt like getting cold so I will carry a heat pack for her (she will be wearing a jumper and scarf). I told her I was seeing someone from jan to end of feb. She seemed alright with that discolsure and mentioned she may start online dating again.
I also mentioend to her that I had made up my mind in november last year about not dating her because she was too bosy. she likes being in control and i cant be controlled. she explained that she liked being on time because her parents were always late for everything and she doesnt like being late. i understood where she was coming from.
now i have started getting very attracted to her and find myself being more interested in her.
Question: Do I ask her out? Declare the fact that I am falling for her? or do i keep laying coy...knowing she is going to start online dating again?
thanks
Scorpio with 27??56' Libra and Aquarius moon
I responded by saying that I wasnt expecting anything more than friendship at that stage,
We exchanged more messages as time went on.
She returned again a few weeks later and wanted to catchup - I was out of town so declined. I could have made arrangements to see her but I didnt want to put her as a high priority given that it would be a waste of time knowing that there wasnt any prospect of a relationship.
I then went overseas for a few weeks, and she and I exchanged msssages on a daily basis. I felt her getting close to me but I played coy just so I didnt compromise my self respect by getting rejected if i appeared too keen.
I got back to my city and we agreed to catch up soon.
I started going out with another girl - a leo- who was great in bed but struggled to understand me. She admitted to having trust issues with me, I didnt do anything t breach her trust..
Valentines day, miss AF sends me a message with an image saying 'Be my valentine' - I sent her a vague message saying 'you have a good valentines day too'.
She returned once again to my city and last weekend we met for coffee, drinks and dinner. I noticed her eyes looked more beautiful than before.
I asked her to come to watch a sports match with me, and we are going to it tomorrow night - taking her out to dinner before that. She doesnt like getting cold so I will carry a heat pack for her (she will be wearing a jumper and scarf). I told her I was seeing someone from jan to end of feb. She seemed alright with that discolsure and mentioned she may start online dating again.
I also mentioend to her that I had made up my mind in november last year about not dating her because she was too bosy. she likes being in control and i cant be controlled. she explained that she liked being on time because her parents were always late for everything and she doesnt like being late. i understood where she was coming from.
now i have started getting very attracted to her and find myself being more interested in her.
Question: Do I ask her out? Declare the fact that I am falling for her? or do i keep laying coy...knowing she is going to start online dating again?
thanks
Scorpio with 27??56' Libra and Aquarius moon
What do you mean libra & aquarius moon? You have 2 moons lol? Lucky you! I'll read up on the story & give you some insight since ive been with a male scorp, briefly.
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She returned once again to my city and last weekend we met for coffee, drinks and dinner. I noticed her eyes looked more beautiful than before.
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I also mentioend to her that I had made up my mind in november last year about not dating her because she was too bosy.click to expand
Just pointing these out to you. Hoping it wasn't chronologically in that order.
This is going without saying that your feelings are genuine even if they are I think it's not pivotal to her decision. The facts are that even if you are twisting the truth or telling it straight, she knows the following:
1) You did infact date another person
2) Didn't reciprocate the Valentines day message
3) Told her the fact you made up your mind about her Last year
My points isn't implicating you of any wrong doing but the facts are facts and this is what she knows so far. If she's attracted to you she will come back surely as will you from the looks of it if you guys keep meeting up.
But if this is all going to be based on deception how will the relationship actually turn out?
1) You did infact date another person
2) Didn't reciprocate the Valentines day message
3) Told her the fact you made up your mind about her Last year
My points isn't implicating you of any wrong doing but the facts are facts and this is what she knows so far. If she's attracted to you she will come back surely as will you from the looks of it if you guys keep meeting up.
But if this is all going to be based on deception how will the relationship actually turn out?
*sigh* Not another scorp male/aqua thread....Since youre a fellow scorp I just wanna wish you good luck...Ive had a on/off FWB with a aquaF. I think it ended last night but who knows *shrugs*. One of us is always getting upset with the other and we stop communicating..Then one of us cracks...The first 2 1/2 yrs was so tough for me. She was so cold towards me but she would still meet up with me for sex on the weekend, but the last 1 1/2 she text or calls me almost everyday and I NEVER text/call her 1st because of the way she was before. Telling me how she feels about me or what im doing, if I had dinner etc (I swore she was some kind of robot before this lol). Finally offered to let me spend the night at her house, that was a total no-no in the past. We go to the movies every other week depending on whats out, sometimes dinner. And I swear I still dont know what the F is going on. Teling me that movie "FMB" reminds her of us, im totally confused, STILL!!
I dont even have an answer for your thread scorp but I just wanted to let you know: This pairing (scorpM/aquaF) could be pretty intense. Its seems like one CANNOT stay away from the other. First is the scorp M who is interested, then all of a sudden the aqua F starts to show a side the scorp M has never seen from her before IF he desides to stick around for I dont know how long. oh and patience, gotta have patience cause an aqua F will drive a scorp M insane with her F'ing aloofness/coldness in the beginning and who F'ing knows when the aloofness/coldness will go away if ever...
