Was Aqua woman lying? Or being Manipulative?

Met aqua girl online. She chased me and gave me her number 1 week after speaking. She then begged me to meet up with her same night she gave me her number telling me she'd pay for my transport there and back. I said no. Next day calls asking if she can drop me off a gift to apologsise for begging and making me annoyed. I tell her no because I hardly know her, never met her and it's completely weird.

She has chased me relentlessly. Calling and texting 24/7 and being annoyed when I don't respond fast enough. She has told me she could see herself dating and marrying me and being with me. Has told me she knows she would be good for me and could handle me. She has admitted to having strong feelings for me.

We continue to talk for 3 weeks and we met up 2 weekends ago. We held hands straight away (I grabbed hers and she held on and never tried to release at all). She swerved anyone else that approached her on our night out and then she was all over me physically. Kissing, grabbing and touching my body and sucking on my neck like a vampire in front of everyone. Next day she wanted to see me for ice cream. I denied (I was with my ex gf).

During one phone conversation (after we met up first time) my ex came up in convo and I said "my ex and I will always be friends and she'll always be in my life in one way or another so the next person I date will need to accept it or it can never work". That night we spoke till 3am and she made it clear that as soon as I said that to her "her mind and her heart told her it would never work between us" and she attempted to back away and told me she could never accept that and would never and she wouldn't speak to me again. Next morning I wake up to a text from her. She tells me she couldn't help herself and couldn't stop talking to me and that night, she drives 40mins (from hers to mine) to bring me food because I told her I was stressed and didn't eat.

We continue to talk. Then she again tries to pull away saying she needs to get over her feelings for me which are too strong and it's happened too soon and it's freaking her out and nothing can happen because of what I said about my ex always being in my life. She said as selfish as it is, she can never accept it and it already attached to me. This was Wednesday. We agreed not to speak on Thursday to see how it would make us feel. Friday we talk and she says it was difficult not to speak to me and that she feels stronger than ever for me having that 1 day of no talking but then makes it clear she refuses to see me alone out of fear she won't control her herself due to her feelings and something might happen between us i.e sex.

Friday night she ends up coming out to hang with myself and best friend who she met the first night her and I met up. We happen to run into my ex who's with another girl. I was blind drunk and acted a fool and ran my mouth at my ex and her new girl. The aqua was there, present and saw it all. She was not happy about it. That night she decided to drop me off home first and my friend 2nd and tells my friend that it's probably the last time my friend or I will see her as she cannot speak to me again. Saturday morning she calls me saying we need to talk and says nothing can happen and we can ONLY be friends because I'm not over my ex and my ex will "always be around - she's everywhere". I re assure her nothing will happen and apologise for my mistakes. She says she is happy to be my friend and contact her when I am out on the town but otherwise, we should minimize our contact. Then I go to hang up the phone and she asks me not to because she hates when we aren't speaking. So we speak for longer. Finally get off the phone. I am upset that it's done. She texts me later that night asking if I'll be out. I told her yes and asked where she was and she was already in the same club that she knows I am a local at almost every weekend. We meet up nothing happens and I make advances at her and she hardcore refuses me. She then is crazy flirting with my best friend like complete disrespectful flirting right in front of me and asks me friend for her number my friend says no then asks me if she can give my friend her number I was like "whatever" not wanting to act jealous and so she writes it on a paper and hands it to her.

Sunday morning I ring her upset about the night before and telling her she made me feel and look stupid the way she was flirting and behaving with my friend knowing how I feel about her. She said she made it clear we could only be friends and apologised if she had made me feel a type of way as it wasn't her intention. I told her it's best we don't speak or be friends until I can get over my feelings and that I "need to find a new chick to be interested in to get over you". I said that out of spite but she accepts.

Monday day I text her saying I can't stop thinking about her and want to know if she still has feelings for me. She tells me of course she does and for me not to make it out like everything she has said to me to date was bull***t because she was always honest with me about where she stood and how she felt. Then I said thanks for being honest and I wanted to maintain a friendship as I wanted her in my life in some way and she says she is happy we can have a friendship. That night she private messages my best friend on instagram and starts telling her she's always had eyes for her and she's attractive and catches herself staring at her and that she never led me on and she can't help that I like her but that she doesn't like me back and has no feelings. My friend is completely like WTF and sent me screenshots of everything.

Now I ask - what the hell!?!?!?!?!?

