Why do you guys disappear?

Well for one either the person is not an object of desire.
Two it could be we don't have enough breathing space.
Three we could just be cranky and need time alone
Four absence makes the heart grow fonder (so you can miss us more)
Last but not least 'five' we either have some doubts about the relationship or things are getting serious and we get nervous.

Very interesting. That's such a foreign concept to water signs. We are so open with our feelings, and Aquas seem to keep so much in.

Awww are you a pisces?
I normally don't ignore people I'm not interested in I'll just tell them, if they continue to pursue then they will be ignored.

If I'm talking to someone and things are going great and I disappear less phone calls, etc. I a, getting nervous.

If I'm talking to someone and things are going sour more arguments, less communication I'm having doubts and need time alone.

If I tell you I'm ok or am short with my texts something is bothering me and I want my space.

If I'm taking 2-3hours to text you back and you reply back quickly it's showing your interest so I keep it going.

Nah, I'm a Cancer. But I'm an independent, non-clingy Cancer.

Awww I've only known one cancer. Want to be my friend? I can tell you everything about what you want to know about aquas. But Warning!!! We know what we know but what we don't know is that; what we know is not actually what we know .

I'm a cancer. I've been with my Aqua for 2 years off and on!!!

Although she's a female the traits that she portrays seen to fit men and women. Read my threads lol get a lot of insight on what to do and not do. I think ready to give up... It's painful dealing with the disappearing.

I understand people need their space at times, and I respect that. I've only been seeing my Aqua man for a couple of months, but we haven't seen each other in 4 weeks. We were planning on hanging out this weekend, but he blew me off. I didn't try to contact him until this morning when I wished him a happy Father's Day. After 2 days of nothing he finally replied, and things seemed normal, but there was no explanation, and I didn't ask for one. He mentioned something about having gotten up very early the last couple of days (he's been working almost non-stop), and that the sun had worn him out so he'd been kind of out of it. Maybe he blew me off cuz he was tired or wanted to do his own thing. I'd be lying, though, if I said I wasn't concerned that maybe he's losing interest in me and/or started seeing someone else. I never considered space being a concern after not seeing each other for almost a month. Part of me understands Aquas need your space, but the other feels that if he wanted to see me, he would have. I guess only time will tell, and I'm very patient when it's worth waiting for.

We are always patient!

I wouldn't even know what it is in this situation!
Id leave it for the aqua professionals to explain!

Well I can tell you by personal experience we love space but when you are seeing someone and apart for that long it's painful so he would retreat and not tell you if it's bothering him. If you are maintaining a connection mentally and checking in periodically this should be no problem and he will be willing to wait around. He may be tired I've done it not seeing someone for at least a month then the week where I'm available I will turn down the invitation if I'm not in the best moods. We have this thing where if we aren't our best we wont go out no matter how long it's been since he has seen you, if he wants to maintain an image or composure he will act that way. If you two are together or working on something you can't worry if someone is catching his attention, you should show him why he shouldn't by investing yourself in the relationship but having an interesting outside social life as well (which you seem to have anyway).

Great advice, thank you! I seem to be doing pretty well so far. Of course he and I are friends on Facebook, so I'm sure he saw that I carried on with my weekend, hung out with friends and whatnot, while respecting his desire for space. He and I keep in touch almost daily, just checking in as friends do. We both want to be friends first, then potentially build on it. He knows I'm independent as well, and I want someone who compliments me, rather than completes me, because I'm already complete. I'm not looking for "my other half," because I'm already whole.

That last part was perfectly said I am glad you have completed yourself within and ahhh I see 😉. I have done this as well let things happen naturally through friendship, I guess it's a human thing you want to find your friend in your mate not an outsider. That is good you are staying busy and having fun, I bet you he stalks your page haha. That's an aqua thing sometimes, I hope this evolves into a great relationship for you, aquas are arguably one of the best haha.

I wouldn't mind at all if he did stalk my page. 😉

I hope it does too. He's a really good one.

Thanks for all your input!

They are once they figure out that they want you, and you figure out how NOT to ruin things...smh I read somewhere that being with an Aquarius is not about what you have to do, its what NOT to do that you have to figure out lol.....I guess with my off and on relationship i have learned a lot of what NOT to do...None the less i learned and appreciate what I walk away from from both aquarius that I dealt with.

