How do you deal with a manipulative Aries?

All I can do is avoiding, as facing him with truth or standing up for oneself drives him to the roof! And would make him turn tables.. How do you deal with a manipulative Aries and live peacefully?

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I need to say that I'm talking about my father here .. just in case

And pls no ideas about leaving and finding another place. He travels alot but we do live together as a family all of us, even when he's away it does not solve much.

Its not known as the me, myself and I sign for nothing.

Selfish mind games. Cruel.

Posted by RooSagicorn

Lol.. you need to stand up but you can’t control how he reacts. Just remember that’s not your problem.

Also pick your battles. What’s important & what isn’t. I’m guessing you are both very stubborn. I’m not an Aries but was with one for 20 years. I have also had a similar Leo stepfather. What I did with him was stop reacting.. as in sit there and not say a single word. He finally got who was the problem.. and it wasn’t me.

yeah even when you're silent they ask hard questions and demand answers lol ... I remain silent most times but some things I cannot stay silent when I hear him talking badly about a family member behind their back.. I cannot just let that pass..

Posted by inmercury

It's hard but you can try to laugh at his jokes, inflate his ego in some way. I've never done it with an Aries I didn't like, but I think it might help. They like when people act inferior and listen to them. They are very insecure deep down. Maybe ask questions and act interested in him, pretend he's your role model. Lol. Laugh at yourself, show him you aren't too proud. They don't like to see confidence. You can be proud on the inside but don't show it to an Aries.

mmm but what happens then? He inflates his own ego all the time.. lol like says he did this n that and that all the life he's given to us is nothing without him. I struggle to keep even 1% confidence to myself.. he brings me down everyday. I know that he is jealous so I agree with the insecurity you mentioned.. I just don't know abou inflating his ego.. how would they react to that?

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Posted by inmercury

It's hard but you can try to laugh at his jokes, inflate his ego in some way. I've never done it with an Aries I didn't like, but I think it might help. They like when people act inferior and listen to them. They are very insecure deep down. Maybe ask questions and act interested in him, pretend he's your role model. Lol. Laugh at yourself, show him you aren't too proud. They don't like to see confidence. You can be proud on the inside but don't show it to an Aries.

mmm but what happens then? He inflates his own ego all the time.. lol like says he did this n that and that all the life he's given to us is nothing without him. I struggle to keep even 1% confidence to myself.. he brings me down everyday. I know that he is jealous so I agree with the insecurity you mentioned.. I just don't know abou inflating his ego.. how would they react to that?

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@TxOgal

why do you live with someone who you hate and who brings you down everyday? how can you bring you down everyday if he travels a lot? calling you specifically every day? I just dont understand

its very hard to suggest anything if you are stuck at home and not telling the reason.... I mean maybe I would bring down my adult children who still live at home, as a motivation for them to get their own life?

(is it a culture thing? a health thing?)

how do you all share expenses? who pays what? do you pay rent? I mean so many questions where the answers are really important to determine if he is a real jerk or just fed up with the living together thing and resenting it?

PS. please, dont get offended, I just trying to get a grip on this situation

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by TxOgal

Posted by inmercury

It's hard but you can try to laugh at his jokes, inflate his ego in some way. I've never done it with an Aries I didn't like, but I think it might help. They like when people act inferior and listen to them. They are very insecure deep down. Maybe ask questions and act interested in him, pretend he's your role model. Lol. Laugh at yourself, show him you aren't too proud. They don't like to see confidence. You can be proud on the inside but don't show it to an Aries.

mmm but what happens then? He inflates his own ego all the time.. lol like says he did this n that and that all the life he's given to us is nothing without him. I struggle to keep even 1% confidence to myself.. he brings me down everyday. I know that he is jealous so I agree with the insecurity you mentioned.. I just don't know abou inflating his ego.. how would they react to that?

@TxOgal

why do you live with someone who you hate and who brings you down everyday? how can you bring you down everyday if he travels a lot? calling you specifically every day? I just dont understand

its very hard to suggest anything if you are stuck at home and not telling the reason.... I mean maybe I would bring down my adult children who still live at home, as a motivation for them to get their own life?

(is it a culture thing? a health thing?)

how do you all share expenses? who pays what? do you pay rent? I mean so many questions where the answers are really important to determine if he is a real jerk or just fed up with the living together thing and resenting it?

