Taurus Girl Heartbroken By Aquarius Man

I was dating an Aqua guy. We had an amazing chemistry. I have never been kissed like he kissed me. He was beautiful looking and amazing in bed. We would talk on the phone for hours. We did things together and he made me think he wanted to take things to higher level. Then the calls slowed down to only text messages and then they stopped..then everything stopped.
I too did much research on the aqua male and I made sure I gave him his space and didn't pressure him. I pretty gave him the keys to the relationship. I did nice things for him and made sure that he knew he was special to me. Then he just dissappeared. I am so hurt. I think my pain is more from the fact that feel so disrespected. I mean for as much as we talked, I thought for sure he would think enough of me that if he wanted to end things to alteast say goodbye.
My friends say that I was probaly too good to him and things were going so well that he got scared and ran. I know aqua men are not the best at long term relationships. I guess I am just seeking some answers on why he would do this. I refuse to call him anymore. I took his number out of my phone so I couldn't. Like I told him in my final voice message, I refuse to keep chasing someone who obviously doesn't wanna be caught. No matter how angry I am at him. I still keep wishing he will call.

Awww, I'm so sorry. I feel really bad for you. Obviously, there's nothing that I can do, as being an Aquarius female that would be of some good help, but I guess sometimes it just works that way. I mean, I can't speak on behalf of Aquarius men, or why us Aquarians act the ways we do, but I feel deeply moved by what happened to you, and seriously think that you do have a right to be angry. I personally would never get too close on intimate level with someone, then just tear their whole world apart. It takes that someone very special in order for me to commit and dedicate my whole life to. Not saying that your aquarian man didn't. He probably really does love you, and appreciate you. Us Aquarians just really show our feelings in different ways. But if he couldn't love you or see you for the beautiful person that you are, he probably doesn't need you or deserve you in the first place. Just keep your head up high, and stay focused, 'cause there'll be plenty of other fish in the sea. And I'm sure your guy will regret that he ever lost someone like you and will miss from having you in his life.
Good luck and hope this helps!

Crimson Tide

sounds like text book aquarius male behaviour..... will always be a mystery....

Thank you everyone Especially Crimson Tide!! I just can't get past the fact that he could be so cruel. To leave someone and not say goodbye has to be the meanest thing anyone can do to a another human being. Especially when you have been both phyiscally and emotionally intimate with them. How he is sleeping at night I will never know.
I realized something though..there was another aqua guy I dated last year. He did the same thing. I didn't care as much for him though. BUT..he just recently got back intouch with me begging to see me and explaining why he did what he did. Its just bazarre. He contacted me after I told him I never wanted to see or hear from him again. He said he was waiting for me to calm down.
I keep hoping I will hear from this guy. Even if it just proves that he even once gave a damn about me at all.

Thanks. I'm glad that I could be of some help. And you just keep on doing what you've been doing. But always stand cautious and stand true. And be the strong woman that you are and show him that you can stand on your own without him.

Crimson Tide

Koco are you better off then the male aq. money wise, have a better job carry a casmetic case. Act and live like high class?
Just asken. can make a diffrence=en. : ]
C-B

CB the only real difference between us is that he is 7 years younger than I. he is 27 and I am 34. We are both special ed teachers and teach in the same district. Not at the same school tho. I may have been too mature for him or maybe I liked him too much. I know some men are used to being treated badly and can't handle when a woman may God forbid actually care!!

Bingo : ] To Mature for him. A Aq. Male whats to lead but must be told what when and how He SQ-up privatly and firmly by his lady.
: ]

The Male Aq. { I Q. : ] doin't hit Us let Me led even if i can't dance. I'll give you the Moon and as many Star's you can wear around your lushes neck. PS. we don't like gett'en yelled at. : ]
C-B

PS. We do love a Woman that carries espsielies us dummies. : ] but don't tell.
C-B

So CB what should I do now when It comes to him? I hurt so badly. In a way i want to email him just to say how truly fu✨ed up he is to treat me like this. But my spidey sense tells me he already knows. I don't think I really want to talk to him. I would just like to know if he ever gave a damn in the first place. I don't want to believe that he that much of a horrible human being. Even if he wanted to make-up, I know I could never trust him again.

Hi Kokohauntis...........reading your story there's just one thing that jumped straight out at me and I will tell you what it is...it's not that he's younger than you or anything along those lines.......it's your telling phrase "and things were going so well that he got scared and ran".

Me being aquarian, but not male!!! - last time I looked anyway!!!, this is how I act with someone I care really deeply about and love even.

