Should this worry me?

It's not that big of a deal but Aries did something a little bothersome the other night. Maybe I'm over thinking it but he's never displayed this type of behavior before.

We went out to dinner to a nice resturant so I was dressed up and fixed myself up nicely. As of late we've just been hitting up a Buffalo Wild Wings so I was pretty excited to get dressed up and go to someplace pretty swanky. It's out of character for me to wear anything too revealing but I did wear a new top I'd gotten that was pretty low cut. HE suggested I wear it and was happy on our way about me dressing up.

So we had our dinner and sat at the bar for a couple of drinks afterward. I did notice the bartender being more friendly to me then he was Aries and I was just rolling my eyes thinking "WTF is it with men seeing a little boobage and suddenly they think they are Don Juan?" I mean it was funny. Aries isn't usually the overly jealous type. He gets a little annoyed but he's admitted before it gives him an ego stroke because I'm HIS and his alone.

Well... he wasn't happy AT ALL that this bartender was flirting with me. It wasn't even that big of a deal. He made a couple comments here and there but nothing major. I was a little tipsy when we walked out and I giggled about it a little making a comment that I think that bartender wanted to take me home (laughing a nudging Aries a little teasingly) and Aries blew the hell up!!! He wanted to "kill" the guy and who the fuck did he think he was and he should beat the shit out of him.... blah blah. THEN he told me it was because of the clothes I was wearing and told me I could act like I wasn't enjoying the attention so much!!! WTF? Oh. Hell. No.
Basically it turned into a huge fight because I didn't DO anything wrong and it's insulting for him to say the shit he was too me. It was a screaming match all the way home. I started dragging up things from the past *looks guiltily at the floor* and we ended up basically telling each other to fuck off and we didn't care what the other had to say. We are getting married soon!! Is that it? He's never been over the top about this stuff. I asked him and he just keeps saying that he thought it was inappropriate and he doesn't think he was out of line. I "smiled" serveral times at the bartender so he claims. I just want to understand what triggered this when I've had men flat out ask me for my numbers before in front of Aries and he laughed it off (sorta).
Should his behavior worry me?

We did make up but we both still think the other is in the wrong and refuse to aknowledge where the other is coming from.

When we got home though I ripped off the "slutty" shirt and threw it in the garbage right in front of him and asked him if he was happy now. I actually really liked that shirt too. 😢

Maybe the wedding is getting to him or maybe he's getting more aggressive about protecting what is "his". Sheesh... what's next? Him peeing on me to mark his territory?

LOL Really bling? You think I shouldn't have joked about it? Hmmm the thing is that Aries and I bust each other chops all the time. That's why we joke we are together... we finally found someone who wouldn't be offended by the things we say 😛

Maybe I should have been slightly more sensitive about it. I honestly didn' t think it was going to be an issue as it never has in the past. Maybe he's man-strating or something right now 😛 I wanted to hand him a tube of Vag cream and tell him to take a Midol. Ugh.

But it obviously bothered him so I guess I'll have to suck it up and try to be a little more sensitive about it.... and quit dragging out old issues to throw in his face when I want to kick him while he's down.
It just his blow up that worried me. I understand Aries and their tempers but for a few seconds... he scared me. Which scaring me isn't an easy thing to do.

We take the trash out today. I was waiting to see if he'd fish it out because he's the one who over reacted. I was making a point without saying a word. He knows me well enough to know if that shirt doesn't make it out of the trash it'll be something I'll hold over his head 😢 I'm so horrible.

But you're just an avocate of boobage bling. You aren't fooling me 😉 LOL

Yeah, I suppose men can have their days but directing it at me isn't a good idea. He sleeps next to me... with his eyes closed.... and eats my cooking... he knows better or so I thought. 😛
He should have just talked to me rather then throwing a bitch fit. I'd have understood more where he was coming from rather then having to defend myself. Hell by the time we got home *I* was ready to kill the bartender. There is no way in hell I'm going to do anything to screw up my relationship with Aries and he knows I'm loyal. I didn't deserve that and he scared me😢 He's not a small guy and him losing his cookies like that was freaky.

Alright, here's the thing.


You are overreacting .... period.


Yes, he ticked you off, however, you are venting off vile to us, innocent people who have nothing to do with this situation. Even Bling, who is an angel in terms of being non-offensive had to find an exit door away from you flinging your emotions at him, Ginger.

That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ means you are projecting this overbearingly, and if you would do it to us (him), then it must be really overbearing to Aries man.


First, yes, he was a fool for what he did because it meant nothing between you and bartender .. however, you have to consider that this is the reason why you're not suppose to mix alcohol with seductiveness in clothing. I mean, you're not a teenager, you're an adult who is suppose to know these things. When you dress slutty for your man, and he approves of it and is excited about it, great .... but, then don't insert alcohol into the mix along with another male.

I mean seriously .... I know you're not that stupid, so wtf?

Second, you, yourself said you were tipsy ... so when Aries says you smiled at bartender ... you probably did. Not in that "Hello baby" kind of smile, but, more like, "Thanks for the compliment dude, but, I'm with dummy here", kind of smile. But, nevertheless, a drunk upset person isn't able to discern signals .. so why in the fuck are you attempting to hold a person to something you know they can't.