Sun: Aqua

Moon: Taurus

Merc: Aqua

Venus: Capricorn

Mars: Leo

I am:

Sun: Gemini

Moon: Libra

Merc: Gemini

Venus: Cancer

Mars: Cancer

Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

Oh my god! You nailed that on the head!!! The next day after I questioned her about asking for my friend's number she said "I've made it clear to you that you and I are just friends and so I didn't see an issue with asking for the number. Also I asked for your permission before I did". I tried to explain that because I had feelings for her (and tried to show a scenario) it was rude and disrespectful. She sees everything black and white and no in between.

My friend questioned her during their private messaging and told her that her and I were nothing and I have my own issues and problems to deal with and I need time to heal from my last relationship. That she didn't understand why I was trying to jump into something new (i.e with her) when I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship and her in opinion, I was just confused and wanted someone there.

Aqua has previously told me this when she tried running away first time and she came back. She told me she felt like I didn't know what I wanted and I needed time to heal and I told her that yeah I probably did and to wait and she said she wasn't going to wait around for me.

Also on Saturday night just before she began her hurtful flirting with my friend, her and I made eye contact and held it and she told me "stop it. I don't and can't look anyone in the eye but I can with you and it freaks me out. It's so weird". And I just kept staring at her lol. Far out so what now? She knows my friend would tell me EVERYTHING she has told my friend and now that I'm reading the screenshots of their convo, it sounds like as if she has purposely said things to my friend knowing I would see them like to try and annoy me/hurt me. On Sunday I asked her why she was so adamant about having my friend's number and she said that with her ex she didn't have anyone's contact details from his side. Once they broke up the doors were fully closed. She said she wanted my friend's number because that was a door to me and if I ever went "ape sh*t" about anything and tried to block her or what not, she could get through to me through my friend.

Previous to all of this the first night after we met up and we all went out she made it clear that she only had eyes for me and wanted nothing with anyone else. She is a beautiful girl and has people literally throwing themselves at her. She said to me "all the attention in the world doesn't matter unless its from the one you want". She said that to me several times when I asked why she didn't go for all these people throwing themselves at her. Far out. I still like her but all of this has turned me off and I feel like she is being spiteful.

Should I contact her and speak to her calmly and ask what the hell is up? Or should I just let it go and say nothing as to why she is talking to my friend in that sense or said the things she has?

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Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

OK she actually just called me now that she finished work. I missed the call but will call her later tonight. I wonder what she is calling for considering she was being such a savage about me to my friend.

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Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

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Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

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Posted by Chuckcem
Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

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I also have a Leo friend who I have opened up about my emotions and things that go through my mind. we've been friends many years. he tried to date me but I didn't feel that type of connection with him. I've been told to date Leo's. lol

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Posted by Chuckcem
Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

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I also have a Leo friend who I have opened up about my emotions and things that go through my mind. we've been friends many years. he tried to date me but I didn't feel that type of connection with him. I've been told to date Leo's. lol

too much drama and extra crap...

also most Aqua females wont compete.. we walk or fade if there is even the wiff of another female that you "might" be interested in.

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Posted by Chuckcem
Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

I also have a Leo friend who I have opened up about my emotions and things that go through my mind. we've been friends many years. he tried to date me but I didn't feel that type of connection with him. I've been told to date Leo's. lol

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Leo and Aqua is more common than most let on. Problem is both signs are fixed, so while the polarity energy can be attractive, there's like a 50/50 chance the relationship will survive. There's a stubbornness to both signs and neither wants to look weak. Until I found out the Aqua I dated was lying to my face for months, I truly thought she was a rare gem.

If that is the case then I have no idea on earth why she would be calling me? What could she possibly want? This is wayy too dramatic for me and I'm a Gemini !

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Posted by Chuckcem
Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

I also have a Leo friend who I have opened up about my emotions and things that go through my mind. we've been friends many years. he tried to date me but I didn't feel that type of connection with him. I've been told to date Leo's. lol

Leo and Aqua is more common than most let on. Problem is both signs are fixed, so while the polarity energy can be attractive, there's like a 50/50 chance the relationship will survive. There's a stubbornness to both signs and neither wants to look weak. Until I found out the Aqua I dated was lying to my face for months, I truly thought she was a rare gem.

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I'm sorry :/ hope you don't think we are all the same.

My thing with Leo was mostly physical attraction and then we became good friends. 🙂

We tried again a couple years ago but even the chemistry is dead.

