Lioness88
@Lioness88
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Will he disappear?
Are you wanting to put a label on it in the need future? Go too long without, and if you are giving up the goods and everything else...a guy may wonder what wouid captivate him to have the label when he's getting everything without plus freedom. Do you really like each other? I think it's fine to take it slow and not throw a label on it immediately. But if it had been over 2 months and still nothing...I would feel suspicious. No reason why you shouldn't be able to know for sure after that amount of time, but perhaps with his deployment it was different? Was he away when you started.
Posted by Agentgem24
Are you wanting to put a label on it in the need future? Go too long without, and if you are giving up the goods and everything else...a guy may wonder what wouid captivate him to have the label when he's getting everything without plus freedom. Do you really like each other? I think it's fine to take it slow and not throw a label on it immediately. But if it had been over 2 months and still nothing...I would feel suspicious. No reason why you shouldn't be able to know for sure after that amount of time, but perhaps with his deployment it was different? Was he away when you started.
Oh my god hello fellow aquarius rising.
Yes, hes gonna disappear................ All the signs are there in your post.............. You better step up your game before he just... Vanishes. We all know that every aquarius male pulls a disappearing act right on the 3 month mark.
Posted by augustmoon
Yes, hes gonna disappear................ All the signs are there in your post.............. You better step up your game before he just... Vanishes. We all know that every aquarius male pulls a disappearing act right on the 3 month mark.
lol is this consistent? 😛
we should ask those women who are married to one for years.
Let's call up Christy Turlington, Rebecca Romijn, and that Aries woman who married Christian Bale.
Posted by augustmoon
Yes, hes gonna disappear................ All the signs are there in your post.............. You better step up your game before he just... Vanishes. We all know that every aquarius male pulls a disappearing act right on the 3 month mark.
Mine didn't, but I didn't tell him I loved him until almost a year after we started dating. Heck, at the three month mark, I wasn't even sure if he was the one.
Posted by Lioness88
I told my Aqua man I'm falling in love with him. Our convo was like this:
Leo: If I fall in love with you, are you gonna disappear on me? 😉
Aqua: don't ask me that. I'm not going anywhere lol
Leo: just don't be too charming, bcoz I'm falling in love with you😉
He have been flirting with me in a cute way for the last two days since he got back from deployment. It was his birthday yesterday and I asked him to stay away from flirts in the bar where he is celebrating because I told him I don't trust the women around but I trust him but he can get tempted. And his response to me was "I know..I'm not looking to hook up. I just like to have fun with my buddies". I give him his independence and not demanding of his time. I wonder if he will disappear or become aloof with me after I told him I'm falling in love with him. Oh we have been in a no label intimate situation for 3 months. But he hasn't been detached from me since we met, but sometimes he talks to me in a platonic way. We text each other everyday and he see me at least once a week. He is so charming I can't resist him🙂
If he hasn't disappeared yet, he's probably not going to. Just be careful and don't express those love feelings too often or he will feel smothered. I advise you not to say it again for several months or better yet, wait on him to say it next.
And the issue with him going to the bar and what you said. Well, it is almost like controlling him, like you were telling him what he could and couldn't do. Just trust him. If you are going to give freedom, don't put limitations on it. It's probably fine to say it once, but I wouldn't say it every time because it's going to come across that you are controlling him from afar. Unless he wants to make it your private joke.
When he goes out with his friends, you should go out with yours. Let him wonder what you're doing an.
Posted by Agentgem24
Are you wanting to put a label on it in the need future? Go too long without, and if you are giving up the goods and everything else...a guy may wonder what wouid captivate him to have the label when he's getting everything without plus freedom. Do you really like each other? I think it's fine to take it slow and not throw a label on it immediately. But if it had been over 2 months and still nothing...I would feel suspicious. No reason why you shouldn't be able to know for sure after that amount of time, but perhaps with his deployment it was different? Was he away when you started.
I wanted us to have a label, but I'm not rushing him, for we just got divorced from our marriages. He goes deployment every month for 2-3weeks. And he will again next month. We both like each other, and he told me that more than a few times. Aquarius don't express that easily.
Posted by augustmoon
Yes, hes gonna disappear................ All the signs are there in your post.............. You better step up your game before he just... Vanishes. We all know that every aquarius male pulls a disappearing act right on the 3 month mark.
