My Aries man wants space, Gemini lady- plz advice

i hope you can guide me. I have been in a relationship with an Aries man for 6moths now. great relationship, passionate basically everything i ever wanted in a relationship. 3days back he asked me for a break because he feels choked in our relationship, he also said that i want to do what i want, always want my way but i always tried compremising, but he said i always want to be in control. he doesn't speak about his deeper feelings and lost both his parents earlier this year and on top of that he is the only child. we decided to get engaged 2weeks before he asked for the break and we were both over the moon until his ex who he has a son with came back in the picture (child is 3yrs old). Its been 3days and I'm going crazy... i don't know if i should make the first move to contact him and just tell him that i miss him by text. Or do i wait till he contacts me? i have a lot of hope for our relationship but i don't know how to deal with this. I'm lost in love i really care a lot about him. the child still bonds my Aries with his ex and i personally think she is using the child to get him back. Please advise me, i want my Aries man back. the wait is killing me! Gemini women (06 June) my Aries man (28 March).

Give him space. He lost his parents and he is a mess right now. The Ex might be using the child to reel him back in but, that doesn't mean he will stay with her. Send him good vibes and back off. Detach from the outcome.

Regardless of astrological sign, I think you should really accept that your guy has a child. The bond will always be there. Hence, if you really love your Ram, know that one way or the other the mother of his child will somewhat be in the picture (whether in the foreground or background... we could only speculate).

My longest relationship has been with an aries also. However I think our situation was reversed. I wanted to end things and he wanted it to go on. Since he was stubborn/persistent/determined, our dying relationship dragged on for half a year. I was pulling away, yet he kept pulling back.

As a gem, I understand where you're coming from. I am the same way when I really care for the other person. Time has taughte though that there are just some times when you need to have the courage to step back. I know that we think a lot , to the point of being obsessive at times, but if he wants space then give it to him. Don't budge. This is the time when both of you could reassess your respective emotional needs in the context of your relationship.

It is much more fulfilling if you let him go as he requested, and wake up to find that he has returned to you rather than pressuring him to stay and getting half hearted responses.

It's so difficult, it's all I think about and pray about. how long does he need? do I wait till he contacts me or do I give it about a week and text him just to say "I miss him". I don't think I'm strong enough though, we have been together almost every day, I spend weekends at his place, visited his family and he was and still is part of my family..
Things went really well, telling everybody even my family and friends that I am his future. Feels like I messed up, maybe I asked to much questions but his not one to open up and speak about his feels or the child. I accepted the child, I knew about the child from the start and made peace with it. I know I will always have to share him because of the child and I'm okay with that. such a fragile relationship...

Before he asked for space we had a fight.. he was dishonest to me, told me his son got hurt (while I was out with his aunties shopping) , he said his son fell through a window and is rushing off to the ex and son. They were on vacation about 600km from where we stay. I called the ex out of concern... The boy was fine, he didn't get hurt.. we were supposed to have his son the next day for the first time. The ex didn't know I'm the fianc??, but she was aware that he is on his way and when I told her I'm his fianc? she said I got that wrong??. I told him I called her and that the boy is fine? Why the rush? And I told him that I told her I'm his fianc— ??_ Then he asked of a break ? saying that I want to be in control and that I am choking him... his auntie said she thinks he is searching for something to fill the void his mom left and maybe he thinks the ex can full that because they have a long history. He told me he don't love his ex. anymore when I asked him.. .. ..
I'm lost..
Since we been together this never happened, he always told me when his going to visit his son and I was fine with that.
I'm really lost, was he lying to me from the start? Is he living a double life? Was he dishonest about loving me? Did he lie to our friends and family?

Soooo confused. I still love him .. ..

My whole world is upside down??_ 😢 must I keep hoping that he will realise the grass isn't greener on the other side?

Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
Give him space. He lost his parents and he is a mess right now. The Ex might be using the child to reel him back in but, that doesn't mean he will stay with her. Send him good vibes and back off. Detach from the outcome.

I agree,

When going through something, feelings get overwhelming, all contact is lost, days, weeks, maybe more than a month. I suggest do not contact, let him take his break as he asked from you, space should be respected because it is not always given. He just needs to be alone. If he is not, he will be gone before you realize it.