PS. please, dont get offended, I just trying to get a grip on this situation

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Yes in my second post I mentioned not to suggest moving out and it is for that reason, it is a cultural thing. We just live with family until we get married, by then we move out. And it is the norm also that he provides for the house a fixed monthly income which mom manages. My personal expenses though are from m salary which I also get from working in his business (which was not my choice ofcourse). He does travel alot and we stay in touch everyday i have to send him a goodmorning text at least lol cause otherwise he will doubt and question our bond.

Look all I'm saying is he is manipulative, extreme emotional abuse and control. He is generous and spends money ok but this too is a form of control. All my life I thought something was wrong with me but few years ago I figure he is a manipulative man. Even the money he gives is brought up in any trivial argument. I did not post this thread before now because I was trying to test and find ways to deal with him. And in the end I chose to avoid, but I realize even that drives him mad. This is why I made this thread to find answers from others who could deal with a manipulative Aries.

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Posted by inmercury

It's hard but you can try to laugh at his jokes, inflate his ego in some way. I've never done it with an Aries I didn't like, but I think it might help. They like when people act inferior and listen to them. They are very insecure deep down. Maybe ask questions and act interested in him, pretend he's your role model. Lol. Laugh at yourself, show him you aren't too proud. They don't like to see confidence. You can be proud on the inside but don't show it to an Aries.

mmm but what happens then? He inflates his own ego all the time.. lol like says he did this n that and that all the life he's given to us is nothing without him. I struggle to keep even 1% confidence to myself.. he brings me down everyday. I know that he is jealous so I agree with the insecurity you mentioned.. I just don't know abou inflating his ego.. how would they react to that?

@TxOgal

why do you live with someone who you hate and who brings you down everyday? how can you bring you down everyday if he travels a lot? calling you specifically every day? I just dont understand

its very hard to suggest anything if you are stuck at home and not telling the reason.... I mean maybe I would bring down my adult children who still live at home, as a motivation for them to get their own life?

(is it a culture thing? a health thing?)

how do you all share expenses? who pays what? do you pay rent? I mean so many questions where the answers are really important to determine if he is a real jerk or just fed up with the living together thing and resenting it?

PS. please, dont get offended, I just trying to get a grip on this situation

Yes in my second post I mentioned not to suggest moving out and it is for that reason, it is a cultural thing. We just live with family until we get married, by then we move out. And it is the norm also that he provides for the house a fixed monthly income which mom manages. My personal expenses though are from m salary which I also get from working in his business (which was not my choice ofcourse). He does travel alot and we stay in touch everyday i have to send him a goodmorning text at least lol cause otherwise he will doubt and question our bond.

Look all I'm saying is he is manipulative, extreme emotional abuse and control. He is generous and spends money ok but this too is a form of control. All my life I thought something was wrong with me but few years ago I figure he is a manipulative man. Even the money he gives is brought up in any trivial argument. I did not post this thread before now because I was trying to test and find ways to deal with him. And in the end I chose to avoid, but I realize even that drives him mad. This is why I made this thread to find answers from others who could deal with a manipulative Aries.

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okey, I understand now more

he is resenting the situation that you are not married yet and controlling you... If you have a salary, you should move out.... do you know any other girls who suffer from a controlling father? maybe get a flat together? what if you dont get married at all? that will be your whole life? is it possible to find another job? maybe to try it secretly to see if there are possibilities? let him do the controlling for now and secretly plan your escape

if he is generous with money, cant you tell him you want to go to some school, away from home? he would pay for it, you would send him text messages and live your life

plan your escape

Edit: do you have any siblings? I mean he was used to control people all his life, but nowadays with the internet is much easier to get away... if you really want to

it doesnt mean you dont love your parents, you are just an adult who wants to live their own life... but if you want to stay in a golden cage with daddy controlling your every step and then handing you out to a controlling husband, its another question

give a timeline for yourself, like a year and do everything what can get you another job, another home, more friends, and save some money in the meanwhile... and then leave the family home

so everytime he will bully you, you will have your secret plan in your mind

I still think some university (I you already have a degree, then go for another) in other place or country (nowadays its really easy), try to apply

internet is your friend

you are an adult, dont depend so much on them

love them but live your life, not your mothers, not your fathers, not your future husbands.. unless it makes you happy