Is that 3 month mark even proven? I told him I'm falling in love with him because he's too charming. We actually just saw each other and he's more sweet and clingy to me than before.
Posted by Lioness88Posted by augustmoon
Yes, hes gonna disappear................ All the signs are there in your post.............. You better step up your game before he just... Vanishes. We all know that every aquarius male pulls a disappearing act right on the 3 month mark.
Is that 3 month mark even proven? I told him I'm falling in love with him because he's too charming. We actually just saw each other and he's more sweet and clingy to me than before.click to expand
Yeah, its proven by astrology studies at Harvard.
I was joking. but don't be so jealous/needy ("i trust you, just not the women around you"). Nobody wants to hear that. I agree with truecap, do your own thing when he does. Dont become dependent.
Posted by augustmoon
I was joking. but don't be so jealous/needy ("i trust you, just not the women around you"). Nobody wants to hear that. I agree with truecap, do your own thing when he does. Dont become dependent.
I agree. I'm a Gemini rising Aquarius, with a Venus/mars in cancer. I had severe jealousy issues and that scared many men off. It's okay to set boundaries and voice your concerns, but by his response by your questions...I could already tell he's feeling boxed in and annoyed. Nothing bothers me more than someone saying they don't trust me, especially if I didnt give them a reason to think otherwise. You trust them...so loose women around should not be an issue. I know I was faced with tons of in your face attention and hitting on when I was semi long distance from my Leo, nothing was tempting. He trusted me and I was almost repulsed by men hitting on me.
We have the ability to be extremely loyal. Just if you trust him, do that. Don't show jealousy. I always have boundaries from the start and can have some jealousy here and there, but either I keep it to myself or say how I feel very light hearted and sarcastic like. That way they don't think you're being heavy or accusing.
We are actually together as I'm writing this and he let me sleep over in his house now. We still text each other everyday from morning till he say goodnight. I haven't experience him to disappear for more than a day. If we don't text for a day it's because I did not initiate it, then he wonder and text me. Most people with their Aqua man said they won't get a call/text or any communication for a week or so. My guy since day one talk to me and tell me how his day was, sometimes a feel like I get friendzone when he talks to me. Though he always assure me that he's not seeing any girl but me and I know he's being honest with me. I flirt joke with him and he likes it when I do, I can sense he giggle from afar. I appreciate all of your input, I just thought I would like to hear if you think I was wrong for telling him I'm falling in love with him and if he will disappear on me like the usual Aqua traits. And btw his moon and Venus is in Capricorn. Maybe this would help to understand his behavior.
Posted by augustmoon
I was joking. but don't be so jealous/needy ("i trust you, just not the women around you"). Nobody wants to hear that. I agree with truecap, do your own thing when he does. Dont become dependent.
Oh it was a joke between us and he knows I'm not jealous at all. Needy? I'm naturally needy and clingy but I hide that from him. My moon is Aquarius, so I understand the Aqua ways and traits.
Posted by Agentgem24Posted by augustmoon
I was joking. but don't be so jealous/needy ("i trust you, just not the women around you"). Nobody wants to hear that. I agree with truecap, do your own thing when he does. Dont become dependent.
I agree. I'm a Gemini rising Aquarius, with a Venus/mars in cancer. I had severe jealousy issues and that scared many men off. It's okay to set boundaries and voice your concerns, but by his response by your questions...I could already tell he's feeling boxed in and annoyed. Nothing bothers me more than someone saying they don't trust me, especially if I didnt give them a reason to think otherwise. You trust them...so loose women around should not be an issue. I know I was faced with tons of in your face attention and hitting on when I was semi long distance from my Leo, nothing was tempting. He trusted me and I was almost repulsed by men hitting on me.
We have the ability to be extremely loyal. Just if you trust him, do that. Don't show jealousy. I always have boundaries from the start and can have some jealousy here and there, but either I keep it to myself or say how I feel very light hearted and sarcastic like. That way they don't think you're being heavy or accusing.click to expand
I'm a very typical Leo sun and Venus, I can get jealous but I show jealousy in a cute way by joking, he likes it when I'm being silly. He knows I'm straight forward and I speak my mind to him, but most of the time I tell it in a light way or as a joke.
