Long Distance Relationship w an Aries?

Hi! So this is my first post on this website but I've been reading along many forums looking for a situation as similar to mine as possible, but I figured, why not put it out there for any tips/advice.

First off- might be a long read, will include a TLDR at the bottom 🙂

Okay, to start off, I met my Aries man through an app/social media (it's hard to explain but it's not a dating app, however a lot of people from all around the world talk through it and have groups, so we had mutual "friends," as we were in the same group, and had brief interactions before we really got talking). Anyways, back in July, I reached out to him for a favor for one of my groups, and literally, it was absolute dynamite from the first message. He even went to the extent in saying that he felt he had found his twin flame, and that he's never felt the way he does with me before. Immediately, I am, of course, attracted to him and his fiery passion and personality, so I go along with it, and for the first month or two it was incredible. He told me he loved me right before my birthday, like 11:59 pm, only a WEEK after talking nonstop. I obviously didn't say it back right away, but I did reciprocate a lot of intensity and passion that he was looking for through the phone, so it was fine, but I did say it back like a week or two later, cause he's just irresistible lol. We would talk over the phone, FaceTime, overnight conversations (he works at night so he would be on the phone at work), and text throughout the day. Mentally, we're incredibly compatible, and I mean we FaceTime, so we know what the other looks like, and appear physically compatible.

HOWEVER, he lives in CA and I live in NYC.

From the beginning he mentioned he wanted to visit me around Christmas time, and me, being cautious, and aware of "Aries men moving too fast," I asked him to reconsider and potentially moving the date to Valentine's Day instead, so that way we would have been talking for 6 months and can actually get to know one another decently. At first, of course, he was stubborn and didn't like the idea, but came around to the "romance" of it all, and is excited to come visit me in NYC in February. As of now, he still hasn't gotten tickets for the trip (I'm not pressed about it, it's fine with me) but he still has that in mind, and even goes as far as saying that he wants to move to NYC just so he can be closer to me- in fact, now that I'm remembering, he wasn't planning on visiting at all, he just wanted to straight up move here in December!! Smh, I talked some sense into him.

ANYWAYS, two months ago I got a weird text from "him" as if it was his "girlfriend," asking who I was, besides being his "side-chick." I, obviously hurt, asked to speak with him instead, and asked him like what tf was that. He said he was showering at the moment but it was his sister getting revenge over him c-blocking her at a party etc etc and I didn't necessarily believe it, because wow what a story. BUT in typical Aries fashion, he bid his "good luck with your life text, peace." and then just left because he knew there was no more trust in the relationship so there's no point. I was very hurt, obviously, cause well 1. he ended it not me, and it was so clearly me who should've ended it at this point, and 2. we didn't even get to really talk about what happened. At this point I didn't hear from him for like a week, and one of our mutual friends from our groups reached out to him cause he really went MIA, even from our groups. The mutual friend spoke with him, expressed to me that she believed he was being genuine and that he didn't know how to get me back because of the way he ended things. Surely enough, a little over a week he called, apologized, admitted what he did was wrong, got his sister to admit what she did, and promised to never do it again. (I've read some forums about Aries coming back with tails between their legs and that is exactly what happened!)

Since then, we've been talking mostly everyday. He'll have his days where he won't contact me, and this sometimes drives me CRAZY cause we're LD so this is literally all we have, but I was straightforward with him and told him to at least reach out once a day just so I know he's okay, and he was receptive to the idea, and he's been pretty good at it. (He has his slip ups now and then, but I respect his space- he's an Aries anyway... but believe me this is a LEARNING process).

Now fast-forward. He is currently on a vacation/trip where he has no reception/cell service so I haven't spoken to him since 12/22, and probably won't talk to him until after New Years when he gets back home. And let me tell you, it's driving me insane not being able to talk to him! I miss him. I guess my biggest concern is that he gets back from his trip and he doesn't feel the same way as he did for the past couple of months. And if he does feel the same and we get back to the groove of things,... how does the relationship continue to develop from here? I think about him all of the damn time, I am honestly heads over heels for him, and I think he feels the same way about me... but what's the next step? He says he's coming in February but I don't know if he actually is, which again, if it doesn't happen I'm not going to be wildly hurt or offended because we have expenses, and our own lives and I wouldn't mind getting to know him more. ALSO, theres little to no phone sex?? Is that natural, especially cause they're such sexual creatures... We talk about sex and we joke around mostly a LOT about it, but only once truly did we actually have "fun." I want to send him things like little gifts and stuff, nothing too crazy, but he always seems to brush it off when I bring it up. I guess my concern is I don't want to fall so hard for him, when this is all the relationship will be- just LD, and over the phone and never transfer to physical life, and if it does, what if we're not compatible? It'd break my heart 😢. Also, how can I keep it fun, I mean I love our conversations, I just don't want him to get bored if there are so many limits to what we can do! Anyways, any tips/advice especially if you've been through something similar would be so appreciated.

TLDR: Met in July, told me he loved me a week after we met, called us "twin flames," two months in, got a weird text from his "gf" swore it was his sister for revenge, broke up for a week, he came back, been talking mostly everyday since, plans to meet in February for the first time, stating my concerns/anxieties, asking for advice for anyone that's been in a long-distance w an Aries, especially to keep it interesting.

Placements:

Me (24, Year of the Dog):

Sun: Cancer (on cancer-leo cusp 7/21)

Moon: Capricorn

Mercury: Cancer

Mars: Gemini

Venus: Virgo

Asc: Virgo

Him (28, Year of the Horse)

Sun: Aries

Moon: Cancer

Mercury: Aries

Mars: Aquarius

Venus: Aquarius

Asc: Gemini

I think you can tell from the placements that we aren't "traditionally" compatible, and I'm a cancer so I overthink things like a mofo. so, thank you in advanced ❤️.

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Posted by Vitale

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!!! thx lol

Cool thread...and informative as well...lol