Aries...

Hola peeps! So, this post by no means suggests that I'm still hung up on the Aries amigo, but I do find it to be rather interesting. He has this thing, he communicates via songs or song lyrics. He sends me texts sometimes throughout the day, with a lyric or two from a song. He had purpose to everything he does, that is just how he is, but I don't look into them anymore, I use to... Anyways, last night, he sent me this youtube song before he went to bed:

lol, he's still trying to weasel his way back.

Guys who manipulate and use women for their selfish needs tend to pull this shit. You tell them no, they push. You really make a point, they'll stop, but try another approach.

Our society has conditioned men to act like little kids. Blame it on the typical mom/son bond. Little boys can get away with more from mom, than say, dad. In turn, when they grow up, they continue these manipulations to get their way. Worked with mom, a female, so it'll work with other females too.

So in turn, it's why some guys like this won't take no for an answer. They know if they push, manipulate, and snake their way into your conscious that they'll get what they want.

...then toss you aside when they're done. This is in regard to the manipulative, narcissistic douches though.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
lol, he's still trying to weasel his way back.

Guys who manipulate and use women for their selfish needs tend to pull this shit. You tell them no, they push. You really make a point, they'll stop, but try another approach.

Our society has conditioned men to act like little kids. Blame it on the typical mom/son bond. Little boys can get away with more from mom, than say, dad. In turn, when they grow up, they continue these manipulations to get their way. Worked with mom, a female, so it'll work with other females too.

So in turn, it's why some guys like this won't take no for an answer. They know if they push, manipulate, and snake their way into your conscious that they'll get what they want.

...then toss you aside when they're done. This is in regard to the manipulative, narcissistic douches though.

Totally, what an enlightening perspective! Today he has texted like nothing... which is totally fine, and just confirms that he is doing the jedi mind tricks. Let me try to tug a few of her heart strings and see what happens. Boys.

+1 million Rocky

Is he 14? So immature & annoying. Why not cut him off completely so maybe he'll open his mouth and speak.

So needy and insecure. Don't forget me. Don't forget me. Whoo hoo I still exist. Remember me.I'm important to you type of behavior. It's extremely selfish narcissistic to behave the way he's behaving.

Look mofo...Either you're in my life or you're out. You gotta get a little stronger. If he didn't take you when he could have you then he has absolutely no business inserting himself in your life/mental space.

I notice a pattern with you Rea is you allow men to stick around way past their expiration date. It's like you're stuck on toxic men even way after they are gone.

Why not choose a good man. Of course the term Good man is a relative term but mainly good man is about the kind of man that see your worth, don't jack around with your emotions and is available and present and willing to be with you.

I bet if you take 2 steps towards that Aries his ass is running in the other direction. Typical ambiguous bullshit behavior and it means absolutely NOTHING. He's just bored.

Posted by SugarAries
My ex does this too. It's definitely manipulative. If you have something to say, open your mouth and say it. Don't send me some cryptic BS for me to decipher your feelings so you can don't have to be held accountable when shet blows up, because afterall, you never really said how you felt.

Totally, I'm not a grey person and I'm a black and white one. I don't read in-between the lines, I read the lines.

Posted by starlover
If you STILL find his behaviour interesting, i am worried about you

Oh, you're so sweet! Don't be! I'm completely fine and detached. I've known and been close to the guy for so long, and it's just my nature to find his behavior "interesting". The only difference now though, is that I am able to do so objectively, as opposed to being an emotional wreck and wreaking havoc all over the dxp boards about it :-) I love learning about people in general also, why they do the things they do, what goes on behind the curtains to make them do and say the things they do... and behave or not behave a certain way.

These days, I'm practicing something new. For example, I know how it makes me feel when my sister throws attitude at me for no reason, or nags me about this or that. So, I try to not do that to others, since I don't want to make them feel the way I did? Does that make sense? It's hard to do all the time, but it helps to give me something positive to think about :-)

Oooooh ma'am i aint falling for any of that ~ i can read your energy ~~ you are in a very messy enmeshed rship with this boy ~~ you are in denial and the only way to become healthy is to totally get him out of your life

He is toxic and you are holding to his toxicity

You are a lovely lady and you know what i write is true




I don't know, I mean, I feel great and emotionally in a good place. Could it be that I've just pushed the stuff so deep down inside so as not to deal with it?

+1 million...Go on then Star! Tell it like it is lol

I agree with everyone. Let the assclown go already. You are blocking your blessings when you prefer a toxic man over a healthy man.

If you're still dabbling around with this toxic man I can only begin to believe you too have some toxic qualities yourself. Like attracts Like.

This guy has done everything to you but throw the kitchen sink at you and you're still hanging onto this man and entertaining this mess.

