Aries women? Do you recognise this?

Hi folks...

I posted this elsewhere before realising i should be talking to the pros...

As a fairly conventional Aquaman I'm always drawn to Libras, Sags, Scorpios - and of course my own.
On the other hand, I've been plagued with a Pisces Moon.
It makes me a sometimes a magnet for other peoples energy.

Recently however, I've got to know an unusual person. She claims she's an Aries. First Aries Ive ever known,
I think she has a somewhat high opinion of me. Almost like she's got me on a pedestal.
I'm ten years her senior. She's beautiful in an otherworldly, spiritual way.
Very hip. Bouncy. Smiling. Energetic. And then, quiet.
Huge disarming, psychic eyes.
I feel like I know her for 1000 years.

When I see her [at her restaurant], this is what happens:

Initially, I??d talk a little. Then she would.
Then a lot.
I've a slightly eccentric, dry, and direct sense of humour, which almost nobody gets. She does.
Our time together usually involves her laughing out loud, a lot. People notice.
I won't say she's hanging on my every word but I see she finds me intriguing or different. Its mutual.
She beams when she sees me. Brightly. If it wasn't so beautiful to see it'd be embarrassing.
We talk. A lot. Effortlessly.

She steals eye contact whilst working. She has big round ethereal eyes and they're magnetic. Ahem... sorry!
If she nervously drops something, she glances straight at me.
Occasionally she slips me little 'gifts' - tastes of nice things at her restaurant, seeking approval almost.
She locked the door one night and we sat and talked for [6] hours instead of going to [her BFs] event.
She has a few close gay male friends. I get on well with them, or rather, they seem to accept me.
If she has time, she'll come and sit with me. Not with other [straight] men.
I should say that in the beginning I initiated conversation, on myriad topics.
I wasn't slow to give [professional] compliments and opinions.
She shares personal details about her work life, and [some] personal relationship challenges.

She suggested I accompany her to an event far out of town where her BF was performing.
She's indicated that she doesnt like to be arm-candy, or in the limelight with her BF as he seemingly prefers.
Then she suggested I check out her tai chi class, after work, just me and her.

She has stood by her Leo BF loyally, but they have some tensions in their relationship. He's possibly domineering.
He clearly hates me of course. I woul

Hi folks...

I posted this elsewhere before realising i should be talking to the pros...

As a fairly conventional Aquaman I'm always drawn to Libras, Sags, Scorpios - and of course my own.
On the other hand, I've been plagued with a Pisces Moon.
It makes me a sometimes a magnet for other peoples energy.

Recently however, I've got to know an unusual person. She claims she's an Aries. First Aries Ive ever known,
I think she has a somewhat high opinion of me. Almost like she's got me on a pedestal.
I'm ten years her senior. She's beautiful in an otherworldly, spiritual way.
Very hip. Bouncy. Smiling. Energetic. And then, quiet.
Huge disarming, psychic eyes.
I feel like I know her for 1000 years.

When I see her [at her restaurant], this is what happens:

Initially, I??d talk a little. Then she would.
Then a lot.
I've a slightly eccentric, dry, and direct sense of humour, which almost nobody gets. She does.
Our time together usually involves her laughing out loud, a lot. People notice.
I won't say she's hanging on my every word but I see she finds me intriguing or different. Its mutual.
She beams when she sees me. Brightly. If it wasn't so beautiful to see it'd be embarrassing.
We talk. A lot. Effortlessly.

She steals eye contact whilst working. She has big round ethereal eyes and they're magnetic. Ahem... sorry!
If she nervously drops something, she glances straight at me.
Occasionally she slips me little 'gifts' - tastes of nice things at her restaurant, seeking approval almost.
She locked the door one night and we sat and talked for [6] hours instead of going to [her BFs] event.
She has a few close gay male friends. I get on well with them, or rather, they seem to accept me.
If she has time, she'll come and sit with me. Not with other [straight] men.
I should say that in the beginning I initiated conversation, on myriad topics.
I wasn't slow to give [professional] compliments and opinions.
She shares personal details about her work life, and [some] personal relationship challenges.

She suggested I accompany her to an event far out of town where her BF was performing.
She's indicated that she doesnt like to be arm-candy, or in the limelight with her BF as he seemingly prefers.
Then she suggested I check out her tai chi class, after work, just me and her.

She has stood by her Leo BF loyally, but they have some tensions in their relationship. He's possibly domineering.
He clearly hates me of course. I woul

Continued from Above.....

He clearly hates me of course. I would too. He's an intensely jealous type.

I always tell her that she is a remarkable woman. I think she believes it more when I clearly do.
She has a very powerful energy. Confident. Bright. Light. Active and Warm.
Inside she's much more fragile. She's told me so.

