Emotional withdrawal

Even though, I notice it's a pattern, and always wait for him to push through, I'm just trying to make sense of his actions. Why does he withdraw so instantly? Is this a common trait? Tips for me to hopefully make his hot and cold, less heat, less ice cold, and maybe more lukewarm lol consistency is nice

I understand that he is who he is, but balance is nice too....

Just any advice please

Is it a possibility that you get intense for him and then he needs a time out to reset and come back?

What is your sign?

Posted by MrR78
Is it a possibility that you get intense for him and then he needs a time out to reset and come back?

What is your sign?

I'm a Libra.

I do make a conscious effort into not smothering him, even the most affectionate person needs space. I don't know it's like a switch goes off or something. Hard to explain, he is just suddenly very unemotional

Posted by Ladyluck31
Even though, I notice it's a pattern, and always wait for him to push through, I'm just trying to make sense of his actions. Why does he withdraw so instantly? Is this a common trait? Tips for me to hopefully make his hot and cold, less heat, less ice cold, and maybe more lukewarm lol consistency is nice

I understand that he is who he is, but balance is nice too....

Just any advice please

there are no tips for you. he is being himself.

i think you should deal with it lol.

Absolutely typical. Just search the forum for "Aquarius distant" and you'll get the jist.

Posted by AerialView

Posted by Ladyluck31
Even though, I notice it's a pattern, and always wait for him to push through, I'm just trying to make sense of his actions. Why does he withdraw so instantly? Is this a common trait? Tips for me to hopefully make his hot and cold, less heat, less ice cold, and maybe more lukewarm lol consistency is nice

I understand that he is who he is, but balance is nice too....

Just any advice please

there are no tips for you. he is being himself.

i think you should deal with it lol.

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hehe.. great advice . You can't change who he is, you need to change who you r being ( reacting, feeling, doing) when he is being that way. The only thing that might work is to not make it too intense so the push n pull isn't too big? Like gradually growing together rather than too heavy so quickly .. I don't know lol

Posted by sultrykitty
Absolutely typical. Just search the forum for "Aquarius distant" and you'll get the jist.

Or a book list 😉 or a whole library about it lol

Posted by Happy_Aqua
I recognize some of his behaviour...you have to understand that Aquarius is independant and logic, and not so much emotional. If someone expresses too many emotions to me, or I get real emotional myself, I get overwhelmed easily and tend to withdraw.

It's a way to process the emotions, because for an Aqua, it takes time to process emotions and let them fade. After that we are ready for new emotions, so to speak, and that is why he comes back after it. Speaking for myself, this counts for ALL emotions, positive or negative. I don't think we are very good at sharing emotions with people to create a bond.

It doesn't mean I don't love you, it just means I need space and alone time to recharge. I only trust a few people with my emotions and I will express them freely when I am around them. But that is because they are family or because they have proven to me they understand my emotions and handled them with care.

Love this. 😉