My behaviour is abonimal.......if I was me and the way I acted I would smack my face and kick my shins!!!!
But when the going is glowing!!!! and everything is as smooth as honey, I can't handle the big picture! and I suddenly get scared and panicky (life is not meant to be so good, is it??...it's meant to be drama, unpredictable or so I sillily think!!!......and so I run, I run away like your guy did......I very rarely give excuses or if I do I make up some convuluted fib, just cut off contact completely and even though the person can make the most heart-rending speeches face to face or on the phone, I will not respond...not because I don't want to...because if I do...then they will know just how vulnerable and deep-feeling I really am and how they have managed to break thorugh my defences and know me.....and I don't like the thought of anyone knowing they can make me that vulnerable......and though I know I am hurting the other person so selfishly, it's the only way I can deal with the lovely emotions that they have surfaced in me and that suddenly for no exlicable reason I can't handle.......I can't explain it, I just know it's how I and many aquarians operate......I am not saying that this is the case with your guy.....just a vibe I am picking up.

Ironically I was married to a taurus guy.......for many years........he did and still does so many nice special things for me.........I don't treat him like he deserves.....just in case he gets to thinkin that I really care.........you say he disrespects you.........I don't think this is the case.......aquarians really respect everyone......I know I do...from a beggar to a king........because I know we are all the same deep down inside......he respects you, maybe too much for his own good and he doesn't like that......

Anyway, for what it's worth......if you still want him back....no contact from you.....ignore, no phone calls.......if you can manufacture to bump into him with a nice looking guy by your side, by all means....he will be intrigued and sligtly jealous but will never show it......if someone else is finding you interesting, then he will once again also.....that is the way.....men don't really respond to words, just to lack of contact.......

I don't really know what more to say without sounding like an emotional chicken!!! or a twat.............it's just my overall view on your story, for what it's worth.

I wish you the best.

A x

KH, Follow Alana's advice, she is the Queen of Advice where Aquas are concerned. I cut of all contact, had a ball with my friends, ignored my Aqua girl completely and she was back "crawling" (I hate to use this word). But she did.

Alana..Thank you so much. Your messgae did help alot. I can't say I hurt any less but atleast someone understands my thoughts and feelings. I know he cared. I know he was falling as deeply as I was. I only wish that he would have told me that things were getting too serious and he needed to bail. I would've understood that. Ijust hate this feeling of abandonment without explaination. Oh well. Things are getting better day by day. I decided to not send the email. Atleast I know I am in control on this end. He doesn't need to know how much pain he has caused me.

Alana,

You have said it so eloquently! I am married to a Taurus and I get like that even tho we've been together for over 15 years! I just feel like sometimes things are too good, and that things are not supposed to be!

For many years when I was single (way back in my 20's) I would search for that "perfect love." but would always "move on" to the next one just in case he was better than the one I was with. so bad! never knew why I did it, just did! But you have explained it so well.

Thanks!!

Mindy

I did a supposed "no no" but I had to before I went insane!! I did email him. I had to put closure on this. I hate leaving things open. It was more for me than for him. It was nothing too emotional...Just telling him that if he wanted out all he had to do was say so. I thought we were better friends than that. Also that I didn't want him to respond and he would never hear from me again. I liked him very much and I'm sorry things didn't work out. I believe they could have been wonderful. Lastly I told him to be blessed always and thats it. Quick and painful. Now I feel like I can let it go even though I miss him sooooooooo much. This experience definately showed me how fast we can fall for someone and not realize it til its waaaayyyyy too late. I should not be this hurt over someone I've known less than 60 days!! What da hell is wrong with me??!!

So glad that things have worked out for you Lost in Love......I know it's tough going sometimes with your Ms. Aquarius - we can be so "hard work" - but keep up the "techniques"....and she'll keep "Crawling"!!:-).....for want of a better word:-) As for Queen of advice for Aquas....you give me too much credit....but thank you:-)

Ms. Mindy........glad that we are on "the same page" about the way we think and behave...at least I am not the only "lu-la" out there!!:-)

And now to Kokohauntis....don't give the e-mail a second thought...you did what you had to do and you did it very well (as you say, it was more for your benefit than his)...I esp. liked the way that you said you were ending all contact on your part from here onwards....(hmmmmm, that doesn't go down too well with Aquarians...they don't like to think of anyone as having the "last word" and forgetting them forever" - nice one my pal...you are learning.....:-) As for knowing him 60 days and feeling and falling so deeply......we do not choose, we fall......sometimes very fast and furious. Chin up my pal.

