Gemini Girl/Aries Guy-Treetrunking 1st Night-More?

We were fire and air. He was hot, and I was hot for him. It was hot.

K, so my galpal fixed me up with an Aries guy who regularly comes to town for business. I believe we were introduced under the "well this could be fun". He recently split from his ex of three years and I knew that going in.

We stayed the night together and cuddled, but in the morning the make out session was so incredibly hot we had sex which lasted for all of a few seconds because we were both so pent up. Then we went to lunch and he left town. He spent forever saying goodbye, kissing, still talking etc etc.

Over the next month we talk on the phone, text, webcam chat (not like you think, sweetly not trampy, already did that). I fall pretty hard with all the words and attention, oh and the fact that we kiss the same, touch the same, laugh at the same things..... none of this hurts either.

He comes to town again! YAY! Not..... he has a bad work experience here and is in a particularly crabby mood. First night here sex and such. Very distant. Not fun. Second night he wants to go back to his hotel..... alone. He realizes I am upset. I have the what are we doing here talk. I cannot just be your in town vag. He says that I am not that. Says he doesn't know what he wants. He says repeatedly he is happy we can have a mature conversation. I leave him at his car. No sex. No amazingness. Not fun.

He now retreats. No talking, no texting, no webcaming, nothing. A few sporatic and stupid convos here and there, most initiated by me.

He came to town last week. Texts me. Wants to see me. I tell him I am busy one of the nights, but give him the second night. Find out he had to have dinner alone first night (small win for me). Anyway, second night. I keep it light, easy going. He's trepidatious, expecting the worst I'm sure. I don't give him any shit. Ends in super hot three hour romp session that left me bruised and I liked it. He leaves town in the morning, kisses and a promise to call. Since then some facebook chatting.

WTH am I doing? I am in a casual relationship here.... right? Problem is, I want more. Patience? Stupidity? He's an Aries and I had sex too soon and there's no way to recover? Can I recover? Classic case of a Gemini loving what she can't have?

Uhmmmm yeah, you need to make Aries wait for the cookie! LOL.. They want what they cant have MOST the time,If your that easy from the get go,they will think your like that with everyone and end up not feeling like number 1.. Which they have to be number 1,they were born number 1. Do something crazy with him you never done with anyone,and make sure he knows. Be a little reluctant with trying it too. Aries men are easy to catch if you use the right bait!

CG - Awesome advice! I'll listen to whatever you have to say anytime.

I meant to include that my moon is Aries and his is Aquarius.

Ahhh, Geminis! You are truly Gems! Great friends and sensitive lovers. Wit & charm galore which belies an emotional depth that only a few of the lucky ones ever get to know. Aries needs to be hit on the head occasionally by a well-meaning partner. It's good that you talked to him about your feelings.

How much time has it been since the intense chatting? If he's wrapped up in work or other responsibilities then it just may be that. From the way you describe things, I hardly think he's forgotten you. The connection with a Gem truly takes our breath away, imo, the best air sign for Aries. The attraction tends towards being swept away by a sense of an 'air feeding fire' sensation. You have the ability to fan the flames and touch us deeper than just a physical connection. Give it time, it may have nothing to do with you but the long distance relationship is a factor. Aries is about 'who's here for me now, I want now'. Plus the coming off a long relationship...uh, is he ready for another? He may be sorting all that out. You should too. What do you really want?

I hear you Gemimi, I am in the same boat... same scenario, no phisical distance though all mental. My Aries is draining my energy. I never know if he wants this or that. All I learned so far - never chase him, let him chase u... again, knowing u r a gemini - it's impossible!!! we r too fast and too impatient! tell me more how things r now?

Hott!! LOL

aries and gem sex is sooooo good!

Well here's the update.... he's been outta my town for two weeks and I've heard VERY little from him. I think one or two facebook chats which were limited at that. The time we had the "feelings" talk was the time he was in town before last so that's been a couple months. Looks like I have my answer, no? He can't really have anything at all for me if he's not even contacting me when he's not in town. Looks like I'm the, "Hey, I'm coming into your town vag." Awesome. However, I guess I put myself here too.

Anyone got any ideas how I can spark anything up next time he comes into town? Or, shall I wisen up, throw the dead horse out instead of kicking it and cut my losses? Oh, and perhaps the next time an Aries and I are introduced and his fire intoxicates me I should.... perhaps.... wait a little longer before spreading my legs. :~)