LDM90
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Still upset or does my aqua just doesn't have the balls to tell me he's done?
Posted by bumboklattSo pretty much because I was apologetic and wanted to see him he's being a jerk because he feels like he has the upper hand? kind of a power play?
Aquas are annoying the sh-it outta most people with being elusive-insensitive mofos. Its just natural we dont mean anything bad from it
but if he really cares he will come through. It all depends on if you can hang.
When someone seeks us we feel we have the upper hand. So don't become a pawn. Just be honest with him and get if hes not up to par then get rid of him sooner than later.
Yea def. have no plan to become a pawn. If he wants to play this game he can do it by himself while I move on.
Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got back
Posted by LDM90So OP you told him to forget seeing you and then you apologise and then you dont respond to his text?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got back. So he left for his trip without us saying anything to each other.
Now, I had a family emergency and got caught up with that for the rest of the week and didn't respond back to his text. I reached out to him 3 days later and called him at 1 am (I was out with my friends)
How is he gonna understand that you had family emergency without you telling him?
MY guess - he is thinking things through...he is thinking that you are not sure about him and you can decide to stop seeing him anytime without reason...he is assessing right now whether he should be with you or something!
Posted by newloveI kind of agree. I'm not sure if you agree with me or not newlove but I don't think he's done with OP yet. I think he's just taking a step back and needs space. I think if he was done he would've told her by now because there's no need to keep replying to her. He definitely didn't need to reply to her text as soon as he landed. Is he acting slightly childish? yes. is he done? I don't think so.Posted by LDM90So OP you told him to forget seeing you and then you apologise and then you dont respond to his text?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got back. So he left for his trip without us saying anything to each other.
Now, I had a family emergency and got caught up with that for the rest of the week and didn't respond back to his text. I reached out to him 3 days later and called him at 1 am (I was out with my friends)
How is he gonna understand that you had family emergency without you telling him?
MY guess - he is thinking things through...he is thinking that you are not sure about him and you can decide to stop seeing him anytime without reason...he is assessing right now whether he should be with you or something!click to expand
I know feelings can change but in 2 weeks I just don't see how someone would go from planning a trip with you and wanting to see to nothing at all, but that's just me.
When my Aqua started acting like that there were somebody else. Stop pursuing him, they don't like that. Stop making suggestions to see him lay low and let him come to you. In the meantime get your options open and be open to dating someone new.
Nope, he's done. A lot of times with these "Aqua" stories...smh about all the "confusion".
We've been seeing each other for 5 months and have an intense connection....so much so that the OP loses her shit because she wont see him for a week. Took her a week to figure out that she was in the wrong, sends text. But then she doesn't learn from her mistakes.
So now she's responding to him days late, calling him at 1am, tries to hint at getting together and that falls a bit flat. Then announces the next day that shes coming by his place without so much as a by-your-leave.
Where would you like me start? Is he done? probably. While he might be weighing the pros and cons of a continuing association, you arn't helping your case by just railroading all over the place.
1) Acknowledge the change in your connection since his trip and your loss of control. Accept responsibility face to face or over the phone, not just through phone-mail =p.
2) Express the value of his friendship and how you really just want things to go back pre-argument. Also express that you much prefer talking about when things go wrong instead of both of you being passive aggressive to each other (reference the distance in behavior without explanation as a form of passive aggression)
3) Stick to what you say, and keep a handle on yourself. People should get worked up over poverty, world hunger, animal abuse, climate change, riots.. Not over someone's 1 week vacay. That shit is just childish.
We've been seeing each other for 5 months and have an intense connection....so much so that the OP loses her shit because she wont see him for a week. Took her a week to figure out that she was in the wrong, sends text. But then she doesn't learn from her mistakes.
So now she's responding to him days late, calling him at 1am, tries to hint at getting together and that falls a bit flat. Then announces the next day that shes coming by his place without so much as a by-your-leave.
Where would you like me start? Is he done? probably. While he might be weighing the pros and cons of a continuing association, you arn't helping your case by just railroading all over the place.
1) Acknowledge the change in your connection since his trip and your loss of control. Accept responsibility face to face or over the phone, not just through phone-mail =p.
2) Express the value of his friendship and how you really just want things to go back pre-argument. Also express that you much prefer talking about when things go wrong instead of both of you being passive aggressive to each other (reference the distance in behavior without explanation as a form of passive aggression)
3) Stick to what you say, and keep a handle on yourself. People should get worked up over poverty, world hunger, animal abuse, climate change, riots.. Not over someone's 1 week vacay. That shit is just childish.
