How do I really patch with an Aries?

We are friends. I really want to know how to get him back.

WHAT? ^^^ Ok... I'd say be honest with him and let him know up front how you feel. Maybe a little cat and mouse games but geez... I thought you Aries liked honest and up front. Maybe I'm wrong

^^^^ No, no GS WE are honest and upfront, but doesn't mean we expect that of others...

Okay oboland...

I have to be honest you, since I am an Aries, and that is all I can ever be...

I don't believe he feels for you the way you do (even though you were there for him through his toughest times... asshole) and you chasing him to get him back will only make him push you away more.

My advice...

Forget him and I know at this point is may seem impossible but it's your best bet. There is really not much you can do.

This situation sucks because you gave so much of yourself...

You sound like a very sweet, caring, and compassionate girl... are you a Pisces??

There is nothing you can do except live your own life and forget about him... I completely agree with Ovi btw... but it seems to me that you don't need to be with this guy, it seems to me that you need to be with yourself and get know and love yourself.

Hmmmm... well I know ya'll like the chase but too much game playing kinda sounds like manipulation to me. I did that stuff with others but for some reason when it came to me and Aries relationship I wanted everything to be honest and upfront. *shrug* You know... so it wasn't based off my "fake" behavior. He was special though... obviously 😉

No, we like honesty in ourselves but we like our partners to be a little bit of a challenge you know?? Or else we get bored easily 😄.

I think that applies to anybody, if their partners gave them 100% of themselves it's just like old faithful and you know they will be there no matter what... that's when you take them for granted.

I agree xtina. She's kinda being used as the go to girl for a shoulder when things get rough.


Hahaha yeah. I like challanges too but I took his SO seriously and I didn't want to make the wrong move and risk losing him... in the beginning. I chased him at first but then he was a serious jerk for awhile and I basically said fuck it. That's when he was up my ass all the time and the ring was bought.lol Jeez. *shakes head*
But we challange each other every single day.... when he's home. To us battles are kinda fun. Even though we are joking around most of the time.

Tomorrow he'll be home!!! YAY!!!! I missed him more then I expected to. lol

"Yes. I am pisces. I guess it's difficult but I really really love him so much no matter how hard I try. I really hope I can get super duper good help here.

Please"


Aww girl that sucks. I'm sorry. But look at the bigger picture. He's only coming to you when the going gets rough and he needs that loving support you give him. He should do that ALL the time. You deserve it.

You don't sound stupid.

Well ... I think anyone likes a person confident in themselves. Be confident that you DESERVE better treatment. Don't drop everything just to cater to him. You have your life too. Be independant and now that I'm typing this I can see that the Aries are right.... LOL 🙂 Make him chase you alittle. Don't be so availible all the time.

odboland GS told you!!!

Posted by Gingerscorp
I agree xtina. She's kinda being used as the go to girl for a shoulder when things get rough.


Hahaha yeah. I like challanges too but I took his SO seriously and I didn't want to make the wrong move and risk losing him... in the beginning. I chased him at first but then he was a serious jerk for awhile and I basically said fuck it. That's when he was up my ass all the time and the ring was bought.lol Jeez. *shakes head*
But we challange each other every single day.... when he's home. To us battles are kinda fun. Even though we are joking around most of the time.

Tomorrow he'll be home!!! YAY!!!! I missed him more then I expected to. lol

Oh you Scorp gals are a challenge for them Aries men alright 😉. Trust me I watch my sister and she has her bf whipped lol!!. Though I've never met a Scorpio guy that was challenging as/ or like a Scorp girl... hmmm wonder why.

Because penis no matter what sign is too easy to manipulate!!! LOL 😛
I had to say it. 🙂
I think it's that Scorp girls tend to think like a man but we are smart enough to know that men want someone who acts like a lady. Cliche but true. Alot of the Scorp girls on here a tomboy tough but knows when to flutter thier eyes at the boys. LOL

Guys. Actually my ex was obviously trying to avoid me when I asked him to go out. He mentioned he wants to be friends with me. That's y i do ask him out on n off, but he would come up with excuses.

Today, he asked me if we wanted to go breakfast next week, so I asked him if he wanted to go out tonight. He told me he had things to be done. I told him that it is ok. I am not desperate. He tried to accomodate but I just told him it's ok. I am not desperate. He seems apologetic. Do i soften or do I not?

Aries are pretty clear about what they say. No hidden meanings. He wants to be friends with a little side action going on. If you are ok with that then continue on with the "relationship"
He doesn't want a relationship with you as he's made it clear.

I'd take xtina's advice and cut contact with him.... for good.

Posted by odboland
Yes. I am pisces. I guess it's difficult but I really really love him so much no matter how hard I try. I really hope I can get super duper good help here.