Edit 2: please, just dont marry some stranger from the internet in the process

Keep your distance

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Posted by inmercury

It's hard but you can try to laugh at his jokes, inflate his ego in some way. I've never done it with an Aries I didn't like, but I think it might help. They like when people act inferior and listen to them. They are very insecure deep down. Maybe ask questions and act interested in him, pretend he's your role model. Lol. Laugh at yourself, show him you aren't too proud. They don't like to see confidence. You can be proud on the inside but don't show it to an Aries.

mmm but what happens then? He inflates his own ego all the time.. lol like says he did this n that and that all the life he's given to us is nothing without him. I struggle to keep even 1% confidence to myself.. he brings me down everyday. I know that he is jealous so I agree with the insecurity you mentioned.. I just don't know abou inflating his ego.. how would they react to that?

@TxOgal

why do you live with someone who you hate and who brings you down everyday? how can you bring you down everyday if he travels a lot? calling you specifically every day? I just dont understand

its very hard to suggest anything if you are stuck at home and not telling the reason.... I mean maybe I would bring down my adult children who still live at home, as a motivation for them to get their own life?

(is it a culture thing? a health thing?)

how do you all share expenses? who pays what? do you pay rent? I mean so many questions where the answers are really important to determine if he is a real jerk or just fed up with the living together thing and resenting it?

PS. please, dont get offended, I just trying to get a grip on this situation

Yes in my second post I mentioned not to suggest moving out and it is for that reason, it is a cultural thing. We just live with family until we get married, by then we move out. And it is the norm also that he provides for the house a fixed monthly income which mom manages. My personal expenses though are from m salary which I also get from working in his business (which was not my choice ofcourse). He does travel alot and we stay in touch everyday i have to send him a goodmorning text at least lol cause otherwise he will doubt and question our bond.

Look all I'm saying is he is manipulative, extreme emotional abuse and control. He is generous and spends money ok but this too is a form of control. All my life I thought something was wrong with me but few years ago I figure he is a manipulative man. Even the money he gives is brought up in any trivial argument. I did not post this thread before now because I was trying to test and find ways to deal with him. And in the end I chose to avoid, but I realize even that drives him mad. This is why I made this thread to find answers from others who could deal with a manipulative Aries.

okey, I understand now more

he is resenting the situation that you are not married yet and controlling you... If you have a salary, you should move out.... do you know any other girls who suffer from a controlling father? maybe get a flat together? what if you dont get married at all? that will be your whole life? is it possible to find another job? maybe to try it secretly to see if there are possibilities? let him do the controlling for now and secretly plan your escape

if he is generous with money, cant you tell him you want to go to some school, away from home? he would pay for it, you would send him text messages and live your life

plan your escape

Edit: do you have any siblings? I mean he was used to control people all his life, but nowadays with the internet is much easier to get away... if you really want to

it doesnt mean you dont love your parents, you are just an adult who wants to live their own life... but if you want to stay in a gold cage with daddy controlling your every step, its another question

give a timeline for yourself, like a year and do everything what can get you another job, another home, more friends, and save some money in the meanwhile... and then leave the family home

so everytime he will bully you, you will have your secret plan

I still think some university (I you already have a degree, then go for another) in other place or country (nowadays its really easy), try to apply

internet is your friend

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Thats a long story .. I thought about this yes and I am still applying but ofcourse I dont wish he'd pay me anything more.. This is why im looking for a scholarship. You dont know how much it is crushing to your soul when you find your own father talking about money that he spent on you all his life (ofcourse i dont want this to happen again). About the job yes Ive been applying but I havent got a chance yet, I hope I get an acceptance and get this independent feeling that I've never had.

I do have a brother and he is living abroad but trust me.. it did not make father stay away from him.. not one bit. I think this manipulative treatment will never go.

I'm also making this thread because there are so many manipulative people out there ...even my last ex bf was manipulative and I figured it later... but it's all I know.. and it is ironic how I was going to end up with one.

I am sure some ppl know how to deal with that and get to live their life peacefully

@Pandora101 I appreciate your help.. I will try harder with finding a job. And its funny you said such advice of not marrying someone from internet.. because I was so frustrated to the point that I was actually going to do that lol he was the manipulative ex bf. I am just laughing at myself rightnow.