Posted by GennieHe's had ample chances to tell OP. Why not just tell her? If they're both adults wouldn't you think he would just tell her? Plus why not just ignore her altogether? If he really is done he's just as childish as well for not being a man and telling her what the deal is.
Nope, he's done. A lot of times with these "Aqua" stories...smh about all the "confusion".
We've been seeing each other for 5 months and have an intense connection....so much so that the OP loses her shit because she wont see him for a week. Took her a week to figure out that she was in the wrong, sends text. But then she doesn't learn from her mistakes.
So now she's responding to him days late, calling him at 1am, tries to hint at getting together and that falls a bit flat. Then announces the next day that shes coming by his place without so much as a by-your-leave.
Where would you like me start? Is he done? probably. While he might be weighing the pros and cons of a continuing association, you arn't helping your case by just railroading all over the place.
1) Acknowledge the change in your connection since his trip and your loss of control. Accept responsibility face to face or over the phone, not just through phone-mail =p.
2) Express the value of his friendship and how you really just want things to go back pre-argument. Also express that you much prefer talking about when things go wrong instead of both of you being passive aggressive to each other (reference the distance in behavior without explanation as a form of passive aggression)
3) Stick to what you say, and keep a handle on yourself. People should get worked up over poverty, world hunger, animal abuse, climate change, riots.. Not over someone's 1 week vacay. That shit is just childish.
Posted by GennieThanks for the advice. I was trying to have a conversation in person but he's giving me the cold shoulder. I know a text isn't the best but I wanted him to see it when he got home.
Nope, he's done. A lot of times with these "Aqua" stories...smh about all the "confusion".
We've been seeing each other for 5 months and have an intense connection....so much so that the OP loses her shit because she wont see him for a week. Took her a week to figure out that she was in the wrong, sends text. But then she doesn't learn from her mistakes.
So now she's responding to him days late, calling him at 1am, tries to hint at getting together and that falls a bit flat. Then announces the next day that shes coming by his place without so much as a by-your-leave.
Where would you like me start? Is he done? probably. While he might be weighing the pros and cons of a continuing association, you arn't helping your case by just railroading all over the place.
1) Acknowledge the change in your connection since his trip and your loss of control. Accept responsibility face to face or over the phone, not just through phone-mail =p.
2) Express the value of his friendship and how you really just want things to go back pre-argument. Also express that you much prefer talking about when things go wrong instead of both of you being passive aggressive to each other (reference the distance in behavior without explanation as a form of passive aggression)
3) Stick to what you say, and keep a handle on yourself. People should get worked up over poverty, world hunger, animal abuse, climate change, riots.. Not over someone's 1 week vacay. That shit is just childish.
So if he's done then why even respond to my apology? Let alone say it's okay and give an let me know he made it back okay, why not just tell me it's over then? Or when I was trying to make plans to see him?
I know me getting worked up over nothing was childish and that's why I apologized.
Posted by librawomen7I don't think so. I think it's more of what bumbakklot said. It's not like he was slowly withdrawing from OP, which is what usually happens when someone else is in the picture. This was an abrupt change. It's more of a cause and effect situation. OP flies off the handle and then he'd guy is cold-I highly doubt that's a coincidence. You don't go planning a trip with someone a day before an argument to having someone new a week later. Again, this was just too abrupt.
When my Aqua started acting like that there were somebody else. Stop pursuing him, they don't like that. Stop making suggestions to see him lay low and let him come to you. In the meantime get your options open and be open to dating someone new.
Posted by Ophiuchusstil tryna find out the whole story op. this seems to be the turning point. so whyd youd get upset and tell him not to see you?Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got backclick to expand
Posted by Ophiuchus+1Posted by Ophiuchusstil tryna find out the whole story op. this seems to be the turning point. so whyd youd get upset and tell him not to see you?Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got backclick to expand
Posted by OphiuchusPosted by Ophiuchusstil tryna find out the whole story op. this seems to be the turning point. so whyd youd get upset and tell him not to see you?Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got backclick to expand
Exactly...there's more to your story!
