Don't know how to handle situation with Aries guy

Posted by lovelylibra11
long story sorry but please read and help!!!
I met an Aries guy one night about 8 months ago at a party (we are in college) and he and I really clicked right away and had a lot in common and he was a really sweet guy and made sure I got home ok. he took me on a date like a week later and he asked me to hang out after and I was tired so I said I needed to go home and he kinda got upset and kept trying to convince to go drink with him. after that day he texted me a lot and always asked me to hang out and go out to bars with him and his friends and since I didn't really know him or his friends I didn't really feel comfortable going alone so I always said no bc I felt like he kinda just wanted to sleep with me and eventually after me saying no so many times to getting drunk with him and he asked why and I finally told him that. he got so offended and acted like I was a horrible person for thinking that about him being a player in a sense. so we kinda got over that but he never let it go really and then my friend introduced me to another guy so I kinda stopped caring about the Aries guy all together and would just ignore him when he texted me until I would see him at bars and then we would kinda start talking again. but not as much as we used to because he was about to graduate and move away to a different state for a job about 8 hrs away so I never saw a point. he moved away and I forgot about him for a while and the school started again in September and he like one of my Instagram pics or something and so I texted him to see how he was doing and we kinda started back where we left off. we've been on and off texting a lot for the past few months now and he told me he was coming back for thanksgiving and asked if I wanted to hang out when he did so we made plans and somehow we said we were gonna have sex when he came back, I'm a virgin and he knows. so then he comes back and I'm sick so I tell him and he said we shouldn't hang then and I was a little confused because I thought we could still just hang out and get to know each other better in person and he even said we didn't have to do anything but he didn't wanna take his chances because if we kissed he'd get sick and he can't get sick bc of his job. so then he said we can try to hang tomorrow if you're not sick and I got kinda annoyed and said you're only trying to hang out for sex then obviously. and he got really offended again and said wow I can't believe you and all this stuff and I apologized because I didn't know he'd get that angry and he kinda forgave me and then I was like I guess we're not hang out then be jade it was his last night here and he said to be honest I don't want to and I never replied. I don't think I was wrong but that really seems like that's all he wants at this point because he wouldn't just hang out with me he kept implying we had to do something if we hung out.

No one wants to hang out with someone who's sick. Why would you risk spreading your germs like that? I don't blame him for avoiding getting sick and you have no right to get upset about that. How selfish are you?

And if he were only in it for sex, then he wouldn't invite you to hang out with his friends.

You sound paranoid.

For future reference, if you're so paranoid someone is using you for sex, then don't have sex with them until you feel like they're in it for you. My daddy always said if a man comes around without sex, he'll probably continue to be around after sex. No guarantees, but at least you won't feel used.

However, if you haven't had sex with him yet, you shouldn't have promised it. Don't promise something you're not so sure about giving away.
Promising him sex when he came back from Thanksgiving was a separate move.

*desparate* not separate