How is 2012 progressing for you Aries?

It's been progressive I guess but after the shock to the system I went through last year, I don't trust much. I'm literally taking it day by day. Finances hit rock bottom in feb.

I did get a job last week though! I start next week I think! Yay me! I can't believe I'm going to be earning a good salary again and it's for a more senior position too! I got a job as a sub-editor! Yay me! And I'm moving in with friends on Sunday! Things are looking up! I'm still in SA though. I'd still like to go oversees again. It at this point I don't know where I'd like to go so I suppose a job is a good place to start with saving money hey!

Yay for you indeed, LL.....

2012 continues to be just plain choppy for me. Nothing really bad, nothing really good, but definitely unsettled and tricky. Oh well...

Great news LL. Keep up the good work🙂

Posted by lotuslily
It's been progressive I guess but after the shock to the system I went through last year, I don't trust much. I'm literally taking it day by day. Finances hit rock bottom in feb.

I did get a job last week though! I start next week I think! Yay me! I can't believe I'm going to be earning a good salary again and it's for a more senior position too! I got a job as a sub-editor! Yay me! And I'm moving in with friends on Sunday! Things are looking up! I'm still in SA though. I'd still like to go oversees again. It at this point I don't know where I'd like to go so I suppose a job is a good place to start with saving money hey!

Hey that is awesome! You just have to keep a positive attitude that you deserve it! Last year was crazy for me..lol and this year I refuse to think negatively about myself. Last year I was constantly beating myself up about where I should be by now and feeling negative about myself and I began to see more financial loss, even though I had multiple things going on. So after watching Oprah's life class..lol I realized that my negative thinking was ruining my progress.

Positive thinking is definately the key, you get in what you put out. In saying that i started to doubt it through 2010 - 2011 cos everything that could go wrong went wrong. From finances,(unemployment to a serious illness with my son. Was hard to drag myself outta bed, got quite depressed at times and im not one to get depressed. But forced myself to be positive. Anyway 2012 everything is falling into place, ive been putting out to the universe what i want and ive been getting it. My son is doing so good, i have a job i love. Ive even had money appear from very suprising places.So to everyone out there going through tough times just hang in there and be positive cos things always get better. We have to do these hard yards in life to keep us real i believe.

Shit has been crazy as hell in my life already. The last couple of crazy years have taught me how to deal with the madness, so I am putting what I??ve learned into action. The craziness is there but now I know how to deal with it or just cut it right out of my life. Soooo, 2012 isn't good or bad...it is what it is. 🙂

2012 is such a different year. Everything is all over the place. We like to set the tone, as Aries and on every level I am having a hard time setting the tone. It's like someone took off our invisible cloak and can see through to what we use as power and is controlling it...whatever it is we use.

Finances circling around and up and down. I hear we're going to be out of the up and down finances by June 4. I just can't wait for June 4.

Just cuz someone can see your source of power doesn't mean they can control it or you! You're a fire sign dammit! Make that clear to them! If someone sees where I get my power, doesn't mean I'm not gonna use it to make sure I keep my power! They must try.... I know how they'll end up. We can be very intimidating and sometimes I flaunt it when it's necessary if someone thinks im just someone who can be pushed around or walked over. We are not to be undermined in anyway!

My 2012 so far: it's almost mid year and I have a new job I'm happy in, a good salary, a good reputation at work, a good relationship with the people I work with and a happy home environment. I'm living with two sexy male housemates... The only thing that's been an issue has been food because they eat four times more than I do and I'm paying a third when I'm eating a fifth of the food. But it's been smooth transitioning with them. I prefer living with guys. So much easier.
I've also started gym. And that's going alright for now. I was I'll for the last two weeks so couldn't go. Started again this week. Then as soon as my fitness is up, I'm going to start endurance training like running or something for during winter because I get very depressed when I can't be as active as I usually am during summer.
The only thing that needs to be addressed after I get my physical wellbeing sorted is establishing a social life again. Making. We friends, meeting more people. I already know tonnes of people but all my friends are married with children now so they have different priorities. Gotta find some other ones to keep me company now.

