Do/Don't

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—The proof that the little prince existed is that he was charming, that he laughed, and that he was looking for a sheep. If anybody wants a sheep, that is a proof that he exists.??
?? Antoine de Saint-Exup?ry, The Little Prince

I thought about posting a topic about Do/Don't when it comes to Aries peeps or other random facts about dating them. I'd like to hear for your opinions but also for people partnered up with Aries.

DISCLAIMER: This is not a topic about bashing Aries...if you feel the need to do this..kindly fuck off. I assume people ran into bad sheep but I haven't so I am going to go with my experience of them (can you tell my bias lol?)
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Do understand that this is probably the most sensitive sign out of all of us. They will never show it though but if you care for them, you will adjust your behavior for this.

Do tell them stories in the initial stages of dating. My Aries girlfriend told me the first thing that drew her to the current Leo guy was that on their first date he told her "Let's imagine we have a house..how would you build it? Decorate it?". They talked about this for hours.

Do understand shy Aries exist. They aren't a unicorn.

Do take them on an experience for the first date. It doesn't matter what type of experience but if it's physical or something nice you both partake in..they'll love it.

Do realize their temper tantrums are like storms in a glass of water. They will be over in the blink of an eye. Just be there silently, get out of the room or if their mood allows, poke a little humor. Do not flip your shit or hold them accountable for this burst of temper..as long as they didn't go overboard they will crucify themselves in their mind.

Do understand this is not a verbal sign. For all the oomph and passion they pour into life, they completely suck at expressing themselves. Whenever I talked to an Aries they always said "I just hope people would talk less and understand what I am on about". They have good intuition with people but expressing things verbally for them is a pain.
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Do be genuine and sincere in regards to ram ladies. Falseness or false pretence is a dump-able offence. At least for me

Don't be clueless to aries woman's needs. It will make her think you don't really care. And never ever EVER make a aries woman jealous. It's the worst thing you could do



I almost took a Libra's manhood for this... not physically... emotionally and psychologically. I like games... I play to win. And, I wasn't even into him which made it really easy.
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Don't go into the dating hell bent on playing games. The only games they'll respond to is over shared interests and understanding where you come from. Play with them and they will never take you seriously. It'd downhill from there.

Don't be boring. It's somewhat of a double standard because they will totally feed on your interesting life stories but they will share also. Don't be a lunatic though.

Don't push for labels..go with the flow as much as possible. Ideally let them bring it up or if they don't, make a good decision about where you want this to go and act on it. Discussions are not their forte.

Don't underplay their passion for fantasies. Aries folks will envelop you in warmth but this isn't a clue to get comfortable and mundane. Always appeal to their imagination. Don't be mysterious on purpose but experience as much as you can.

Don't be a spazz. They'll reserve their right to go around chasing butterflies but you need to be the solid one. They will respect that.

Don't fence them in. This is one sign where freedom will make them be more attached to you. Not discussing it as a game strategy but it is what it is. Give them freedom and see what they do with it.

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Posted by Damnata
Don't go into the dating hell bent on playing games. The only games they'll respond to is over shared interests and understanding where you come from. Play with them and they will never take you seriously. It'd downhill from there.

Don't be boring. It's somewhat of a double standard because they will totally feed on your interesting life stories but they will share also. Don't be a lunatic though.

Don't push for labels..go with the flow as much as possible. Ideally let them bring it up or if they don't, make a good decision about where you want this to go and act on it. Discussions are not their forte.

Don't underplay their passion for fantasies. Aries folks will envelop you in warmth but this isn't a clue to get comfortable and mundane. Always appeal to their imagination. Don't be mysterious on purpose but experience as much as you can.

Don't be a spazz. They'll reserve their right to go around chasing butterflies but you need to be the solid one. They will respect that.

Don't fence them in. This is one sign where freedom will make them be more attached to you. Not discussing it as a game strategy but it is what it is. Give them freedom and see what they do with it.




Wow. Nailed it!
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For the story thing... I don't know. I like hearing stories now and then but I can get bored with stories, Mars in Gemini. I think for me the best sure fire way to snag me on a first date is talking about something interesting, usually topics or subject that are not normally discussed is interesting and if you can get me into a debate and win... I'll be like putty in your hands 😄
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This thread is awesome, and very much spot on.

