The definition of trust...

I can't seem to not want to talk to another woman. I don't know why I can't control myself. Even if I don't intend to have sex or even date the girl, I still have the need to want to meet a new woman. I love women, that's for sure, but I'm not sure if this is what I should be doing. I have a virgo girl that I'm talking to right now...and I like her a LOT but...she's highly jealous and I warned her that I do have a slew of women-as-friends...

I do have women friends that I really do want to sleep with that likes me, but I never put myself in the position where I might lose control and do something I might regret. She obviously thinks I'm cheating, and gets angry when my phone rings whenever I'm around her. She be like "Oh, is one of your ho bags callin you?" and walk away mad as HELL! I'm in this predicament because of me, but I don't see anything wrong with what I'm doing.

She should trust me, even though I put myself in a situation like this. It's just the trends of today, man screws all things that move. Well, I'm a man of my word, I hope you ladies understand that there ARE men out there like this.

I like her a lot, but I don't know if this is gonna last too long like this...I'm sure no one has a remedy for this ailment...

sup bro...

well im actually a virgo guy who dated and aqua girl...i don't know what is it about the virgo/aqua combos, but i've seen this happening over and over again...no matter how increbly different we seem to be at times.

maybe we got these attractions towards each other to learn something from ourselves.

the aqua i dated and i are very logical and can be deattached emotionally...which makes things really hard as far as communication BUT when we showed our affection...PHEW it poured like refreshing rain into our hearts (sorry im a bit poetic sometimes lol).

seriously though, she did very similar things to what you are doing, even though she was a girl...and there are aquas of all types and sizes, but the one i dated said that loved me very much yet she couldn't stop hanging out with friends who had obvious crushes on her...and we always had issues with truth, because she had a history of cheating (although she would justify it) and eventually she did that, not so sure to what level and for how long to me.

as a normal person would i was devastated but my virgo didn't let me show it.

i guess im sharing all this with you...because i don't want you two, to go through the same crap we did.

if you really REALLY like this girl, then you will have to make some compromises...and that may mean not talking w people as much when you are together...it would mean...being responsible to the fact that she needs you to show her that she can trust you with your actions, not only with your words...

and although she may like you inmensely too, and you clearly care for her enough to come here and ask...for the relationship to work...you both will have to 1) learn to communicate VERY well 2) be honest with each other and 3) compromise

if you can't do any of those things i listed, then it will be a matter of time before one of you gets tired...because we virgos are very patience when we love...but when we get tired, trust me, we get tired lol...

so, seems to me like you will have more answers as you ask yourself if you could offer and want all these things in return...honesty, compromise, communication...

if you aren't ready, then please let her go but with care...because we virgos take everything seriously so if she is seeing you, most likely is because she really really has made a choice to be with you and that for her may mean tons right now...

also, though remember that...(continued)

learning to change life style s and behaviors is a proces...but that doesn't mean we have to stop changing for the better because of that...even if we take baby steps.

so when it comes to relationships...you will give and grow as much as you want and are ready to.

keep us posted,

vll

As a girl with loads of guy friends, whenever they get a girlfriend I instinctly back off. I dont really like drama, which is why I have alot of guy friends....but I just respect their space and the relationship, I try to make sure that the girls realize that im not a threat to them or their man. The guy im seeing now (pisces) has tons of female friends, which is fine by me, I dont think im the jealous type, but when were together, be with me, thats all I ask.

When your with her, BE WITH HER and her only. Leave the cell on vibrate, choose who is important to answer and whose not so important to answer. I dont think aquas do well with the jealous type, so you have got to make her understand your position too Big D. I agree with Aqi, you need to compromise as well, the both of you should compromise (she needs to be less jealous) She's deriving you away by this, NOT GOOD.

LOL @ "ho bag"

"If you really like this girl, then hang out with your guy friends and ask the girls to stop calling."

I can't. Most of these women I met back in my younger days, and I'm not about dropping them for anyone. She knew this going into our relationship, just as I knew that she had her dude friends that she associates herself with. She'd give me a whole fifty minute scolding for telling her to drop her dude friends, so I expect the same respect...

If dropping my women friends just to keep a woman I might not even keep for life is the only way to heal this relationship, I mind as well burn it off now huh?

I dont think you need to drop your friends at all, just become distant and let them know that you have a girl and you two are trying to make things work. If there good friends they'll talk crap about her and you 🙂...call you whipped, but they'll understand and step aside.

WaterBearingTwinGoat:"Understatement"

LOLx1000!!!!

Yea, that sounds a little easier Lady M. I should just turn my phone off...sacrifices do need to be made I guess...but dropping my woman friends is close to impossible because they would never let that happen. I have women friends who LOVE drama, and if my girl would ever approach these women she might end up with a fight on her hands...

Lady M "If there good friends they'll talk crap about her and you ...call you whipped, but they'll understand and step aside."

Heh, lady M...you hit it right on the mark lol!

If at all friends are in your way, then you should consider their taking a 'permanent sobatical'....if you feel that's the case, or just tell em you need some space; it's no secret that Aquas need space so, It's already well-recieved on my part.