Other than that... I been suffering a bit of depression lately, but that's because I've just been sitting at home and. It going out at all. Like I hate weekend time. There's nothing to do and nobody to do it with!
I'll get there slowly but surely! I've made a lot of progress so far since where I was a year ago... Or even six months ago!

Hi Lotuslily...

Im really intrigued with all your posts in this message board and most of them are 100% right 🙂... I need your help please..There is this guy at work i like who is aries..but he has changed a lot lately..He is just not the same charming lovable person he was at the beginning.. He is very aloof and very selfish and he seems like he doesnt care at all and he has completly stopped texting or even calling. I do like him alot but i dont want to run after him. Can you please help me with some tips and how to have the old charming aries i once knew..like things i should do and how to act in the office (we work together in different departments. Im scorpion by the way..thanks for your help.. 🙂

Hrmmm... Honestly... It sounds like he's just not feeling it anymore. How do you behave when you are around him now as opposed to when he first noticed you? And I think I need a bit more info as to stuff that's happened between you two already. Like... History! I'd be happy to try and help where I can but I need a fuller picture.

Thanks for asking for my help With this matter that is so important to you. 🙂 makes me feel cool!

Hi Lotuslily...

Thank you sooo much getting back to me..It means a lot to me 🙂...Okay so here goes..At first we were so attracted to each other..and we both used to find excuses to come to each others office just to see each other and even have alittle fun in the office..We used to chat online and it was great..Then after 1 month or so he completely changed and had a cold attitude. We did make out, kissing, teasing and playing with each other but no sex yet.. so he started telling me he is always busy at work and no time to chat anymore. I do feel neglected and he stopped caring. I do want to keep him as a friend because he is sweet to me sometimes (only when he is in mood!!!) and sometimes just ignores me. He even stopped texting completely, whereas in the beginning he used to text me alot. So here I am so confused and dont know how to act or behave in the office so he can start missing me and show interest in me like before. And as a scorpion lady we have a lot of ego and we dont want to act desperate or we need anyone, but i surely miss him. Please help and guide me on how to act and behave around him. Thanks a million 🙂🙂🙂

Ok... Obviously I'm just reading between the lines here, so everything I say is definitely not what might actually be the case!
First off: starting from the top, you need to remember Aries gets bored very easily and a month with the same person is like 10 months in Aries' time! Unless there is some challenge to keep us interested, we're gonna get bored!
Secondly: Aries LOVE forbidden naughtiness, so the thrill for him was probably sneaking around for some naughty action at work... In the office... Where aaaaalllllllllllllll of his colleagues were sooo close and none the wiser to what was going on behind closed doors right by them.
He probably started backing off when he realized you were in it for more than just some naughty fun at work. The situation probably lost its forbidden luster after a while if nothing new and naughty was being done to keep his attention.
I honestly think he was sure he only wanted some fun with you and to avoid hurting you in the future, he's backed off. We really don't like hurting people and we react even worse if we know a person likes us and that we don't feel the same way and have to tell them. I always back off and in a way I become a bit of a bitch because I really don't want to hurt this person and the only way for me to do that is to make them not like me, and I do that by switching into friend mode and blatantly taking advantage of the guy and what he is offering me and giving nothing -- not even my time in return.

I think what you need to do is back off completely for a while. At least until he either gets curious as why exactly ur not into h anymore, or until you get over it.

I also have a feeling there's another woman involved and he doesn't want to tell you about that either. Either outside of work or at work.

I advise acting like someone playing hard to get. Don't look at him, contact him or anything unless you absolutely have to.

I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear. But a good start to potentially getting his attention back is by bringing back a challenging aspect. And I think that will take some time to make the tables turn again. We don't go for it if it's too easy to get to. I'm not saying ur easy, just... There's no fun in doing something that doesn't stimulate our mars in some way!

Lotus...agree with your first line. About not being the case!