I don't understand the use (not just yours) of the word "disappear". He didn't talk to you for a day or two... is that really a disappearance though? I can totally understand getting a little worried if you're in a long-term and consistently talk to each other every day, and the other doesn't contact you for a day or two. But I would not even call THAT a disappearance.
And him talking to you "platonically" or "friend zoning" you. WHY do people expect to talk not platonically? What, do you mean calling you babe or honey or something?? Some people just don't do that and treat a relationship in a similar way as a friend. Love is friendship, friendship is love.
How do you know you're in love with him already? I think its early, but I don't know y'all relationship.
And him talking to you "platonically" or "friend zoning" you. WHY do people expect to talk not platonically? What, do you mean calling you babe or honey or something?? Some people just don't do that and treat a relationship in a similar way as a friend. Love is friendship, friendship is love.
How do you know you're in love with him already? I think its early, but I don't know y'all relationship.
Posted by Lioness88
We are actually together as I'm writing this and he let me sleep over in his house now. We still text each other everyday from morning till he say goodnight. I haven't experience him to disappear for more than a day. If we don't text for a day it's because I did not initiate it, then he wonder and text me. Most people with their Aqua man said they won't get a call/text or any communication for a week or so. My guy since day one talk to me and tell me how his day was, sometimes a feel like I get friendzone when he talks to me. Though he always assure me that he's not seeing any girl but me and I know he's being honest with me. I flirt joke with him and he likes it when I do, I can sense he giggle from afar. I appreciate all of your input, I just thought I would like to hear if you think I was wrong for telling him I'm falling in love with him and if he will disappear on me like the usual Aqua traits. And btw his moon and Venus is in Capricorn. Maybe this would help to understand his behavior.
Stop being the one to initiate. It's fine to initiate, but it should be equal. You shouldn't be the one doing it all the time.
And the friendzone feel to the talk, well, aquas want their lovers to be friends. You want him to talk to you like a friend. If the relationship develops, you will be each other's best friend and that's what you should want.
My guy has venus in capricorn as well. Seems like every time I opened up feelings, feeling sappy, he responds well and was always sweeter and more couply with me after that. I think venus in cap is cautious and would prefer to feel reassured (though they aren't going to be reassuring, I think it is one of their needs). Just that the aqua sun doesn't want to feel smothered with it. There's a fine line between being reassuring and being smothery. Mine also has a virgo moon, so perhaps virgo mooon needs that too.
Posted by truecap
Stop being the one to initiate. It's fine to initiate, but it should be equal. You shouldn't be the one doing it all the time.
And the friendzone feel to the talk, well, aquas want their lovers to be friends. You want him to talk to you like a friend. If the relationship develops, you will be each other's best friend and that's what you should want.
My guy has venus in capricorn as well. Seems like every time I opened up feelings, feeling sappy, he responds well and was always sweeter and more couply with me after that. I think venus in cap is cautious and would prefer to feel reassured (though they aren't going to be reassuring, I think it is one of their needs). Just that the aqua sun doesn't want to feel smothered with it. There's a fine line between being reassuring and being smothery. Mine also has a virgo moon, so perhaps virgo mooon needs that too.
I agree 100% .
And I'm seeing a Cap venus guy, he needs major reassurance. Is needy but not in a typical, emotional way.
And I think that when you initiate all the time, it gives the image that you're sitting in the house waiting for him to text/call you. Make your own fun life a first priority instead of his contact, and it will be easier to let go of clinginess, i think.
Posted by Kodak375
Nah, he's probably enjoying this no label freedom youve given him lmao
+1000!! LOL
Without exclusivity, you are just one of many people we love. It's the harsh truth but at this point, he's not obligated to you. We can be romantically interested in bunch of people and can talk to all simultaneously, but the moment we commit, it's just one person.
Posted by augustmoon
I don't understand the use (not just yours) of the word "disappear". He didn't talk to you for a day or two... is that really a disappearance though? I can totally understand getting a little worried if you're in a long-term and consistently talk to each other every day, and the other doesn't contact you for a day or two. But I would not even call THAT a disappearance.
And him talking to you "platonically" or "friend zoning" you. WHY do people expect to talk not platonically? What, do you mean calling you babe or honey or something?? Some people just don't do that and treat a relationship in a similar way as a friend. Love is friendship, friendship is love.