But yes, when we like like someone we throw ourselves at them but this rarely happens, so people think that we just throw ourselves at everyone lol

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Oh my god! You nailed that on the head!!! The next day after I questioned her about asking for my friend's number she said "I've made it clear to you that you and I are just friends and so I didn't see an issue with asking for the number. Also I asked for your permission before I did". I tried to explain that because I had feelings for her (and tried to show a scenario) it was rude and disrespectful. She sees everything black and white and no in between.

My friend questioned her during their private messaging and told her that her and I were nothing and I have my own issues and problems to deal with and I need time to heal from my last relationship. That she didn't understand why I was trying to jump into something new (i.e with her) when I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship and her in opinion, I was just confused and wanted someone there.

Aqua has previously told me this when she tried running away first time and she came back. She told me she felt like I didn't know what I wanted and I needed time to heal and I told her that yeah I probably did and to wait and she said she wasn't going to wait around for me.

Also on Saturday night just before she began her hurtful flirting with my friend, her and I made eye contact and held it and she told me "stop it. I don't and can't look anyone in the eye but I can with you and it freaks me out. It's so weird". And I just kept staring at her lol. Far out so what now? She knows my friend would tell me EVERYTHING she has told my friend and now that I'm reading the screenshots of their convo, it sounds like as if she has purposely said things to my friend knowing I would see them like to try and annoy me/hurt me. On Sunday I asked her why she was so adamant about having my friend's number and she said that with her ex she didn't have anyone's contact details from his side. Once they broke up the doors were fully closed. She said she wanted my friend's number because that was a door to me and if I ever went "ape sh*t" about anything and tried to block her or what not, she could get through to me through my friend.

Previous to all of this the first night after we met up and we all went out she made it clear that she only had eyes for me and wanted nothing with anyone else. She is a beautiful girl and has people literally throwing themselves at her. She said to me "all the attention in the world doesn't matter unless its from the one you want". She said that to me several times when I asked why she didn't go for all these people throwing themselves at her. Far out. I still like her but all of this has turned me off and I feel like she is being spiteful.

Should I contact her and speak to her calmly and ask what the hell is up? Or should I just let it go and say nothing as to why she is talking to my friend in that sense or said the things she has?

Aha, so she even told you straight up what she would do. Aquas tend to be a brutally honest bunch. They'll tell you what they are going to do if you ask them directly.

"The next day after I questioned her about asking for my friend's number she said "I've made it clear to you that you and I are just friends and so I didn't see an issue with asking for the number. Also I asked for your permission before I did". I tried to explain that because I had feelings for her (and tried to show a scenario) it was rude and disrespectful. She sees everything black and white and no in between. "

Yep, Aqua is a fixed sign that runs by it's own rules. They aren't known for being great with empathizing on an emotional level either. So when she asked for you friend's number, she absolved herself of all emotional responsibility when you accepted the request. Aquas sometimes need to be told when their actions are hurtful. To them the world and the people in it are in Petri dishes, available to be experimented on and observed. If something hurts you, you literally have to tell them. They'll adjust as long as your request is direct and without expectation.

"She knows my friend would tell me EVERYTHING she has told my friend and now that I'm reading the screenshots of their convo, it sounds like as if she has purposely said things to my friend knowing I would see them like to try and annoy me/hurt me. On Sunday I asked her why she was so adamant about having my friend's number and she said that with her ex she didn't have anyone's contact details from his side. Once they broke up the doors were fully closed. She said she wanted my friend's number because that was a door to me and if I ever went "ape b*tter" about anything and tried to block her or what not, she could get through to me through my friend."

In this case she absolutely knows what she's doing. She even told you that she's keeping doors open in the event things go south between you two. Yes she is using your friend as a conduit as well. Why? Because she knows that she can. Rest assured, if she was completely over you, you'd never hear from her again. She's trying to hurt you because she still cares about you. She's trying to get a reaction from you.

When you speak to her let her know that you're sorry for your actions, that you want to be with her (if that's actually the case) and that you can't be just friends with her because you care about her too much. Let her know too that hitting on your friend after she stopped talking to you makes it hard for you to trust her. Definitely call her out on her behavior and let her know that you can't keep a friend or lover that you can't trust. If she says, "No let's just stay friends," Let her know that you can't do that and to give you a call when she changes her mind. Then you have to walk away and give her space.