Posted by OphiuchusI warn you before telling you I overreacted lol. So as I said he's very busy with his line of work and we hadn't had that much time to spend with each other lately. We had made tentative plans to see each other but he had to cancel to finish with work. At the time I was just very disappointed and felt like he wasn't prioritizing (I've been taking a backseat lately) only because we finally agreed and I guess he just didn't manage his time well with work so that we could finally see each other. Again, I overreacted and shouldn't have let my disappointment rule my emotions. Although my initial response wasn't rude per se it was dismissive and curt. So I sent a very heartfelt apology to him thinking it would smooth over.Posted by Ophiuchusstil tryna find out the whole story op. this seems to be the turning point. so whyd youd get upset and tell him not to see you?Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got backclick to expand
Posted by LDM90and it was at that point he decided to no longer care about you. (assuming he did before)Posted by OphiuchusI warn you before telling you I overreacted lol. So as I said he's very busy with his line of work and we hadn't had that much time to spend with each other lately. We had made tentative plans to see each other but he had to cancel to finish with work. At the time I was just very disappointed and felt like he wasn't prioritizing (I've been taking a backseat lately) only because we finally agreed and I guess he just didn't manage his time well with work so that we could finally see each other. Again, I overreacted and shouldn't have let my disappointment rule my emotions. Although my initial response wasn't rude per se it was dismissive and curt. So I sent a very heartfelt apology to him thinking it would smooth over.Posted by Ophiuchusstil tryna find out the whole story op. this seems to be the turning point. so whyd youd get upset and tell him not to see you?Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got back
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Posted by OphiuchusWell that's dumb. He's screwed up before big time and he apologized and we worked things out. To me, in the grand scheme of things this is minor especially since this is the first time reacted this way and apologized.Posted by LDM90and it was at that point he decided to no longer care about you. (assuming he did before)Posted by OphiuchusI warn you before telling you I overreacted lol. So as I said he's very busy with his line of work and we hadn't had that much time to spend with each other lately. We had made tentative plans to see each other but he had to cancel to finish with work. At the time I was just very disappointed and felt like he wasn't prioritizing (I've been taking a backseat lately) only because we finally agreed and I guess he just didn't manage his time well with work so that we could finally see each other. Again, I overreacted and shouldn't have let my disappointment rule my emotions. Although my initial response wasn't rude per se it was dismissive and curt. So I sent a very heartfelt apology to him thinking it would smooth over.Posted by Ophiuchusstil tryna find out the whole story op. this seems to be the turning point. so whyd youd get upset and tell him not to see you?Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got back
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My thing is why even still be responsive and let me know he was back from his trip? Plus, why not just tell me that he's done especially when he's had plenty of chances to say it's over? I would think after my apology his response would have been "hey I just don't think this is going to work" instead of "no worries. I just saw your message. I made it back"?
Posted by LDM90aquas are passive and never flat out reject anyonePosted by OphiuchusWell that's dumb. He's screwed up before big time and he apologized and we worked things out. To me, in the grand scheme of things this is minor especially since this is the first time reacted this way and apologized.Posted by LDM90and it was at that point he decided to no longer care about you. (assuming he did before)Posted by OphiuchusI warn you before telling you I overreacted lol. So as I said he's very busy with his line of work and we hadn't had that much time to spend with each other lately. We had made tentative plans to see each other but he had to cancel to finish with work. At the time I was just very disappointed and felt like he wasn't prioritizing (I've been taking a backseat lately) only because we finally agreed and I guess he just didn't manage his time well with work so that we could finally see each other. Again, I overreacted and shouldn't have let my disappointment rule my emotions. Although my initial response wasn't rude per se it was dismissive and curt. So I sent a very heartfelt apology to him thinking it would smooth over.Posted by Ophiuchusstil tryna find out the whole story op. this seems to be the turning point. so whyd youd get upset and tell him not to see you?Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got back
My thing is why even still be responsive and let me know he was back from his trip? Plus, why not just tell me that he's done especially when he's had plenty of chances to say it's over? I would think after my apology his response would have been "hey I just don't think this is going to work" instead of "no worries. I just saw your message. I made it back"?click to expand
Posted by LDM90Hmm. You have a point OP. I know if I'm done I would've a)completely ignore your apology b)told you I didn't want to see you anymore. i DEFINITELY wouldn't continue to respond back to you.Posted by OphiuchusWell that's dumb. He's screwed up before big time and he apologized and we worked things out. To me, in the grand scheme of things this is minor especially since this is the first time reacted this way and apologized.Posted by LDM90and it was at that point he decided to no longer care about you. (assuming he did before)Posted by OphiuchusI warn you before telling you I overreacted lol. So as I said he's very busy with his line of work and we hadn't had that much time to spend with each other lately. We had made tentative plans to see each other but he had to cancel to finish with work. At the time I was just very disappointed and felt like he wasn't prioritizing (I've been taking a backseat lately) only because we finally agreed and I guess he just didn't manage his time well with work so that we could finally see each other. Again, I overreacted and shouldn't have let my disappointment rule my emotions. Although my initial response wasn't rude per se it was dismissive and curt. So I sent a very heartfelt apology to him thinking it would smooth over.Posted by Ophiuchusstil tryna find out the whole story op. this seems to be the turning point. so whyd youd get upset and tell him not to see you?Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got back
My thing is why even still be responsive and let me know he was back from his trip? Plus, why not just tell me that he's done especially when he's had plenty of chances to say it's over? I would think after my apology his response would have been "hey I just don't think this is going to work" instead of "no worries. I just saw your message. I made it back"?click to expand
I think he's still upset or procrastinating with dealing with thinks like bumbakklot said. I know when someone has upset me and even though they've apologized I won't deal with them until I'm good and ready and put it out of my mind for a while.
