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Out of curiosity, would you expect to be contacted? Or have us wait until you are ready to contact us?

And, on average, how many times do you guys do the disappearing act and how long do they usually last?

Do you take the interest for granted? Or do you just not care?

I apologize if this subject has been beat to the ground and answered multiple times on these boards. I'm just trying to figure you guys out. Thanks for your thoughts. They are very much appreciated.

I get that being in a relationship with an Aqua is not for the weak-hearted. You guys are a challenge, and thats part of the fun of it. 🙂

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Out of curiosity, would you expect to be contacted? Or have us wait until you are ready to contact us?
- ehh i usually expect the other to contact me haha ... but if i realize that i owe you a few texts then i wouldn't mind harassing your phone 😄 that is if i like you.
- now if he hasn't answer any of your text/calls.... don't overdo it.... wait for him to message you.

And, on average, how many times do you guys do the disappearing act and how long do they usually last?
-most aquarius' do this unintentionally. but when it happens, it can be for a good month or two. at least for me.
-but sometimes if he does disappear it could mean he just lost interest. < hard to know


Do you take the interest for granted? Or do you just not care?
- people that i do care about are treated the same as the ones i don't give a crap about... (i know i should change this) haha
- i blow hot & cold and I'm sure i can blame my gemini moon but i feel like every one's like this to a degree. so no its not that we don't care but at that momentt in time ... we just don't care.


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I'm a Cap and I can go days without contacting anyone - busy, distracted, lazy, introspective, whatever the reason. I need my personal space and freedom, too. So I understand it and don't take it personally.

Whenever I do call/text, I get a fairly quick answer or a friendly response. Sometimes I wait to see if he will contact me. Eventually, he will. If he's into me, he'll contact me and if he's not, he won't.

Its just hard to tell whether he's into me sometimes, then other times, its obvious he is.

Problem is being a Cap and a cardinal sign, I want what I want and try not to pushy. Difficult for me, hahahaha! (I'm afraid of being classified as too forward). However, I do have patience and don't give up easily.



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In my observation, Aquas disappear and reappear for the following reasons in relationship:

a. There is a comfort level, even if the relationship is/was/and always will be toxic as hell.
b. The other person lifted them to new heights and the Aqua freaked out bc it was they didn't have their act together.
c. The other person is just a fallback pawn to them.

If you are in situation a or c, the Aqua will eventually stop coming around.

For those in situation b, you may never get rid of the Aqua no matter how assertive you get.
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Looks like all the Aquas dissapeared before they could answer lol

When Im hurting I don't want to talk to anyone. When Im way happy I talk to everyone.
We withdraw and sulk. We overthink like you Caps.
Sometimes we dissapear to see if you really care.
Also we're loners..we like our time alone also like Caps (figures youre the sign before us.)
If we don't get that time, we take it.
But something tempting can bring us around..something neet or offbeat or expensive or progressive.
Curiosity is like a disease when youre an Aquarius! 😛😛
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If he really cared he'd stay though. There's always that one girl, one girl, that each air sign guy loves. If he's not glued to you, it's someone else. -_- And even those women get frustrated with them, seems like. Air sign men are like teenage boys, forever. It's nice, at first.....then you want them to get serious, and they don't

So true! both of my serious relationships were with air signs..an aqua and a libra..and was that one girl...they were glued to me but yet sometimes would flutter off from time to time just being them which would frustrate me a bit lol..
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My aqua, doesnt ever do disappearing acts. He sometimes likes to have time to himself, or go out with friends, or go on vacations but I always know where he is and he always keeps in contact. He has never been gone for more than 2 days.
The only exceptions were when we were fighting and I didn't contact him, even then he would end up contacting me with some random stupid question or something about work after a week, so we would get over the fight and then one time in the beginning of us dating that he did not contact as much and spend as much time he was talking to someone else, even then he didn't disappear just didn't hang out with me as much.
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Mhmm. I like air sign men a lot. But I am weary of them a bit.