I'll let you know right now, she won't like that response. Aquas do not like losing "friends", but clearly this situation isn't really "friendly". Likewise you should figure out your feelings for your ex. You can't start anything new if you're still holding a torch for her. Yes it is messed up that she started talking to your friend, but she clearly let you know that your ex would be an issue. You tried playing it off, but it blew up on you in the end. So really figure out what you want first because hurting an Aqua can be a dangerous thing.

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If that is the case then I have no idea on earth why she would be calling me? What could she possibly want? This is wayy too dramatic for me and I'm a Gemini !

Hahah I was about to say, this has to be a roller coaster for you as a Gemini. She's calling you because she still cares about you. Everything she's done at this point has been to get your attention. She wants you, but doesn't want to look like a fool because now she's also made mistakes. She should've let things go and not talked to your friend. She can't really take the high ground now, so she's making excuses as to why she did it. She's an Aqua so she's playing by her own rules.

So it's up to you, what do you want from her?

Lol @petri dish...😛

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Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

I also have a Leo friend who I have opened up about my emotions and things that go through my mind. we've been friends many years. he tried to date me but I didn't feel that type of connection with him. I've been told to date Leo's. lol

Leo and Aqua is more common than most let on. Problem is both signs are fixed, so while the polarity energy can be attractive, there's like a 50/50 chance the relationship will survive. There's a stubbornness to both signs and neither wants to look weak. Until I found out the Aqua I dated was lying to my face for months, I truly thought she was a rare gem.

I'm sorry :/ hope you don't think we are all the same.

My thing with Leo was mostly physical attraction and then we became good friends. 🙂

We tried again a couple years ago but even the chemistry is dead.

But yes, when we like like someone we throw ourselves at them but this rarely happens, so people think that we just throw ourselves at everyone lol

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Oh she was definitely a bad egg in the bunch. I never judge a whole group based on one bad person though. I've watched an Aqua friend go from a bad relationship to a good one. I can empathize with how your emotional process works.

I've seen far too many Aquas fall for the wrooooong guy, then struggle with being emotionally tied to the guy for years. I got to see that first hand when the Aqua I was dating fell back in with her emotionally abusive ex. Since I was too close to that situation though, I can't feel any sympathy for her, just utter disgust.

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Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

I also have a Leo friend who I have opened up about my emotions and things that go through my mind. we've been friends many years. he tried to date me but I didn't feel that type of connection with him. I've been told to date Leo's. lol

Leo and Aqua is more common than most let on. Problem is both signs are fixed, so while the polarity energy can be attractive, there's like a 50/50 chance the relationship will survive. There's a stubbornness to both signs and neither wants to look weak. Until I found out the Aqua I dated was lying to my face for months, I truly thought she was a rare gem.

I'm sorry :/ hope you don't think we are all the same.

My thing with Leo was mostly physical attraction and then we became good friends. 🙂

We tried again a couple years ago but even the chemistry is dead.

But yes, when we like like someone we throw ourselves at them but this rarely happens, so people think that we just throw ourselves at everyone lol

Oh she was definitely a bad egg in the bunch. I never judge a whole group based on one bad person though. I've watched an Aqua friend go from a bad relationship to a good one. I can empathize with how your emotional process works.

I've seen far too many Aquas fall for the wrooooong guy, then struggle with being emotionally tied to the guy for years. I got to see that first hand when the Aqua I was dating fell back in with her emotionally abusive ex. Since I was too close to that situation though, I can't feel any sympathy for her, just utter disgust.

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Well, is hard to judge when you aren't in her shoes. I myself was in a relationship with an abusive partner of 12 yrs, 3 of them struggling to get help but he didnt.

Chuckcem, dude - you're like an oracle haha. The way you write and the insight you have is mind blowing lolol and you're not even an aqua! I made it clear to her I wanted her and to be with her. She thinks I was just startled at how quickly things between us happened and that I am just wanting someone "there" and now that I actually want her. She's said to me many times "you don't know what you want" and I've said to her I do, I want you.

I really feel like losing my cool and blowing up but I know that won't get us anywhere so I am going to call her once I am calm and have had time to think and just be rational and be able to speak without losing it. The things she said to my friend were terrible and hurtful. Telling her that she was never into me and can't force herself to have feelings for me. That I was never her type but my friend is. That she wants to get to know my friend and not worry about me since we're just friends. That the whole time she has been interested in my friend since the night we all met. Like honestly WTF. Who acts like that!?!?!?!