Posted by OphiuchusI don't know. I've had aquas be very blunt. Why not just ignore OP if that's the case? There's no point in continuing to respond to her.Posted by LDM90aquas are passive and never flat out reject anyonePosted by OphiuchusWell that's dumb. He's screwed up before big time and he apologized and we worked things out. To me, in the grand scheme of things this is minor especially since this is the first time reacted this way and apologized.Posted by LDM90and it was at that point he decided to no longer care about you. (assuming he did before)Posted by OphiuchusI warn you before telling you I overreacted lol. So as I said he's very busy with his line of work and we hadn't had that much time to spend with each other lately. We had made tentative plans to see each other but he had to cancel to finish with work. At the time I was just very disappointed and felt like he wasn't prioritizing (I've been taking a backseat lately) only because we finally agreed and I guess he just didn't manage his time well with work so that we could finally see each other. Again, I overreacted and shouldn't have let my disappointment rule my emotions. Although my initial response wasn't rude per se it was dismissive and curt. So I sent a very heartfelt apology to him thinking it would smooth over.Posted by Ophiuchusstil tryna find out the whole story op. this seems to be the turning point. so whyd youd get upset and tell him not to see you?Posted by LDM90why?
Any who two days before he left I got upset with him and told him to forget about seeing me when he got back
My thing is why even still be responsive and let me know he was back from his trip? Plus, why not just tell me that he's done especially when he's had plenty of chances to say it's over? I would think after my apology his response would have been "hey I just don't think this is going to work" instead of "no worries. I just saw your message. I made it back"?click to expand
Posted by missmissyyou prob have more exp than me, but i noticed aquas are only blunt when someone is a downright asshole. if it is some relationship incompatibility stuff, they detach, back off, become passive, rather than downright saying its over. hence all the women confused about their aqua threads
I don't know. I've had aquas be very blunt. Why not just ignore OP if that's the case? There's no point in continuing to respond to her.
Posted by OphiuchusBut i don't think this is a compatibility issue. People in relationships are expected to get upset with each other. Plus she apologized and admitted she was wrong which I think speaks volumes about someone's character. He obviously thought they were compatible enough to want to be stuck with OP for days on end on a trip. Because someone gets upset and apologizes that's a compatibility issue now?Posted by missmissyyou prob have more exp than me, but i noticed aquas are only blunt when someone is a downright asshole. if it is some relationship incompatibility stuff, they detach, back off, become passive, rather than downright saying its over. hence all the women confused about their aqua threads
I don't know. I've had aquas be very blunt. Why not just ignore OP if that's the case? There's no point in continuing to respond to her.
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Plus one would think as an adult they could respond and say hey not interested. OP gave him an easy way out to do it via text but he didn't. Also, I would think that he would've been annoyed with her enough lol to say "hey look I'm not interested okay". Instead he sends her emojis and gives her as an explanation to just seeing her text message as soon as he landed? Aqua or not there's no need to say/explain "hey just saw your message. I've made it back" when you're done with someone. He didn't owe OP an explanation or an update as soon as he got back. He could've ignored her or just said no worries/thanks for the apology then ignore her when she reached out to reply to his message.