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Posted by TxOgal

Posted by inmercury

It's hard but you can try to laugh at his jokes, inflate his ego in some way. I've never done it with an Aries I didn't like, but I think it might help. They like when people act inferior and listen to them. They are very insecure deep down. Maybe ask questions and act interested in him, pretend he's your role model. Lol. Laugh at yourself, show him you aren't too proud. They don't like to see confidence. You can be proud on the inside but don't show it to an Aries.

mmm but what happens then? He inflates his own ego all the time.. lol like says he did this n that and that all the life he's given to us is nothing without him. I struggle to keep even 1% confidence to myself.. he brings me down everyday. I know that he is jealous so I agree with the insecurity you mentioned.. I just don't know abou inflating his ego.. how would they react to that?

I think it makes them trust you more. they like to feel like they're the best. And don't get too offended by anything he says. I can't imagine how much it sucks to have an Aries father. I have had to put up with a really shitty Aries girl who abused her boyfriends and everyone around her. The people who escaped her wrath treated her like a princess. Lol. Meanwhile she bragged about how much they loved her. I think that's the best anyone can do with an Aries. Fool them into thinking you love them and could never do anything better than them. And like everyone else said, get out asap. When you leave he will be dumbfounded and his ego will be burned.

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oh well this is how people at work treat him... he also brags about how much they love him and are loyal to him. They are also the people I doubt and expect them doing some kind of harm to the company when their ego kicks in too. I swear I got some bad vibes when one of them wrote his status "I will get my revenge" I was not sure whom he's referring to but one should have his eyes wide open...

@TxOgal

"Thats a long story .. I thought about this yes and I am still applying but ofcourse I dont wish he'd pay me anything more.. This is why im looking for a scholarship. You dont know how much it is crushing to your soul when you find your own father talking about money that he spent on you all his life (ofcourse i dont want this to happen again). About the job yes Ive been applying but I havent got a chance yet, I hope I get an acceptance and get this independent feeling that I've never had.

I do have a brother and he is living abroad but trust me.. it did not make father stay away from him.. not one bit. I think this manipulative treatment will never go."

well done girl, thats the spirit! **

give yourself a reasonable timeline, its not going to happen overnight, but if you have a firm plan in your head, and doing something for it, it will happen

dont forget, 2018 is a year of some life changes 🙂

now, I asked about the siblings and I am not a bit surprised your brother lives abroad...(see, he escaped) do you have a nice relationship with him?

does he have a family? would it be possible to go and visit him? its your brother after all, your father cant possibly oppose to this... and maybe indirectly get help from your brother, when you are there with him, hinting about wanting to do some other job or school or something? maybe he will have some ideas

in the meanwhile, do what the others suggested, the "stroke his ego" part.... but, maybe not so much with the intention of ego stroking, but showing your love for him.... some Aries can get nasty, if they dont feel loved and appreciated..

so, if you left any genuine love for him, try to express it.... say him how much you appreciate he always took care of the family, how much you are proud of him he is in such a good job (is he self-made or family money?) and that one day you will like to be like him and you will accomplish everything so he can be proud of you, because you value and admire his accomplishments

but only if you really mean it, I think Aries will see throu it if you would just ego-stroking...

maybe he is frustrated that there is nobody who makes him loved enough? maybe he feels he did so much for his family and its not appreciated? know, what I mean

so, try to love him if its possible, express it but at the same time live your life

make him talk about his beginnings

parents are just normal people, who are parents 🙂 with hopes and dreams what they had as a child.... ask him about this, show genuine interest... he will be maybe more understanding for your dreams and hopes

what is his moon?

PS. My father is an Aries, not controlling and manipulative, but he is demanding love and real appreciation (which fortunately I can give, I love him to bits)

with Aries is sometimes a hard work, you never know where the unreasonable outbursts and trying to hurt comes from - it usually comes from the frustration of not being appreciated and loved enough (in my experience)

Posted by Pandora101

@TxOgal

"Thats a long story .. I thought about this yes and I am still applying but ofcourse I dont wish he'd pay me anything more.. This is why im looking for a scholarship. You dont know how much it is crushing to your soul when you find your own father talking about money that he spent on you all his life (ofcourse i dont want this to happen again). About the job yes Ive been applying but I havent got a chance yet, I hope I get an acceptance and get this independent feeling that I've never had.

