*sigh* it's hard being an Aries girl sometimes...

Can anyone else relate?

@Arietteheart2

Aries-need for challenge and independent.

Libra-Want for balance and relationship.

Constant battle -_-

@tiz I didn't know you were an Aries girl 😛 🙂

Working between being yourself and connecting with people. But it's hard to be yourself when nobody likes your brash craziness 😢

Posted by tiziani
It's Empathy Fridays and I'm practicing empathy : P

Sidenote: Libran energy is independent imo. It's just that self-discovery happens faster in relationship contexts.

All is know is from what I read and all I read about my combo is that I crave independence and relationship at the same time.

Lol and what you wrote doesn't sound independent to me, it sounds rather dependent.

But I understand that part in self-discovery happens faster in relationship contexts. It's easier to understand who you are when you have experiences and... something to compare it against.

Posted by xtina
Working between being yourself and connecting with people. But it's hard to be yourself when nobody likes your brash craziness 😢

Mannnnn who you telling.. How can you be yourself when your true self is impulsive but never intentionally harmful? We cause a storm and walk around smiling after 5 minutes expecting everybody to forget what just happened smh

@tiz what do you mean by social influences?

@Aries04 I know! I and up stepping on more toes than I can count but it gets so tiresome to tread on egg shells -_-

I can.

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Posted by xtina
@tiz what do you mean by social influences?

For example, have you ever had a connection with someone where - by itself just between you both - it was great, no major roadbumps... but then once either money, friends, family or any kind of outside concerns came into the equation it's a different story?

A common theme of Aries/Libra is boundaries, from now till infinity.

My usefulness in this thread is fast disappearing, but it's just something I was thinking about with the two signs.

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No useful needed for contribution ^_^... it's just nice to have people that relate to talk to.

I guess I never had that experience before... because IME I've always been able to relate it back to some internal factor.

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I can.

Posted by xtina
@Aries04 I know! I and up stepping on more toes than I can count but it gets so tiresome to tread on egg shells -_-

Too true!!!! I was having just this convo today saying I was SICK of compromising myself to save other peoples ego/feelings; As an Aries I just want to be myself. People don't understand that it's suffocating to an Aries to try and placate other people; makes me want to break out and run for the hills 😢
People who are akin to us love our dynamic, forthright and sassy nature so fuck everyone else!!! 😄

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Posted by xtina
@Aries04 I know! I and up stepping on more toes than I can count but it gets so tiresome to tread on egg shells -_-

Too true!!!! I was having just this convo today saying I was SICK of compromising myself to save other peoples ego/feelings; As an Aries I just want to be myself. People don't understand that it's suffocating to an Aries to try and placate other people; makes me want to break out and run for the hills 😢
People who are akin to us love our dynamic, forthright and sassy nature so fuck everyone else!!! 😄

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Yes, yes, yes! There is something liberating about being ourselves!

Agree with running for the hills and that is my usual inclination FUCK the rest... and once I'm on top of that hill I feel lonely 😢

Granted my BEST of friends are exactly like me, but then we are on separate hills and hardly get to see each other haha.

@Aries04 I think this goes back to our whole vulnerability conversation *sigh* 😢

Posted by inmercury
I had a close Aries friend who I never speak to anymore, but I understand her. You guys are just living contradictions and have to deal with the consequences. If you want people to respect your space, you need to respect theirs. It's so funny how much you need your independence and yet you need people around whenever you desire attention.

I agree with the independent part. There is something about me that can only stand hanging out with people so long. As for the attention part I feel that everyone likes attention... at least now and then, it's only human 😄

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Posted by starlover
One of the Aries guys i was with didnt know how to empathise with others...when i finished with him i asked him if he could in the future try and consider the *other* person ~~ he said * i will try * ~~ i dont think it had even occurred to him

Amazing!

Thats the thing about us Aries... it's not that we see the indiscretion we are just completely oblivious to it. We are just so caught up in the moment and ourselves we forget there are others around us -_-... not a trait I'm proud of but I try my best 🙂

*see the indiscretion and ignore it*

Posted by starlover
We are all Special anji, especially Scorpio women...lol ;

So years ago i was at my son's school concert and talking to the other mums. One of them a very kind Cappy woman was handing out biscuits to the children. She handed one to a little boy and his mother snatched it out of his hand and started to eat it!! The Cappy woman gasped and i just turned to the other mother and said *Aries*?? She replies *yeah, me first*. Poor kid!!

Sheeeesh!

Poor kid... reminds me of this video at a baseball game where a player hands the ball to a kid and a man snatches it away from the kid an shows it to his buddy like he caught it *smh*

Haha as I read that story though I was thinking... maybe it because he can't have cookies (I know a lot of children with special dietary need), and the Aries without thinking of how it may look just snatched it out and ate it... haha we do that a lot. Impulsive without much thought to how it may look. This can be bad and it can be good. In the darkside if it comes from a place of selfishness, then yes it's bad, but that isn't always the case. I love to read up on history and politics, especially South American related, and there are a lot of Aries revolutionaries. And that really comes from our attitude of "We don't care what others think we are going to stick with our heart and guts"... and sometimes it's better to create your own path than follow the crowd like a sheep.... baaaaaahhh.