Posted by missmissyguess hes into her then and she should continue trying to get his attentionPosted by OphiuchusBut i don't think this is a compatibility issue. People in relationships are expected to get upset with each other. Plus she apologized and admitted she was wrong which I think speaks volumes about someone's character. He obviously thought they were compatible enough to want to be stuck with OP for days on end on a trip. Because someone gets upset and apologizes that's a compatibility issue now?Posted by missmissyyou prob have more exp than me, but i noticed aquas are only blunt when someone is a downright asshole. if it is some relationship incompatibility stuff, they detach, back off, become passive, rather than downright saying its over. hence all the women confused about their aqua threads
I don't know. I've had aquas be very blunt. Why not just ignore OP if that's the case? There's no point in continuing to respond to her.
Plus one would think as an adult they could respond and say hey not interested. OP gave him an easy way out to do it via text but he didn't. Also, I would think that he would've been annoyed with her enough lol to say "hey look I'm not interested okay". Instead he sends her emojis and gives her as an explanation to just seeing her text message as soon as he landed? Aqua or not there's no need to say/explain "hey just saw your message. I've made it back" when you're done with someone. He didn't owe OP an explanation or an update as soon as he got back. He could've ignored her or just said no worries/thanks for the apology then ignore her when she reached out to reply to his message.
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Posted by OphiuchusPosted by missmissyguess hes into her then and she should continue trying to get his attentionPosted by OphiuchusBut i don't think this is a compatibility issue. People in relationships are expected to get upset with each other. Plus she apologized and admitted she was wrong which I think speaks volumes about someone's character. He obviously thought they were compatible enough to want to be stuck with OP for days on end on a trip. Because someone gets upset and apologizes that's a compatibility issue now?Posted by missmissyyou prob have more exp than me, but i noticed aquas are only blunt when someone is a downright asshole. if it is some relationship incompatibility stuff, they detach, back off, become passive, rather than downright saying its over. hence all the women confused about their aqua threads
I don't know. I've had aquas be very blunt. Why not just ignore OP if that's the case? There's no point in continuing to respond to her.
Plus one would think as an adult they could respond and say hey not interested. OP gave him an easy way out to do it via text but he didn't. Also, I would think that he would've been annoyed with her enough lol to say "hey look I'm not interested okay". Instead he sends her emojis and gives her as an explanation to just seeing her text message as soon as he landed? Aqua or not there's no need to say/explain "hey just saw your message. I've made it back" when you're done with someone. He didn't owe OP an explanation or an update as soon as he got back. He could've ignored her or just said no worries/thanks for the apology then ignore her when she reached out to reply to his message.
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Sarcasm?
Posted by missmissyPosted by OphiuchusPosted by missmissyguess hes into her then and she should continue trying to get his attentionPosted by OphiuchusBut i don't think this is a compatibility issue. People in relationships are expected to get upset with each other. Plus she apologized and admitted she was wrong which I think speaks volumes about someone's character. He obviously thought they were compatible enough to want to be stuck with OP for days on end on a trip. Because someone gets upset and apologizes that's a compatibility issue now?Posted by missmissyyou prob have more exp than me, but i noticed aquas are only blunt when someone is a downright asshole. if it is some relationship incompatibility stuff, they detach, back off, become passive, rather than downright saying its over. hence all the women confused about their aqua threads
I don't know. I've had aquas be very blunt. Why not just ignore OP if that's the case? There's no point in continuing to respond to her.
Plus one would think as an adult they could respond and say hey not interested. OP gave him an easy way out to do it via text but he didn't. Also, I would think that he would've been annoyed with her enough lol to say "hey look I'm not interested okay". Instead he sends her emojis and gives her as an explanation to just seeing her text message as soon as he landed? Aqua or not there's no need to say/explain "hey just saw your message. I've made it back" when you're done with someone. He didn't owe OP an explanation or an update as soon as he got back. He could've ignored her or just said no worries/thanks for the apology then ignore her when she reached out to reply to his message.
Sarcasm?
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why would you say that? you made good points did you not?
I seen some aggressive Aquas before. Mostly dudes. I mean downright shit talkers that won't ever shut up. Lol. But that is probably because they have some fire sign moon, mars, mercury or venus and probably had a tough background in their life that made them that way. I seen them in real life and I seen them online before. But all I seen them do is speak but never done anything physical. Yet.