If he wants to make an effort, you will be hearing from him, I can't tell you when, but it definitely would not take him long enough to come around.

*Feedback- ... his with his ex and child, so i'm moving on.

Thanks... and He contacted me!! txt me saying things went terribly wrong and he is so sorry about everything and sorry that he hurt me. He asked me to forgive him etc. I didn't reply and after the second message he called me to work asked why I didn't reply yet so I said I am a bit busy. He sounded very concerned and wanted to know if I'm okay and if we can talk??_ we arranged to meet up on Saturday. I do want my Aries man back and I think the issues we have are things that can be worked on??_ some boundaries needs to be set regarding the ex. (the baby mama) but I don't know how to go about it?? And do I give him a ultimatum for us 3 to meet ? where do I draw the line?

Just meet him and talk. No ultimatums. Don't get attached to the outcome of getting back together with him.
This is not about the Ex. She's just a fallback habit that he runs to whenever life gets crazy. If he didn't default to her it would be someone or something else. Once his head clears, he steps away from her. That's why she uses the kid as a lure to pull him back. It's the only leverage she has.

But, in the end she's just a side character in this drama.

girl I am a Gemini woman too and to me he's been having his fun on the side with his x and I honestly do not believe for one second he didn't have sex with his X!! I know aries guys & some are very loyal but there are some that are not as in every sign and this one seems very spoiled.when u tell an aries man u love him and u prove that love and want to marry them some of them will pull away as they need the challenge but make NO MISTAKE he's the loser in this whole thing & he will always want u,not her,she's the one being played because he THINKS YOU ARE A SURE THING!! HE KNOWS HE HAS U,OR THINKS HE DOES!! MAKE HIS AZZ WORK 4 IT,& DATE ANOTHER GUY FOR AWHILE UNTIL U GET UR MIND CLEARED!!

I would also beat that hoe he calls his X but for the kid sake just steal all the likes from her!! YOU KNOW GEMINI MEN ARE CRAZY OBSESSED WITH GEMINI WOMAN when they find one they LOVE,HE SHOULD BE THE ONE CRYING & WORRIED NOT YOU!!!

Posted by Geminithefox
I would also beat that hoe he calls his X but for the kid sake just steal all the likes from her!! YOU KNOW GEMINI MEN ARE CRAZY OBSESSED WITH GEMINI WOMAN when they find one they LOVE,HE SHOULD BE THE ONE CRYING & WORRIED NOT YOU!!!

lol I MEANT ARIES MEN ARE THE ONES WILD ABOUT GEMINI WOMEN!! so sorry for the error,I was so Pissed reading what he did to you!!

take the hoe's men from her if u have the courage! she will want to get very far away from u after that!! u know he cannot be her only guy!!

@ Geminithefox, I just like you! Thanks !
Well we've been texting each other but I keep it short and to the point (take a hour or so to reply back). Yesterday he msgs me saying he wish he could see me and stuff... I will take my Aries man back ... *I would be very disappointed if he had sex with her — ??_ but still willing to forgive?
What I want him to do is to show me that he wants to be with me by arranging a sit down with Ms. X. I want her to know that I'm not going anywhere... I know his crazy about me, who wouldn't be LOL. I took out my black book and been on 2 dates already cause I couldn't sit at home,,,, it made me feel better but only for a short while though. I'm going to make his ass pay for what he did, he was dishonest and trust needs to be earned. I booked me a pedi & meni as well as a facial. I'm also going to colour my hair, need a new look. I want his jaw to drop when he see me.

GREAT GIRL!!!

One thing is for sure Aries & Gemini are an Excellent match but Gemini needs to keep an eye on aries sometimes! Many aries people are loyal but some of them are not! Don't spoil the aries too much but also don't neglect and us Gem's can spoil a guy if we are not careful yet thanks to our natural drive to do our own thing its most likely the aries who will be the insecure one but no one wants aries men to be insecure but with a gemini they will be on their toes because we simply just cannot focus all of our attention on One thing 24/7 lol I must say I am proud of you for dating a little and your new attitude and keep it up!! 🙂 YOU ROCK!!

my aries pulled a simular stunt just a different situation but simular in many many ways some years back!!