I dont even have an answer for your thread scorp but I just wanted to let you know: This pairing (scorpM/aquaF) could be pretty intense. Its seems like one CANNOT stay away from the other. First is the scorp M who is interested, then all of a sudden the aqua F starts to show a side the scorp M has never seen from her before IF he desides to stick around for I dont know how long. oh and patience, gotta have patience cause an aqua F will drive a scorp M insane with her F'ing aloofness/coldness in the beginning and who F'ing knows when the aloofness/coldness will go away if ever...
oh and I forgot to add...She surprises me with small gifts all of a sudden. small things,nothing major, towels, cologne, lunch..etc..but in the past she wouldnt have giving me quarter if my life depended on it....Im still shocked by her kind gestures smh Feel like she up to something lol
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oh and I forgot to add...She surprises me with small gifts all of a sudden. small things,nothing major, towels, cologne, lunch..etc..but in the past she wouldnt have giving me quarter if my life depended on it....Im still shocked by her kind gestures smh Feel like she up to something lol
this is exactly what made me end it with the scorp i was dating. NOTHING IS UP, so stop it with the suspicions.
I can be cold too when my feelings are not invested yet and it takes a while for me to warm up to a relationship or the person im involved with and once i get the feel of things, i show more affection.
Just being there with you, no words or anything, is how some aquas show they care about you. Its all in the presence. Stop looking for hidden meaning cause there's none, aquas are an open book & dont like to waste time on meaningless people. Believe me, if you didnt matter, she wouldnt even give a lousy second of her time. So please, dont mess it up with suspicions cause they are boring and draining after the 1st few times. Good luck with your girls.
BTW, I was starting to really fall for my ex, not completely on the dust, but almost there. And him constantly questioning my motives for everything i did turned my thermometer back to -0 & i had no choice, but to drop him. I'm a happy person and i dont like to be around someone who likes unneccessary friction, its boring. And having to explain myself constantly is a NO-NO...TIRING & AGAIN, B-O-R-I-N-G. You guys arent bad thou, just need to turn the suspicious bits down a bit.
Exactly^^
I sent a 'sexy' pic of myself to the one i was dating while he was away on a business trip. A friend took the pic, A GIRL, but i think there'll be a need to explain who took it to him. I got no thanks or wow its lovely, only thing i got was an accusatory 'who took the pic?'. I was like, i dont need this crap from this guy. Who the fuck does he think he is? And that was one of many & snip him like a bud next time he did it. Too much work & lots of reassurance, i dont have time for that.
I sent a 'sexy' pic of myself to the one i was dating while he was away on a business trip. A friend took the pic, A GIRL, but i think there'll be a need to explain who took it to him. I got no thanks or wow its lovely, only thing i got was an accusatory 'who took the pic?'. I was like, i dont need this crap from this guy. Who the fuck does he think he is? And that was one of many & snip him like a bud next time he did it. Too much work & lots of reassurance, i dont have time for that.
*didnt think there'll be a need..
thanks watercup and feb16thaqua. I appreciate the advice and I am going to follow it,should of asked an aqua women for advice 4 1/2 yrs ago, but I gotta see if she'll talk to me again after our 100th argument. @watercup when the aqua girl 1st started sending me sexy pics that was the 1st thought in my mind "who the *uck took this pic for her?" Hahaha hilarious but my intuition told me to just keep that thought to myself and just continue eye-*ucking the pics 😉
4 & half years is a long time and promising in your case, so just hang in there buddy. She must have feelings for you if she is with you that long. Just appreciate her being there and dont worry yourself with the unknown cause if she doesnt want you anymore, she'll let you know, believe me. Most of us are forgiving when we are completely emotionally attached to someone & whatever you two are going throu at the moment will blow over. My ex didnt give me the chance to fully thaw, which is why i went back to being 'icy' so easily, so ur good cause its been a while between u two. Good luck & please keep us posted
thanks all of you for the advice.
i think there definitely is hope in this union - SM + AF.
I have lots of patience so I am happy to let the AF come around/wam up. And I have enough confidence in myself and unfront faith in any partner i would go out with to not be suspicious - if they are with me then they have good reason to be.
I dated another girl because I thought there was a clear indication from her that she didnt want to date me. I didnt respond to her Valentines message because I was with the other girl at that stage. i broke up with the Leo because she and I were like oil and water.
And I had to point out to her that I really didnt find her bossines attractive but when she explained the source of it and put things in perspective, I agreed that she was very balanced and sweet. And we agreed that with time you see another side of peoples personalities.
So here are the current facts of the matter (nothing i mentioned earlier was intended to be twisted)
- we like spending time with each other
- i like her
- she hasnt said anything about if she has a change of position about dating me
- I fully expecting to be shot down tonight, but I i am going to ask her out tonight,
I have seen her eyes change since the last time we met. They appear softer and more beautiful. There is a certain warmth behind them.
So do I ask her out at dinner before the game, or at the stadium at halftime?
DO i need to clear the air about anything before I ask her out or simply go ahead with the proposition
i think there definitely is hope in this union - SM + AF.
I have lots of patience so I am happy to let the AF come around/wam up. And I have enough confidence in myself and unfront faith in any partner i would go out with to not be suspicious - if they are with me then they have good reason to be.
I dated another girl because I thought there was a clear indication from her that she didnt want to date me. I didnt respond to her Valentines message because I was with the other girl at that stage. i broke up with the Leo because she and I were like oil and water.