I am an Apr 7 Aries...I do NOT bore easily and do not need to be challenged...I think this is a myth about Aries. What it is is this..I think we like to have a lot of irons in the fire sometimes. Without out completing all of them, we jump around alot. (It's kinda like a lot of energy, I guess you could say) Which may seem like boredom or needing a challenge, but that's not it. The same person in one month is not boring and does not seem like 10 months for me...on the contrary, I acutally like the stability. I know this is really the individual, but there are very similar Aries characteristics.

I will say this though...I have read on here that Aries needs the "signals" that the other is def interested equally and it's real..if its not I become distant/cold/icy if I feel the other person is not able to return it or is actually not returning it. I tend to play it cool, sort of like I am ticked off, if I think a friend or love interest is avoiding me.

For instance...a female friend called me on my cell at 8 am the other morning, so I immediately called her back and it went straight to voice mail. Then she called me an hour later and left a message to call her. I called her at lunch and it went to her voice mail again. So I left a message for her to have her cell at her side at 5:30 for when I called. So I did and it went to voice mail again!!
I know this is short and impatient, but I will forget this woman as a friend, because I am not feeling the "genuineness." And there could be circumstances and I get that, but I need real and true.

Please don't assume this guy has lost interest...it may be something else. But I don't recommend game playing please! Be authentic. For me I always warm back up to someone if they are playful about it...like if you called him with some silly thing...or an inside joke, but not too corny. I just recently saw Bridesmaids and when she made the cake like the carrot, I thought it was adorable and playful. Yep playful always works to bring me back and it confirms the "realness" for me.

Posted by gottagetthiscancerguy
2012 is such a different year. Everything is all over the place. We like to set the tone, as Aries and on every level I am having a hard time setting the tone. It's like someone took off our invisible cloak and can see through to what we use as power and is controlling it...whatever it is we use.

Finances circling around and up and down. I hear we're going to be out of the up and down finances by June 4. I just can't wait for June 4.

Excellent news - ready for UP on June 4🙂

I'm an April 6 Aries and if a guy -- no matter how hot -- makes it too easy, I'm not interested.

The only way I'll stay put for longer than a minute is if the sex is awesome.

I really hope you do get him back though. And I'm sorry I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear. I was all excited about giving you advice and then the next day when I had a chance to sit and read between the lines of what you were saying, I saw something other than positive.

But I'm sure all is not lost. We do change our minds occasionally.... I was involved with a sag briefly about 8 years ago and he was all soppy and love struck and that made me run for the hills. We didnt even get to have sex because i was so put off by how much he was into me. I literally felt like puking at the thought of him being inside me because of it. We stayed friends tho and then about two years later, we ended up in bed together one drunken night and the Sexual chemistry was insanely hot! We ended up being fwb for a year! We're still great friends today, but I'm over the sexual aspect of it.

All I'm trying to say is that you shouldn't lose hope. Just back off for a while so he can figure out that he can relax and see you're not a threat to whatever has made him back off. Then maybe you can try again at a later stage.

Wooopsy!! I thought u were the lady who posted the message sunshine!! I was like "huh!!!—, I thought she said she's a scorp, now she's saying she's an Aries.... Wtf—"
Haha! Ok, so half of my last message is meant for scorp lady and the other half is meant for you! Haha... I'm sure you'll figure out which parts.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by gottagetthiscancerguy
2012 is such a different year. Everything is all over the place. We like to set the tone, as Aries and on every level I am having a hard time setting the tone. It's like someone took off our invisible cloak and can see through to what we use as power and is controlling it...whatever it is we use.

Finances circling around and up and down. I hear we're going to be out of the up and down finances by June 4. I just can't wait for June 4.

Excellent news - ready for UP on June 4🙂

click to expand

June 4 can't get here fast enough for me. Really, what a weird year it has been for me. Sort of keep getting smacked around for no apparent reason. Really, I didn't do it this time!!!! Go find someone else to blame!!!!!

