How do you get out of the friend zone

What are some ways to get out of an Aries friend zone?

We were more than friends at one point and just wondering if it's possible to get back where we were

It's simple. The same way you get out of ANYONE'S "friend zone". Stop accepting the "friendship" (over even better, do not accept it in the first place).

Be direct and say, "Hey, I can't do the 'friend' thing anymore. I care too much about you and can't stick around while you date other people. It's only fair that I find someone who wants to be with me. So let me know if you change your mind, I love to see if there's something more between us." Then walk away and start talking to other people. Drop all communication with this person until they contact you.

Basically if you don't like your current position, then you need to renegotiate your position to get a better offer. The best way to shift the negotiation back in your favor is by removing your offer altogether until the other party can make a valid counter-offer.

Here's the thing, there's only a 50/50 chance this will turn things around. If the other person has no interest in you, you can't persuade them otherwise. However if the person values you, they won't want to lose you. In fact losing you may be what changes their perspective.

Right now the Aries has you as a back up option. So you need to remove yourself from that position first before you can hope to change your situation. You also need to be ok with the fact that the Aries may not be interested in you. In which case, go find someone who values you.

Posted by Chuckcem
It's simple. The same way you get out of ANYONE'S "friend zone". Stop accepting the "friendship" (over even better, do not accept it in the first place).

Be direct and say, "Hey, I can't do the 'friend' thing anymore. I care too much about you and can't stick around while you date other people. It's only fair that I find someone who wants to be with me. So let me know if you change your mind, I love to see if there's something more between us." Then walk away and start talking to other people. Drop all communication with this person until they contact you.

Basically if you don't like your current position, then you need to renegotiate your position to get a better offer. The best way to shift the negotiation back in your favor is by removing your offer altogether until the other party can make a valid counter-offer.

Here's the thing, there's only a 50/50 chance this will turn things around. If the other person has no interest in you, you can't persuade them otherwise. However if the person values you, they won't want to lose you. In fact losing you may be what changes their perspective.

Right now the Aries has you as a back up option. So you need to remove yourself from that position first before you can hope to change your situation. You also need to be ok with the fact that the Aries may not be interested in you. In which case, go find someone who values you.

Thanks for your response! This was very helpful.

Posted by Leobaby89
We were more than friends at one point and just wondering if it's possible to get back where we were

There is none.

Posted by Leobaby89
We were more than friends at one point and just wondering if it's possible to get back where we were

Leobaby, it will be only a possibility, if he would leave his ex with whom he is buying a house

you knew him for 1,5 years and you are still hanging around, pining, when in the meanwhile he is buying house with the girl (who he says is only with because, etc., etc.)....

you get out of a friendzone, if you leave

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by Leobaby89
We were more than friends at one point and just wondering if it's possible to get back where we were

Leobaby, it will be only a possibility, if he would leave his ex with whom he is buying a house

you knew him for 1,5 years and you are still hanging around, pining, when in the meanwhile he is buying house with the girl (who he says is only with because, etc., etc.)....

you get out of a friendzone, if you leave

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I think the hardest thing is I didn't see this coming. I guess I'm holding on hoping for a change. I know I have to let go. You're absolutely right! It just sucks and I hate he proved me wrong (thinking he was "Mr Right and wasn't). When I try to leave (cutting off all communication) he continuously pulls (will text, call, write me on social media, ect) which makes it even harder. Maybe I'll just block all contact to give myself some space to move on. This has been going on for almost 2 months now. ??

Just read your story. The only way I can see to deal with this is to cut all contact sadly. This guy is with another woman and my opinion Aries or not it is all excuses he's put forth regarding her-he may be confused by his feelings regarding you yes but that was a damn messy move to even get involved in such a way with another woman so he's asked for it.

He's making a pretty darn permanent commitment with her in buying a house together. Don't standby and break your heart. A man may have some baggage when he first comes to you but his baggage is moving in with him and unpacking hun!

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Posted by Leobaby89
We were more than friends at one point and just wondering if it's possible to get back where we were

Leobaby, it will be only a possibility, if he would leave his ex with whom he is buying a house

you knew him for 1,5 years and you are still hanging around, pining, when in the meanwhile he is buying house with the girl (who he says is only with because, etc., etc.)....

you get out of a friendzone, if you leave

I think the hardest thing is I didn't see this coming. I guess I'm holding on hoping for a change. I know I have to let go. You're absolutely right! It just sucks and I hate he proved me wrong (thinking he was "Mr Right and wasn't). When I try to leave (cutting off all communication) he continuously pulls (will text, call, write me on social media, ect) which makes it even harder. Maybe I'll just block all contact to give myself some space to move on. This has been going on for almost 2 months now. ??

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Just like other posters, i think the best way is to cut all contact with him. Sort your life out and let him sort his. If it's meant to be then when the time is right it will happen, but it's wiser to not expect or depend on it.

Gather yourself all lioness style and go conquer the world. I tell you he will regret not having you when he figures out what he's missing.

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Posted by Leobaby89
We were more than friends at one point and just wondering if it's possible to get back where we were

Leobaby, it will be only a possibility, if he would leave his ex with whom he is buying a house

you knew him for 1,5 years and you are still hanging around, pining, when in the meanwhile he is buying house with the girl (who he says is only with because, etc., etc.)....

you get out of a friendzone, if you leave

I think the hardest thing is I didn't see this coming. I guess I'm holding on hoping for a change. I know I have to let go. You're absolutely right! It just sucks and I hate he proved me wrong (thinking he was "Mr Right and wasn't). When I try to leave (cutting off all communication) he continuously pulls (will text, call, write me on social media, ect) which makes it even harder. Maybe I'll just block all contact to give myself some space to move on. This has been going on for almost 2 months now. ??

Just like other posters, i think the best way is to cut all contact with him. Sort your life out and let him sort his. If it's meant to be then when the time is right it will happen, but it's wiser to not expect or depend on it.

Gather yourself all lioness style and go conquer the world. I tell you he will regret not having you when he figures out what he's missing.

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Thanks hun!

U cant lol theres no way out that bih?

Posted by yung_wisegem
U cant lol theres no way out that bih?

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