She is wonderfully direct. No games.
We have a particular/odd drink we both like. She takes great pleasure in setting up glasses for us both to try.
When I mentioned that her place is full of interesting and smart people, she finished my sentence; "like you".

Now I hope this all doesnt sound too pathetic, but [a] I cant get her out of my head is this just classic Aries?
[c] do dxp women think this has potential? [d] are aries women monogamous, as I am [e] does she actually like
me? [f] should I just slip away, decouple as it were? [g] is it possible that an Aries (? Moon] could be a perfect foil to my
dreaming, thinking and imagining?

I should mention that Ive been single for a year - I'm a monk.
And I??ve no desire to give anyone in a deteriorating relationship, a getout clause, if thats even the case.
The problem is [see A, above]...

Thank you wise people! Let me know what you think...

PS
I'm not usually this flaky.
(It only happens with the important things)

Wow - firstly...thank you - sincerely for your insight and advice.
No emails and Never checked back so assumed I got put in the crazy pile. Not yet I guess!

Twodrinkminimum - thanks 🙂 And you are right about BF. Its unspeakably bad karma to even think about her...but - what can I do? But I won't help break up any relationship. Ever. Not consciously.

In this case the guy seems like he's deeply in love. Possessive. Jealous. Id be just the same.
She has told me they've nearly broken up 3 times. Also that all her friends dislike / do not speak to him. Which is actually sad for both I think.
She's also mentioned she's gonna do this and go there with him, support him and not listen to her friends criticisms i.e. she's fiercely loyal..
He's pushing to go into business with her. Privately, she's showed me his business plan, telling me never to tell him id seen it.
I told her to act carefully in any business partnership and she's said she makes big decisions very very carefully.

But, theres a connection regardless...I know she has feelings. I can feel when she's looking at me, fleetingly. If I catch her she just smiles, or asks me some dumb question. I dropped a glass off my table once and - no lie - she was right there in a second to catch it. She'd watched it nudge closer and closer to the edge whilst I read my paper. Yeah I can read. Paper.

Anyways, Ive done some research myself. I like to depend on psychic intuition but hell i need some science once in a while 🙂

What i;ve learned:
She's got Gemini on a 7th House Cusp. This is not a reference to an ice-cream sundae, no.
Apparently it means she needs an intellectual connection. I'm not as talented as her beau but I'd have an edge there. I mean, he's a Leo 🙂
There again, I've got Leo on my 7th cusp. Which surprised me. Might explain how easily I connect with 'Leader' types. I feel she's a natural leader but doesnt yet know it.
I'm full of ideas. And people seem to like my perspective. I think she might see how easily I can communicate the same ideas she values/senses, but finds it difficult to express. So I (Aries moon) jump into unusual (Aqua) stuff in a feeling (Pisces) way and she thinks "he's saying what I'm thinking/feeling".
Plus she loves conversation. Not just with me. And she loves joking/playing. And with a mental age of 9, I'm easy to relate to of course 🙂
Maybe?

Anyway. Here's my wager. They'll break up in November. She'll change her life completely and embark on a rou

She'll change her life completely and embark on a route of self expression (for the first time), stop being fascinated by supposedly dynamic Leos (or Aquas or whatever) and start exploring her own latent talents. I'll always love her. I won't send her emails after she goes to India or Belize. No, I'll send her frock's letters. Yes, those.
But ultimately my role will be summed up as someone who once told her directly and passionately that she's a star. And she believed it.

In previous relationships she's been attracted to 'stars'. Now, she'll go shine, herself.
I hope so.

I wish I was the controlling, domineering type you read about who would want to clip her wings and remind her sternly how lucky she'd be.
Unfortunately, I can't lie. She's so money. And she does't need anything. And now she knows it.

Damn...

Bmoon8 thanks for your positivity and humour also. I need to stay on here to learn more about you rams 🙂 And apparently Ive one of your moons.
I do agree theres something deeper with my friend but it would break me in two if all she wanted/needed was a far flung fling.

AriesLady8 - Thanks for explaining what works for aries - I had no idea about Aries women. Or perhaps that should be just women 🙂
BTW her BF is away a lot and I am not. We've got to hang out and so get closer.


We guys usually have just one thing on our mind, its true.
In my case that's an eternal, cosmic, psychic soul connection.

Not too much to ask, right?


PS - In return for all your kind feedback, I would like to offer my services to any Aqua/Pisces Manalysis you may require.
If you're frustrated with an Aqua acting aloof (as if), or a Pisces promising you the earth (unlikely), just let me know.

wow it seems that 'fr-icken' becomes 'french tickle' here on dxp...Surely thats much worse - right?