You can bet he does I had one stalk me well in my younger years we didn't really work out with youth brings premature complications into a relationship, if that makes sense. You are welcome and once you get in the cart don't look back ok, promise yourself not to because it's going to be so great of a ride you'll wonder "is this really life" lol.

Ssasy that's true I expect people to figure out what not to do when we are together, I am always analyzing waiting for them to make a mistake with me or so I used to.

Ms Aqua, would you mind looking at my last two posts about my aqua, if love to get your input. Good or bad... I'll be looking out for a comment!

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise
Well I can tell you by personal experience we love space but when you are seeing someone and apart for that long it's painful so he would retreat and not tell you if it's bothering him. If you are maintaining a connection mentally and checking in periodically this should be no problem and he will be willing to wait around. He may be tired I've done it not seeing someone for at least a month then the week where I'm available I will turn down the invitation if I'm not in the best moods. We have this thing where if we aren't our best we wont go out no matter how long it's been since he has seen you, if he wants to maintain an image or composure he will act that way. If you two are together or working on something you can't worry if someone is catching his attention, you should show him why he shouldn't by investing yourself in the relationship but having an interesting outside social life as well (which you seem to have anyway).

You make it sound like she should be the one giving him reassurance when he exhibits signs of pulling away. He distances, yet she's supposed to be the one reaching out to make sure he's willing to wait around?

That just sounds backward. And yall wonder why people dating aquas get confused...

If he were into her, he would make sure she knew he was still interested.

Well, maybe he is losing interest. We don't talk as often as we used to. He used to make an effort to see me. We were supposed to hang out a couple of weeks ago, but while we were making plans his ex-wife called him telling him to pick up his daughter, and I was an hour and a half away, so I told him to enjoy the rest of the weekend with his daughter and we'd try again another time. I felt bad because he kept trying to convince me to hang out with them, but I was just too far away to make it. I think that may have bothered him a bit, but I could be wrong. I still haven't figured you guys out.

Posted by M00Nchild
Well, maybe he is losing interest. We don't talk as often as we used to. He used to make an effort to see me. We were supposed to hang out a couple of weeks ago, but while we were making plans his ex-wife called him telling him to pick up his daughter, and I was an hour and a half away, so I told him to enjoy the rest of the weekend with his daughter and we'd try again another time. I felt bad because he kept trying to convince me to hang out with them, but I was just too far away to make it. I think that may have bothered him a bit, but I could be wrong. I still haven't figured you guys out.

Don't jump the gun and assume he's not interested. It takes a lot of patience, but I was just saying you shouldn't be the only one giving and providing reassurance.

The weekend with his daughter, that was really cool and mature of you to give them time together. I'm sure he noticed and appreciated it. However, if he kept wanting you to hang out with them, he really meant it. Otherwise he would have said, okay, thanks. Aquas aren't going to invite you if they don't mean it, so if he wanted you there, then he would ask you to join. If he's ready for you to meet the child, then he wouldn't have a problem incorporating you into their world. Of course, can't rush things like meeting a child too soon before the relationship has a chance for a solid foundation.
He might be thinking you have issues with him having a child, or it's a turn off for you, or you're not interested in a guy with a child. Aquas can also be a lot more sensitive than they let on.
Besides, he might be subconsciously thinking that if you're not interested in the child, then what would be the point of going forward because the child is going to be in his life forever. Know what I mean?

My advice is reach out again and be friendly, clear the air, ask about the child if you get a chance to show interest, show sincere genuine interest in her, let him know you're up for that. Maybe talk about your feelings on the matter. Nothing heavy or serious, but generally speaking. Keep it light.

I'd give it another chance before you give up on it. I think yall just need to clear the air.

Actually our first "date" was a play date with our daughters. Everyone got along really well and we all had a great day together. I ask about her all the time, and he sends me pics of her occasionally. Had I been closer that day, I would've loved to have met them for dinner, but I can't expect a child to wait over an hour to eat, and I told him as much. I know his daughter is his whole world, just as my daughter is mine.

Cap

You bore me. That is my 100% honest.

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