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Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

I also have a Leo friend who I have opened up about my emotions and things that go through my mind. we've been friends many years. he tried to date me but I didn't feel that type of connection with him. I've been told to date Leo's. lol

Leo and Aqua is more common than most let on. Problem is both signs are fixed, so while the polarity energy can be attractive, there's like a 50/50 chance the relationship will survive. There's a stubbornness to both signs and neither wants to look weak. Until I found out the Aqua I dated was lying to my face for months, I truly thought she was a rare gem.

I'm sorry :/ hope you don't think we are all the same.

My thing with Leo was mostly physical attraction and then we became good friends. 🙂

We tried again a couple years ago but even the chemistry is dead.

But yes, when we like like someone we throw ourselves at them but this rarely happens, so people think that we just throw ourselves at everyone lol

Oh she was definitely a bad egg in the bunch. I never judge a whole group based on one bad person though. I've watched an Aqua friend go from a bad relationship to a good one. I can empathize with how your emotional process works.

I've seen far too many Aquas fall for the wrooooong guy, then struggle with being emotionally tied to the guy for years. I got to see that first hand when the Aqua I was dating fell back in with her emotionally abusive ex. Since I was too close to that situation though, I can't feel any sympathy for her, just utter disgust.

Well, is hard to judge when you aren't in her shoes. I myself was in a relationship with an abusive partner of 12 yrs, 3 of them struggling to get help but he didnt.

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I judge based on the fact that she lied to me and our mutual friends the whole time and then tried to use me. She also tried to publicly humiliate me in front of my friends and our mutual friends (big no no for a Leo), so I returned the favor and burned the bridge.

I simply can't tolerate dishonesty and disloyalty.

Also that she catches herself starting at my friend and that my friend is amazingly good looking and my friend is her type. Tsk tsk tsk. Honestly I thought id be crying over this lol but I'm more confused than ANYTHING because she's told me things that seemed really honestly legitimate and from the bottom of her heart then on Monday afternoon she expressed she does still have feelings for me and then Monday night, she goes and pulls this on my friend. Honestly WTF!

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Chuckcem, dude - you're like an oracle haha. The way you write and the insight you have is mind blowing lolol and you're not even an aqua! I made it clear to her I wanted her and to be with her. She thinks I was just startled at how quickly things between us happened and that I am just wanting someone "there" and now that I actually want her. She's said to me many times "you don't know what you want" and I've said to her I do, I want you.

I really feel like losing my cool and blowing up but I know that won't get us anywhere so I am going to call her once I am calm and have had time to think and just be rational and be able to speak without losing it. The things she said to my friend were terrible and hurtful. Telling her that she was never into me and can't force herself to have feelings for me. That I was never her type but my friend is. That she wants to get to know my friend and not worry about me since we're just friends. That the whole time she has been interested in my friend since the night we all met. Like honestly WTF. Who acts like that!?!?!?!

Man, trust me. Been there before. She's doing that to get a rise out of you, that's all. The calm and collected approach is the best route now. She wants to see your reaction. She may even want you to explode so it makes her actions look justified. Just speak your truth and back away. Your silence will be what really messes with her. You've already seen her try to pull away, only to come back. She's trying to make sense of her own emotions right now. As you can see, she's having a difficult time with it.

I'd personally say, "I care about you and need more time to get over my ex than I thought. For that I'm sorry. However, my friend told me everything that you said to him. He's my friend after all. So as far I know, everything you told me was a complete lie. You told me that you cared about me, then you told him that you were never interested. So for now I think it's best we part ways. If you change your mind let me know, but right now I can't trust a word that you say." (Of course this all depends on what you want.)

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Also that she catches herself starting at my friend and that my friend is amazingly good looking and my friend is her type. Tsk tsk tsk. Honestly I thought id be crying over this lol but I'm more confused than ANYTHING because she's told me things that seemed really honestly legitimate and from the bottom of her heart then on Monday afternoon she expressed she does still have feelings for me and then Monday night, she goes and pulls this on my friend. Honestly WTF!

She's confused and trying to pull too many maneuvers at once.

