What makes ou clingy or insecure?

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Do you feel that way when someone isn't chasing you?
I can get a tiny bit clingy in the talk to me kind of way. If I really like the person. I have no problem chasing or being chased( as long as they are pursuing me). Not big fan of 24/7 communication.
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He says we don't spend enough time together and he is used to girls chasing him maybe it is an ego thing? But he makes it sound like I am making him insecure.
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Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
Posted by ladylibra21
Do you feel that way when someone isn't chasing you?
I can get a tiny bit clingy in the talk to me kind of way. If I really like the person. I have no problem chasing or being chased( as long as they are pursuing me). Not big fan of 24/7 communication.

He says we don't spend enough time together and he is used to girls chasing him maybe it is an ego thing? But he makes it sound like I am making him insecure.

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What he means is give him compliments and ask him to do stuff with you.
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Posted by Happy_Aqua
It depends.

If I really, really like someone and would like for us to have a relationship, it can make me insecure when my affection is not reciprocated, or when I feel it's not reciprocated.

If I'm in love, I can become clingy and needy because I would love to be close to that person and spend as much time together as possible.

The clingyness usually doesn't stay though. It's usually only in the beginning and caused by insecurity as well. Not knowing where you stand with the other person, yet feeling the attraction. It's tense.


That's what I think is going on he says it scares him how much he likes me but he feels I am distant and not into him. I do like him but I wasted a year and a half on a Cap that couldn't be bothered and he knows this in turn this put me in a mood to be focused on myself. It is still new so o don't want to loose site of my goals and it may take me a bit longer to warm up because I have never dated a guy like him before. He is used to girls chasing him and I am not doing that so he feels it's not reciprocated but it is I am just not on the sake level of reciprocation.