A x

I only did what my heart lead me to do. Now if I could only get to the part where I stop hoping he will call and seeing him in my mind when I close my eyes. I have to wonder if I would feel this way had he told me what was going on. I think most of my pain is coming from being blind sided. Which in turn makes me feel tossed away like a half eaten sandwich. AARRRGGGG I'm just so frustrated. How do aquas love? or do they at all? Like I mentioned in an earlier post, this is not the first aqua to do this to me. The one before this one made his way back into my life after about 7 months being MIA. Now I want nothing to do with him. But he and I didn't have the connection that me and the last aqua so it was easier for me to let go. Though I was pissed at him for a long time! Now when I go past my favorite singles site..when I see aquarius..I click away QUICKLY. I think I am afraid of them now.
So Alana or C-B..what do I do now??!!!

Hey, you tossed away half eaten sandwich you:-).....we all know what it's like - the craving for THAT one more phone-call from him, the close your eyes and all you see is him/her in front of you feeling, on your mind 24-7....you can't eat, you can't sleep, no doubt you're in deep...as Robert Palmer used sing.....it sucks.....I am that solider!!!:-) What you've got to remember, it's a phase and phases do pass, they don't and can't last forever...nothing does, it's the nature of the beast. Feelings come and feelings eventually go.....

So despite feeling down and mopey, and probably not wanting to go out for girly nites etc. at the moemnt, that's exactly what you have got to do...and yes, you will probably be comparing every man you see in a club/pub with Mr. Aquar. every nite.......but one nite when you least expect it, someone will walk through the doors and have the WOW factor for you.....and even though you may not want it to happen, memories and misty-watered colored memories of Mr. Aquar...:-) as Babs sings...they will begin to fade...and you will be seduced by new guy.....could happen tonite...could happen 6 months down the line but happen it will....do nice things for yourself, indulge yourself.....when the images of Mr. A. come to your head as you lie in bed, imagine a box and put him and all thoughts of him iinto that box and bang the lid shut - a big BANG...sometimes works for me:-)

So weekend is coming, out you go.....and come back with story for us on MOnday:-)

a x

Thanks again Alana!! Wow you are good! I finally cried today. I refused to for awhile cuz it seemed so stupid. I know hes not somewhere crying over me. But I had to get it out. Now I can't stop crying. If I think about him too long, I cry. I cried while I read your last post. This is crazy but I know its healthy. I have made plans and I am forcing myself to go though with them when all I wanna do is crawl up in bed and cry.
I know soon this will all be a memory. I just wish soon will NOW!!

K-H Love is blind I've been there and been bitt'en just as bad by some love'ly ladys of the oppsiste sign mainly gimmenys, leo's, and cancer's Lord help me find a real love.
C-B
Life and Love is what we let In. : ]

I finally heard from him. The email did it. Basically he said he was sorry. Do I feel any better? No!! Well kinda...but not really. He said other things besides sorry that are just leaving me kinda empty. He said he was being "prideful and stupid" because he felt I gave him an ultimatum and he was rebeling against it. Which I didn't, but I can see how he thought so.

Oh well. I guess I'm glad I heard from him but I don't want to see him. I don't trust him anymore. I'm more relieved than anything. Kinda stunned tho.

KH, I feel for you as well. I must say something about the age thing. I married a Aquar at 32 and he was 22. I divorce him!!! The relationship became routine. Auar men want you to live their lives and not have one of your own....They want motherly type of woman. They don't want you to be there mother. They just want you to go along with everything that they do and dont complain. You tried in giving him space. But maybe he felt tied down by the routine. From experience, you have to be yourself with them whether they like it or not. You have to stand strong on all your convictions as well. Let me ask you this if I may?? Have you ever seen him down and out if his money in his pockets are short?? They become so depressed and need someone strong to push them out of this dilema no matter what!!! This is what I meant in sort of a mother. A women who will struggle for them not with them....Sorry for the honest comment if it doesnt make you feel any better....My suggestion?? If you still want him, then keep talking, you will then get an answer......

Thanks msram, CB, and Alana...after taking a few hours to soak in everything I have come to the conclusion that I do want him back. I don't really trust him with my feelings are with my heart, but I have missed him so much. after a few emails he did admit that he F'ed Up and he apologized from "the bottom" of his heart. He told me that he missed me and wished he could tell me to my face. I said it was miscommunication and that I F'ed up too in my own way. I told him all was open and forgiven. I left it like that, although I haven't checked my email in few hours.
I need some advice on how to handle things now that the lines of communication have been re-opened.

