What is Aquarius fixation like?

I am really curious what it is like when an aquarius fixates on someone. I witnessed the Leo fixation as an outsider looking in and wanted to get the aqua's point of view of what it is like when they fixation. Also, anyone who's had an aqua fixate on them or witnessed an aqua fixate on someone is welcome to post too, of course.




(And, for those who are curious: No, this has nothing to do with me and my aqua.)

Posted by cheekyfaerie
This is gonna sound wrong and i mean absolutely no disrespect, but the only people i've known Aqua suns to fixate on is themselves.

well aren't your ex's scorpio moons?

What do you mean on themselves? Like being vain and looking in the mirror all the time?

Posted by truecap
I am really curious what it is like when an aquarius fixates on someone. I witnessed the Leo fixation as an outsider looking in and wanted to get the aqua's point of view of what it is like when they fixation. Also, anyone who's had an aqua fixate on them or witnessed an aqua fixate on someone is welcome to post too, of course.




(And, for those who are curious: No, this has nothing to do with me and my aqua.)

well what do you wanna know?

Fixed is fixed right?

If i study on something I'll get fixed on that project and I wont stray from it. If I'm tired and need a break, a take a break..sometimes the break is long and sometimes very short.

Is that what you want to know?

I agree to some extent an aqua would most likely look after themselves first and foremost as that's the most important step in other things. So I can see that as a fixation on ourselves.

The other post however which sorta made me smile a little is that (or at least the ones I know) can spread themselves too thin in helping others. Once the first is taken care of.

I've not noticed aqua fixation outwardly other than that. I think I'm more noticeable than others just given my uncontrollable actions, so for me a touch, the way I speak to that person, the amount of time I dedicate to them can be proportionate to my fixation for them.

Personally never really over the top if I deem a one sided fixation from me, perhaps subtle in that no overly romantic gestures and just a lot more face time or accommodating my schedule to them so I can learn more about them. After confirmation then it's all on, better be prepared for the can of worms you just opened because my fixation for you will become public knowledge lol.

So yeah, lots of digging, lots of research prior to exposing any signs of fixation, methodical, I think the only catch is we need to be in distance to observe. On the inside, my pisces mind will be melting away at the fantasies (no dirty stuff!).

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Posted by truecap
I am really curious what it is like when an aquarius fixates on someone. I witnessed the Leo fixation as an outsider looking in and wanted to get the aqua's point of view of what it is like when they fixation. Also, anyone who's had an aqua fixate on them or witnessed an aqua fixate on someone is welcome to post too, of course.




(And, for those who are curious: No, this has nothing to do with me and my aqua.)

well what do you wanna know?

Fixed is fixed right?

If i study on something I'll get fixed on that project and I wont stray from it. If I'm tired and need a break, a take a break..sometimes the break is long and sometimes very short.

Is that what you want to know?

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Reminds me of the time I was fixated on solving the rubik's cube. I eventually did it after 2 months but my gf at the time made it very clear that she felt neglected and called it the stupid cube that stole my boyfriend.

well i was talking about work.

if i work i fixate on work, getting the job done till i'm done.

Projects like doing artsy stuff isn't really important. I can fixate it but there's a time and place to set it down, and not get fixated to the point of exhaustion. I know its going to be there tomorrow if i want to pick up on it. It's not going anywhere. Unless it decides to sprout legs and run.

hmmm but i get what you mean...

for example if my the project INSPIRES something very imaginative and it has to be put down/placed down i have to hurry or if i can't hurry, i write it down, make sure the thought is never lost. Because if i can't "Capture" it...immediately I'll go cray cray...I need to make sure it's there for another time, and pick up the project again so the inspiration is brought back to life. if that makes sense?

Well, the Leo I helped talk through a break up was consumed with thoughts of this woman. Every gesture/word meant something he had to analyze. He couldn't get over her and kept trying long after it was obvious to everyone else that she no longer wanted to be with him. He wanted to know everything about what she was doing, etc. He would talk about her to no end.

Of course Leos are more external, and aquas are more internal deep down, so I thought there was probably a difference.

I need to check with the Taurus's too.

I'm pretty relentless with projects 😛 I think my fixation is unhealthy at times. Say the artsy example if I start a project then I can stay up few days in a row to get a particular part done but I blame that on my need for perfection. I think I need to physically step away from it lol.

With people it's a bit different obviously but same principle it's just that well... people can walk away because they have their own lives.