And I had to point out to her that I really didnt find her bossines attractive but when she explained the source of it and put things in perspective, I agreed that she was very balanced and sweet. And we agreed that with time you see another side of peoples personalities.
So here are the current facts of the matter (nothing i mentioned earlier was intended to be twisted)
- we like spending time with each other
- i like her
- she hasnt said anything about if she has a change of position about dating me
- I fully expecting to be shot down tonight, but I i am going to ask her out tonight,
I have seen her eyes change since the last time we met. They appear softer and more beautiful. There is a certain warmth behind them.
So do I ask her out at dinner before the game, or at the stadium at halftime?
DO i need to clear the air about anything before I ask her out or simply go ahead with the proposition
@nov13thscorp - good luck with her, mate. i think we as people have raised the bar on love too high. If she is with you, regardless of her aloofness, she wants to be with you. You have made me see things very clearly with your story. I treat my AF like a princess - even to the smallest of details. I think she notices. I am not going in too full on - letting her get comfortable with me. SHe likes a challenge like any other AF.
She reckons guys would go out with anyone - I said no. I dont just go out with anyone.
So tonight i will explain to her that she isnt just an average girl in my eyes..that i am playing for keeps and I would like to go out with her.
She reckons guys would go out with anyone - I said no. I dont just go out with anyone.
So tonight i will explain to her that she isnt just an average girl in my eyes..that i am playing for keeps and I would like to go out with her.
so a quick update on the events of today - it was great being with her, and while she wasnt feeling well she came out to thai dinner, then to an ice cream place for dessert, and then to the rugby match. after the match, i was driving her home and she suggested getting a drink instead - so we sat and chatted about a variety of things including my 'secret pursuit'
heres the detail - i pick her up and we have a light hearted, funny conversation about the start to the weekend. she is enjoying herself. we get to the thai restaurant 30 minutes too early so she buys me a drink and we sat by the lake in the afternoon sun and spoke about love, marriage and family. At dinner I mentioned to her about her sms to be saying she didnt want to go out on a date with me - she was shocked to hear how the text sounded. She said she must have been upset with something that day and didnt mean to come across as harsh.
I said its fine, I was still going to enjoy the pursuit. She said she didnt want to be put in a position where she would be rushed.
now all through the evening I dropped subtle hints about things like how I didnt mind being bossed around by a wife after all, how i thought her eyes were beautiful.
the game was excellent. She found a player cute and mentioned him a few times - I was like 'yeah, ok!' no hint of jealousy
Then as we sat in the bar she asked if i would move somewhere else. I said that i would happily be bossed around by the girl i surrender my heart to, and i would follow her to the end of the world. And i was secretly pursuing such a girl. She was interested to find out who and mentioned the Leo but i said no. So I said that I was taking my time getting to know this girl and that she didnt like to be rushed so i will let her know when she's ready. She said she didnt know how to take this. I said I was fully expecting to be shot down and there was only a 30% hope of getting her to say yes but i was ready for it. She said it would be easier to let her come forward because that way i wouldnt be shot down. I said, nah! that would be playing it safe 🙂
Interestingly, there wasnt a kiss on the cheeks tonight...it was a squeeze of my wrist as I dropped her home. i came back with a smile.
I have invited her to dinner on saturday at my place - am cooking seafood. Will ask her out then 🙂
heres the detail - i pick her up and we have a light hearted, funny conversation about the start to the weekend. she is enjoying herself. we get to the thai restaurant 30 minutes too early so she buys me a drink and we sat by the lake in the afternoon sun and spoke about love, marriage and family. At dinner I mentioned to her about her sms to be saying she didnt want to go out on a date with me - she was shocked to hear how the text sounded. She said she must have been upset with something that day and didnt mean to come across as harsh.
I said its fine, I was still going to enjoy the pursuit. She said she didnt want to be put in a position where she would be rushed.
now all through the evening I dropped subtle hints about things like how I didnt mind being bossed around by a wife after all, how i thought her eyes were beautiful.
the game was excellent. She found a player cute and mentioned him a few times - I was like 'yeah, ok!' no hint of jealousy
Then as we sat in the bar she asked if i would move somewhere else. I said that i would happily be bossed around by the girl i surrender my heart to, and i would follow her to the end of the world. And i was secretly pursuing such a girl. She was interested to find out who and mentioned the Leo but i said no. So I said that I was taking my time getting to know this girl and that she didnt like to be rushed so i will let her know when she's ready. She said she didnt know how to take this. I said I was fully expecting to be shot down and there was only a 30% hope of getting her to say yes but i was ready for it. She said it would be easier to let her come forward because that way i wouldnt be shot down. I said, nah! that would be playing it safe 🙂
Interestingly, there wasnt a kiss on the cheeks tonight...it was a squeeze of my wrist as I dropped her home. i came back with a smile.