Wow, you've got it bad 😄

AriesGirl74

You're just jealous 🙂

She's definetely liking you. And her friends seem to notice that and support both of you, I think. From the fact that her male friends haccept you but they don't talk to her Leo BF...
My ex was an Aqua, too. After he asked me to be his gf he ever said something like "I noticed so many things about your feeling."
Y'know, we Arians just aren't good at hiding our feelings. We never are. 🙂 Even his bestfriends and classmates noticed about my love for him even though I didn't tell them anything. She's definetely fallen for you.

And don't worry, we're extremely loyal for those we are truly love.

I connect really well with Aries (men obviously) I dated 3 and married the 3rd and have been togther for 8 years now! I think we are a really good match.. nothing is always perfect but issues aside we are best friends, get on super well, have a great laugh.. we are an odd pating but we have great energy together and other people can see that too.. only thing with my hubby is that he requires more emotional stimulation than intellectual where as i require the intellectual side.. He likes to talk about everything he is doing or interested in (mostly tech stuff)but if I try and talk about things that interest me, he has no interest in talking about it what so ever and shuts me down. Affection wise, he needs that from me which i find over baring at times.

She definitely likes you and I personally think Aqua and Aries are a great match, guess it also depends on the natal chart placements too.

I was with a Leo for 2 years and all I will say is NEVER again! lol

Good luck with her 😄

Posted by Bluezaold


And don't worry, we're extremely loyal for those we are truly love.

100% true

Thanks to you both [CCAqua and Bluezaoid].
My Aries seems totally loyal, transparent and honest too. Like its the law.

Your experiences are real helpful. Interesting [CCAqua] you've been with 3xAries. That says something. I wonder what are your placements?
I totally get the emotiona/intellectual thing.
She has zero interest in all my trivial pursuits, its like she's only interested in the passenger, not the baggage 🙂

Being older than this Aries by 10 years, one of my biggest thoughts is that it would never work, etc
I wonder what Aries women think about older guys, even if Im a little bit youthful for my age.

The last time we met, we hung out a little too long. It messed up her (+bf) schedule. I was embarrassed but I'd lost track of time and nobody else was there to help her close the joint. She messaged me when she got home - at 1am - to say a big thanks/she had an awesome time/hoped to see me the next day. xox etc But - when I did just that, she was like a ghost the next day. Silent. Weird. A different person.

Are you okay? I asked slowly - 'No, not really', she murmured, awkwardly.

Feeling suddenly totally awkward also, I made immediate excuses to leave my untouched beer and exit. She looked back me, "Did you only come here for a beer?" 'Of course I didn't...", I said, looking straight at her. (Which brought on a small, sheepish smile as i walked downstairs and out).

Damn, I dunno...
What do you think?
I'm flying to LA tomorrow and this is gonna mess my head up good!

Aquapiscesmoon,

Did some snooping, headed over to the Aries board, found your thread. Now that I know the whole story, here's what you do.

Ask her to be your girlfriend. She's not happy with her BF, it's obvious. I don't know, theres nothing solid about a boyfriend/girlfriend. If you don't like the person, you leave. Done. When you marry, you have to work at it. But if it's just having fun, I don't know...

She maybe is not sure if you want a relationship, because I can see the mixed signals coming from you.

My Aqua is 15+ my age. We lover older men. It shouldn't even be an issue. When she said "no not really," It was your turn to ask "Why? What's wrong?" Not in a take advantage sort of way, in the way that kids skin their knees, and they want you to notice, and pay attention.

Aries are big babies. Keep this in mind.

I would not ask her to be your gf just yet. Even if she isn't happy, she has a bf. By asking her out, you'd be asking for more uncomfortable and awkward moments. It seems like she likes you, but isn't ready to completely detach or cut off her current boyfriend.

She could be acting distant because of the "messed up schedule" situation, and her bf might have caught on to what's going on, so she has backed off for a little while. Give it time.

AriesIntrovert16,

I don't know, they seem to have a relationship already. Plus she's already given him tons of her personal info/thoughts/ actions (with the BF).

We are quick to make friends, and quick to talk about ourselves, but not really to divulge our secrets.

Her Gemini influence may make her a bit fluttery, a social butterfly, but we Aries don't like games. Straight and to the point. It may be uncomfortable but it has to be let out. He has to try. Otherwise, it would be a big "what if"

Instead, let it be "It is what it is"

He's also sensitive, Pisces moon, and could just give up forever. If Aquapiscesmoon wants to take it slowly, good, he can get a better feel. But if she's already got one foot out the door (broken up 3 times)...

