What do I do now?

I posted recently about how I recently reconnected with aqua ex.
I went to visit him and he was really keen to see me, kept telling me how much he was looking forward to it how he really wanted to see me..etc.

When we saw eachother it was amazing, he was loving and wonderful. He was also very open with me, bringing up the good times and apologising for his mistakes etc...
The next day he was a bit off with me, and I couldn't work out why he could change so much. We got drunk and I broke down, cried to him told him my feelings for him were returning and asked him if he did. He said he did but didn't want to let them grow because I live so far, and he's not in a good place for a relationship now.
I told him we didn't have to be in a relationship now, I just wanted to get to know him again, see him again and have him in my life as he was so special to me... I feel a very strong connection with him, no matter how many years go by, how far we are away from eachother..I will always feel connected to him, and I was so happy to have him in my life again.

He turned cold with me, and said he couldn't be normal with me. He went from kissing me, being affectionate, making love to me, being open and fun... to not even being able to look at me, he was so cold, closed and when he looked at me he had a pained look on his face.

When I left the next day though he hugged me tight and kissed me, and told me he wished it hadn't end up like this. I don't know if this means he has feelings or not.. I don't know if my emotional outburst just freaked him out.


Anyway, my dilemma is that I'm going to his city for work in 2 weeks... The last contact we had was I sent him a message apologising for my emotional outburst and told him I'd give him time and space... He didn't respond and its been 3 weeks now.

Do I reach out again and tell him I'm coming to his city and ask if he wants to meet and put what happened behind us and be friends? It gets really lonely travelling for work, so it would be really good to see a face I know (he's the only person I know in his city).

Thing is, I have no idea how he's feeling. No idea if he's still upset about what happened.. No idea if he genuinely has feelings, no idea if he'd want to see me again. I want him to be the person he was when he was being lovely and open, not the cold closed one he was being after my emotional outburst.

I don't want his last memory of me being this emotional mad woman, I'd like to see him, explai

....I don't want his last memory of me being this emotional mad woman, I'd like to see him, explain why I was like that and hope we can put it behind us.. Do I reach out or leave it? I get a month isn't that much time... but he was sooo keen to see me before, I don't understand how he can change so much and not want to see me again?

Can any aquas share their insight?

Posted by starlover
I am a water sign

Was with two Aqua men

Not bad people ~ but very freedom loving and distant


I think you know what to do water lady

No, i dont know... Thats why im here asking. I think i know i shouldnt contact again.
But i dont know if i will have a chance to see him again any time soon

Posted by cancerrose

Posted by starlover
I am a water sign

Was with two Aqua men

Not bad people ~ but very freedom loving and distant


I think you know what to do water lady

No, i dont know... Thats why im here asking. I think i know i shouldnt contact again.
But i dont know if i will have a chance to see him again any time soon

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Sweetheart the more u reach out the more distant he will be i know it hurts but give him his space don't let him c u r soley dependent on him to feel happy u never know maybe he feels like he made a mistake or maybe he was afraid of the emotional outburst

I'm running away from you just reading this....Get a hold of yourself.

Say thank you for a wonderful time. It was the alcohol talking. Look forward for a better time in the future...then leave him alone...Poor man.....

Posted by Gobshite
*yawns*

Just move on, will ya!

+1

i dont know what to say to this topic.

except others have already said it.

If he wanted you, you'd have already known it. Men don't want to lose something they want very badly.

It's very simple.

Posted by cancerrose
....I don't want his last memory of me being this emotional mad woman, I'd like to see him, explain why I was like that and hope we can put it behind us.. Do I reach out or leave it? I get a month isn't that much time... but he was sooo keen to see me before, I don't understand how he can change so much and not want to see me again?

Can any aquas share their insight?

also noticed this with other sun signs. So it's not just this sun sign either.

If you notice in the other boards...same thing. A man isn't showing you want he wants, wants to be with you, you need to just move on.

It's hard, but you can do it. No man is ever worth that kind of misery. He should be making YOU happy.

Posted by Curiousram

Posted by starlover
I am a water sign

Was with two Aqua men

Not bad people ~ but very freedom loving and distant


I think you know what to do water lady

My moms a aqua moon and her husband was a cancer moon. It ended very badly.. he was needy and clingy and she was free spirited. He never let her go out or do things.. in my opinion this is an awful match

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Hey CuriousRam,
What were their sun signs?

Thanks all for the replies. I get I come across a bit desperate on here, and really I'm not like that in real life. I've never been clingy in other relationships, just with this guy I thought he was the one and it hurt a lot when we broke up.

When I saw him again, he was being so amazing, bringing up the good times, apologising for his mistakes. Even saying he could see how his 'aloofness' and not being so open with me made me insecure in our relationship. Which shocked me that he realised because I always thought he just thought I was mad for feeling that way.
Evereything he was saying, and the way he was acting was exactly how he used to be when he was in love with me... which obviously made me think he felt somehting again and wanted to try to start things up again.

So the next day when he suddenly became off, I was soo confused. I couldn't understand how he could be the way he was the night before and then change so suddenly. Which is why I had to tell him how I felt. I guess I could have held it in and not said anything, but the alcohol made me spill everything out.

He told me he still feels attraction, a connection and chemistry... and we agreed we still get on and enjoy the same things... Which is why I felt so confused as to how he could walk away from his feelings and not let them grow. I know he said hes not in a good place right now for a relationship and I guess that is the main reason for holding him back, but I was afraid it was because of my emotional outburst that scared him which is why I felt the need to 'fix' things.

I won't reach out again though, I get he needs his space... and maybe he genuinely just sees no future with me.. but then why say all the nice things he was saying... such a head f**k

Posted by cancerrose
Thanks all for the replies. I get I come across a bit desperate on here, and really I'm not like that in real life. I've never been clingy in other relationships, just with this guy I thought he was the one and it hurt a lot when we broke up.

When I saw him again, he was being so amazing, bringing up the good times, apologising for his mistakes. Even saying he could see how his 'aloofness' and not being so open with me made me insecure in our relationship. Which shocked me that he realised because I always thought he just thought I was mad for feeling that way.
Evereything he was saying, and the way he was acting was exactly how he used to be when he was in love with me... which obviously made me think he felt somehting again and wanted to try to start things up again.

So the next day when he suddenly became off, I was soo confused. I couldn't understand how he could be the way he was the night before and then change so suddenly. Which is why I had to tell him how I felt. I guess I could have held it in and not said anything, but the alcohol made me spill everything out.

He told me he still feels attraction, a connection and chemistry... and we agreed we still get on and enjoy the same things... Which is why I felt so confused as to how he could walk away from his feelings and not let them grow. I know he said hes not in a good place right now for a relationship and I guess that is the main reason for holding him back, but I was afraid it was because of my emotional outburst that scared him which is why I felt the need to 'fix' things.
I won't reach out again though, I get he needs his space... and maybe he genuinely just sees no future with me.. but then why say all the nice things he was saying... such a head f**k

don't be fooled by flowery words of man. He may say NICE things but if he aint backing it up with ACTIONS. Forget it. Don't be like all those thousands of women out there falling head over heels for some man who says flowery words and don't back it up with ACTION. You need to know a man is going to be with you and want you for you.

He sounds like he's HOT and COLD. similar to alot of men who don't have their shit together OR, wants to romance and be partnered with someone but has alot of insecurity because he can't provide for you in the future if you marry and have children. A man usually thinks of these things if h

if he is a man of substance and wants a future. Not fly by night casanova bullshit.

if you want temporary fly by night stuff, these type of guys will be good for you. Honestly it's not for you and those types are gross.