I have invited her to dinner on saturday at my place - am cooking seafood. Will ask her out then 🙂
you are so cute. I have nothing to say to the above other than 'good luck'. And lol @ 'no hint of jealousy', thats hard to believe 😛 Btw I think you handled yourself well, but do speak how you truly feel next time..to give her something to ponder about. No point in playing 'shifty-shifty'. You do know that she may still be seeing you as a friend at this moment, some of us are oblivious to these things until they are spelt out. All the best for the upcoming date, pal...I wish you both a great evening 🙂
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oh and I forgot to add...She surprises me with small gifts all of a sudden. small things,nothing major, towels, cologne, lunch..etc..but in the past she wouldnt have giving me quarter if my life depended on it....Im still shocked by her kind gestures smh Feel like she up to something lol
LMAO! You sound like my scorpio exes. Poor things I'm crazy and I drove them crazy as well. Bad combination for a relationship good combination for sex. Oh and you guys are stalkers. You stalk women whom you can't define.click to expand
Lol Although my Venus is in Scorpio I've never stalked anyone before, I did stalk online websites on scorp M aqua F topics..... when I really really like a girl I can't stop thinkin abt them, a bit obsessive. I would never admit that to the girl I like unless I trust her 100% . this aqua of course knows I like her but she has no idea how deep...ill never tell her..I'm takin that one to the grave with me
i wont stalk - not my style ...but i will tell her how much I love her
Lol my scorp ex had scorp venus too & he did the whole aqua female with scorp male thing on the net as well. Everyday. Poor thing admitted to it thou cause astrology was new to him, i saw it as him learning. Mine never stalked me either, just had a hard time letting go & we worked together. Once he realised i wasnt taking him back, EVER, he had himself transferred elsewhere, so we now nolonger work together. Thanks God cause I felt weird seeing him at work.
why did you leave him?
Because he was crazy and I don't accept crazy behavior from someone I'm not inlove with. He has somebody else now, a cute girl & I'm happy for him. He deserves someone who loves him as much as he loves them cause he's not a bad guy, I just wasn't THE ONE for him.
Scorpios in a relationship are very draining for me. Mine had a cancer moon & he would sulk over the tiniest thing said and done. I'm a very outspoken person, I speak my mind & yes, I'm oblivious to the feelings of others or maybe I just dont care..dont know. I'd say stuff to him, not meaning to hurt him & he'll feel hurt. I'd apologise & he'd say 'ok', next disagreement he brings back what I did 'to hurt him' before, and it went on like that over and over again. He didnt forget ANYTHING & I got tired of saying sorry for the past & present all the time. I dont have time for that, move on already! Sheesh. So yeah, I had to let him go and be with someone who will accept him, flaws & all. Still a good guy thou. He listened, gave his opinion & never judged. We just didnt mesh well as a couple. LOL, he even got jealous over an actor on tv, Boris Kodjoe. I said the guy was cute while watching a movie, next thing he starts an arguement about feeling disrespected by my comment about another guy. Its a fucking movie guy! Get over it! Annoying.
Thats definitely not cool. a man's gotta be less petty and be able to look over the minor things...thats what being a bloke is about, right?
And definitely not cool to be jealous about movie actors. lol
I am beginning to wonder if this aquarius and I will gel..
And definitely not cool to be jealous about movie actors. lol
I am beginning to wonder if this aquarius and I will gel..
No dont compare your situation to others cause ours was different. We had a huge age gap which made him insecure, i think. He was 10 years older lol, so maybe it ate at his self confidence when I complimented young blood. Just do your own thing and be happy with your lady..forget astrology and be a good boyfriend, thats all.
"forget astrology and be a good boyfriend, thats all."
thats the best advice i've gotten here. thnx
thats the best advice i've gotten here. thnx
You are welcome, scorpi🙂
so guess who got shot down because she enjoys being friends and not anything more! 🙂
and she wonders why she cant find a good man. LOL
i had to let her know how i felt...now its back to being Joe Cool! 🙂
and she wonders why she cant find a good man. LOL
i had to let her know how i felt...now its back to being Joe Cool! 🙂
and now guess who wants to go out with me....
why cant aquarians just make up their minds for once?
why cant aquarians just make up their minds for once?
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and now guess who wants to go out with me....
why cant aquarians just make up their minds for once?
I knew that was gonna happen lol It seems like your in.....Good luck..once you get in good with aqua girls they are really cool/good ppl
I am 28 years old aqua in a relationship with 26 years old scorpio male since 1 year.He's October Scorpio 10/28.It wasn't a smooth ride but we have made so much progress. A typical scorpio thinks that this woman is all about intellect and no emotions but that is so not true. I think in many ways an aquarius is like scorpio.An aqua is secretive like scorpio.She doesn't like anybody prying in her personal matters so she keeps a safe distance.She likes to keep her feelings under control because she fears exposing vulnerability might become disadvantage.Scorpions do the same.They don't go around showing their emotions and vulnerability to everyone because they guard themselves from being cheated and hurt.It's same with an aquarius.She will read a person and his behavior from far.She wants to make sure that this person is worthy of her time and emotions.There are very few people who get to see her emotional side because she is not comfortable showing it to everyone.The problem arises when scorpio feels she isn't expressive.There is possibility that she is doubtful and suspicious if he will hurt her like others did when she poured her heart out.Aqua won't let her guard down so easily infront of any man.Her control over her emotions gives her power.She has practiced it through out the growing experience.An aqua who has been disappointed or hurt in past will be even less expressive and become more skeptical of every guy who tries to come close.Only a very patient man can deal with a tormented and rebellious soul like an aqua.It's very difficult to reach her emotionally.She will give the man a hard time.She's testing his patience because she knows she is not easy to deal with.I have been rude and cold with men who took interest in me because I wanted to test their patience with me.While you are thinking she isn't paying attention believe you me she notices EVERYTHING.She wants her man to be completely sure that he wants her and that he accepts her with her flaws.She wants to see that he is serious about her and not just flirting around.She will procrastinate during the chase and that is when she secretly wants her man to stick strongly with her.She is showing her flaws to you beforehand so that she gets to know whether you'll face the storm or run away.During this testing phase a man has to be determined to stand the storm.She doesn't want a man to treat her like an option.That is a big NO NO.