Posted by aquapiscesmoon
AriesGirl74

You're just jealous 🙂

Haha 🙂 noooo not at all! I can relate to her behaviour with you, but please be careful here. There are certain people in my lifetime - guys specifically - that I totally clicked with and my eyes would light up if I saw them and I would rush up to them and initiate conversations and spend time with them, and be all touchy feely because I liked them. As a friend. They would give some aura off that would really make me want to selflessly know about them and be with them.
I did not however have any romantic feelings for them and this has caught me out a few times with these very guys who mistook my behaviour for something more than friendship. And I would get cross about it coz Aries are childlike and can energise other people and make them feel good with our presence. Like she gives you little gifts - we do that coz we want to give - no ulterior motive. I had no idea these guys were getting "the wrong signals" from me so to speak.

As everyone has mentioned, she has a bf and a Leo one at that. You sound smitten and that is not helping you think clearly, and let's not be niaive here - you know about the bf and you say you don't want to "consciously" break them up, but by spending time with her, complimenting her...you know exactly what you're doing 😉
And if the Leo bf finds out, sh1t will hit the fan for you and the Aries, and that will be a whole new level of awkward.
Be her friend until otherwise. Aries are leaders and are quite capable of initiating change in their lives. Don't manipulate the situation.

Posted by AriesGirl74

Posted by aquapiscesmoon
AriesGirl74

You're just jealous 🙂

Haha 🙂 noooo not at all! I can relate to her behaviour with you, but please be careful here. There are certain people in my lifetime - guys specifically - that I totally clicked with and my eyes would light up if I saw them and I would rush up to them and initiate conversations and spend time with them, and be all touchy feely because I liked them. As a friend. They would give some aura off that would really make me want to selflessly know about them and be with them.
I did not however have any romantic feelings for them and this has caught me out a few times with these very guys who mistook my behaviour for something more than friendship. And I would get cross about it coz Aries are childlike and can energise other people and make them feel good with our presence. Like she gives you little gifts - we do that coz we want to give - no ulterior motive. I had no idea these guys were getting "the wrong signals" from me so to speak.

As everyone has mentioned, she has a bf and a Leo one at that. You sound smitten and that is not helping you think clearly, and let's not be niaive here - you know about the bf and you say you don't want to "consciously" break them up, but by spending time with her, complimenting her...you know exactly what you're doing 😉
And if the Leo bf finds out, sh1t will hit the fan for you and the Aries, and that will be a whole new level of awkward.
Be her friend until otherwise. Aries are leaders and are quite capable of initiating change in their lives. Don't manipulate the situation.

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Thanks everyone...you're so very kind.

Update:

1. The couple are on a longstanding vacation in Mexico - having a good time i hope.
2. Penny - you??re awesome girl but I can't believe you! You Crazy 🙂
3. AriesGirl74 is totally right
4. I would never - no way - go there without 1. a clear signal +2. a 100% single woman.
5. He is a good guy, maybe a really good guy, + Ive no idea the depth of their thing

So - alls I can do is exit I think.
Maybe disappear for a while because our connection is sometimes clear
for all to see, and I get embarrassed when people see her/me in thrall to each other.
I know where the lines are. I'm probably on the wrong side + need to cross back, asAG74 has rightly said.

Very possibly she's merely dreaming/imagining a —better?? life (which may not exist).
I'm only reading/sensing her (immediate) thoughts. That part's easy.

And as you say AriesGirl74, (+ because I'm so inexperienced with you Ramfolk), this
behaviour, whilst seeming to me so much more than friendship, could be just that.
(I had no idea how playful, psychic, energetic, nuts, sociable, strong, competitive!, and
beautiful you horny-headed sheep were)

As Ive said- I??ve never pursued someone in a relationship - Not cool IMO. Ever.
Out of respect for him - and for their —thing?? and out of care for her decision-making.
Rebounds don't interest me...Unless she shares something very Big.
People like me (and some of you) only want Big.
I??ve had this feeling just once in my life, so I figured it was real this time.
AG74 and others have taught me that I'm probably wrong.
My Bad.

Nonetheless, I feel so lucky to have met her.
It feels strongly like we've known each other for 5 or 600 years.
With all the people in the world, whats the chances we met/again, right?
So I??d love to know her for a few more years

OK - back to your pastures everyone - Nothing to see here!
(Penny - i hope you??re reading this? 😉

Just a side note, I know all Aries girls are different (with the differentiating placements) but we love the compliments, the sweet talk and to be told we are loved.

Posted by pennystealing123
Just a side note, I know all Aries girls are different (with the differentiating placements) but we love the compliments, the sweet talk and to be told we are loved.

oh yeah rams love that stuff...and we respond to genuine people. Maybe she just likes you because you're nice..I wouldn't read too much into it