Have I been friendzoned by this Aries?

I met this Aries guy years ago and we talked on and off. Flirted on and off as well. He seemed interested. Texting me repetitively to get my attention. I ignored him more than he talked to me. I left him in read. Not intentionally. Just how I am.

So this Aries guy ended things with his lady friend (a girl he didn't date, he called her his lady friend. Not his girlfriend, only had sex with her once in 8 months. He said he was a big fish in a small pond) He's pretty introvert. Doesn't have many friends.

When he broke things up with her because he was bored, we started talking more. Things got sexual pretty quickly. It was fun. We sexted a lot. He sent me a dick pic. Something, he said, he doesn't do a lot. We live in different states.

As time passed, we talked more and more, but the sexting and sex talk stopped completely.

I tried to initiate it, but he wasn't super responsive.

Being blunt, I asked him about it to get a blunt answer back (I love Aries for that, I don't like sugar coated answers)

He told me that to him, it's not about looks or sex, it's personality. If he doesn't like a girl's personality, he's out. He said he keeps coming back to me because he really likes mine. Sometimes we talk for hours at a time and it just flows. He said he can't stand stupidity and he thinks I'm really smart.

We talked about meeting, he said we will when he has money and time, which I understand. So I offered to go to his state. There's an event in November that he will attend with his best friend and I suggested I go to. He agreed. I joked about only wanting to go for the dick.

He told me he isn't into one night stands, that he prefers to know people first. Which I really liked. Even thought I responded to his sex texts and we planned to fuck and try a lot of adventurous things together.

But, here's the thing. When he ended things with that girl, he was all over me sexually. Being really flirty, almost treating me like I was his girlfriend. Telling me when he was home, or what he was doing. Initiated sex. And now, we talk a lot, it flows, we have smart talks, but the 'girlfriend' talk stopped. Like we are an old couple almost.

If I ask him what he's doing, he's just going to answer. Rarely ask me what I'm doing. If I try to spark a convo, he will leave me on read for hours.

Has he friendzoned me?

Posted by ChrisxKodak
lol I read your name as "independentautusticlady"

Lol, no. As in, good with arts 🙂

I wold say...Yes.

He probably already realised something in you...that wold *never make* you...the *one* he is looking for.

The avoiding Sex talk thing says it all tbh.

But he is still your freind..and he will be...but i don't think he want's a romantic rship with you.

That's just my opinion btw.

Posted by Smidge
he probably thought it was a bit of long distance fun, now it's a bit too real.

Nha... 🙂

If that was the case...why make plans for November ?.. ^^

I really think he only see her as a Freind now tbh.

He had a gf......

lol

Smidge......comeone....xD

What confuses me is how sometimes he's really into what we're talking, share what he's doing with me, share videos like he want me to be a part of what he likes.

Then, next day, super distant.

How would he react as an Aries if I just started ignoring him? Not completely. Just not rush to my phone when I hear his ring tone and leave him on read.

I'm pretty independent. I do that with a lot of people

Aries are romantics deep down and Aries men want to do the chasing. They want to be the Prince Charming and you need to be their princess and maybe later, Queen. He may not like how eager you are to jump in bed with him although he may have no problem doing it himself with other people. Call it old fashioned, but we tend to separate those who seem too easy with someone worth his while and Aries men love to chase. I am an Aries woman who has dated and had relationships with Aries men.

My advice is to pull back and don't be so eager because you don't really know him, you only know what he tells you and I wouldn't expect it to be100% truthful. Don't play games, just take it easy and get in touch with your self worth. My brother who is also an Aries had a 'stable' of women until he met 'the one'.



Good luck! 🙂