I tend to work better with Air sign men then any other...even though somethings they do bother me lol..but thats in any relationship right...but water sign men are too sensitive and whine to much for me..and fire sign men need to much attention. Oddly enough I'm a Pisces but I just work well with air sign men..mostly Aquas. Maybe because my dad is a Libra and I am use to the detachedness from him..idk.
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I have found January Aquas are wayyyyy different than February.
Usually January ones aren't as aloof and detatched from my experience.
My good friend is a January one hes pretty good about his emotions and keeping contact.
Mine is a February Aqua, he was EXTREMELY detatched, I brought him out of it.
My father was a Feb one, he was detatched to everyone but ME, because I was his babygirl =]
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My aqua, doesnt ever do disappearing acts. He sometimes likes to have time to himself, or go out with friends, or go on vacations but I always know where he is and he always keeps in contact. He has never been gone for more than 2 days.
The only exceptions were when we were fighting and I didn't contact him, even then he would end up contacting me with some random stupid question or something about work after a week, so we would get over the fight and then one time in the beginning of us dating that he did not contact as much and spend as much time he was talking to someone else, even then he didn't disappear just didn't hang out with me as much.
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When will you two be married? =D If not already? I'd say he loves chuuu!

LOL, no time soon. There are a lot of things going on in both of our lives career related that we have to sort out.
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I have found January Aquas are wayyyyy different than February.
Usually January ones aren't as aloof and detatched from my experience.
My good friend is a January one hes pretty good about his emotions and keeping contact.
Mine is a February Aqua, he was EXTREMELY detatched, I brought him out of it.
My father was a Feb one, he was detatched to everyone but ME, because I was his babygirl =]



Good point! I noticed that Jan aqua are different from Feb ones in terms of aloofness and detachment. In my experience, Feb aqua ironically had more air sign placements than a Jan aquas. My cousin, Feb 17 aqua, his moon is libra. Myself, a Feb 9th baby, a total aqua with 5 planets there. My father, Feb 8th, also had a strong aqua stellium like myself. I can go on and on with the examples. I am definitely aloof and detached, which is a common complaint from my friends to me. I completely acknowledge. As a girl, when I disappear or say go into isolation, it's because I need alone time. If I socialize for a week with people, I burn out and start to miss myself/my loneliness. Then, I disappear so I can be alone. I mean truly alone, not be in contact with anyone. Also, sometimes I hang out with a close friend for 3 days in a row, I feel overexposed to them so I need some time apart from them. That saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder couldn't be more true with an aqua like myself. If I ogerexpose myself to someone, i need time to miss them.
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Posted by iamanariessuperwoman
In my observation, Aquas disappear and reappear for the following reasons in relationship:

a. There is a comfort level, even if the relationship is/was/and always will be toxic as hell.
b. The other person lifted them to new heights and the Aqua freaked out bc it was they didn't have their act together.
c. The other person is just a fallback pawn to them.

If you are in situation a or c, the Aqua will eventually stop coming around.

For those in situation b, you may never get rid of the Aqua no matter how assertive you get.
Found this question while googling.

I was wondering if anyone would like to elaborate b. for me?

Wednesday Aqua and I got together, and we bonded like never before. It was what I've always defined love to be...

But I got one text yesterday from him since and that's it.

Even after we've been together for almost two years, can this flightiness still be present?

What does l"ifted to new heights" mean to you? And does that sound like what's happening here?
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Posted by truecap
Just curious. I keep reading that Aquas do this disppearing act, then reappear, then disappear.... and so on.
Aren't you afraid we'll think you're not into us and that we will start seeing someone else?

Just askin' for the sake of askin'.
Yes! Absolutely!

The reason I leave people is because I've crunched the numbers and I can see into the future of where it's going.