Posted by truecap
Well, the Leo I helped talk through a break up was consumed with thoughts of this woman. Every gesture/word meant something he had to analyze. He couldn't get over her and kept trying long after it was obvious to everyone else that she no longer wanted to be with him. He wanted to know everything about what she was doing, etc. He would talk about her to no end.

He was in love with the IDEA of her. He placed her on this pedastal....this idealism of his "perfect" beautiful woman. Something that is unattainable....

when you can't get someone and that beautiful idealistic form is trapped in your mind and heart, you want to capture it forever, but it's not going to be captured so therefore it is elusive.

It's just obsession.

Posted by truecap
Well, the Leo I helped talk through a break up was consumed with thoughts of this woman. Every gesture/word meant something he had to analyze. He couldn't get over her and kept trying long after it was obvious to everyone else that she no longer wanted to be with him. He wanted to know everything about what she was doing, etc. He would talk about her to no end.

Hmm I can only use myself as an example but when I broke up with my ex, the one I had the 5 year relationship with, emotionally and internally I was fixated. I don't know if it was pride or something that stopped me from talking about it with anyone. I figured it was one of those things better not talked about until all the emotion can subside but I became a hermit for a year in the process. I proceeded to erase her from memory and never spoke about her again.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
This is gonna sound wrong and i mean absolutely no disrespect, but the only people i've known Aqua suns to fixate on is themselves.

well aren't your ex's scorpio moons?

What do you mean on themselves? Like being vain and looking in the mirror all the time?

I mean when the stewardess tells you to put your oxygen mask on first, you were prolly gonna do it anyway. 😄

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is this a test? LOL

if you have children, you do theirs first. DUH.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Yes, they were Scorp moons. I have Aqua Venus, which may qualify me to answer since i think she was referring to romantic infatuation, but i'm pretty sure it's all muddled up with my Scorpy bits.

Posted by aquasnoz
I agree to some extent an aqua would most likely look after themselves first and foremost as that's the most important step in other things. So I can see that as a fixation on ourselves.

That's what i meant, yes. My husband courted me, but he certainly didn't fixate on me. My best guy friend's wife is cheating on him and probably ending their marriage. His thoughts aren't about her or the other guy near as much as they are about himself.

You guys tend to think inwards instead of outwards, if that makes sense. Maybe i'm off base, just an observation.

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Well your relationships weren't all Aquas with Scorpio moons, so obviously ...........meh well.....i dunno .... 😛

Nah totally on point cheeky, I think even for me I would rather think about myself in that situation. Though my philosophy has always been or at least morphed into that my mindset and is the only one I can control, fixation on matter outside of it is a wasted energy.

Going back to Trucaps instance with the Leo. That year the fixation was dealing with what I did wrong and that's till inwards thinking. It was one of those instances where you sorta realise the girl you loved completely betrayed your trust and there's no helping emotional outbursts so you lock yourself away until you can make sense of it all.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
This is gonna sound wrong and i mean absolutely no disrespect, but the only people i've known Aqua suns to fixate on is themselves.

well aren't your ex's scorpio moons?

What do you mean on themselves? Like being vain and looking in the mirror all the time?

I mean when the stewardess tells you to put your oxygen mask on first, you were prolly gonna do it anyway. 😄

is this a test? LOL

if you have children, you do theirs first. DUH.

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You're no help to your kids if YOU pass out.

Posted by truecap

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by cheekyfaerie
This is gonna sound wrong and i mean absolutely no disrespect, but the only people i've known Aqua suns to fixate on is themselves.

well aren't your ex's scorpio moons?

What do you mean on themselves? Like being vain and looking in the mirror all the time?

I mean when the stewardess tells you to put your oxygen mask on first, you were prolly gonna do it anyway. 😄

is this a test? LOL

if you have children, you do theirs first. DUH.

You're no help to your kids if YOU pass out.

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In the airplane they say to put your mask on first though, then do your kids. True.
So yeah, *nods*
I'm just suspicious today for some reason.

(blames scorpio moon today) *shakes fist* 😛

Okay, we covered projects. And work. And break ups.

What about fixating on someone you like and want as more than friends, but know you can't have?

Let me think and I'll come up with some different scenarios.

Posted by truecap
Okay, we covered projects. And work. And break ups.

What about fixating on someone you like and want as more than friends, but know you can't have?

Let me think and I'll come up with some different scenarios.

Ugh. Forget it.