I feel things very deeply but I'm utter shite at expressing it. And an outpour of sappy feelings will make me very uncomfortable.

DO let us know we are important to you and you value us being in your life. We like to feel appreciated and need praise.

Don't try to tell us what we can and cannot do. With our stubborn and independent streaks you're going to push us right in the direction you didn't want us to go.

Do keep us busy and active. While a night watching movies can be fun, make sure we've spent the day getting all of that pent up energy expended first. Otherwise I'm going to drive you crazy by wanting to play and not sitting still.

Definitely agree on the don't make it too easy, but there's a fine line between that and making it too hard. While overly attentive, clingy men are a complete turn off, if I feel like I'm constantly chasing someone without receiving any pay off from it I get bored and will find someone else.
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Posted by Damnata

Do understand this is not a verbal sign. For all the oomph and passion they pour into life, they completely suck at expressing themselves. Whenever I talked to an Aries they always said "I just hope people would talk less and understand what I am on about". They have good intuition with people but expressing things verbally for them is a pain.

not if the person also has merc in aries 😄
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Posted by Damnata

Do understand this is not a verbal sign. For all the oomph and passion they pour into life, they completely suck at expressing themselves. Whenever I talked to an Aries they always said "I just hope people would talk less and understand what I am on about". They have good intuition with people but expressing things verbally for them is a pain.

not if the person also has merc in aries 😄
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you silly one, you didn't even check the date of this topic. I have no new material 😛

I will never let go of my dream of a field of strawberries and a huge field for sheep to roam free. I'm going to get that, be it Aries or literally sheep lol.
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^Well it's because bluntness is a Merc in Aries thing. When it comes to short term goals, you people can express well enough. Ask about the big picture with an Aries and have them go into detail about it and you will see them bewildered.

There are short glimpses of vulnerability, when you get all mushy but then you folks immediately form a "omg this person probably pities me right now. I should've kept quiet" mindset and it's back to business as usual.

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Posted by Damnata

Do understand this is not a verbal sign. For all the oomph and passion they pour into life, they completely suck at expressing themselves. Whenever I talked to an Aries they always said "I just hope people would talk less and understand what I am on about". They have good intuition with people but expressing things verbally for them is a pain.

not if the person also has merc in aries 😄



you silly one, you didn't even check the date of this topic. I have no new material 😛

I will never let go of my dream of a field of strawberries and a huge field for sheep to roam free. I'm going to get that, be it Aries or literally sheep lol.
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the berry family is nice to dream about
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Very interesting. Quite deep, indeed.....

OK, OK, as an Aries male, I haven't got a clue what the heck is going on here. Sounds really nice though.

I do see the "Don't fence them in" idea though.

As some of you will be aware, I am pursuing a female Aries myself. I am gaining a fine appreciation of why lots of guys think you are all nucking futs.

Dance to the left, dance to the right
Dance on the ceiling but don't kick the light

Swing your partner, but don't let go
Be ready to go with the flow

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Intriguing, indeed!!!

Had lunch today, a nice time was had. She was almost late for work, but that was fine with her, or at least that is what she said. Of course, for her to be late for anything is totally unheard of.
She was very cool, and controlled through lunch. Kinda of that "I am the Queen, you are the peon" attitude. A bit chilly, even....

I got to tell her that I had bought a book on Greek mythology. "I got it to remind myself that even goddesses have tiny flaws." is what I told her. That warmed things up....

It really is an interesting experience. As I say, I can see where lots of guys really wouldn't be up to the task of handling the back and forth. I have learned to just kick back and relax, and enjoy the ride. Takes lots of self confidence, I can tell you that.
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Posted by Curiousram
Anyways I would like to say that do not make it easy for the Aries to date or get into a relationship with you. I find that men that easily want me to be in a relationship or move really fast it turns me off completely. That is why i love virgos because they make it hard for my "rammy ram self" as Damanta would put it 🙂



I agree, except the fastest moving relationship I had that I ended was with a Virgo...literally wanted to move in and get married in 2 weeks...I ran away completely

I will say don't hurt people they are passionate about: children, family, friends. This usually does not end well

Do keep it just as blunt in return. My worst miscommunication has come from others reading into my words and not asking for clarification but trying to 'hint' or expecting me to 'get it'.

Even when I pick up on certain portions I want it stated. I hate thinking I'm reading a love story and find out the book is a drama...