We know what's wrong with him. But what's wrong with you? Are you that needy and desperate for a man that you'd keep this one around as to not have deal with yourself?

I'm not understanding how you can be bothered unless you're dishonest with yourself about your feelings for him.

You are being dishonest. Not only do you like him. You probably even love him and/or feel feelings of being in love with him and you secretly hope he'll stop being a jerk, change his mind about you and be with you or some variation of it and....It's all fantasy.

You don't need him. You don't need to figure out how he thinks blah blah blah..It's all an excuse you're using to keep him in your life. Plus you are beyond being inquisitive. It appears more like the stench of desperation.

Only a desperate lonely woman would hang onto a man that isn't adding anything to her life but headfucks full of bullshit.

Here's the deal. You have some type of deep-seated connection with the Aries. It sounds kind of unhealthy and there appears to be a lot of reluctance on your part to give it up completely. Aries-Aqua connection is powerful but, you still have to honor who you are as a person.
He is not going to change. It is up to you to wean yourself off of the Aries energy crack. If he has access to both your phone and email...choose one to block him from. Do not say anything to him about it. Just do it. Limiting contact with him will help. Do not see him in person at all. It is going to take 90 days of limited contact for you to be strong enough to cut him off completely. Baby steps. I am an Aries woman with a couple of Aqua Exes one of which being my twin flame. It took me 5 months of no contact to feel like myself again after breaking up with an Aqua. Now, we are cool with one another. We are friends on Facebook but, we do not contact one another. We have an agreement not to talk to one another unless it is a life or death emergency. We respect this boundary with one another and it works. Plus, we live 1,000 miles away from each other. So, we do not see one another in person at all. Consider, installing some serious boundaries between you and the Aries...and abandon hope that he is going to someday be the man for you...he isn't. Find yourself an evolved Aries man. He will treat you like gold and fight for your proverbial honor whether you want him to or not...lol. 🙂

Posted by starlover
Rocky

I just read your passage to my 14yr old son and told him when a woman says NO, she doesnt mean YES and if i thought in the future he was crossing the line, he would be in BIG trouble

At this point in time (and having lived in Mommy boy Ireland for so long) i am sick to the high teeth of the way women DON'T teach their sons how to grow up....and even weirder how they don't want their sons to have other women in their life....yuk!

The Aries guy Rae talks of is a typical example of not having a clue about a) boundaries and b) how to respect a woman

it is actually quite pathetic

I was reading somewhere about how guys who have mommy issues tend to take it out on the women they date later in life. It's kinda dur, but it's the various ways that they go about it. It may not be physically abusive or sociopath bs (like a trend you see with America's Most Wanted or whatever), but they take all the things they learned about women from mom, and use it to their favor. The little things that they know will work on women in order for them to get their way/get laid.

It's why I'm semi wary of guys with lots of girls for friends. So far, in my experience, guys like this had some mommy issues and they were also the type to use and abuse in all sorts of fucked up ways. Namely, much like the example the OP gave. They keep lots of women around because it's for their own selfish reasons, whether it be emotional or physical.

Overall, I think the OP is making good progress. She's gonna get to the point where he's completely gone. Estrogen makes it take time. Because it freaking sucks like that.

Tiki and Starlover: Just to clarify, I never said I didn't have feelings for the Aries or am trying to come off as if I don't. I'm simply saying that emotionally, I feel that I am in a good place when it comes to him. I'm not sure if you recall our history, but we pretty much were in a friendlationship for almost 5 years... I just started distancing myself from him a few months ago. Although my mind and emotional state is stronger, it definitely isn't at it's strongest. I don't know about you guys, I just can't stop caring about someone or flip a switch on my heart. That happens with time, and if things like this are rushed, in my opinion, you don't heal and move on correctly. So, my apologies if I came off as if I didn't have any feelings for him, of course I do, I'm just not emotional and cray cray over him or how I react to things involving him. Hello McFlies... if I'm posting anything on here about him, that in itself makes it clear that I still care. The only difference now though, is I'm no longer at his fingertips, or replying to his every text or answering his every call. I know some people don't think I should respond to any at all...ever. I respect that, I come on this board and post to hear honest responses, not candy coated ones. I'm aware of his behavior, I'm aware of mine (I can be too tolerant), and I've taken something from each response I get, they have all helped me in one way or another. For the most part, what I do (or try to), is take those bits of advice from each post, heed them, and put them into motion in a way and pace that works for me. So please know, that I am always so grateful, enlightened and try to take everything each person says in with a deep breath and practice it somehow. I get little pieces of strength from each post.

I am living my own life and making myself and family a priority. Sure, there are times when it can be challenging, but I just keep busy and find something else to do... that always does the trick.

Thank you again to all of you for always taking the time to read my posts and for putting thought and time into your responses!!!!! You guys are awesome blossom!!!!!!!!!!!