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I am very iritated right now.....I know this sounds dsyfunctional,,but I am irritated with myself for being so interested in my Aries Friend.....I finally decided to call him last night and he said he would call me back because he was talking o his mother...and I was like thats fine....I was out having a good time with some friends anyway....so I get home and fall asleep and wake up to realize that he had not returned my call....his behavior had been kind of strange all week....real elusive....so I got mad and told him said "I didn't like to be spinned and that I was not going to text or call him anymore.....so he calls me three minutes after that and says he had just got out the shower(this was 4 hrs after I originally called him) and that he wasn't trying to "spin" me....he mentioned having some homework to do...and I just told him that I had been irritable and that I would talk to him later so he could do his work and he insisted on staying on the phone with me......this is the second time he has done this...I mean, if you want to talk to me so bad then why not return my call in the first place...I know this sounds really trivial but I feel vulnerable already and I don't want to come on to strong and I am thinking maybe I shouldn't have threatened him with not talking to him anymore....At first I was really sure he was interested in me and now I'mnot so sure anymore.....and I'mnot trying to throw myself at anybody.......

Patient fire creature.. patient.....! wait until the 3rd times then start to speculate? !

Honestly? does anyone have to answer your call back when you are interested? Let people do their stuff in their own way? or else you are PUSHY with your way..!

Softy, hon - you can't chase an Aries. That is your mistake. If you want to be with a male Aries, then you have to reside yourself to the fact that he is the boss, he has control and he will hunt you down when he is ready. I know that doesn't sound very good, but that is the way it is. You just can't tell him what to do. Once he realized you were getting ticked off and might jet - then he turned around and was coddling again. This is his nature. Take your place behind him, or bug off - those are your only two choices.

Sorry, I know that sounds harsh - but, that's the way it is. Aries rules in a relationship and don't ever forget that, luv.

Hello.. this is gonna sound harsh- so hold my hand...

Let this guy go. It's easy for me to say this, because I'm on the outside looking in.. but what I see is a guy who is avoiding you. That whole, "I'm too busy to even spit your direction" is a clear sign of disinterest. He probably called you back out a level of guilt and obligation, because he wants to back away without you "hating" him.

But this is just my opinion.. and here's a little info about me- regardless of how busy I am, I tend to give the guys I'm interested in a little attention- so they know they important to me. I enjoy the same in return- and I try to find guys who are willing to give that attention I need. If this is YOU, and this guy is not making the little effort that you need- then if I were you, I'd try to wipe my hands of this situation before it gets out of control.

I think that dating is hard work, and once you're committed, you have to make compromises to keep it working-- however, the beginning of the relationship, the "chocolate hearts and roses" stage, shouldn't require so much heavy thinking.

Let it go, for your own sanity. If he's interested, he'll give you a call. If not, then stay open.... there's always someone else.

In the meantime- I know the rejection sucks.

OK, I just realized that I'm replying to these message boards all wrong...sorry.

Softy, What's your sign?

I have to say, I agree with P-Angel and seizeTheday. Aries must be the initiator...there's not other way around it. It sucks, but at the same time, what is so wrong w/ being pursued. My aries took a week to call me after he initially asked for my number. It turns out, he was in the process of moving into a new apt. Aries likes the thrill of the chase...let him chase you. Now, granted, playing the game sucks. We all just want something for what it is and don't want to have to play games to get it. But, at the same time, what's wrong w/ showing someone what they are missing out on, by forcing them to chase you. It can be exhausting, and if it's not worth, please don't waste your time. If you want to play, make sure you can keep up the game...but b/4 you decide, make sure it's worth it. If you stop calling him, he will call you again. If you don't want to engage...make a clean break.

Oh yeah, as far as seizeTheday goes, sign shmign, what it boils down to is how he treats you. If you don't like it, it's definitely not worth it.