She might seem uninterested but she's still testing you.I know it can be difficult for a man.You can't start flirting around and sleeping with girls the moment she turns her back or when she says she is comfortable being just friends.A friend holds very important place in her life.She knows that men come and go but friends are forever.She doesn't want to lose a friend because they are like life jacket to her.She knows that if the ship sinks( ship being relationship with a man ), the life jacket will save her from drowning.The girl keeps saying she can't find a good man.She has dated 25 men in past few months and is giving the hint towards her apprehension of getting involved with a friend and jeopardizing the friendship which somehow provides her some peace and stability.You missed her hints and she did make a move.She is unsure of her emotions and the potential for the relationship to work but she expects you to reassure her that no matter what you'll hang on to it and make it work.This is same like when scorpions need reassurance on daily basis from their mate that she loves him, only aqua need it in the beginning and she wont be unsure after you have convinced her that you both are meant to be together.I want you scorpions to believe that once the storm has passed she will be the most devoted and loyal partner you could ask for.When she finally lets you in her fortress she will accept you with your flaws.She will forgive and forget easily ( doesn't apply to cheating ). My scorpio is damn patient with me and is so loving that I feel I don't need anybody else.He is my best friend,my lover and my soulmate.He has asked me to move in with him and I'm more than happy to do it.Yes, both are stubborn and won't compromise easily but if you really want it to work then you have to compromise with ego.He is suspicious,darn possessive and sarcastic.But he is also protective, most loving person I have ever met and so damn romantic.Loving a scorpio man is a full time job.He expects a lot and he gives a lot.He is no doubt a wonderful man.I have acknowledged it but I always see that scorpions always see the negative side of aquarians.Scorpions are considered very observant but they are always giving negative comments about aquarians every where. We have almost same personality.Also these two have to control their temper around eachother.They both are short tempered but scorpions know to control it better.Teach her how you do it.She looks up to and adores you.
@EOS -
My two cents. And remember I'm totally not an expert on being don juan so to speak. But I do have plenty of experience in screwing up on dates with girls. Let my mistakes be the ones you dont make.
I liked that you leaned back and didnt show too much interest at first regarding reuniting with the aqua girl. That was smart.
But I think one of the mistakes that put you in the friend zone so to speak (Ladies I'm not talking friend zone in the sense of getting in your pants, this guy just wants to be considered a romantic option.) was talking about work. Discussing work reinforces the friend vibe.
What you want to do when out on a date with her is discuss interests and of course joke around. Once the vibe is good start making slow steps towards physical contact. Touch her hand, then maybe a pat on the shoulder. Lift her up by the hand from the table/bar like a gentlemen. This establishes a romantic vibe.
Really flirt with her. I made the same mistakes you did a handful of times, but I finally started getting it through my thick skull not to do it again.
Oh and another thing, keep having another dating option available. As this makes you look less needy. When I was active dating three years ago, I always try to have 3 options going. One, so I didn't look or give off a needy vibe. Two, if I put my foot in my mouth and blow it on a date, there was always another option. Three and most importantly, it gives you a bad boy vibe. Jealousy is a powerful attraction magnet with women. Knowing she is dating a guy other girls want will make her like you more.
I would keep the aqua girl guessing. If she asks you out for the next night, say you have plans with someone else. Say you might be clear for later in the week or weekend. Also find out this girl's astrological chart. This will make all the difference. Really give thought to how old she is. Regardless of astrological signs/charts, a man or woman in their 20's is not going to be stable relationship material. Cause they change so much and are still figuring what they want out of life. Also, keep this in mind a person's brain doesn't stop developing until the age of 25. Good luck..
My two cents. And remember I'm totally not an expert on being don juan so to speak. But I do have plenty of experience in screwing up on dates with girls. Let my mistakes be the ones you dont make.
I liked that you leaned back and didnt show too much interest at first regarding reuniting with the aqua girl. That was smart.
But I think one of the mistakes that put you in the friend zone so to speak (Ladies I'm not talking friend zone in the sense of getting in your pants, this guy just wants to be considered a romantic option.) was talking about work. Discussing work reinforces the friend vibe.
What you want to do when out on a date with her is discuss interests and of course joke around. Once the vibe is good start making slow steps towards physical contact. Touch her hand, then maybe a pat on the shoulder. Lift her up by the hand from the table/bar like a gentlemen. This establishes a romantic vibe.
Really flirt with her. I made the same mistakes you did a handful of times, but I finally started getting it through my thick skull not to do it again.