I do have a brother and he is living abroad but trust me.. it did not make father stay away from him.. not one bit. I think this manipulative treatment will never go."

well done girl, thats the spirit! **

give yourself a reasonable timeline, its not going to happen overnight, but if you have a firm plan in your head, and doing something for it, it will happen

dont forget, 2018 is a year of some life changes 🙂

now, I asked about the siblings and I am not a bit surprised your brother lives abroad...(see, he escaped) do you have a nice relationship with him?

does he have a family? would it be possible to go and visit him? its your brother after all, your father cant possibly oppose to this... and maybe indirectly get help from your brother, when you are there with him, hinting about wanting to do some other job or school or something? maybe he will have some ideas

in the meanwhile, do what the others suggested, the "stroke his ego" part.... but, maybe not so much with the intention of ego stroking, but showing your love for him.... some Aries can get nasty, if they dont feel loved and appreciated..

so, if you left any genuine love for him, try to express it.... say him how much you appreciate he always took care of the family, how much you are proud of him he is in such a good job (is he self-made or family money?) and that one day you will like to be like him and you will accomplish everything so he can be proud of you, because you value and admire his accomplishments

but only if you really mean it, I think Aries will see throu it if you would just ego-stroking...

maybe he is frustrated that there is nobody who makes him loved enough? maybe he feels he did so much for his family and its not appreciated? know, what I mean

so, try to love him if its possible, express it but at the same time live your life

make him talk about his beginnings

parents are just normal people, who are parents 🙂 with hopes and dreams what they had as a child.... ask him about this, show genuine interest... he will be maybe more understanding for your dreams and hopes

what is his moon?

PS. My father is an Aries, not controlling and manipulative, but he is demanding love and real appreciation (which fortunately I can give, I love him to bits)

with Aries is sometimes a hard work, you never know where the unreasonable outbursts and trying to hurt comes from - it usually comes from the frustration of not being appreciated and loved enough (in my experience)

I see what you mean now with not feeling loved and appreciated. well my parents are separated but we live together still. He's also very jealous when he finds me speaking with mother or brother. I did not learn to speak freely with father.. really sometimes telling him a Thank you would turn the topic into him saying.. "now you see what I do for you?.. and that we should treat him properly..etc." it seriously turns into a lecture. It was a genuine thank you. In the past he would just take it when I say thank you.. when I was 6 yrs old lol

About brother.. I tried and I stayed with him for some time abroad but could not find a job. I still visit him. Even the days I spent with brother..father would come over sometimes and would be my worst days lol ..

I am not trying to turn my life into drama.. and I never really shared this stuff.. But it is drama at home.. I will try to show hm love but really it could be the hardest thing.

@Pandora101 his moon is Scorpio like me

Thinking about what you said.. I think it was what calmed down my ex bf too showing him appreciation n love .. But by then it was really genuine and I did not know hes being manipulativre.. But it was easier cause I cant pretend and it was easier to talk to him.. its likr one on one hes not my dad lol .. He was a Taurus though

you don’t.

Posted by MarijuanaHaze

Aren't you old enough to move out?

lol I know u read something in my thread cause u know im talking about my father.. but in the same post I said not to suggest moving out. Obviously thats not an option for me

I had an Aries father...he loved and hated my assertiveness...threatened by it and admired it

He was my strongest role model. The day I stood up to him was the best thing I did ... he began to show deep respect for me, bless him....arrogant man with a soft heart ... Pisces dominant..❤️, one of the kindest most sincere people I ever knew...very brave too 👍

Guys I really need someone to tell me how they deal with aries.. do not suggest that i Run away .. I am already avoiding n its not helping much.. thats why im looking for other opinions. Not about what I do with my life but about how to treat this character. Pls dont mix issues, its already complicated.