Wait a minute....Maybe I was a little misleading......He has made ALL the advances to me ....this is the first time I did that to him.....and I am pmsing..and I let him know that I was irritable....I don't hardly ever call me and I have let him make all the advances...the thing is that when he did I declined on all occasions for arious reasons....timing wasn't right for me. He may have called me back out if guilt...but I'm not for sure about that..maybe. But in conversations before, if he had to call me back...I would be like "okay"...and he would say "Your not mad are you"....and I thought that showed some type of insecurity....and he has done that kind of thing more than once....However I will back off of him.....I'm not convinced that he is no longer interested though....but maybe he isn't any more.

TruthSeeker...I am a Cancer

I had only text him onced....and this was the first time I had called...If he think staht is cjasing him then I can't help that...if that turned him off then I can't help that,

Speaking to you(only in regards to your sign as a cancer) my advice is for you not to take anything your Aries does, personally. If you can handle his blunt openess, his aloofness, his me attitude and inconsiderateness...take him on as a challenge. If these are characteristics that you can't handle, get out while you can.

Hey softy-

Here's the thing. You know him, we don't. At best, the post you gave is just a snapshot you and him, and well can do is call it like we see it. Whether or not he's interested, you'll have to use your best instincts in order to know for sure.

Q is right, some people just need their space. BUT, how much space can you give a person before it's no longer comfy for you? I hope he really is just busy- and once he gets settled- the chase will be back on...

Right... I understand Seize the Day....I like to play the game myself at times...I guess right now I don't really feel like it. I am going to just not phone him again and let him do him....We haven't been intimate before..so that is a good thing as well. I'll just chill out...I do have a tendency at times to become impatient and spoiled and there are othertimes when I have all the paitience in the world...

Truthseeker---Aloofness..inconsiderate..me attitude,,,,,besides the incident I told yu of,,,he has been NONE of those things...he seemed to always be thoughtful, attentive..ask me lots of questions about myself....But to be honest...I did sense that he was just showing me what he wanted me to see at the time...

Sorry about all the typos. Weed has fried the part of brain that allowed me to think and type.

LOL....

I've decided to not even apologize for my typos anymore....there are so many of them....But I figure you guys are smart enough to figure out what I am trying to say anyway

lol, this guy I work with that I also met at this concert, gave me his phone number. And I really like the guy a lot, but I still haven't called him yet. I don't know what I'm waiting for, I guess I just haven't decided if I still feel like calling him or pursuing anything with him yet. He's really funny. I told him I thought he was cute, and that Friday night I thought we really had something. Oh well, I'll just wait till when I see him at work.
And lol, I know that my post is not helping out at all. But best of luck softy, and don't fail to keep us updated.

Crimson

Hey Softy,

I felt the same way when I first met my Aries...like he only wanted me to see what was exactly in front of me, nothing more and nothing less...very illusive. However, he went about it differently (and we discussed this a few weeks later). On our FIRST date, he told me "everything" from age 18 to present (he's 27). He said that he just wanted to put everything out in the open, so that I would decide whether I was in or out(of course i'm paraphrasing). But when I spoke to him about it later, I told him that I thought that was bullshit. He did it to make me think he was open and honest, when really he was trying to prevent me from seeing his true self (which very slowly but surely is becoming more apparent). I if you do engage in this game of "love" you will at least see him for who he is, and possibly learn some things about yourself.

Crimson...if I am really interested in a guy...I give him my number and that takes some pressure off of me...

AprilBaby...I've dated ARies menn before and nothing....he hasjust caught me at a different stage in my life and I am trying to be more open....He isn't usually the typ I would fall for....

well...I usually like the type I have to go for a little and not the ones who are making very forward advances to me...this guy has been very forward and normally I would be turned off....but right now...at this stage in my life,,,,I don't feel I am up for a challenge....and kind of am just enjoying his initial interest me and hopefully its still there,,,,if not...ill move on

I hope that answers your ?

I didn't have time to fully answer your question in my previous post Aprilbaby...but I've bee hurt really bad going after a guy that was't consistent with me...and at first I found this trait intriguing.....it kept me on my toes and always thinking...but the more my feelings grew for him, the more I got hurt and frustated with the solution...needless to say...my heart got broken and it still hurts very bad...therefore...I decided to try and not get turned off so quick wjen someone comes after me full force....because I don't think I can handle much right now.