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Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

I also have a Leo friend who I have opened up about my emotions and things that go through my mind. we've been friends many years. he tried to date me but I didn't feel that type of connection with him. I've been told to date Leo's. lol

Leo and Aqua is more common than most let on. Problem is both signs are fixed, so while the polarity energy can be attractive, there's like a 50/50 chance the relationship will survive. There's a stubbornness to both signs and neither wants to look weak. Until I found out the Aqua I dated was lying to my face for months, I truly thought she was a rare gem.

I'm sorry :/ hope you don't think we are all the same.

My thing with Leo was mostly physical attraction and then we became good friends. 🙂

We tried again a couple years ago but even the chemistry is dead.

But yes, when we like like someone we throw ourselves at them but this rarely happens, so people think that we just throw ourselves at everyone lol

Oh she was definitely a bad egg in the bunch. I never judge a whole group based on one bad person though. I've watched an Aqua friend go from a bad relationship to a good one. I can empathize with how your emotional process works.

I've seen far too many Aquas fall for the wrooooong guy, then struggle with being emotionally tied to the guy for years. I got to see that first hand when the Aqua I was dating fell back in with her emotionally abusive ex. Since I was too close to that situation though, I can't feel any sympathy for her, just utter disgust.

Well, is hard to judge when you aren't in her shoes. I myself was in a relationship with an abusive partner of 12 yrs, 3 of them struggling to get help but he didnt.

I judge based on the fact that she lied to me and our mutual friends the whole time and then tried to use me. She also tried to publicly humiliate me in front of my friends and our mutual friends (big no no for a Leo), so I returned the favor and burned the bridge.

I simply can't tolerate dishonesty and disloyalty.

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oh no! no! no! I agree, that's totally different!! she deserved to lose the friendship.

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Are you asking what happened in the beginning? Or why she's acting the way she is now? Or why she is specifically going after your friend?

It's simple, she REALLY liked you. In fact she imprinted on you pretty fast. The reason why everything was SO intense in the beginning is because when an Aqua falls, they fall HARD. So she was more than willing to make you her everything and love you harder than you could ever be loved. That's not to say that she'd smother you. Aquas are all about freedom too. What you felt was the intensity of the water bearer's emotions.

Problem was, you weren't ready for it. You're keeping your ex around as "friends". Let's be real if you're still hanging around your ex one-on-one, you're not really over her. The Aqua could sense this and let you know it made her uncomfortable. However when you put your foot down, she chose to TRUST you. Why? Because Aquas will give you the benefit of the doubt (100x over) if they truly care about you. However you must keep their trust in tact. You lost her trust the night you saw your ex and acted foolishly.

So you lost her at that point, but Aquas are also known to maintain friendships even with their exes (as long as things didn't end terribly). That was the best offer she could make and you went with it. This was also a trap because when an Aqua is in love and has their heart broken, they will do one of three things. 1) Maintain a friendship...which she tried doing, 2) Block you entirely until she's truly over you, or 3) Get her some good ol' fashioned revenge.

I'm pretty sure you're seeing #1 and #3 playing out right now. She isn't hurt enough to block you, so she wants to keep some connection. However she's still deeply hurt. In her mind, you're no longer a viable possibility but your friend might be. This also shows that deep down she's not totally over you, but she also doesn't trust you enough to try again. I've heard that when/if an Aqua comes back after being betrayed, it's usually not to make peace. Remember Aquas feel deeply. So when you hurt them or anger them, they'll feel that anger way more than you'd anticipate.

Did I mention that Aquas can be cold and detached in general? In a breakup, they can be even colder still. You never had to experience that side of her until now. I've also heard of Aquas going after their exes friends when they've felt betrayed. Her rationale is that the feelings you two shared are now dead and you two are "just friends". In reality what she's saying is, "This is what you wanted right? I don't see the problem then."

How do you know us so well—

Dated one, been friends with others for years. Pretty much it really. Just had enough time to observe the Aqua energy in different scenarios.

I also have a Leo friend who I have opened up about my emotions and things that go through my mind. we've been friends many years. he tried to date me but I didn't feel that type of connection with him. I've been told to date Leo's. lol

Leo and Aqua is more common than most let on. Problem is both signs are fixed, so while the polarity energy can be attractive, there's like a 50/50 chance the relationship will survive. There's a stubbornness to both signs and neither wants to look weak. Until I found out the Aqua I dated was lying to my face for months, I truly thought she was a rare gem.

I'm sorry :/ hope you don't think we are all the same.