Oh and another thing, keep having another dating option available. As this makes you look less needy. When I was active dating three years ago, I always try to have 3 options going. One, so I didn't look or give off a needy vibe. Two, if I put my foot in my mouth and blow it on a date, there was always another option. Three and most importantly, it gives you a bad boy vibe. Jealousy is a powerful attraction magnet with women. Knowing she is dating a guy other girls want will make her like you more.
I would keep the aqua girl guessing. If she asks you out for the next night, say you have plans with someone else. Say you might be clear for later in the week or weekend. Also find out this girl's astrological chart. This will make all the difference. Really give thought to how old she is. Regardless of astrological signs/charts, a man or woman in their 20's is not going to be stable relationship material. Cause they change so much and are still figuring what they want out of life. Also, keep this in mind a person's brain doesn't stop developing until the age of 25. Good luck..
Hi EOS51......I am an Aquarius Female and my ex and current boyfriend is a Scorpio. I dated my ex for 4 years, and I have been dating my boyfriend now for 3 years. It's definitely a very intense bond, but it's very fun and intriguing also. I dont know if this is the case or not, but it seems like the reason she said she just wanted to be friends in the beginning is because she probably did not want any type of relationship with you because she didnt really know you. I am the exact same way, I'm very shallow in the beginning and really dont like to put in much effort to make them think I even like/ or care for them, but as time goes on I begin to fall for the suspicious scorpio (🙂. I think Aquarius girls sometimes put up a guard in the beginning because they are unsure about the other person. I would definitely express your feelings to her, it means a lot to a girl to hear a guy express his feelings (since most have too much pride to do so). Also, try not to say all those things that you said before.....like "1) You did infact date another person, 2) Didn't reciprocate the Valentines day message as she probably would have expected and 3) Told her the fact you made up your mind about her Last year. That's one of my biggest issues with my Scorpio BF, it's like you guys say the craziest things out of your mouth just to get some type of reaction, but you dont realize your words will be remembered and can be somewhat hurtful. Also, Try not to be so revengeful....Scorpio men are known for being very revengeful. Ohhhh and I totally agree with Watercup, scorpio men can be extremely overboard with their suspicions. For example, I was on my way to my ex's house and stopped for gas and he made me show him my gas receipt because it took me soooo long to get to his house, but keep in mind, the drive is about 45 minutes....ITS GOING TO TAKE ME A LONG TIME!!!! LOL....and my boyfriend now is just as bad, I sent him a picture and the first thing he asked me was "who took that picture". I will say this, most girls dont like it, BUT I sometimes find there suspicions very flattering and laughable! But it can be ridiculous too, it just depends on my mood.
Hi Aqua3FEB.......My Birthday is February 3rd too....Nice to meet you Birthday Twin. My boyfriend birthday is November 15th and My ex was a scorpio too. You are exactly completely right about the comparisons between a scorpio and aquarius. You are so right about the friends also, my boyfriend now was my friend for two years before I ever looked at him as boyfriend material, but he kept calling for two years so when I finally broke up with my ex, who was also a scorpio, I decided to give him a chance. They are wonderful guys, they just think the worst about anything that looks suspicious to them. Dating a scorpio man, forces you to be a female that expresses her feelings, I'm definitely an emotionless non expressive female, but because they are such great guys I have forced myself to express my feelings more. A simple "I miss you" texts means the world to them LOL!
Nov13thscorp.......you and your female aquarius of 4 1/2 years are going to end up together. Just reading what you wrote about the two of you is absolutely hilarious. You two seem perfect for each other. And dont think shes crazy just because she is doing all these things for you now and didnt in the beginning, most aquarius girls keep up a guard in the beginning to avoid the chances of getting hurt. It seems like she's comfortable with you now and likes you a lot! Good Job with putting up with one of us for 4 1/2 years, its a stressful ride but the RIDE IS WORTH It and the PICS that come along with the ride =)
Nov13thscorp.......you and your female aquarius of 4 1/2 years are going to end up together. Just reading what you wrote about the two of you is absolutely hilarious. You two seem perfect for each other. And dont think shes crazy just because she is doing all these things for you now and didnt in the beginning, most aquarius girls keep up a guard in the beginning to avoid the chances of getting hurt. It seems like she's comfortable with you now and likes you a lot! Good Job with putting up with one of us for 4 1/2 years, its a stressful ride but the RIDE IS WORTH It and the PICS that come along with the ride =)
Good Job EOS!!! Just stay in there. I figured she would say just friends and then come back and say Lets go out. Typical Aquarius move =)
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I don't know if I agree with the tips you give EOS51, or maybe I'm too idealistic. I like it when a man talk to me about work among all other things. I like it when he establishes the friend vibe because it's the first and foremost thing I as an AF look for first in a man - a friend. I can't speak for all other AFs but we are supposed to lump friend/soulmate and love interest materials together aren't we, or is it just me? I have 2 close friends and I love them like I'd love a guy. The search for that 'best friend/soulmate' is the most important. If that one can be a love interest, all the better.
EOS51's situation sounds a bit messy but not overtly complex. I just wonder if the AF you're into can be compromised by a straightforward, non-cheesy non-romantic but honest and genuine confession, hmm. Subtlety and suggestions are sometimes counterproductive and discomforting. If your AF never shows signs of being flirty or sassy, it's safer to go to noncheesy nonromantic but honest and genuine road.
