Hi. I'm a Sag that was being pursued by an Aries, right up until the weekend just gone. We've only been on 6 dates, and the last 2 we were intimate, where he asked me to spend the night at his house, and meet his temporary housemates. That last weekend we spent together, I willing stayed the night, then he took me out kayaking the following morning. The connection felt great, and he was very easy to be with, un-rushed, and not heavy. I know he has been very hurt in the past by the woman I think he considers the love his life, and the only woman he said he's ever wanted to marry. I believe she actually has married in the last couple of weeks. He has remained single for the past 4 plus years, having had only the "occasional fling." I was ambivalent on the first few dates, having also not dated for more than 4 years, recovering from an abusive relationship. I've been out on a few one-off dates, this is the first guy I wanted to see again, and the first one I've let touch me. After pursuing me persistently, and eagerly setting up each date consecutively, and being respectful when I declined to hit the bedroom with him, for our 5th date, he took me to his work Christmas party and introduced me to his boss, colleagues, and friends. His friends pulled me aside and said in the past 4 years, he has never brought a date to anything. At the end of the evening, he again asked if I would spend the night with him, and made it clear it was okay if I said no. I accepted the offer, and we had a beautiful night together. We then teed up to spend the next weekend together, he asked me over to his house, cooked me dinner, was attentive and loving. The next morning, he took my kayaking. We had a lot of fun, and he apologised that things were rushed and he couldn't spend more time with me due to other obligations. From the first date, there was never a lot of texting, just get the next date lined up and we're good, and then an occasional, "how's you're week going" message. The week after the Christmas party was probably the most we texted, when he checked in with me on a daily basis. Last week, after the overnight at his house and kayaking the next day, he didn't text me for a couple of days, but responded immediately when I texted him. He showed interest in teeing up to see me on Saturday, but then Saturday morning asked if we could see each other Sunday (yesterday) instead. He worked Saturday, and said he wanted to work on his motorbike (it's the first weekend he's had to himself since I met him between work commitments, and house guests). Yesterday (Sunday) he just didn't contact me, and last night I saw he was back on the dating app where we met. It feels like as soon as I reciprocated interest in him, he has pulled away. Do I just give him space and time to be okay? I know he's seen that I'm also still on the dating app we met on. I'm not pursuing anybody else, as I wanted to see what would develop with this lovely man. I would like to play my cards right, and not make assumptions, not be a twit about it all. If he doesn't contact me in a certain amount of time (I'm inclined to leave it until Venus goes well and truly direct), should I reach out? Should I just ask if he's interested? I don't want to write him off if he's just found the connection more than he expected, and needs time, and I don't want to flog a dead horse. Would much prefer a "Hey thanks for the dates, I don't think this is a goer." I know it's only been like yesterday that he totally blew me off, and I feel like the tail end of this Venus in Retrograde is messing with me big time, but would appreciate any insight or advice people have. Much gratitude in advance.