Thanks for those who shared valuable input so far 🙂

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I had an Aries father...he loved and hated my assertiveness...threatened by it and admired it

He was my strongest role model. The day I stood up to him was the best thing I did ... he began to show deep respect for me, bless him....arrogant man with a soft heart ... Pisces dominant..❤️, one of the kindest most sincere people I ever knew...very brave too 👍

what made you stand up to him/support him? can u elaborate pls? Im happy you have a great experience

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Posted by MyStarsShine

I had an Aries father...he loved and hated my assertiveness...threatened by it and admired it

He was my strongest role model. The day I stood up to him was the best thing I did ... he began to show deep respect for me, bless him....arrogant man with a soft heart ... Pisces dominant..❤️, one of the kindest most sincere people I ever knew...very brave too 👍

what made you stand up to him/support him? can u elaborate pls? Im happy you have a great experience

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Sure...he passed a few years ago and we became very close towards the end

I wouldn't let him talk down to me like he did to my subseviemt mother. I'd often gotten into disagreements with him but on the morn of her funeral he started to shout at me and take his grief out on him. I told him I had lost a mother too and it wasn't all about him and if he continued to talk down to me i was out. He seemed to listen. I didn't shout but remained calm but assertive

The way I got through to him was by telling him how much I loved him but it wasn't going to work if he treated me badly. He got it in the end. He told me he thought I was very brave and that i was the one member of the family to bring love into it❤️. I've never forgotten that, as I will never forget the lessons I learned from him.....tough at times but always with love and very valuable.

I keep his memory alive by talking about him to our son, who is very like him! Haunted forever lol 😊

One of the most passionate and romantic men I ever knew

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Posted by MyStarsShine

I had an Aries father...he loved and hated my assertiveness...threatened by it and admired it

He was my strongest role model. The day I stood up to him was the best thing I did ... he began to show deep respect for me, bless him....arrogant man with a soft heart ... Pisces dominant..❤️, one of the kindest most sincere people I ever knew...very brave too 👍

what made you stand up to him/support him? can u elaborate pls? Im happy you have a great experience

Sure...he passed a few years ago and we became very close towards the end

I wouldn't let him talk down to me like he did to my subseviemt mother. I'd often gotten into disagreements with him but on the morn of her funeral he started to shout at me and take his grief out on him. I told him I had lost a mother too and it wasn't all about him and if he continued to talk down to me i was out. He seemed to listen. I didn't shout but remained calm but assertive

The way I got through to him was by telling him how much I loved him but it wasn't going to work if he treated me badly. He got it in the end. He told me he thought I was very brave and that i was the one member of the family to bring love into it❤️. I've never forgotten that, as I will never forget the lessons I learned from him.....tough at times but always with love and very valuable.

I keep his memory alive by talking about him to our son, who is very like him! Haunted forever lol 😊

One of the most passionate and romantic men I ever knew

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Im sorry for your loss. This is something I can relate to, he'd take his frustrations out on me lol I wish I tell him it's not all about you. We have feelings too. But yeah you are surely brave and he is a good man to have listened to you.

@MyStarsShine God bless ur son I hope he takes the good parts from his character and ull surely give him the love needed 🙂

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Posted by MyStarsShine

I had an Aries father...he loved and hated my assertiveness...threatened by it and admired it

He was my strongest role model. The day I stood up to him was the best thing I did ... he began to show deep respect for me, bless him....arrogant man with a soft heart ... Pisces dominant..❤️, one of the kindest most sincere people I ever knew...very brave too 👍

what made you stand up to him/support him? can u elaborate pls? Im happy you have a great experience

Sure...he passed a few years ago and we became very close towards the end

I wouldn't let him talk down to me like he did to my subseviemt mother. I'd often gotten into disagreements with him but on the morn of her funeral he started to shout at me and take his grief out on him. I told him I had lost a mother too and it wasn't all about him and if he continued to talk down to me i was out. He seemed to listen. I didn't shout but remained calm but assertive

The way I got through to him was by telling him how much I loved him but it wasn't going to work if he treated me badly. He got it in the end. He told me he thought I was very brave and that i was the one member of the family to bring love into it❤️. I've never forgotten that, as I will never forget the lessons I learned from him.....tough at times but always with love and very valuable.

I keep his memory alive by talking about him to our son, who is very like him! Haunted forever lol 😊

One of the most passionate and romantic men I ever knew

Im sorry for your loss. This is something I can relate to, he'd take his frustrations out on me lol I wish I tell him it's not all about you. We have feelings too. But yeah you are surely brave and he is a good man to have listened to you.