Please

I'm dating a Pisces and she kinda just hangs on and is always there for me. I kinda feel guilty because I know how she feels, and yes I take her for granted. In the stage of life I'm in I absolutely don't want to be bound to 1 girl, but that's what she wants ... and that's the worst thing if she wants to keep me. If she told me, "fine, go have your fun, but I'm going to have my fun also!" Well, I would, and she would, but then I'd come back to her ... unless I met someone I loved more. So the point is, you have to offer freedom or your chance of success is 0% . If you do offer freedom, maybe you have 25% chance ... if you go find somenone else maybe you have 50% chance of your ex wanting you back (jealousy is powerful) ... and 75% chance you'll like the new person better. So, better for you to go out on Sat. night than sit around thinking about ex.

Ok, one other tip .. what an Aries girl I still have a weird crush on does to me to keep me interested in her (even though I don't think she's in to me much anymore) .. we have long breaks between contact now, but when she does call or write, it's very cheery, not like she wants anything, she's confident, we talk like old friends ... I know she doesn't want anything, and that makes me want everything from her.

yep, see, i told that aries just a little about the new girl I met in SC, and last email from aries was an invitation to have a beer and catch up next time I'm in town. (not that I'm expecting that to happen)

Actually, I tried to play the jealously card w/ that aries before and it didn't really work .. think I was too obvious w/ it and she could tell I really still just wanted her. You have to create some doubt in that other person's mind.

Yes, it is playing games, but games are fun!

Right now, I don't know what's going on w/ the new girl I met. About the time I think she's blowing me off, I get a text. But now she ignored my last call totally. You might think that would piss me off and I'd just move on ... nope makes me think about her more. Of course I won't let on ... I'm not about to be her standby guy ... besides, I have one .. I just go call her. Life is fun if you don't take it toooo seriously.

Haha, you need to find a standby guy, and just work your way up from there.

I know everyone will ask me to give him up. I have tried. Seriously. It has been 3 months since I started trying.

I just want a friend whom can share our sorrow or joy. We ended up being a couple. I really wonder if I can find such a friend.

*sigh*

I think everyone's point here is that you shouldn't chase him... which is what you are doing.

Strangely, after that post, I saw him on msn. We just went for breakfast together, like old times. We havent gone out like this for months. I mean I feel that I am doing a wrong thing but i really love him.

Anyone understands me?

I really appreciate all the advices which is the reason why I did not dare to ask for advice in the first place.

I really want to be with him.

I know the chances.

Hello there!

Guess what, i know where you are coming from. I have alot of pisces in my chart (my rising, other areas), you just want to nurture him and love every part of this man and make it all "ok".

But here is the deal: it takes TWO to tango! I'm not gonna be like everyone else here on this site and give you endless amount of advice to "get him back" or advice to ditch him. I'm not dogging the advice, becuase all of it is SUPURB, but it is useless for you because of the type of person you are.

So what i am going to tell you might sound a little harsh to some folk, but they aren't the important one's right now, we are dealing with YOU.

So i say, GO AHEAD! Do what you are doing! Do you feel the urge to call him? CALL HIM! Want to invite him out on a date (even if he dissed you the last thousand times), INVITE AWAY! Want to fu** him everytime he requests, TREE-TRUNK AWAY (i hope i used that term correctly- im a newbie here!).

Becuause guess what happens? He will eventually leave YOU my deary! He will move on and will cut ALL communication and contact and what will you do then? Can't do anything, he would be non-existant.

Then you would have no choice but to pick yourself up off of the ground, and start anew. "But ariespisces_grl, how can you be so cruel..."

Yea, yeah, I know somebody is thinking this. It is becuse i have been here, and sometimes, you have to experience things for yourself to learn and grow. That is how some people learn.

I really want the best for you, i hope you can find a guy that gives you the love you give, becuase you % 100 deserve it. But by going through this situation may give you the courage (and anger) to stand up and DEMAND respect and love.

Good Luck!

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^You are too freaking cute I love it!!

"WOA! i knew scorpio girls obssess bout sex but this takes the biscuit"

Yeah yeah... perv 😉

Hahahaha @ Ariespisces! Nice!

The only thing you want to hear, which is how to get him, is not possible .. this is the reason why you've gotten these responses from people .... because they comprehend that you are struggling inside of a bubble of fantasy, and think it's reality.


It's not reality.


Because you are a young Pisces, and in 'young' I don't mean age, you haven't come to the awareness yet that our love can only survive inside a delusion ..... meaning, we conjur up what love should be so we can live it happily inside of this dream.

