Aqua Done For Good?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by missmissy on Tuesday, August 23, 2016 and has 12 replies.

So I've been seeing him for about 3 months. We live about 2 hours apart. I hadn't seen my aqua in two weeks and I was going to be in his city. He was leaving for a business trip on Monday and I told him I would be in his city that Saturday. He owns his own business and told me that he was going to be working all weekend and needed to get things done before leaving for his business trip BUT he asked if I would attend this work cocktail thing he had to attend with him (couldn't). He also suggested that I go to this other work event with him the following day as well but we settled on seeing each other that Sunday evening. I guess he was trying find ways to see me while doing his work?

Anywho, Sunday he sent me a text saying he was sorry but he might have to reschedule us getting together that evening because he thought he was he would've had everything finished and still needed to get things done before leaving for his trip.

I'll admit I got pretty upset, as I think most people would, and was just ready to be done with him. I sent a text saying 'thanks for letting me know. don't worry about rescheduling'.

Now, my friends told me that I was wrong for not giving him the benefit of the doubt because he warned me that he would be busy and was trying to find alternative ways for us to see each other while still tending to his work and that I needed to apologize.

Well a week went by (he was still out of the country for his business trip) and I guess my pride finally let me apologize. I sent a text saying I hope your trip is going well. I wanted to apologize for my snippy reply and that I should've given him the benefit of he doubt that and I was just disappointed and I thought he was just canceling on me. Then I wished him a safe flight and put a smiley face.

I figured he would see the text when he got back to the country. Well I sent that over 24 hrs. ago and no response.

I guess he's done now? Just pretty shocked.

@truecap

14 Years10,000+ Posts

You're too impatient for an aqua. He had things to do. He was honest and he tried to get together with you. You're willing to toss it all away because he had work conflicts.

He needs someone who understands work commitments.

@newlove

10 Years

He was busy with his work...couldnt meet you...texted...you replied...whatever you replied didnt need an apology

I dont think he'd be bothered by a few texts

Maybe he's still busy...he will contact you

And i agree with truecap you need to understand his work commitments

Chill you are over analysing...i do too 😛

@missmissy

10 Years

Posted by truecap
You're too impatient for an aqua. He had things to do. He was honest and he tried to get together with you. You're willing to toss it all away because he had work conflicts.

He needs someone who understands work commitments.

Yea I've realized that now. I have respected it before this time I just figured if he really wanted to see me after 2 weeks he would've done so BUT that's when I also he offered alternatives. I was hoping my apology showed him that I got it but I didn't think this was enough for him to throw this away.

@missmissy

10 Years

Posted by newlove
He was busy with his work...couldnt meet you...texted...you replied...whatever you replied didnt need an apology

I dont think he'd be bothered by a few texts

Maybe he's still busy...he will contact you

And i agree with truecap you need to understand his work commitments

Chill you are over analysing...i do too 😛

Thanks. Well the reason I think/thought he was done is because after my don't worry about rescheduling text he didn't respond(understandable) and now he's been back for 2 days and we talk every day.

@missmissy

10 Years

Posted by ChoXtsy
You're not coming off as understanding and he's probably sensed the "why can't you see me, wahh, wahh, wahh" drama and does not have time for it. Now you have to give him space, and hope he'll come around when he's ready.

Right which I realized. See he had canceled on me before and i thought he was just being a flake again, which I mentioned in my apology text. This is this the first time I have reacted this way and didn't think it would be enough for him to be done with this, especially after I apologized.

@LDM90

10 Years

Posted by ChoXtsy
You're not coming off as understanding and he's probably sensed the "why can't you see me, wahh, wahh, wahh" drama and does not have time for it. Now you have to give him space, and hope he'll come around when he's ready.

This, but after him being gone a week and OP apologized a reasonable person would've moved on from this. He's got to understand that she was disappointed, got upset, and was mature enough to recognize and apologize for her behavior.

OP, are you sure he even got the text? You did send it to him while he was out of the country...