How do you know you're in love with him already? I think its early, but I don't know y'all relationship
As I started going thru this Aqua forum, I learned a lot on Aqua's disappearing and friendly ways. I guess I'm a bit lucky that he hasn't really disappear for more than a day except if he's deployed. How do I know if I'm in love with him? I'm a Leo, that won't take very long, I have some guys interested with me but my eyes and heart is only for him. I think about him everyday but I don't make it obvious. He's all I want right now and for the future, but all I can do is to pray about us that we stay strong and that he love me eventually. It's weird and too soon I know, but that's how Leo love.
Posted by augustmoon
I was joking. but don't be so jealous/needy ("i trust you, just not the women around you"). Nobody wants to hear that. I agree with truecap, do your own thing when he does. Dont become dependent.
+1000. "I trust you, just not the women around you" is a straight catty and jealous statement. You shouldn't be concerned with other women. Be concerned with him and trust him. If he's going to sleep with them, then it has nothing to do with those women. It has to do with him and how he views you. Technically, he doesn't even owe you an answer if he does sleep with those "vixens" that throw themselves at him.
—?? But that isn't a disappearance... I am not understanding the use of the word, but whatever.
I agree w/Aquarius09. Y'all aren't exclusive commitment, he doesn't owe you anything.
I agree w/Aquarius09. Y'all aren't exclusive commitment, he doesn't owe you anything.
A day or two is not a disappearance act from aqua standards. If he goes missing for 1 week, be concerned. I pull disappearance acts and max. is one week. If I don't return after a week, I'm never coming back or I'm just not taht into you.
Posted by Lioness88
We are actually together as I'm writing this and he let me sleep over in his house now. We still text each other everyday from morning till he say goodnight. I haven't experience him to disappear for more than a day. If we don't text for a day it's because I did not initiate it, then he wonder and text me. Most people with their Aqua man said they won't get a call/text or any communication for a week or so. My guy since day one talk to me and tell me how his day was, sometimes a feel like I get friendzone when he talks to me. Though he always assure me that he's not seeing any girl but me and I know he's being honest with me. I flirt joke with him and he likes it when I do, I can sense he giggle from afar. I appreciate all of your input, I just thought I would like to hear if you think I was wrong for telling him I'm falling in love with him and if he will disappear on me like the usual Aqua traits. And btw his moon and Venus is in Capricorn. Maybe this would help to understand his behavior.
Is this proven? I doubt it's an overall "they vanish and don't talk for a week if no communication is initiated" I am dating an Aqua man, Sag rising and libra moon. He also has a Capricorn venus(same as yours) and Taurus mars. He has yet to vanish more than 2 hours during the day or when he's sleeping. He texts me every morning without fail and will let me know if he can't talk for a few due to work etc.
What makes you think his conversation with you is "friend zone" any specifics? Just because he's not super romantic or sexual all through conversation, shouldn't mean it's "friend zone."
Posted by augustmoonPosted by truecap
Stop being the one to initiate. It's fine to initiate, but it should be equal. You shouldn't be the one doing it all the time.
And the friendzone feel to the talk, well, aquas want their lovers to be friends. You want him to talk to you like a friend. If the relationship develops, you will be each other's best friend and that's what you should want.
My guy has venus in capricorn as well. Seems like every time I opened up feelings, feeling sappy, he responds well and was always sweeter and more couply with me after that. I think venus in cap is cautious and would prefer to feel reassured (though they aren't going to be reassuring, I think it is one of their needs). Just that the aqua sun doesn't want to feel smothered with it. There's a fine line between being reassuring and being smothery. Mine also has a virgo moon, so perhaps virgo mooon needs that too.
I agree 100% .
And I'm seeing a Cap venus guy, he needs major reassurance. Is needy but not in a typical, emotional way.
And I think that when you initiate all the time, it gives the image that you're sitting in the house waiting for him to text/call you. Make your own fun life a first priority instead of his contact, and it will be easier to let go of clinginess, i think.click to expand
The initiate talk is just to say good morning, then I won't text the whole day, then he's the one checking on me of what I'm doing. Or he will just text to tell me he's on lunch break and will tell me what he eats. I learned from @truecap to go with the flow, and not to be too showy of my feelings, but when I do, I do it lightly in a cute/flirty/jokingly kind of way. And he knows I don't just sit around waiting on him, but he knows I always have my cell with me and always text everyone, so when I don't respond to him right away he wonders.