This is where you are right now .. and you don't know it. You think he needs you, and you are tyring to figure out how to get him to realize this, so you can continue within the fantasy uninterupted into bliss.



Listen to me .... listen .. this has nothing to do with him and whether or not he wants you or loves you or needs you .. this is about you not realizing yet that you are dual. One side of you lives in reality, the other in fantasy ... and your sanity will be dependent upon you recognizing the difference.

Your love for this man is a dream, a fantasy, it's not real .... and I know it's not because I've been living within the same one (different characters) for 50 years .. we all have.



Step outside of the bubble, seperate yourself, disconnect .. two fish swimming in opposites directions means we have the ability to step outside of ourselves .. do it.

Look back disconnected from yourself .. you'll see ... this has just been a dream.



Pisces loves to dream about being needed to save someone .. this is our bestest dream ever, and I know you've enjoyed every second of it.




However .. it's time to wake up.

Wow, my big sister is totally stuck on some guy the same way. I was visiting the family and she had me take her by a bar he would be at, and he was there w/ someone else. I tried to coach her on how to handle situation w/ him, but she is so taken by him and ANY attention he gives her that its like talking to a tree.

You women are so funny when you get stuck on a guy ... haha, but then I'm all happy 'cause I got a "thinking of you" email from my Aries today. Still, I'm not wasting time over her or any other. I pretty much make a point to talk to every woman I see, young or old ... til I find the one who drives me as crazy as I drive her.

I hate to break it to you, but Aries are selfish people, especially the men. He needed you and when he didn't need you anymore, he moved on. I guess that could be said for many people, but Aries do not have a concept of loyalty, like other signs do. It's not that he used you and was malicious about it. He simply no longer needs you. I think you can possibly remain friends, but do not get your hopes up as far as a relationship. And please try not to sleep with him again. He can have sex with you forever without making a commitment to you.

You sound like a wonderful person. You should give your love to someone who will truly appreciate it and reciprocate. Good luck!

@ starfish- I'm an Aries and both my brothers are Aries. Growing up was hellish. None of us speak to each other because of our over grown personalities. I must say my oldest brother is the worst. He is a scoundrel. If you can't do anything for him, he wants nothing to do with you. He's on his second wife. I like her a lot, and hope that he doesn't leave her the way he left his last girlfriend (who coincidentally is an Aries). I'd never date one, ever.

I'm Aries with Taurus rising. I'm a huge pushover. It's something I'm working on. My poor mother is a Pisces, a March Pisces, which is great because any other sign, and we'd all be dead or in jail. My dad was an Aquarius, and stayed as far away from my brothers as he could. We got along swimmingly!

He's a loser girl! Aries people don't drop those who
have stood by them just like that. He may want his
freedom back but if you ever got hurt,he'd probably
be there for you if he's a true Ram!
He just wants to be friends with you & thats all.
If you allow him to get some sex too,then whose
fault is it really? Draw the line girl & stop
giving him free booty calls,ok?
Be a real friend & ONLY A FRIEND!
Don't feel so bad that he doesn't want a relationship
cause he probably thought he was gonna die when he
was sick.He's well now & has realized he acted in
haste & he thought he might not make it.
He's friends with you & thats not really a bad thing,
but don't allow him to get free sex if your not into
being in that kind of set up. He needs to know he
can respect you as a person,so thats another reason
to drop the sex with him.His friendship might help
you discover what you really need from a man,& who
knows,because of him,you might meet the man of your
dreams cuz aries can be very social & know alot of
people!!! Girl,don't be too down,you did a great thing
by helping this aries guy,& if he's a real aries,he'll
never forget that,he just wants you as his friend,ok?
He might repay the favor by helping you learn new things
about males & perhaps you'll meet some really good ones
you like that are great for you?

Also,when he wakes up & gets out of his loser stage,
he could make for a very cool friend & loyal friends
are very hard to find.Keep his friendship but no
more sex,ok?

I do not initiate contact with him nowadays. He will ask me out to talk. I can see that i have a place in his heart. Just trying to make him feel that we can be happy together, talking and joking.

I really cannot leave him. I am very scared of his relapse in future.

Sigh.. I know it's silly.

Is there really no progressing on?

I took the comment to stop contact. He contacted me back. What's next?

Just wait?

Yes,wait to see where things go & let him take the lead,
you'll get your answers better this way. If he loves you,
he'll realize it in time,but he told you he wanted to be
free for a good reason,& many,not all,but many aries are
honest when they say this,unless they were very Angry or
enraged,then of course,they may not have meant it?

In the case of the aries guy you want to be with,
I think he wants to keep the friendship because
you two formed a close bond,but it seems he's not
In Love with you.He more than likely cares for
you alot however.

honesty