Aries mother

I need a response from any sign on this one. My mother is Aries. I love her with all my heart. I am a sagitarius. And growing up together we should have been very compatible, according to books I've read on astrolgy. However growing up with her, I feel like I was never good enough. She paid attention to me only when I did something bad. Like get a C in mathematics while I got A's and B's in the other subjects. And she was really hard on me. She cared alot about what other people thought and how our family looked on the outside. Emotionally, I didn't get much from her. And this played into my adult life. I didn't get really close to her until I moved out of the house. I think she was very unfulfilled in her life and I felt she looked at me as a burden. I've never known this until recently. I work with someone who is an Aries. And at first we were compatible, but then I saw characteristics in her that resembled my mom. And at this point, we don't get along. She doesn't trust anybody else's work. You can tell she's trying too hard. It's hard to even talk to her without feeling as if you're below her. This is NOT a message board to bag on Aries females! And please, do not feel sorry for me. I know Aries mean well, and they have good hearts under the surface. I would like to know if anyone else feels how I feel or have gone through what I went through and how they dealt with it. It's funny, I can get along well with an Aries male. Please respond.

I'm and Aries female and a Leo friend of mine -- who has an Aries (April) sister, once told me that March Aries are very different from April Aries.

And I can understand what your going through because I'm an Aries female (March), and I have a close Aries friend (April); She can be what you described. I am not exactly sure though. But I'm totally different from my friend. She literally sees red on lots of issues and things are not good enough as well. So I am now curious if your mom -- and coworker are March or April.

But perhaps someone else can offer some insight. Good luck.

Hey, I know precisely what you're talking about. However, I've lived a life as a "slacker" in everyone else's eyes and just plain a failure in my own. My mom is an Aries/Taurus cusp with an Aries moon, and I know for a fact she has regrets about things. (Like...not finishing college, working for a butthead lawyer for 18 years, and marrying at 20...) Can you say "Super Aries?" My mom also worries what other people think of her parenting skills and since I was old enough to speak I've never once won an argument with her. (My dad either, for that matter...he's a Leo with a Scorp moon and ascendant!)

My advice to you is simply this: talk to her! For all my mother's stubbornness and eye-poppingly frustrating logic, I can talk to her about almost anything. Anything that a 17 year old can talk to parents about, I've talked to my mother about. You've just got to go with the pretense that she's not opinionated, she's just always right. Buy her a coffee mug or a t-shirt that says that, too. A nice hot cup of cocoa does wonders to start a nice convo! =)

Besides, look at the logic, how can a personal conflict with anyone and under any circumstances ever be solved without person-to-person talk involved— Exactly!

Hope I helped...even just a little bit =)

I'm an Aries mother. I have a teenage daughter. Not a typical Aries tho, because I have always nurtured my daughter, loved her, and done my best to understand her. Praised her for her good points, and discussed the bad ones with her, helping her figure out how to deal with her problems. She is a Capricorn/Aquarius cusp child. We have our disagreements..but still have more good times than bad.

I am sorry you and your mother didn't get on as best you could. But there are many reasons that such things happen. Especially if your mom was not happy with herself. We have to feed the child within ourselves, before we can nurture others in a proper manner.

Thanks for replying...in fact your responses did help. My mother and co-worker are born in April. I don't know if my co-worker and I could be good friends right away. But talking with each other would be a good start. I've noticed that she is competitive. But not the 'healthy type' competitive. It's more like she has to have one up on you. And that was the difficulty with her. I also noticed that she is impatient, to the point where she'll almost snap at you. I have to learn to accept her shortcomings and not hold it against her. I guess to combat this is to be direct with her if something she does bothers me at that moment, and not to hold it in. And avoid turning it into an argument, of course. Keep the responses coming if you have anymore...it's good to hear them.