It's me that's holding off a few weeks to call my aqua my boyfriend because we have recently started dating, but have known eachother 9 years. There is exclusivity however and he says he looks forward to calling me his girlfriend.
Honestly, I'm a Gemini and in the realms of dating...if I don't hear from someone for a whole day, I assume they are dead or have moved on. There should really be daily communication, but maybe that's just me that feels that way. I'm very communication heavy.
Do you know his mercury? I'm a Gemini mercury, he's an Aquarius mercury. If his communication planet isn't in as social of a position, it could explain why he doesn't talk daily. I would only not talk daily if I wasnt that into you and/or seeing other people.
Honestly, I'm a Gemini and in the realms of dating...if I don't hear from someone for a whole day, I assume they are dead or have moved on. There should really be daily communication, but maybe that's just me that feels that way. I'm very communication heavy.
Do you know his mercury? I'm a Gemini mercury, he's an Aquarius mercury. If his communication planet isn't in as social of a position, it could explain why he doesn't talk daily. I would only not talk daily if I wasnt that into you and/or seeing other people.
Have you asked him how emotionally invested he is? It's important to be at the same level and have a mutual understanding. Never just assume or hide your concerns
Posted by Agentgem24Posted by Lioness88
We are actually together as I'm writing this and he let me sleep over in his house now. We still text each other everyday from morning till he say goodnight. I haven't experience him to disappear for more than a day. If we don't text for a day it's because I did not initiate it, then he wonder and text me. Most people with their Aqua man said they won't get a call/text or any communication for a week or so. My guy since day one talk to me and tell me how his day was, sometimes a feel like I get friendzone when he talks to me. Though he always assure me that he's not seeing any girl but me and I know he's being honest with me. I flirt joke with him and he likes it when I do, I can sense he giggle from afar. I appreciate all of your input, I just thought I would like to hear if you think I was wrong for telling him I'm falling in love with him and if he will disappear on me like the usual Aqua traits. And btw his moon and Venus is in Capricorn. Maybe this would help to understand his behavior.
Is this proven? I doubt it's an overall "they vanish and don't talk for a week if no communication is initiated" I am dating an Aqua man, Sag rising and libra moon. He also has a Capricorn venus(same as yours) and Taurus mars. He has yet to vanish more than 2 hours during the day or when he's sleeping. He texts me every morning without fail and will let me know if he can't talk for a few due to work etc.
What makes you think his conversation with you is "friend zone" any specifics? Just because he's not super romantic or sexual all through conversation, shouldn't mean it's "friend zone."click to expand
I guess he's not really disappearing on me because we still talk everyday.
Okay, this is good. So long as it's mostly every day and he's not going ghost for a day at a time consistently. Patterns worry me, but every now and then is okay especially if you guys aren't serious.
ARE you exclusive? I know you said he's not seeing anyone else, but could that change? Have you agreed to only see eachother?
ARE you exclusive? I know you said he's not seeing anyone else, but could that change? Have you agreed to only see eachother?
Guys thank you for all your input I appreciate it. I would assume he's not gonna disappear on me yet. Because even after I said that I'm falling in love with him, he chose to be with me the same day and spend the whole night together. He's more comfortable with me now, he talks more, kissed more often with passion and would touch and hold me more. I don't expect romantic or emotional words from him. I'll just be happy he's still around after 3 months even after a lot of great sex. Isn't it true that aquas won't stay around if they're not into you? I would assume my Aqua is into me because he's still around.
Posted by Agentgem24
Okay, this is good. So long as it's mostly every day and he's not going ghost for a day at a time consistently. Patterns worry me, but every now and then is okay especially if you guys aren't serious.
ARE you exclusive? I know you said he's not seeing anyone else, but could that change? Have you agreed to only see eachother?
We don't give ourselves label, and just let everything grow into something. We both just got divorced and don't wanna rush into something very serious. But yeah we had an agreement to just see each other and not anyone else.
I'm not sure what sign WOULD stick around more than a few months if they aren't into you? Stay a few months to feel you out, maybe only a little longer on a purely sexual level(would be honest and discussed) but even after that no matter how good the physical is, I wouid think it hard to stay around much longer if you don't really like them. And when someone you DO really like comes along? See ya!
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