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Thank you...he still lives on, I've lots of things of his in my house 😊

He was a very good man, he just didn't grow up enough to control his temper and allowed his dificult childhood to colour the rest of his life....sad really 😥💙

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@MyStarsShine God bless ur son I hope he takes the good parts from his character and ull surely give him the love needed 🙂

Bless you....lovely thing to say. He has learned maturity far quicker than his Grandad, but he has plenty of 🔥in his belly and is a very strong man, he lets things go and feels confident

He also has masses of love in his life ❤️

My mother is an Aries. Im a scorpio and my sister is a saggitarius.

She always used to complain so much about everything and everyone and how its all a burden to her.

My sagitarius sister has always been better at dealing with her. She never took any of her drama seriously even if it was 7am. She never ever argued with her just kind of laughed or shrugged at whatever mom was going on about and kept doing her thing. Or just opening a new interesting conversation topic about herself like her job friends hair whatever. I guess it showed there was life other than inside my moms head too lol. She went to university then got a job then got married. After 7 years she had a kid and left her with mom a lot while she herself always said she was busy from work and never spent more than 2 hours with mom during which she talks about her work life shows pictures etc. She also gives mom money which impressed mom a lot.

Im a scorpio and I would always try to make her feel better about her oscar winning drama performances when I was younger which never ever helped. And I would get into arguments with her a lot. Which was sooo stupid.

Listen, you need to accept that a lot of parents are just like that. Complaining about life and going on about it even about hating their kids. Your father is just a cliche traditional father. It has become his personality.

So try never addressing his stupid drama and changing topic with whatever topic helps distract him. Or watch comedy or cute animal videos and dont pay attention to his drama. If you must talk to him only say cheesy things to support him and how much you love your family and would like to work a lot and support them one day when they are older.

Remember that its all just drama. A lot of parents are like that. Yes there are normal people too in the world who are happy to be around even when the world is ending but life is hard and most parents just turn into this cliche.

I also suggest watching Superwoman s videos on youtube about her indian muslim parents. She portrays typical religious strict and complaining parents very well in a comedic way.

So yes dont empathize with him. A lot of people are like that. They cant be helped. Do constructive things do your work, your daily chores, build your own life and then visit him maybe help him financially a bit.

Dont get involved in ANY of his drama. Its nothing but a waste of time and energy. Be you. You deserve to be happy. Its your life. Your being happy and building your life is the only thing that could bring him any happiness and support in the future. Although he would even argue with that maybe lol

Next time try opening some videos on your phone like funny animals , comedy or documentary or football and just suggest watching and laughing together. Or call over another family member. If its not helping just watch on your own in your room 🙂

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Aren't you old enough to move out?

lol I know u read something in my thread cause u know im talking about my father.. but in the same post I said not to suggest moving out. Obviously thats not an option for me

Be assertive and make him comfortable.

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It does seem like I should continue to stand my ground but only bec. I dont know any other way. Problem is hes never satisified (I have told him this before, his reaction was a blank face but some other day later.. he says dont tell me we are fine cause we are a broken family) .. I just wish I remain patient... whats ur sun / moon sign btw?

Distance yourself, and break all ties. Burn all bridges. Then isolate them from your life. You will never be able to escape them face to face. It sounds cowardly and pathetic, but its true. You need to let the Aries rage completely alone, because once they cool down the first thing their going to do is find other people to add to their life. Once they do you will be 100% cut off from them.

The ram is a tough fighter, and never gives up. Because of that you need to think like a Sagittarius and take care of them from range. They will move on quicker then you think. It's not like a water sign that will dwell in the idea of you for years. A fire sun is almost always looking forward, and the second you are out of sight they will quickly move on.

@Bossanovababy wow thanks for sharing your story! You talking about your mother is like talking about dad! and yes its true I noticed changing topics also distracted him.. It wasnt intentional though. I should use this more.. And well yeh all that you said fits.. hating their children.. I cant remember how many times he said we are his biggest mistake in life lol.. Thanks again you have no idea how much I was affected by all this. I definitely need to preserve my happiness

They are little bitches aren't they? Mine texted me out of the blue last night. I haven't heard from in like a month, trying to chat me up.

I was like I forgot about your existence, kind of hard to get in the mood with you bro. Than I told him to shut up and that he was a freak hahaha.

He was a bit taken back by that even though he probably thought I was joking. What an arrogant fruit loop.