Life Experiences That Shape The Aries

Hi, I'm new to this board. I'm a male Aries. I just thought I would comment on how the experiences and wisdom we gain in life impact on our base astrological sign traits. I'm 26 years old?.I still exhibit the full range of stereotypical aries traits, however they have been tempered by my experiences and I've refined my expressions of our traits into something that renders my aries identity confusing to those of whom I reveal it to. I don't always strike people as an aries. For example, although I'm quite a masculine aries guy, I have a strong sensitive and compassionate side that I don't view as a weakness to be hidden but as a strength to be explored.

Something that I very rarely reveal to people in real life, is that as a child I was sexually abused. I've worked through all the trauma of it on my own over the years and did a lot of exploring into myself and found a greater understanding of the human condition based on those experiences. I think I was able to bounce back a bit more by virtue of my aries sign, which helps in the area of self esteem and confidence (I'm quite confident these days and have very high self esteem). I usually don't reveal this chronic early life experience to others because I don't define myself by it and don't want others to. During my teenage years I was rather torn by the whole experience and gained a lot of insight from primarily female acquaintances who had similar experiences. Its amazing how many females have had similar experiences. I also found in my teenage years that females were more skilled at helping me understand the emotional side of things. My point I guess is, that by always associating with female friends primarily I gained a respect of women and the shit they go through with creepy guys and what not, that led me to never be that guy?..the proverbial player ? the type of person aries males often are stereotyped as being. I tend to be a lot more introspective and although I have confidence in myself, I tend to be a bit more sensitive and affectionate (yet I'm not a wimpy wistful type) than aggressive and seductive.

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Those experiences led me to psychology as an undergraduate degree. During undergrad I became really skilled at reading the emotions of others and learning how to be supportive and helpful to people in need. I found my happy go lucky aries trait really works well with this sort of thing. Its one thing to make people feel better, but we as aries have a special gift that we can bestow upon people which allows us to lift peoples' moods by our energy and excitement. One thing though about being an aries is that we're not known as listeners (we're the type who wait to talk). I've learned the value of listening. Thus, I'm pretty good at listening and discussing crap with people to make them feel better, but instinctively my aries base traits kick in and allow me to take things a step further so that after all the tears are dried up, I know just how and when to spark some happy go lucky fun and amusement to bring friends a step higher into being happy.

I didn't pursue psychology though as a career path. The aries power-seeking side of me has made me set more loftier goals. As aries we are really power driven. This drive for power hardly ever works well in relationships?but it works great in careers. So as a typical aries with lofty goals, I decided that I wanted to become president of the u.s. someday (that way if I fall short, I'll still be doing pretty well). And I figured the best way to do it is to attend law school, practice law for a decade or so and then pursue an entry level political position as a congressman or something in my mid 30s. So far I've completed law school passed the bar and am on my way to success. I've had a lot of academic success and I've learned that intellect goes further than anger. I never get into the stereotypical heated aries anger ? I think my early life experiences subdued that to a large degree but I've found intelligent conversation and discussion fly a lot further than large projectile objects thrown across the room at someone you're irritated with.

I don't claim to have all the answers yet?but I just thought I would share a bit about how experiences shape us and how we evolve while still maintaining our base characteristics of our signs. Most people don't peg me as an aries now, but if they saw me through these lenses, they'd see that I actually am one?who has been a bit weathered for the better over the years.

Typo in original post -- due to cut and pasting issues I presume -- not sure what it originally said but change the sentence to: "I gained a respect of women and the stuff they go through with creepy..."

I have plenty of male friends too, and what I really like about male friends generally is that they tend to be a whole lot more blunt and will tell you in a very forthright manner that you are being a dumb arse with no ifs ands or buts about it, and to shape up whereas women tend to support by their nature and won't always outright tell you to fix your crap and do things differently.

Well, you're definately composed. If I were to be molested by my dad for instance he'd either be dead by now or get his ass kicked regularly. Good thing it never happened to me. I tend to hold a grudge for shitty things like that.

doesn't one need a lot of patience to study other people? Aries (I am one) are not known for patience. . . so you should be commended on cultivating that patience