If a person doesn't want me, I dont want them. Seriously. I'd rather be ALONE than be with someone who doesn't want me.

I dont know about other people though. I guess I do have pride after all. Cause I feel grossed out with myself otherwise.

It's fascinating to get this perspective. As a cardinal sign, its about action. Action to climb the ladder, action to get what you want, action in a breakup. Where, yes, there is inner turmoil, there is also comfort in action, knowing you're doing something about it.

but then again i've had people in the past that wanted me desperately and i dont want them at all. It's ANNOYING.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by truecap
Okay, we covered projects. And work. And break ups.

What about fixating on someone you like and want as more than friends, but know you can't have?

Let me think and I'll come up with some different scenarios.

Ugh. Forget it.

If a person doesn't want me, I dont want them. Seriously. I'd rather be ALONE than be with someone who doesn't want me.

I dont know about other people though. I guess I do have pride after all. Cause I feel grossed out with myself otherwise.

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I didn't mean actually being with that person. I meant like unrequieted love or desire - like being in love with a best friend.

Since you're asking aquas, and aqua energy, how about you all? Have the same problems? or do you fixate on other people even if they dont want you? Like the Leo who fixated on that woman scenerio.

Eh... maybe I'm getting off target.

A scenario would be good lol!

But still I think it's the methodical approach, not sure if it's with all aquas but at the top of my list it's usually "Are they single and available" if that's not checked, I'd have no interest.

ON the very rare occasion if I develop anything further I'd try to change it into a friendship sort of love. If it's physical (it has happened before) I just disappear from their lives for my own sanity.

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Posted by truecap
Okay, we covered projects. And work. And break ups.

What about fixating on someone you like and want as more than friends, but know you can't have?

Let me think and I'll come up with some different scenarios.

Ugh. Forget it.

If a person doesn't want me, I dont want them. Seriously. I'd rather be ALONE than be with someone who doesn't want me.

I dont know about other people though. I guess I do have pride after all. Cause I feel grossed out with myself otherwise.

I didn't mean actually being with that person. I meant like unrequieted love or desire - like being in love with a best friend.

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Uh no. refer to my other post. Once it's done it's done. I want nothing to do with that person. Done and DONE.

Posted by aquasnoz
A scenario would be good lol!

But still I think it's the methodical approach, not sure if it's with all aquas but at the top of my list it's usually "Are they single and available" if that's not checked, I'd have no interest.

ON the very rare occasion if I develop anything further I'd try to change it into a friendship sort of love. If it's physical (it has happened before) I just disappear from their lives for my own sanity.

i know this is gonna sound stupid as hell, but truthfully in real life i never had any problems with men chasing me. god that sounds so effing VAIN. gross.

but i have to be honest. I just had them "Gravitate" to me.....and you know what? I hated it cause you get all kinds of weirdos too, it's NOT a good thing/energy to have ...it makes you cry.

Posted by lisabethur8
Since you're asking aquas, and aqua energy, how about you all? Have the same problems? or do you fixate on other people even if they dont want you? Like the Leo who fixated on that woman scenerio.

Cardinal signs are more about action than fixating. Well, I can only speak for myself, but we will take action to break it off, destroy the bridge, build a bridge, add rungs on the ladder, work out a way to get what we want. I guess in a break up, we will freeze the thought process and push the thoughts out, take steps to avoid, burn the pictures, throw plates against the wall, but we will take some kind of action. I suppose its different from Aries and Cancer and Libra, but yet if you look hard, I think it'd be a little similar, just different ways of going about the action.

Yeah in that sense I almost want to say my Cap Merc have a say in this. I need mental stability and stability in general and the easiest way throw it out of whack is not following my own rules which is never to chase after an unavailable girl so fixations rarely happen.

Example I can think of is when I was much younger, got a bit drunk at a house party had fallen asleep then to have the girl which fits your criteria climb into the bed. I won't lie I seriously entertained the idea but the thought of betraying my gf at the time compelled me to leave the room while been compeltely intoxicated. Followed by never contacting her again and avoiding her altogether.

Nowadays it's easy for me to pick up these vibes and I avoid situations like this. I'd rather make the right choice for the right girl than regretting a decision because I want to get laid.

i don't know but i think i caught it

Posted by truecap
I am really curious what it is like when an aquarius fixates on someone. (And, for those who are curious: No, this has nothing to do with me and my aqua.)