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I guess I never had that experience before... because IME I've always been able to relate it back to some internal factor.

I went away and thought about this. You're right. Thanks.

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Haha cool, anytime 🙂

@starlover... you also have to understand with an Aries we value honesty and authenticity the most, at least for me. So when we can not empathize it's usually because we have no experiences to draw it from, or we just can not put ourselves in the situation. We will rather be honest and annoying than fake and sugar coated any day 🙂

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Posted by starlover
One of the Aries guys i was with didnt know how to empathise with others...when i finished with him i asked him if he could in the future try and consider the *other* person ~~ he said * i will try * ~~ i dont think it had even occurred to him

Amazing!

Thats the thing about us Aries... it's not that we see the indiscretion we are just completely oblivious to it. We are just so caught up in the moment and ourselves we forget there are others around us -_-... not a trait I'm proud of but I try my best 🙂

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Girl, speak for yourself. 😛

I never forget about others.. most of the time.. 😛

@Ariesintrovert16 Teehehe girl!! I'm just being honest. Sticking to my true Aries color, honesty. Honesty, with myself and the people I know 😉

I gotcha. 😉

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Posted by starlover
We are all Special anji, especially Scorpio women...lol ;

So years ago i was at my son's school concert and talking to the other mums. One of them a very kind Cappy woman was handing out biscuits to the children. She handed one to a little boy and his mother snatched it out of his hand and started to eat it!! The Cappy woman gasped and i just turned to the other mother and said *Aries*?? She replies *yeah, me first*. Poor kid!!

Sheeeesh!

Poor kid... reminds me of this video at a baseball game where a player hands the ball to a kid and a man snatches it away from the kid an shows it to his buddy like he caught it *smh*

Haha as I read that story though I was thinking... maybe it because he can't have cookies (I know a lot of children with special dietary need), and the Aries without thinking of how it may look just snatched it out and ate it... haha we do that a lot. Impulsive without much thought to how it may look. This can be bad and it can be good. In the darkside if it comes from a place of selfishness, then yes it's bad, but that isn't always the case. I love to read up on history and politics, especially South American related, and there are a lot of Aries revolutionaries. And that really comes from our attitude of "We don't care what others think we are going to stick with our heart and guts"... and sometimes it's better to create your own path than follow the crowd like a sheep.... baaaaaahhh.

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I was thinking this too. Maybe he wasn't allowed to have biscuits. That's probably why she snatched it. I know I can come off as brash without meaning to and so can my mom and she's a cancer.. Actually, anyone can come off as rude. Subjectivity.

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Posted by starlover
We are all Special anji, especially Scorpio women...lol ;

So years ago i was at my son's school concert and talking to the other mums. One of them a very kind Cappy woman was handing out biscuits to the children. She handed one to a little boy and his mother snatched it out of his hand and started to eat it!! The Cappy woman gasped and i just turned to the other mother and said *Aries*?? She replies *yeah, me first*. Poor kid!!

Sheeeesh!

Poor kid... reminds me of this video at a baseball game where a player hands the ball to a kid and a man snatches it away from the kid an shows it to his buddy like he caught it *smh*

Haha as I read that story though I was thinking... maybe it because he can't have cookies (I know a lot of children with special dietary need), and the Aries without thinking of how it may look just snatched it out and ate it... haha we do that a lot. Impulsive without much thought to how it may look. This can be bad and it can be good. In the darkside if it comes from a place of selfishness, then yes it's bad, but that isn't always the case. I love to read up on history and politics, especially South American related, and there are a lot of Aries revolutionaries. And that really comes from our attitude of "We don't care what others think we are going to stick with our heart and guts"... and sometimes it's better to create your own path than follow the crowd like a sheep.... baaaaaahhh.

I was thinking this too. Maybe he wasn't allowed to have biscuits. That's probably why she snatched it. I know I can come off as brash without meaning to and so can my mom and she's a cancer.. Actually, anyone can come off as rude. Subjectivity.

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Reminds me of this story I read in a tree grows in Brooklyn... Where there was this girl who had an illegitimate child and all the older women of the neighborhood started haggling her because she had the "audacity" to bring her illegitimate child out in public. They started calling her names and when she started fighting back and humiliating them with her words the older women got mad and started throwing stones at her and her baby...