If I'm with someone who is on tumbler or Instagram all the time looking at hot guys then I'm not gonna change who they are, but I'm not gonna hang around and get get bitter over it.

And it doesn't have to even that, if I see someone I'm into has a habit or something I don't like I won't wait around to fix it, someone posted Aquarians and sexology. They said Aquarians see life as their perfect picture if you don't fit in it you'll be cut out.

Don't mistake , were not disappearing, were actually adjusting our picture frame.

Actually I re read the topic and went a bit off lol.

The reason I disappear and reappear on people is only if I find that I'm starting to like them and I know they're not good for me. I'll find myself getting emotionally attached to a relationship that's not a good long term investment so I'll make myself unavailable for a while till I'm not emotionally compromised and then I'll come back all refreshed and ready to have fun again!
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Doesn't have to be that serious..if you like someone, hell, you just like'm...what's with all the games?
Life's too short for bullshiggity...Imagine how much time is being wasted going back and forth.
I, for one, will not sit around and wait for someone to make me a priority in their life.
Once I put out there that I'm interested, either you're interested or not...real simple.
Don't waste time questioning if someone likes you or not. See it for what it is and keep it moving.
Besides, we all know when there is instant chemistry with someone that we like or interested in.
Hopefully, it's an age and immaturity thing....I would hate to be involved with someone over the age of 30 still acting like a dayum teeny bopper...JSMDH
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The Scorp I was with had an Aqua moon and he disappeared on everyone...a lot. He said that he couldn't stick around the same people or person, because it got boring. I also saw this other Aqua for a short period of time once who said the same thing about romantic liaisons. He said that he honestly didn't think that he was meant to be with just one person in life. He was very honest and his attitude towards that part of himself was very raw/factual. Same with the Scorp when he told me that. It was weird, because there was absolutely zero emotion behind it. It's like they were stating a plain fact without assigning any meaning to it.
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The Scorp I was with had an Aqua moon and he disappeared on everyone...a lot. He said that he couldn't stick around the same people or person, because it got boring. I also saw this other Aqua for a short period of time once who said the same thing about romantic liaisons. He said that he honestly didn't think that he was meant to be with just one person in life. He was very honest and his attitude towards that part of himself was very raw/factual. Same with the Scorp when he told me that. It was weird, because there was absolutely zero emotion behind it. It's like they were stating a plain fact without assigning any meaning to it.
What's your scrop's venus?
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Lol but I can't just like people, especially if I find myself in a relationship, I can't sit still and be comfortable in love, I'm always anticipating the rug being pulled out from under me.

I have deep insecurity issues ive read that it's nit about fixing yourself so you have no insecurities but to become stronger so that you tolerate them easier.......also on the same help site it says if someone makes you feel insecure then to take them out of your life...