Dofacc! That sounds awful! Sorry to hear! I'll send some good vibes ur way xxx

Huh, thought I was detecting something positive coming my way.


Thanks LL...

One thing I can say about this year is that I have become more of a loner than I ever was. Still not meeting any suitable mates

Hi Lotuslily and Sunshine..

Thank you so much for your advices..both of you are absolutely right.. I think he has completely lost interest in me, since yesterday i asked him to go out since I really needed someone to talk to since i heard really bad news about my family and he knows about it but he turned me down and told me he is busy at work and has no time for me. What hurt the most when he didnt even want to talk to me on the phone for few minutes and wanted to get rid of me so fast on the phone. So i guess this is it. I will not go forward with this coz it hurts me deeply and I cried a lot last night. I will act like nothing happened at work and be normal and will not pursue him anymore, because in the long run I am the only one who is getting hurt 😢.... Thank you both of you for a valuable advices and I will always keep that in mind when I meet another Aries man.

@scorp lady: I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I feel for you girl. Don't let him see your pain tho!
The fact that he wouldn't even listen to you talk about your problem is just not cool. What a cruel wake up call!
I think ur plan to just pretend like nothing happened is best. Like, now you know he's not even ur friend.... But at the same time, he can't be your enemy because you need to keep office vibes mellow. So if you have to deal with him, be civil. Don't be icy....
It'll show him he can relax around you if you do still want to attempt a second go at a later stage. For now, the best is just to back off and heal yourself! Find other hot guys to distract your mind off of him. You'll be feeling better in not time and you might realize once you take the rose tired glasses off that he wasn't even worth your tears. You deserve more!

Posted by bkbella86
One thing I can say about this year is that I have become more of a loner than I ever was. Still not meeting any suitable mates

Same here girl! 99% of the time, I would much rather stay home than hang out with acquaintances. My friends all either live overseas or have moved to other cities or are getting married and having babies, or are my summer friends, when i spent all my spare time wakeboarding at the lake. so I need to find new peeps, and hanging out at bars and clubs these days is just not cutting it for me. I'll go out drinking and dancing like once a month lately, but the rest of the time I'm at home!

I have however become more active with regards to health and fitness and have been going to gym and working out, so I'm hoping to get my fitness level up to a point where I can join sports clubs over winter and meet new people there with similar interests.

Thank goodness I have housemates to keep me company! Otherwise I'd be a total hermit!

Thanks Lotislily 🙂.. i sent you a private mail.. 🙂

Posted by dofacc

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by gottagetthiscancerguy
2012 is such a different year. Everything is all over the place. We like to set the tone, as Aries and on every level I am having a hard time setting the tone. It's like someone took off our invisible cloak and can see through to what we use as power and is controlling it...whatever it is we use.

Finances circling around and up and down. I hear we're going to be out of the up and down finances by June 4. I just can't wait for June 4.

Excellent news - ready for UP on June 4🙂

June 4 can't get here fast enough for me. Really, what a weird year it has been for me. Sort of keep getting smacked around for no apparent reason. Really, I didn't do it this time!!!! Go find someone else to blame!!!!!

click to expand

Well here's to an earth shattering, arse wallopping headbutt to who/whatever is smacking you around.

Thanks RNAP. That certainly did put them in their place!!!

Posted by dofacc

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by gottagetthiscancerguy
2012 is such a different year. Everything is all over the place. We like to set the tone, as Aries and on every level I am having a hard time setting the tone. It's like someone took off our invisible cloak and can see through to what we use as power and is controlling it...whatever it is we use.

Finances circling around and up and down. I hear we're going to be out of the up and down finances by June 4. I just can't wait for June 4.

Excellent news - ready for UP on June 4🙂

June 4 can't get here fast enough for me. Really, what a weird year it has been for me. Sort of keep getting smacked around for no apparent reason. Really, I didn't do it this time!!!! Go find someone else to blame!!!!!

click to expand

Must say I am more than a little pissed off with this June 4 BS. I got FCO'd on the 4th.
Fighting back today, but 4 June was a wipeout😢