In those times (19

In those times (1920's) what the older women did would probably wouldn't be considered bad and most would agree the younger one deserved it. But in these times, those old hags are immature as fuck. It's treating everyone like a human being regardless of the mistakes they've made in the past.

stay strong! i'm sure you are wonderful

It's not an excuse. It's just giving you the full picture. People are not black and white but very complex dynamic individuals. You can find rude people in all signs from Cancers to Pisces and Aries. Just trying to help you understand the perspective to help you better empathize with us Aries, something you Scorpios are evidently better at doing 😉

Posted by muwik
stay strong! i'm sure you are wonderful

Thank you for your words of kindness!!... It's greatly appreciated 😄

Posted by starlover
...and i went for a leg and foot massage yesterday and the therapist was an Aries!! Lovely girl, married to a Scorp (god bless her) 😄, we got on very well ...

so all you have to do now is convince me the men are as good (never gonna happen)

lol

BWAHAHA that's never gonna happen... haven't had much of a good (not horrible or bad) experiences with Aries men. Except for my grampa... He's completely dedicated to my grandma who's a Leo and they've been together FOREVER. Plus, when my aunt died he took in her babies (my cousins) and took care of them while their father worked his butt off to keep food on the table. He's a good Aries man. But I have yet to find another one like him 🙂

Posted by tiziani
Freedom is commitment.

+100

No better kind of commitment.

Reminds me of this:

@tiz... aye but it is what makes the world so beautiful 🙂

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Experiences, both my own and as i said before 35 other women..talking bout the men now, not the ladies 🙂. Aries men take forrrrrever to grow up...not stable or mature, so stay away if you want to have a grounded committed r.ship. I am sorry, but having seen the same thing over and over and over again with Aries men, cant help but *GENERALIZE*

I understand this comes from your experience and the experience of other women. I also understand this POV due to reading threads on the Aries board.

But life is not black and white like that, and neither is people. No single description can fit every individual. Outliers are impossible to avoid in Statistics, even if you have a convergent series of data.

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@starlover... of course, but you coming on here all the time bashing Aries, even if it is your experience, how else do you expect the Aries to act? Kneel by your knees and bleet passively? You know that with any of the other forums if you come on consistently bashing them you will get some back lash as well. You can say what you say but don't expect us Aries not to say anything back 😉

And what we're saying is your view of Aries is very black and white 🙂

At least men 😄

Yes, yes, I did but I'm just trying to get you to see where they were coming from 😄

Thats ok I use to go on the Virgo board in the good ol'days and bash the men there... so I get ya 😉

@starlover... yes i did! haha it was a short fling and he left me feeling bitter. First one who got away but honestly I don't regret it! Would have never met the Cancer 🙂.

Ah! What's your son's sun?

@starlover,... real maturity IMO is accepting every part of yourself, even if you don't like it and even if it's "immature"... that's what I've learned with my Libra moon 😉

Bwahaha you tiz? the darth vader of the Aries forum?? No... I don't believe it 😛

Posted by tiziani
Air Nation 😏

Neither of you have more air in your charts than I.

😏Right back at cha

On the topic,

I find it difficult to contain my energy... fire and air is so combustible... thank goodness for earth ascendant.

I came to a cross - roads. I had to choose a career that would unleash my firey-airy nature; or, a career that would contain it. I was asked by my sculpture professor, (an ex-marine) to become his assistant professor. I knew the life of an artist is highly eccentric. I was living it, breathing it, as a student... awesome intellectual and physical environment - sculpture (drawing, painting). It would have beamed me up to the point of idiosyncratic euphoria I knew I would become very difficult to relate to... I was asked to join the intellectual underground.

Sometimes, I wonder if I made the right choice. I can sculpt anytime is what I tell myself and I do. But, I still wonder.

My birthday is 3/21/87. So you can imagine how I feel but being that I am a Pisces/Aries cusp, I'm learning how to let my Arian stride dwindle while allowing the swimmer to explore the world. I have to say it's hard. I love being independent, strong, free, uncontrollable, brash, and saying how I feel while feeling like I don't care what your response is/was, as long as I said what I had to say, you don't have to have a reply.

Posted by VenusAquarius
On the topic,

I find it difficult to contain my energy... fire and air is so combustible... thank goodness for earth ascendant.

I came to a cross - roads. I had to choose a career that would unleash my firey-airy nature; or, a career that would contain it. I was asked by my sculpture professor, (an ex-marine) to become his assistant professor. I knew the life of an artist is highly eccentric. I was living it, breathing it, as a student... awesome intellectual and physical environment - sculpture (drawing, painting). It would have beamed me up to the point of idiosyncratic euphoria I knew I would become very difficult to relate to... I was asked to join the intellectual underground.

Sometimes, I wonder if I made the right choice. I can sculpt anytime is what I tell myself and I do. But, I still wonder.

I love the way you write VA, I can tell your a very smart woman.

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Posted by VenusAquarius
On the topic,

I find it difficult to contain my energy... fire and air is so combustible... thank goodness for earth ascendant.

I came to a cross - roads. I had to choose a career that would unleash my firey-airy nature; or, a career that would contain it. I was asked by my sculpture professor, (an ex-marine) to become his assistant professor. I knew the life of an artist is highly eccentric. I was living it, breathing it, as a student... awesome intellectual and physical environment - sculpture (drawing, painting). It would have beamed me up to the point of idiosyncratic euphoria I knew I would become very difficult to relate to... I was asked to join the intellectual underground.

Sometimes, I wonder if I made the right choice. I can sculpt anytime is what I tell myself and I do. But, I still wonder.

I love the way you write VA, I can tell your a very smart woman.

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Ooooh, thank you bella bella.