I don't know if I agree with the tips you give EOS51, or maybe I'm too idealistic. I like it when a man talk to me about work among all other things. I like it when he establishes the friend vibe because it's the first and foremost thing I as an AF look for first in a man - a friend. I can't speak for all other AFs but we are supposed to lump friend/soulmate and love interest materials together aren't we, or is it just me? I have 2 close friends and I love them like I'd love a guy. The search for that 'best friend/soulmate' is the most important. If that one can be a love interest, all the better.
EOS51's situation sounds a bit messy but not overtly complex. I just wonder if the AF you're into can be compromised by a straightforward, non-cheesy non-romantic but honest and genuine confession, hmm. Subtlety and suggestions are sometimes counterproductive and discomforting. If your AF never shows signs of being flirty or sassy, it's safer to go to noncheesy nonromantic but honest and genuine road.
Posted by aquarius3feb
I am 28 years old aqua in a relationship with 26 years old scorpio male since 1 year.He's October Scorpio 10/28.It wasn't a smooth ride but we have made so much progress. A typical scorpio thinks that this woman is all about intellect and no emotions but that is so not true. I think in many ways an aquarius is like scorpio.An aqua is secretive like scorpio.She doesn't like anybody prying in her personal matters so she keeps a safe distance.She likes to keep her feelings under control because she fears exposing vulnerability might become disadvantage.Scorpions do the same.They don't go around showing their emotions and vulnerability to everyone because they guard themselves from being cheated and hurt.It's same with an aquarius.She will read a person and his behavior from far.She wants to make sure that this person is worthy of her time and emotions.There are very few people who get to see her emotional side because she is not comfortable showing it to everyone.The problem arises when scorpio feels she isn't expressive.There is possibility that she is doubtful and suspicious if he will hurt her like others did when she poured her heart out.Aqua won't let her guard down so easily infront of any man.Her control over her emotions gives her power.She has practiced it through out the growing experience.An aqua who has been disappointed or hurt in past will be even less expressive and become more skeptical of every guy who tries to come close.Only a very patient man can deal with a tormented and rebellious soul like an aqua.It's very difficult to reach her emotionally.She will give the man a hard time.She's testing his patience because she knows she is not easy to deal with.I have been rude and cold with men who took interest in me because I wanted to test their patience with me.While you are thinking she isn't paying attention believe you me she notices EVERYTHING.She wants her man to be completely sure that he wants her and that he accepts her with her flaws.She wants to see that he is serious about her and not just flirting around.She will procrastinate during the chase and that is when she secretly wants her man to stick strongly with her.She is showing her flaws to you beforehand so that she gets to know whether you'll face the storm or run away.During this testing phase a man has to be determined to stand the storm.She doesn't want a man to treat her like an option.T
Well I hope it works out for you guys coming from another scorpion. 😉
I've been in a similar situation..still am actually! its a lot of work figuring each other out but once you know each others behaviour views and thoughts.. its worth it.. x
I've been in a similar situation..still am actually! its a lot of work figuring each other out but once you know each others behaviour views and thoughts.. its worth it.. x
Nov13thscorp after reading your post I was compelled to give an objective and honest assessment. It is very straight forward considering the facts. It seems if your the only one who cares and have had your heart broken. This aquarius seems very manipulative and has you going in circles.It is clear that this girl is using you for sex. She is obviously not investing in the realtionship and therefore is cold towards you but willing to meet you for sex?! As you say she would not of even given you a quarter if you life had depended on it :/ I don't think she has any respect for you as she would of been considerate and caring but your efforts are only met with coldness. Then she turns up when she wants something... sex. It is possible that she has changed her mind and probably wants a relationship. However in all honesty she knows she is losing you and wants to pull you back in only to keep you hanging. Nov13thscorp proceed with caution or cut ties. If somebody does not value you then they treat you like that and the only way to stop that is to respect yourself. This girl treats you so badly then you let her back in and have sex with her. You are not respecting yourself so why would she. Respect has to be earned to be given it. Treat her how she treats you or cut ties that way you are respecting yourself and then she won't be able to take advantage. I don't think she loves you as she would have respected you. Maybe love to her is sex but I don't think that is love. 'There will be times in your life when you have to choose between loved and being respected. Always pick being respected, that love without respect is always fleeting but that respect can grow into real lasting love'.