Posted by SolesanWe've gotten physical lol. Like I said he's super affectionate. He kisses my foreHead well having sex lol which is a little weird. I always catch him just sitting there staring at me. After he kisses me he just holds my face and just stares at it for a while lol. Kisses the back of my hand. Surprised me with a gift. Tells me after we spend time together how he misses me already. Said he hasn't felt this way about someone in a long time (he was single for 3 yrs). He's not like the other aquas that I've read about when it comes to affection and emoting.
I seen some aggressive Aquas before. Mostly dudes. I mean downright shit talkers that won't ever shut up. Lol. But that is probably because they have some fire sign moon, mars, mercury or venus and probably had a tough background in their life that made them that way. I seen them in real life and I seen them online before. But all I seen them do is speak but never done anything physical. Yet.
Posted by LDM90Posted by SolesanWe've gotten physical lol. Like I said he's super affectionate. He kisses my foreHead well having sex lol which is a little weird. I always catch him just sitting there staring at me. After he kisses me he just holds my face and just stares at it for a while lol. Kisses the back of my hand. Surprised me with a gift. Tells me after we spend time together how he misses me already. Said he hasn't felt this way about someone in a long time (he was single for 3 yrs). He's not like the other aquas that I've read about when it comes to affection and emoting.
I seen some aggressive Aquas before. Mostly dudes. I mean downright shit talkers that won't ever shut up. Lol. But that is probably because they have some fire sign moon, mars, mercury or venus and probably had a tough background in their life that made them that way. I seen them in real life and I seen them online before. But all I seen them do is speak but never done anything physical. Yet.click to expand
Aww OP it sounds like he was falling for you, at least liked you a lot so he probably took you dismissing him pretty hard. Men have fragile egos and they're even more fragile when the like someone. He's probably just hurt and pissed right now. Almost like "oh now you want to apologize and want to see me?" nope no thanks ✋. you also have to remember they're a fixed sign so he's probably just holding on to that pain and anger and will deal with you when he's ready.
You most likely disappointed him with your recent behaviour. Let him make up his mind if he still wants to be with you.
You have have tried to repair things....now show some patience.
You have have tried to repair things....now show some patience.
Posted by vanballmoosPosted by GennieHe's had ample chances to tell OP. Why not just tell her? If they're both adults wouldn't you think he would just tell her? Plus why not just ignore her altogether? If he really is done he's just as childish as well for not being a man and telling her what the deal is.
Nope, he's done. A lot of times with these "Aqua" stories...smh about all the "confusion".
We've been seeing each other for 5 months and have an intense connection....so much so that the OP loses her shit because she wont see him for a week. Took her a week to figure out that she was in the wrong, sends text. But then she doesn't learn from her mistakes.
So now she's responding to him days late, calling him at 1am, tries to hint at getting together and that falls a bit flat. Then announces the next day that shes coming by his place without so much as a by-your-leave.
Where would you like me start? Is he done? probably. While he might be weighing the pros and cons of a continuing association, you arn't helping your case by just railroading all over the place.
1) Acknowledge the change in your connection since his trip and your loss of control. Accept responsibility face to face or over the phone, not just through phone-mail =p.
2) Express the value of his friendship and how you really just want things to go back pre-argument. Also express that you much prefer talking about when things go wrong instead of both of you being passive aggressive to each other (reference the distance in behavior without explanation as a form of passive aggression)
3) Stick to what you say, and keep a handle on yourself. People should get worked up over poverty, world hunger, animal abuse, climate change, riots.. Not over someone's 1 week vacay. That shit is just childish.
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Tell her what exactly? That he's thinking it's not going to work but he needs time to figure out if he's wrong and the relationship is worth saving? Because you know, that goes over super well for Aquas.
Posted by LDM90He's definitely done with drama. Maybe he has weighed the pros and cons of having a conversation about it and decided that it's not worth causing a potential argument. And you know, maybe he's testing you to see if you explode again instead of having a calm conversation.Posted by GennieThanks for the advice. I was trying to have a conversation in person but he's giving me the cold shoulder. I know a text isn't the best but I wanted him to see it when he got home.
Nope, he's done. A lot of times with these "Aqua" stories...smh about all the "confusion".
We've been seeing each other for 5 months and have an intense connection....so much so that the OP loses her shit because she wont see him for a week. Took her a week to figure out that she was in the wrong, sends text. But then she doesn't learn from her mistakes.
So now she's responding to him days late, calling him at 1am, tries to hint at getting together and that falls a bit flat. Then announces the next day that shes coming by his place without so much as a by-your-leave.