My thing with Leo was mostly physical attraction and then we became good friends. 🙂

We tried again a couple years ago but even the chemistry is dead.

But yes, when we like like someone we throw ourselves at them but this rarely happens, so people think that we just throw ourselves at everyone lol

Oh she was definitely a bad egg in the bunch. I never judge a whole group based on one bad person though. I've watched an Aqua friend go from a bad relationship to a good one. I can empathize with how your emotional process works.

I've seen far too many Aquas fall for the wrooooong guy, then struggle with being emotionally tied to the guy for years. I got to see that first hand when the Aqua I was dating fell back in with her emotionally abusive ex. Since I was too close to that situation though, I can't feel any sympathy for her, just utter disgust.

Well, is hard to judge when you aren't in her shoes. I myself was in a relationship with an abusive partner of 12 yrs, 3 of them struggling to get help but he didnt.

I judge based on the fact that she lied to me and our mutual friends the whole time and then tried to use me. She also tried to publicly humiliate me in front of my friends and our mutual friends (big no no for a Leo), so I returned the favor and burned the bridge.

I simply can't tolerate dishonesty and disloyalty.

oh no! no! no! I agree, that's totally different!! she deserved to lose the friendship.

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Yeah it was pretty bad. All of her friends hate her ex (or rather her boyfriend) too, so she lost a few friendships as a result.

omg.

how come you Gemini suns and moons Gemini domiannts are

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crazy!!!



I need some coffee.

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too much drama and extra crap...

also most Aqua females wont compete.. we walk or fade if there is even the wiff of another female that you "might" be interested in.

this I agree with you.

for me,

I wont bother.



this is why the men in the past have chased me. but if I don't like you (for example if the man chasing me is not someone I want chasing me) I will be very honest and tell them straight to leave me alone.

I haven't always chosen great guys in the past,

but I choose what I choose and I learn from those harsh lessons in the past.

I would never choose a man I didn't feel for.



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plus, it's a waste of my time to be with someone that I don't feel the hots for, or have this strong FEELING for him.

even if he is a jerk, and he's HOT to me, you betcha ....he's gonna be mine motherfucker!! mmm mmm!!

but if he's chasing me and I don't like him, get lost!!!! you ugly freak!!

i'm intense that way!!

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omg.

how come you Gemini suns and moons Gemini domiannts are

tl; dr.



crazy!!!



I need some coffee.

Posted by justagirl
too much drama and extra crap...

also most Aqua females wont compete.. we walk or fade if there is even the wiff of another female that you "might" be interested in.

this I agree with you.

for me,

I wont bother.



this is why the men in the past have chased me. but if I don't like you (for example if the man chasing me is not someone I want chasing me) I will be very honest and tell them straight to leave me alone.

I haven't always chosen great guys in the past,

but I choose what I choose and I learn from those harsh lessons in the past.

I would never choose a man I didn't feel for.



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plus, it's a waste of my time to be with someone that I don't feel the hots for, or have this strong FEELING for him.

even if he is a jerk, and he's HOT to me, you betcha ....he's gonna be mine motherfucker!! mmm mmm!!

but if he's chasing me and I don't like him, get lost!!!! you ugly freak!!

i'm intense that way!!

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Totally agree with this. Aqua or not, this relationship is sounding way too dramatic. ( I thought mine was a roller coaster ) there's so much game playing , ego trip, power game, where's the trust , dishonesty here— It's not even love what you guys are feelings, she's over whelmed with lust ... I'm not an Aqua but I have moon in Aqua so I get what is happening... I don't think neither of you are ready for a relationship.... I would say to leave it be now, not even bother with a friendship, things are way too damaged, give it a few more months to solitude and be more rational about what you truly want from one another... 😢 I'm sorry though that was crazy.. how long did that whole scanerio for .. 2 weeks or something?

Posted by lisabethur8
omg.

how come you Gemini suns and moons Gemini domiannts are

tl; dr.



crazy!!!



I need some coffee.

Posted by justagirl
too much drama and extra crap...

also most Aqua females wont compete.. we walk or fade if there is even the wiff of another female that you "might" be interested in.

this I agree with you.

for me,

I wont bother.



this is why the men in the past have chased me. but if I don't like you (for example if the man chasing me is not someone I want chasing me) I will be very honest and tell them straight to leave me alone.

I haven't always chosen great guys in the past,

but I choose what I choose and I learn from those harsh lessons in the past.