eos51 I have read your post and this aquarius is pursuing you. She is very interested and even her words and actions do not match. She says that she does not want a relationship with you but her behaviour shows otherwise. She says she is looking for a good man, sends you a 'be my valentine' message, seems very keen to meet up and a bit annoyed when she can't. She is interested but does not want to come on too strong or show her interest too much. Thereby remaining in control of her emotions and the relationship. You say your are intrigued and now you have started to pursue her. I think she wants a sure sign of your interest in her and because she doesn't have that yet she is willing to start online dating. Show your interest but don't come on too strong as aquarius girls usually pull away. Mirror her behaviour so show the same level of interest. Give her a sign that you are open to more then friendship and see where it goes from there. If she shows interest show her some back if not than be just remain friends. I have known many scorpio and aquarius unions that have failed this is usually due to one sign taking advantage of the other. In this relationship scorpios are the ones that are often the ones that are heartbroken, used and even abused. Just take care 🙂
eos51 I read your other posts and it seems you and the aqua are getting on fine...Hope it works out for you🙂
AquaMermaid this is a public forum and anyone can make comments.What the matter didn't like what I had to say? For your information I know aquarius women who have admitted to using scorpio men for money, sex or just power play. I have not generalised aquarians but have known many scorpio men manipulated by aquarius women. As for buttering scorpio men?! No you don't know me nor my views about scorpios in general. My assessment was very objective and considered all the facts. You come here and start calling us Aries homewreckers cos it was too hard for you to swallow what I said. I have been unbiased with any sign and always given my view on a situation. My intentions?! No your intentions come across clearly. Rather than being honest you try to cover your true intentions. I have not said anything wrong about and am not apologetic. You can trust a man enough to have sex with him but not to commit.Only to be cold and disrespectful. This hurt you cos I cut to the core and saw straight to the truth. Infact what I said anyone most people would agree with it. I have friends from almost all zodiac signs and don't suck up to anyone. I went straight to the point and after your genralised and unfair post my words have more weight. Again you just showed yourself. Any sign has the potential to be good or bad no question of buttering. Glad my words hit you as the truth has the most impact. My honest assessment... deal with it. My post on this thread is loud and clear and my assessment of Nov13thscorp situation is spot on. Again a person with any self-respect would understand.
Crush on a Scorpio man no... my special someone is a Pisces. I am not the person to defend a wrong when it is done whether its aquarius, scorpio , aries or anyone for that matter. My views are based on the situation at hand and also of people I know. Rather than showing a defensive stance...face the facts. As for you and your fiance... It worked out than good. Had you not had a thick brain you would understood my post rather than posting some random crap about what how we aries are homewreckers or whatever!!!
lol what happened here? 😛
aww come on ladies, no need to fight over scorpio men 😆 😄 all these sun signs clamouring for scorpio men. 😄 (i see it everywhere, no matter the sun sign)
That 8th house is MAGNETIC ain't it? 😛 I've got the 8th house too! 😆
if you're already got one, and he loves you, and you love him, you're already one lucky lady!!
^__^
(putting down the coffee)
aww come on ladies, no need to fight over scorpio men 😆 😄 all these sun signs clamouring for scorpio men. 😄 (i see it everywhere, no matter the sun sign)
That 8th house is MAGNETIC ain't it? 😛 I've got the 8th house too! 😆
if you're already got one, and he loves you, and you love him, you're already one lucky lady!!
^__^
(putting down the coffee)
Miserable AquaMermaid you are a delusional headcase. I can give my view to whoever I want so what is your problem?! I am the one cut through your bullbutter! Your double standards where aquarians can do no wrong!I said it like it is. Did I say something wrong to Nov13thscorp?! No! I am sure he appreciated an honest view. You couldn't stomach the truth and that's what makes you defensive. The Aqua Female with Nov13thscorp can trust him enough to do him every weekend but can't trust him enough to commit to the relationship. It takes you guys time to trust people and let them in? I think she already let him in with no respect for herself or him. Some aquarius females even ADMITTED to using scorpio guys for sex, money and other benefits. Well is that okay or do your double standards apply. This other aquarius woman manipulated, controlled and pressured a scorpio man to such an extent that he had no self-respect left. She would decide what he should go, where he should go and meet up with whom. She was his ex but couldn't help but make his life miserable because he cared. There have been some aquarius females that desperately go around looking to get some. They sleep with married men and break families. They are devious and think everyone else is. One said she likes sleeping with scorpio men even if they are married and justified her behaviour by saying they are not innocent! WTH!! You say us aries like to mess around around it seems that aquarians really have no boundaries in that department. You probably don't have any understanding of right/ wrong and ethics/morals. Maybe I have figured you out- mental manipulation, two-faced and phoney. The taking off your pants in a second is probably what you do. You insecure soul-mouthed hoe what really bothers you is that I cut to the core and said it like it is. Ms AM it is very clear that you are the one fooling here. I have a special someone so you do not need to worry about your boyfriend. Scorpio guys like decent, mature and secure girls but you have proved otherwise. I don't know what happened in your case. You characterless trash you wouldn't be kivking my ass- I would of kicking yours for all your worth. You are cheap and whiny so don't talk crap with me. My words cut you and you felt a sense of exposure which caused you to start foaming from your mouth. As for tree-trunking and cock-sucking you can go and do that with your guys8
... guys*. Everything speaks for itself. Why are you so worried?... that your scorpio man may just realise that your are insecure, characterless and manipulative. I have nothing more to say... you are the one that has been exposed. Everyone meets their end. You should stop being so insecure and hypocritical. Just get on with it and move on!
I have said it exactly as it is and you or anyone else for that matter can see that!Really its your cheap hypocritical foul-mouth that deserves to be slapped up. You have the nerve to talk like such a whore. Your accusations... you are the one that lies. As for scorpio men reading the posts they can decide for themselves and don't need you telling them what they should think! You can't keep fooling around for long! If you think you can keep a crap attitude then it won't be long before everything comes back and smacks you so hard you won't know what hit you!!!
^ Troll
*You have the nerve to talk like such a whore to me. Your trashy mouth says far more about you. You just randomly start insulting on your posts. Like I said your bad attitude won't last it will come and smack right in the mouth!
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