So if you're with someone and develop feelings and then those feelings become insecure then remove them from your life till you're no longer insecure hey presto you're fixed and then you can go back to that person.....it's flexible and convenient without the mess.
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The Scorp I was with had an Aqua moon and he disappeared on everyone...a lot. He said that he couldn't stick around the same people or person, because it got boring. I also saw this other Aqua for a short period of time once who said the same thing about romantic liaisons. He said that he honestly didn't think that he was meant to be with just one person in life. He was very honest and his attitude towards that part of himself was very raw/factual. Same with the Scorp when he told me that. It was weird, because there was absolutely zero emotion behind it. It's like they were stating a plain fact without assigning any meaning to it.
What's your scrop's venus?
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I'm referring to the first and EX Scorp. I only say that, because I'm with a Scorp now and he's devoted. lol I don't ever want people confusing the two. The ex Scorp's Venus was in Libra with a Mars in Sag...Leo NN. Sun and Merc in Scorp.
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The Scorp I was with had an Aqua moon and he disappeared on everyone...a lot. He said that he couldn't stick around the same people or person, because it got boring. I also saw this other Aqua for a short period of time once who said the same thing about romantic liaisons. He said that he honestly didn't think that he was meant to be with just one person in life. He was very honest and his attitude towards that part of himself was very raw/factual. Same with the Scorp when he told me that. It was weird, because there was absolutely zero emotion behind it. It's like they were stating a plain fact without assigning any meaning to it.
What's your scrop's venus?
I'm referring to the first and EX Scorp. I only say that, because I'm with a Scorp now and he's devoted. lol I don't ever want people confusing the two. The ex Scorp's Venus was in Libra with a Mars in Sag...Leo NN. Sun and Merc in Scorp.
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Sounded familiar lol
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The Scorp I was with had an Aqua moon and he disappeared on everyone...a lot. He said that he couldn't stick around the same people or person, because it got boring. I also saw this other Aqua for a short period of time once who said the same thing about romantic liaisons. He said that he honestly didn't think that he was meant to be with just one person in life. He was very honest and his attitude towards that part of himself was very raw/factual. Same with the Scorp when he told me that. It was weird, because there was absolutely zero emotion behind it. It's like they were stating a plain fact without assigning any meaning to it.
What's your scrop's venus?
I'm referring to the first and EX Scorp. I only say that, because I'm with a Scorp now and he's devoted. lol I don't ever want people confusing the two. The ex Scorp's Venus was in Libra with a Mars in Sag...Leo NN. Sun and Merc in Scorp.
Sounded familiar lol
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A guy that you know? LMBO!!! Spill it. It could be him. Shit...he was all over the damn place the last I knew. In fact, a crazy female called me one day after hunting me down, because he disappeared on her and she just assumed he was back with me, because she said that I was all that he talked about. She said that he talked about me day and night, always telling her how perfect I was. I was SOOOOOO angry. She was kind of crazy and I felt very vulnerable to any attacks that she might have wanted to carry out. I mean, she wouldn't get off of the damn phone at like 11pm and I was trying to put my kids to bed. They were all teens, but it scared the shit out of us. My son even answered the phone once and was like, "Lady...stop calling our house!" I sent him a scathing email telling him to QUIT talking about me to these women, because one managed to find me and wouldn't stop calling my house crying. It was bananas.
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The Scorp I was with had an Aqua moon and he disappeared on everyone...a lot. He said that he couldn't stick around the same people or person, because it got boring. I also saw this other Aqua for a short period of time once who said the same thing about romantic liaisons. He said that he honestly didn't think that he was meant to be with just one person in life. He was very honest and his attitude towards that part of himself was very raw/factual. Same with the Scorp when he told me that. It was weird, because there was absolutely zero emotion behind it. It's like they were stating a plain fact without assigning any meaning to it.
What's your scrop's venus?
I'm referring to the first and EX Scorp. I only say that, because I'm with a Scorp now and he's devoted. lol I don't ever want people confusing the two. The ex Scorp's Venus was in Libra with a Mars in Sag...Leo NN. Sun and Merc in Scorp.
Sounded familiar lol
A guy that you know? LMBO!!! Spill it. It could be him. Shit...he was all over the damn place the last I knew. In fact, a crazy female called me one day after hunting me down, because he disappeared on her and she just assumed he was back with me, because she said that I was all that he talked about. She said that he talked about me day and night, always telling her how perfect I was. I was SOOOOOO angry. She was kind of crazy and I felt very vulnerable to any attacks that she might have wanted to carry out. I mean, she wouldn't get off of the damn phone at like 11pm and I was trying to put my kids to bed. They were all teens, but it scared the shit out of us. My son even answered the phone once and was like, "Lady...stop calling our house!" I sent him a scathing email telling him to QUIT talking about me to these women, because one managed to find me and wouldn't stop calling my house crying. It was bananas.
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More along the lines of claiming to be a bad person, but others don't believe it. No info as to why. That's the scorp.

My aqua friend disappears all of the time, we have managed to stay friends for like 10 year though. Random phone calls years later lol.