I would never choose a man I didn't feel for.



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plus, it's a waste of my time to be with someone that I don't feel the hots for, or have this strong FEELING for him.

even if he is a jerk, and he's HOT to me, you betcha ....he's gonna be mine motherfucker!! mmm mmm!!

but if he's chasing me and I don't like him, get lost!!!! you ugly freak!!

i'm intense that way!!

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Why do u say moon gem r crazy?

Posted by Vageenka
She is so clever. She pulled a Vageenka on you and I'm here for it.

A huge learning lesson for desperate women and men out there chasing someone who isn't giving you the same amount of attention!

No one wants someone who is too available, too desperate, etc. So now the person who you would have been COMPLETELY fine without, you can't stop thinking about since she made you jealous!

Oh how the tables can turn with little Air sign mind games xoxoxo

I like you so much. hahaha

Guys need some advice.. it's been a few weeks since this went down. Her and I continue to speak everyday. I just need some insight as to how to proceed? We've just been talking normally and flirt here and there.

- she is always first to make contact with me

- she texts me good morning and good night every single day

- we text constantly throughout the day and night

- she always responds quickly (unless busy at work)

- she has previously asked me who it is im texting when my phone goes off in front of her

- she wants to add me on all social media

- I've spent every single Friday and Saturday night with her since the night we met and that was almost 2 months ago. Note every weekend has been spent with her but with my friend also as she's never wanted to be alone with me and every weekend she asks me where we're going and what we're doing. I've never asked her to come out with us. It's always her asking me what "our" plans are..

- recently she has started wanting and being OK with being alone with me

- last night we hit the club alone her and I had a good time and got home about 6am

- we flirt here and there. I call her baby sometimes and I heard her on the phone once to some guy who called her that and she cut him down straight away telling him to never call her that again

- sometimes we have intense eye contact and stare at each other a while. She has told me she can never look into anyones eyes but somehow can with me

- she is becoming more touchy feely. The other night she came up behind me and put her arms around me when I was annoyed at her over something

- she gets annoyed when i don't respond to her texts fast enough

- we kissed once (night we met) and the other day we briefly spoke about it and she said she would never go there again but then I saw her 2 days later with my friend and my friend and I werr playing basketball and she said (I was winnning by far) that lets make it challenging and the winner gets to kiss her. I said to her I didnt need a game to kiss her and she said I know but makes it fun. Anyway she was cheering me on the whole time and the pressure got to me and I lost and then I got really jealous and said if you kiss my mate watch what happens. Anyway thats when she was like don't be like that I only proposed it because you were winning and I thought you would because I want to kiss you. I only want to kiss you. And then came up behind me and hugged me.

Anyway all those things in a way tell me she DOES like me but then she:

- tells me about other people that she finds hot and other people she talks to

- she tells me she wants to kiss these other people she finds attractive

- she never dances with me at the club. I asked her why last night and she said because when I dance with her i'm very sexual and give off a vibe and I told her I dance sexual with everyone (which she knows and has seen) and then she said yeah but when you dance with me I get this vibe this energy and it just makes me cringe. And then I was like wow.. breaking my heart! And we laughed and kept talking about random things. However when she had been drunk she has been all over me in my space and rubbing herself on me and wanting me to give her lap dances.. so this all confuses me

- she goes out on "dates" with other people but it never works out and she stops talking to them after a few dates and I get the feeling that she is just seeing and talking to other people to kill time

What do I do? The other night I told her (after my friend and I played basketball and the kissing comp situation in which they never ended up kissing) that i was shocked I got so weird about it.. and that I didn't want to admit it but in a weird way (and I knew we were just friends) but I saw her as being mine. And her response was "woooow, thats deeeeeeeep" and I didnt respond. She text 30mins later saying she couldn't keep her eyes open any longer and was going to sleep and wished me a goodnight. I text her next day and she was annoyed that I hadn't responded to her text the night before and had left her hanging. I told her I felt awkward after admitting I felt like she is mine and I wasn't sure what to respond and she said 'you could have at least said goodnight'.

We went out last night and her phone completely broke and was unusable. When she dropped me home she said "you won't hear from me for a bit" and then I wake up hours later to a snapchat message from her saying "Natt this was the only way to contact you. I found an old phone and put my sim card in it but none of my contacts transferred through".

Guys.. is she still interested as something MORE or does she just see me as a friend—