🙂 thats real.
I know, trust me I've been through it...Im one of the ones that talk crap about you, but step aside.
🙂

Aquaaqi: "why are you telling her to drop her guy friends? You see, it's not even an issue of trust, it's an issue of commitment."

Heh, I'm not that crazy I just know (at best) what would happen if I do. She really is a caring woman, and I don't like to disrespect her, but it's a shame that this one thing is shattering what we worked for.

No, she doesn't trust me. Literally. When I come home from work, if I get there thirty minutes late, she leaves a good five messages chock full of ranting and cursing lol! This just started on thursday, when she caught me walking with my "woman friend" down the block.

LOL WBTG, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.
That could be useful, yet harmful...LIFE.

No, she doesn't trust me. Literally. When I come home from work, if I get there thirty minutes late, she leaves a good five messages chock full of ranting and cursing lol! This just started on thursday, when she caught me walking with my "woman friend" down the block.

Jeez, you gave her the ammo, well good luck with all that. Most times you end up doing what your being accused for anyways, because your already being accused.

Yea, and I can't seem to shake it off...I'm lookin for a good lawyer to convince the jury that I'm not guilty for the crime Mrs.Judge has accused me with, but it's lookin like our relationship is about to get the death penalty...

wow, never thought it that way Aqi...maybe im not ready either.

Hmm...aquaaqi, maybe you're right. Maybe I'm just in this relationship for HER...but the day I sacrifice my friends for a woman is the day I realize that I can't get any other woman LOL!

LOL Big D, you'll find that woman you'll do ANYTHING for and we'll remember this post.^^

OH MAN!!! Don't jinx me Lady M I'm sure love isn't avoiding me on purpose LOL!!!

Message posted by: BigD56 on 3/12/2007 7:09:53 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.215
OH MAN!!! Don't jinx me Lady M I'm sure love isn't avoiding me on purpose LOL!!!

Me too...we're here BigD ~hand gestures to eyes~
Wait, pisces told me im avoiding it...oh well ::shrug::

well put Aqi...thats if you mature...some g uys do it forever.

Too young to be too serious and possessive.

I think she doesn't want to give me up because I'm what she wants, so she'll do whatever it takes to whip me in shape to her liking...but what type of aquarius allows another to change us like that? I can't seem to do that...at least not at the snap of my fingers!

Yeah you're too young to be tied down like that. You're at the age when you should be mingling. That's how you gain the experience to be able to understand relationships more when you get older and actually want to settle down with one woman. I guess this happens to aquarius men at some stage, I assume....?

bigd56...if you suspect she may be asking for more than what you may be willing to give what keeps you around her?

let's evaluate your reasoning...

sometimes i feel like aquas moved based on others actions and evaluate other's feelings, but have a harder time realizing or seeing inside their hearts...

what is it that you think you feel for her?

aside form the facts, the logic, what is it that keeps you around her?

vll

p.s. So LadyM, how are things with the piscis?

BigD..im shocked!! Sure, sew those wild oats of your, just dont do it with a girlfriend in toe cuz that?s just not nice. Anyways, imagine she was doing the same to you? I do it all the time!! Girls get crazy, doesnt mean they?re not playing their man at the same game? Me and n aqua i was dating did the SAME thing. Its not a trust issue, but if you?re throwing this in her face, then you cant blame a woman for losing it.

We?re still friends right? I feel soooo strongly about this is all..mwah x

People arent reading the posts. LOL.

bigd56,

i do think is cool that you came to ask these questions here though, that shows your convern with the situation and your care.

lata,

vll

Ya Bling...sola and some others..I didnt even know you posted.

WTF?? Bling its totally not about wanting a perfect relationship, but if a girl knows her man has several "lady friends", then she?s going to want to feel that she?s a bit more special than the rest. If a "man" cant give his woman what she wants, then he should go back to the ho?s who dont mind being kept on the burner, while the lady in question finds a man who can (and will) give her what she wants.

I did it too, yeah for sure "anything you can do i can do better" etc. Besides, Libras are greedy!

I dont think appreciation is a demand. Any woman knows that hading out kitty is as easy as pie, so why not raise your own bar?

Where the hell is BigD, he has some explaining to do!

ooooooooooohh kkkkkkkk

Ok what?

nothimg. This is just turning into something more than it actaully is, thats all.

LOL @ Bling

Do you get the daily emails too??

...trust me some women do know...then their are the many others....

I get daily emails from urbandictionary.com

they send me new words everyday, just wondering if you get them too??
::wipes tear::

LOL, I have a few in my Fam...I think everyone does.

LOL

meanie...you could vintage punany.

I concur.

guys and legs...

::shrugs::

ROFLLMAO....LOLLERTOWN

of course!

seriously, what is it with long legs?

aaah okkkk 😄 That makes sense I guess.
I like nice strong guy legs myself.

LOL @ thunderthighs...one mans trash, is another mans treasure...

OMG!!

Have you ever had any crowsfoot noggin Bling??

yes, very sturdy legs 😉

LOL, they should be good...experience and all....

ya, dont do it.
Save yourself for the would be cougars.

😛 Your fave 😛

Night Bling.
Dream of me :p😉🙂