Wow! That's some shit. My sister has an ex scorp that does shit like that. The woman he is with now has called my sis a few times, normally when the scrop disappears, looking for him. He is never with her lol.
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Ah...your sister's EX Scorp. lol Got it. Well, I'm happy to hear that there's an ex in front of the "S" word. lol ha ha ha ha

Yep...he did it to me ONE time. I never took him back. I flirted with the idea and over a course of two years confessed that I had fallen in love and that I wished that things COULD have been different. He continued to contact me here and there, letting me know what part of the US he was thinking about moving to and how things were going in his current city, etc. In hindsight, he WANTED me to tell him to come home. I just couldn't do that with someone who could (in my perspective) easily jump up and out of a relationship that was as good as ours was. We slept nose to nose when we DID sleep and when we stayed up all night, it was talking about life, laughing, and developing what became private jokes between us.

I've (miraculously) recovered some of that intimacy with my current Scorp, but I like how it's developing slowly. That first Scorp situation came together fast and lightening and now, I don't trust relationships that develop like that...all because of that ONE experience. Nope. Never want a person to just show up and all of the sudden our lives are combined or it looks like our lives are combined. I don't get how people CAN just walk away so easily when things seem so connected. It's baffling and I'll NEVER understand it.
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Posted by LIb4Life
Doesn't have to be that serious..if you like someone, hell, you just like'm...what's with all the games?
Life's too short for bullshiggity...Imagine how much time is being wasted going back and forth.
I, for one, will not sit around and wait for someone to make me a priority in their life.
Once I put out there that I'm interested, either you're interested or not...real simple.
Don't waste time questioning if someone likes you or not. See it for what it is and keep it moving.
Besides, we all know when there is instant chemistry with someone that we like or interested in.
Hopefully, it's an age and immaturity thing....I would hate to be involved with someone over the age of 30 still acting like a dayum teeny bopper...JSMDH
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I was with two Aquas.....i never felt i was *with* them though....they would both disappear, one would even sit in the car outside our house to read for long periods of time

The other one went three weeks without contacting me and thought that was okay


A woman i worked with told me her Aqua hubbie stayed in the pub one christmas day and didn't turn up for dinner, even though his wife and 2 daughters waited


Uranus hey?

smh

depends on the aqua. some aquas wouldnt leave your side.

clingy as hell!!!!

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Posted by starlover
I was with two Aquas.....i never felt i was *with* them though....they would both disappear, one would even sit in the car outside our house to read for long periods of time

The other one went three weeks without contacting me and thought that was okay


A woman i worked with told me her Aqua hubbie stayed in the pub one christmas day and didn't turn up for dinner, even though his wife and 2 daughters waited


Uranus hey?

smh

besides too much CLINGY and too much not spending time in the same home together and going off to somewhere land are two EXTREMES.

gross.
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I was with two Aquas.....i never felt i was *with* them though....they would both disappear, one would even sit in the car outside our house to read for long periods of time

The other one went three weeks without contacting me and thought that was okay


A woman i worked with told me her Aqua hubbie stayed in the pub one christmas day and didn't turn up for dinner, even though his wife and 2 daughters waited


Uranus hey?

smh

depends on the aqua. some aquas wouldnt leave your side.

clingy as hell!!!!
I am yet to meet one of those in man form Lisa 😄


Will report back when i do
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heehee

a guy who won't leave your side!!? ohhhh my goodness lord all mighty!!!

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Posted by starlover
I was with two Aquas.....i never felt i was *with* them though....they would both disappear, one would even sit in the car outside our house to read for long periods of time

The other one went three weeks without contacting me and thought that was okay


A woman i worked with told me her Aqua hubbie stayed in the pub one christmas day and didn't turn up for dinner, even though his wife and 2 daughters waited


Uranus hey?

smh


Hahahaha @christmas dinner

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