I have been wondering for the last 15 hours or so if I should call him. I pondered and went back and forth in my head..I want him to call me...maybe I should him...naw the hell with that he SHOULD call me...maybe hes waiting for me to call him...AAAARRGGGHHHH!!!! OY the stupidity!! So I decided to follow my heart and call him. Keeping in mind the worst case sinario He could be a complete jerk!! But I called anyway. Unknowingly my number came up "private" on his end ( I don't know why) Once I said hello and he caught my voice..he was actually happy to hear my voice. I could hear the excitement in his. He gave me his "formal" apology and told me of his plans to just show up at my door this week. We talked everything out. Then we began joking and laughing. He kept asking me about what I had been doing and wanting details. The happiness in his voice kinda threw me off. I don't know what to think or feel.
HELP!!!!

Don't snich on us frist of all : ] were only Old Rooster @ Lady Hens scatch on this board. If you doin't what your wagon covered in $ !et doint park it under a tree. Good Luck Lady K.H.
C-B : ]

KocoaHauntis

Wow! What a saga! I hope it all works out for you. I must say though that researching the sign & trying to fit yourself into those perameters was your first mistake. I know cause I did it, he was a Libra though. I forget who said it, but you do have to stand on your own and let him know you are independent. The taurus women I know tend to be serial monogamous people (they usually have serious relationships back to back) so maybe by you chilling out on him, you have shown yourself to be less "needy". Not saying that you are, but that may have been HIS perception of you. Especially if you tried to move into the B/F-G/F arena to quickly. I have dated two Aqua's, that were totally different from each other, but with both...They liked to disappear & come back. I made up a song about it in the elevator @ work today...Wanna hear it? Here it go!

He comes, I cum, He cums, He leaves
He comes, I cum, We cum, he leaves
He cums, I cum, How come he leaves?

Okay, it's dorky, but true! Thank GOD I never fell for one! Good Luck!

Cancerlady

Yes that is so true. Atleast I know what I am dealing with. We have been talking every night. We haven't seen eachother yet. I am very happy to have him back. When he tried to explain his behavior he was kinda speechless. Since I was armed with all of the priceless information I have learned from the board, I replied to him...You were just being yourself. He paused and was like "Yeah...I guess your right." He seemed relieved that I understood him.

I know, RIGHT!

These boards have given me so much invaluable advice, I can't even tell you!

🙂Thanks Everybody! 🙂

Cancerlady

I'm Done with him!! FINISHED KAPUT!!!! Things were going well. We were getting back on track..then BOOM...he forgot my birthday!!! Thats not the worst part. When confronted and I dumped his butt! I told him he never has to worry about me calling him ever again for anything...he has shown me that I mean nothing to him and I'm finished with him! He told me(text me cuz he wasn't man enough to call me) that it was no big deal that he forgot and I shouldn't be mad and jump to conclusions like that!!! OHHHHH ARGGHHHHH!!! If he was in my face I would have punched him!! Then OH THEENNNN..he tried to turn his mistake around on me and brings up how he could jump to conclusions and believe I slept with someone else while we were apart. WHAT?!! What da hell does that have to do with him forgetting my Birthday??! He has shown me who he is and I believe him!! Instead of just owning up to him being a jerk and apologizing to me, he took the low road!! He is the most insensitive inconsiderate person I have ever met.
I just pray to get over him as soon as possible.

I'm sorry to hear this KH
I thought you had a fairytale ending and was living happily ever after.........

I was looking to you for hope that my ex-Aqua might come back (he didn't and I'm glad that he hasn't).
I had time to sit down and review the relationship and to be honest it wasn't that great - he was always about himself and I was more in awe of his looks. I've also heard thru the grapevine that the woman he moved straight on to after me (within days) has dumped him already (ha ha!.)

Just got me thinking....is this dump an Aqua-male week?

Sorry KH - I hope you get over him soon
xx

Alana & and Lost In Love,

Oh but I hate being ignored lol
maybe that does ring some truth,, I'll come crawling back for that attention again.
but at the same time, I get a little annoyed when I don't get my attention.. and will look in other places to receive it.

Aquarius Female

Aqua Female..with him it was a damned if I do or don't kinda thing. When I gave him attention...and I gave alot..he felt smothered and said I was over bearring. When I stepped back he felt ignored or said I was jumping to conclusions by running away. Hell he mostly ignored me unless HEEEEEE felt like talking or being bothered. Like I said before...My needs and feelings were never really that important to him. I just wish he showed me the jerk side of him from the beginning instead of the wonderful attentive side. Thats the part of him I miss and long for so much. Though I know I will never see it again. Well..I prolly would just so he could lure me again only to push me away...AGAIN.

Sorry for your situation too Alice. I guess in the long run we both dodged a bullet in someways. It hurts now but we will prolly be jumping for joy later! Just know that God sees all and what goes around comes around. One day they will wake up and realize that other people have feelings too. These realizations usually come after they have had their hearts stepped on the same way they stepped on ours.