Where would you like me start? Is he done? probably. While he might be weighing the pros and cons of a continuing association, you arn't helping your case by just railroading all over the place.
1) Acknowledge the change in your connection since his trip and your loss of control. Accept responsibility face to face or over the phone, not just through phone-mail =p.
2) Express the value of his friendship and how you really just want things to go back pre-argument. Also express that you much prefer talking about when things go wrong instead of both of you being passive aggressive to each other (reference the distance in behavior without explanation as a form of passive aggression)
3) Stick to what you say, and keep a handle on yourself. People should get worked up over poverty, world hunger, animal abuse, climate change, riots.. Not over someone's 1 week vacay. That shit is just childish.
So if he's done then why even respond to my apology? Let alone say it's okay and give an let me know he made it back okay, why not just tell me it's over then? Or when I was trying to make plans to see him?
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He's literally had this thought pass his brain "If she gets that worked up over not seeing me for a week, what will happen when I truly fuck it up or things get tough?"
Be calm, be rational, be conversational, eventually he will open up again.
Posted by dannmann1992First of all; he is an unmarried doctor; there are dozens and dozens of women from all pedigrees, and background vying for his attention. Competition is stiff when dating a doctor. The OP and the doctor are not exclusive.Posted by librawomen7I don't think so. I think it's more of what bumbakklot said. It's not like he was slowly withdrawing from OP, which is what usually happens when someone else is in the picture. This was an abrupt change. It's more of a cause and effect situation. OP flies off the handle and then he'd guy is cold-I highly doubt that's a coincidence. You don't go planning a trip with someone a day before an argument to having someone new a week later. Again, this was just too abrupt.
When my Aqua started acting like that there were somebody else. Stop pursuing him, they don't like that. Stop making suggestions to see him lay low and let him come to you. In the meantime get your options open and be open to dating someone new.click to expand
1. When a man is into you he doesn't ""fit" you into his schedule. He doesn't make you an option to squeeze in, he makes you a priority. Something has his attention.
2. "Unfortunately, we didn't get a chance to see each other before his trip but we were talking about taking a trip of our own soon"- He "talked" about taking a trip with OP, but he's actually went ON A TRIP with another woman.. ( Out of country business trip my-ass)
3. So he left for his trip without us saying anything to each other. I realized the error of my ways and a week later I sent an apology text (he was out of the country). He replied "hey no worries. just saw your message. just landed in NY." So assumed everything was fine.
( HE let a week go by without chasing you or pursuing OP? Then after she didn't reply (for whatever reason) he let another week go back.? He has someone else... and he's lost interest. Op is right.
Men speak with their behavior not their words; very few men will actually come out and say " I don't want to date anymore" But if he just sending emojis and allowing weeks to pass between communication he doesn't need to say the obvious. He's lost interest and more than likely has someone else.
If you back up and leave him completely alone he may return.
Posted by librawomen7Posted by dannmann1992Posted by librawomen7My god. The man is a doctor and even he wasn't he has a job. OP said he was going to be busy with work, so yes, into a woman or not if you're busy with work you do have to fit people into your schedule. If you have a job you cannot just drop that because of a girlfriend of boyfriend. That is careless and shows a sign of being lazy. Tons of busy people have to consult each others schedule so that they fit each other into it and there's nothing wrong with that.
First of all; he is an unmarried doctor; there are dozens and dozens of women from all pedigrees, and background vying for his attention. Competition is stiff when dating a doctor. The OP and the doctor are not exclusive.
1. When a man is into you he doesn't ""fit" you into his schedule. He doesn't make you an option to squeeze in, he makes you a priority. Something has his attention.
2. "Unfortunately, we didn't get a chance to see each other before his trip but we were talking about taking a trip of our own soon"- He "talked" about taking a trip with OP, but he's actually went ON A TRIP with another woman.. ( Out of country business trip my-ass)
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Secondly, he went out of the country for a week so how do you suppose he pursue OP? teleportation?
Third, your entire response reeks of insecurity because your aqaua cheated on you. B/c he's a doctor & so many women are supposedly pinning for him has to do with this because of what? Then you make this huge illogical leap that he went out of the country with another woman. OP TOLD him she didn't want to see him anymore! Just because it happened to you and you clearly have issues with aqua's, hence your reply to another thread yesterday "Aqua men shouldn't be taken seriously".
If someone were to dump me over something trivial, they changed their minds, then it took them over a WEEK to apologize, and apologize via TEXT at that even if I still wanted them I would keep my distance for a good well and let them stew.