When I'm fixated on someone or really anything, that person/thing has my undivided attention.

The side of me that says, "If you want it, go get it, it's yours" comes out. And an extra dose of confidence springs out of me

When I intellectually AND emotionally decide I'm truly interested in someone (not just half interested or still unsure, but fully interested):

*Suddenly I'm all ears to anything they have to say
*I make sure I never miss their calls
*I start becoming aware of how I'm coming off to them & how they perceive me b/c I start to value their opinion
*I don't blow them off or make excuses
*I open up as much as they demand me to
*The logical side in me starts to move over & make room for emotions too (not just my brain working, but my feelings too now)
*I start paying attention to everything they do. (Not b/c I'm trying to be nosy or fault-finding but b/c you can tell when an Aquarian really likes you when they actually wanna know everything about you past just general conversation)
*I start casually mentioning your name & how you make me feel to my small circle of friends
*I may not be fully willing to go into the clouds with them just yet, but I'm at least willing to get on the plane)

I can keep going on & on on!

But this is what I mean when I say that people shouldn't be as confused with Aquarians as they are about whether they're Aqua is into them! When an Aqua is really fixated on/into someone, it shows!!!!!

Not only does the person start noticing, so does the people close to the Aquarian

Posted by james tate
i don't know but i think i caught it

LOL

Posted by cheekyfaerie

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Posted by lisabethur8
Since you're asking aquas, and aqua energy, how about you all? Have the same problems? or do you fixate on other people even if they dont want you? Like the Leo who fixated on that woman scenerio.

Cardinal signs are more about action than fixating. Well, I can only speak for myself, but we will take action to break it off, destroy the bridge, build a bridge, add rungs on the ladder, work out a way to get what we want. I guess in a break up, we will freeze the thought process and push the thoughts out, take steps to avoid, burn the pictures, throw plates against the wall, but we will take some kind of action. I suppose its different from Aries and Cancer and Libra, but yet if you look hard, I think it'd be a little similar, just different ways of going about the action.

My asc, moon and Venus are in fixed signs. I definitely fixate/obsess.

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Do you feel inner conflict sometimes?

Now that you mention it, I have the venus scorp who speaks up occasionally, but the triple cap in me duct tapes her mouth and shoves her in the locker sometimes. The aqua mars just fixates I guess on the demensions of the bridge and the design of the ladder. lol!!!

Posted by aquasnoz
Yeah in that sense I almost want to say my Cap Merc have a say in this. I need mental stability and stability in general and the easiest way throw it out of whack is not following my own rules which is never to chase after an unavailable girl so fixations rarely happen.

Example I can think of is when I was much younger, got a bit drunk at a house party had fallen asleep then to have the girl which fits your criteria climb into the bed. I won't lie I seriously entertained the idea but the thought of betraying my gf at the time compelled me to leave the room while been compeltely intoxicated. Followed by never contacting her again and avoiding her altogether.

Nowadays it's easy for me to pick up these vibes and I avoid situations like this. I'd rather make the right choice for the right girl than regretting a decision because I want to get laid.

that cap merc can be a real pain huh? it's similar to cancer mercury (opposites but similar)

Honestly, that's good that you "felt" that because it showed you are human and have DESIRES. but at the same time, have a good "control" of yourself, because you know where your heart lie. That's quite commendable. Most men won't "control" their urges and just dive in, not caring about the consequences.

Cheeky i read that if you have squares in your love signs (Your moon square venus) it's going to be very difficult. But i also read opposites too, like moon opposite sun, moon opposite venus, ect.

they're all part of you. Accept it, it's hard but as corny as this sounds....love all those parts of you, hate it, love it, hate it, love it....it's gonna stay there.

I'm not sure I understand... maybe cause I'm much more cardinal than fixed, idk.

Ummm I am an Aqua and I do love the hell out of myself. People will tell you a ton of things but as an Aqua it gets deeper than you can imagine. Our fixations get so deep sometimes that we have to turn off everything and just love ourselves to get over it. SOme of us have to hate you with every fiber of our being to stop loving you. But of course believe what you will. As astrology has it we don't like to be crowded or to emotional in relationships. We do that's why it is so hard for us to give away our true affections.

I fixate when I'm into someone, its what I do to get their attention, its very subtle at first and I love driving myself mad wondering about all the possibilities , eventually I get so built up with tantric energy the next thing I know we are in bed having amazing sex 🙂

Wow I'm learning so much about you aqua....