A diss or a compliment?

When a guy tells you he really wants to be with you, but he won't commit until he has his life together?

Can be interpreted as "he isn't ready to commit", "he isn't interested in committing to YOU" or on the other hand as "He values you so much, that he wants to be able to provide for you when you are finally together" and "He want to make sure he matches your potential by being the best he can be".

Thoughts?

Usually he is very honest. Sometimes too honest. And he is a Libra (28 years old).

Yeah? I took it personal of course and thought he's pushing me away. But after the typical initial and impulsive reaction passed I came to the conclusion, that this might have been the realest thing I heard in a while..

I wouldn't think so either especially due to the fact that he said he loved me. I think Libras don't throw around that word loosely.. But on the other hand life is what's happening now and it seems like he is willing to risk loosing me while he "gets his life together". You know? On one hand I have a whole lot of respect for him for being straight up about it and giving me this heads up, but then again what if it takes him 20 years to get to where he wants to be? Lol that's silly to me. You can also work on getting where you want to be together.. Or is this a distraction?

I read in the "relationship" forum that some guy said "broke guys don't deserve a relationship". He said that if a man is not where he wants to be the last thing he should be worried about is a relationship. Basically the thought that getting it together is the primarily focus in a worthy man's mind.
I'm torn..

Posted by Aries04
I read in the "relationship" forum that some guy said "broke guys don't deserve a relationship". He said that if a man is not where he wants to be the last thing he should be worried about is a relationship. Basically the thought that getting it together is the primarily focus in a worthy man's mind.
I'm torn..

Precisely...relationship isn't what a guy should be worried about when he can't even get himself together.

Interesting interesting..

The exact mind vs heart game. But I guess as long as the guy is the mind and the woman the heart we're good..

That passionate, impulsive and impatient Aries in me thoooo :/

Posted by feby16aqua
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Posted by Aries04
Interesting interesting..

The exact mind vs heart game. But I guess as long as the guy is the mind and the woman the heart we're good..

That passionate, impulsive and impatient Aries in me thoooo :/

Your perspective is understandable but most guys will walk away if pressured under these circumstances.