Notice how you're the only one of this thread that thinks OP didn't handle this the wrong way. We all can't be wrong here.
Please stop projecting your unfortunate experiences onto others
You sound a little bit too high maintenance for an Aqua. And the game playing. I don't really but it that you couldn't reach out to him and respond to his text because of a family emergency. You did it to play games.
And you're getting annoyed? He's a doctor. Probably one of the most stressful jobs. You rejected him instead of trying to understand his busy/hectic schedule. Aquas relationships are not prioritized over their responsibilities. If he is/was interested, I think it's safe to assume his feelings may have been hurt. He doesn't have to forgive you immediately because you apologize. Give him some space.
Honestly, to me, it doesn't sound like you really like him that much. I think your ego is just bruised because you wanted him to chase you when you rejected him and he didn't.
And you're getting annoyed? He's a doctor. Probably one of the most stressful jobs. You rejected him instead of trying to understand his busy/hectic schedule. Aquas relationships are not prioritized over their responsibilities. If he is/was interested, I think it's safe to assume his feelings may have been hurt. He doesn't have to forgive you immediately because you apologize. Give him some space.
Honestly, to me, it doesn't sound like you really like him that much. I think your ego is just bruised because you wanted him to chase you when you rejected him and he didn't.
Posted by AriSaturnI wasn't playing games with him at all. My mother got in a bad car accident and the last thing on my mind were text messages in my phone. I wasn't expecting him to prioritize our relationship over responsibilities but it would've felt nice to have a balance after not seeing each other for 2 weeks (I traveled for work 1 week and he was busy with his the week after) and 1 week coming up that I wasn't going to see each other.
You sound a little bit too high maintenance for an Aqua. And the game playing. I don't really but it that you couldn't reach out to him and respond to his text because of a family emergency. You did it to play games.
And you're getting annoyed? He's a doctor. Probably one of the most stressful jobs. You rejected him instead of trying to understand his busy/hectic schedule. Aquas relationships are not prioritized over their responsibilities. If he is/was interested, I think it's safe to assume his feelings may have been hurt. He doesn't have to forgive you immediately because you apologize. Give him some space.
Honestly, to me, it doesn't sound like you really like him that much. I think your ego is just bruised because you wanted him to chase you when you rejected him and he didn't.
Going weeks without seeing each other and him having to cancel, most would be pretty disappointed, which I was and I thought that maybe this relationship wasn't really going to be able to go anywhere because of our hectic schedules so I backed out of it. I thought I was making a logical choice.
If this was my ego being bruised I wouldn't have sent him that apology email while he was still out of the country. Had no idea if he was going to chase me or not because he hadn't been back yet...
I am deal with something similar. Astrology says they are super busy with work... And will be but you may just want to let it have more time if you care... It is Mercury retro te biggest time of miss communications.
That is the only thing about my aqua X. Like not sure what is going on she said she wanted to be my friend after she told me over and over the guy she is seeing is not her bf and fresh. I am an Aries and not the type to play the side line. I told her that that as well as I don't know if I would consider going out with her again or seeing her like that of she is willing to date some one yet say what she was saying. I also folder her I am not paying for anything for her if we go out and she would actually have to be a friend... Like my real friends... So far she has failed completely... Except she is busy but she just does not call or text much... Well every day like to keep me posted... Stuff she is doing but I am not like jealous or anything like she made sure to say she went to a b day friends party and I know she saw pictures of me up on the net and my friends b day with quite a few women around but she knows them... And I was not hitting on any of them...
I don't know and because I don't know and it is Mercury retro I am not saying anything. Although I want to.
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That is the only thing about my aqua X. Like not sure what is going on she said she wanted to be my friend after she told me over and over the guy she is seeing is not her bf and fresh. I am an Aries and not the type to play the side line. I told her that that as well as I don't know if I would consider going out with her again or seeing her like that of she is willing to date some one yet say what she was saying. I also folder her I am not paying for anything for her if we go out and she would actually have to be a friend... Like my real friends... So far she has failed completely... Except she is busy but she just does not call or text much... Well every day like to keep me posted... Stuff she is doing but I am not like jealous or anything like she made sure to say she went to a b day friends party and I know she saw pictures of me up on the net and my friends b day with quite a few women around but she knows them... And I was not hitting on any of them...
I don't know and because I don't know and it is Mercury retro I am not saying anything. Although I want to.
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