And lastly .... remember Friends when Monica and Chandler had a fight and Chandler thought the relatinship was over because of it and Monica laughed at him and told him ..... grown ups don't break up over fights.



What the fuck are you doing airing your dirty laundry in here for?





Remove this topic .... there is nothing here to bitch about, there is only two people getting drunk together and allowing the effects of alcohol to dictate to them who they are suppose to be.

Personally, I'm not noticing that Ginger was spewing vile to anyone of us. She had an issue and this is the place to bring it. Isn't that what we are hear for?
I thought she was being pretty controlled, but that's just me.

"But it obviously bothered him so I guess I'll have to suck it up and try to be a little more sensitive about it.... and quit dragging out old issues to throw in his face when I want to kick him while he's down.
It just his blow up that worried me. I understand Aries and their tempers but for a few seconds... he scared me. Which scaring me isn't an easy thing to do."


Yeah, bringing up old issues is never a good thing for us Aries. And our tempers are notorious so I know what you are saying. I think you really need to talk to him and let him know it scared you. He will feel awful and will try harder next time to control it. I do agree that the alcohol didn't help matters. We can have jealous flairs every so often. But, I don't think you did anything seriously wrong.

I also think this is a part of the retrograde. I know I've been extra edgy/bitchy and have let others know my feelings quite strongly. Here's my horoscope for today...pretty much sums it all up!

The end of one cycle signals the birth of a new one. The image of the phoenix rising from the ashes suits you well. Today, you'll be embarking on a new period of understanding that will harmonize your energies. Over the last few weeks, you may have taken more risks than usual as you exposed emotions normally kept hidden. Did you overdo it, or could you have gone even farther out on that limb? You have a period of clarity ahead to think about it...

He may be feeling similar. I know I was glad to see this shit will be ending soon!

Like that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^



It's ok to have an argument .. it's not ok to think all blame for it belongs to just one side of a two-sided situation

It's amusing how predictable you are P. I knew you'd come swooping in with something ridiculous. Oh well. I value the imput all the same 😉
I'd like to know how you got that I was so drunk that I couldn't gauge my actions well but.... hmmm. Tipsy means a few P. I had a slight buzz but was far from drunk. Of course I smiled at the bartender when he brought me my drink. I do the same with waiters/waitresses. It's called being polite.

The joke was in poor taste but I'd never had said anything had I know it was going to cause a fight. Yes... that was REALLY my goal for the otherwise good evening......drama 😉 I didn't even realize Aries was mad other then he got a little pissy at the resturant so I suggested we go home.

Oh... and Aries wasn't drinking as he had to drive us home. I had 2 drinks. Though I'm not much of a drinker because I find that drama happens when people drink. I should have stuck to my guns with that I guess 😛

My worry is his flying off the handle into a rage. The thing is if I wanted to wear nothing but my underwear I'll do it and nobody will tell me otherwise. MY clothes weren't the problem, the drinks weren't the problem. It's the fact that the man I'm about to marry flipped out and scared me with his actions.

Oh and P... if I wanted to post that I'm running around my house naked singing Boot Scootin Boogie I'll do it 😉 If you find it to be vile then skip over it. Until you flash your DXP police badge at me .......... I'll post what I want and it stays.

But thanks for the suggestion.

Posted by ramfishtwins
I also think this is a part of the retrograde. I know I've been extra edgy/bitchy and have let others know my feelings quite strongly. Here's my horoscope for today...pretty much sums it all up!

The end of one cycle signals the birth of a new one. The image of the phoenix rising from the ashes suits you well. Today, you'll be embarking on a new period of understanding that will harmonize your energies. Over the last few weeks, you may have taken more risks than usual as you exposed emotions normally kept hidden. Did you overdo it, or could you have gone even farther out on that limb? You have a period of clarity ahead to think about it...

He may be feeling similar. I know I was glad to see this shit will be ending soon!

Thanks girl. Hmmm I wonder. I know there are a few things that he's been grouchy about. So have I but that was the point of going out that night. Just relaxing and enjoying each others company.I hope whatever it is ends soon. I've noticed today that my mood has improved a ton within the last couple days.
We still are snarling at each other a little here and there. Eh... this weekend we've already talked about renting movies and staying at home. We usually have a good time doing that. 😉 Maybe we'll be over it by then.

Thanks Satori.
It may not sound like a big deal to you but it is to me. This is my relationship with the man I'm going to marry. That's not small potatoes.
Some of this is venting but most of it is concern.
My humor is dark and he knows that. I wasn't rubbing anything in his face and if he felt I was he should have told me rather then flipped out to the point of scaring me. I have my own reasons for being troubled and scared at his actions.

But nevermind. I got it from here 😉 I wouldn't want to post anything unnessisary.

Gingerscorp, I wouldn't be surprised if other things come up before the big day that usually you'd think were trifle. There's no need for future vengeful arguments, get your top out the bin!

Ginger.....

From on Scropio to another... I totally feel what you are going through.....

Sometimes people don't understand our type of humor.....

"I was a little tipsy when we walked out and I giggled about it a little making a comment that I think that bartender wanted to take me home (laughing a nudging Aries a little teasingly) and Aries blew the hell up!!!"

I smiled when I read that...... sounds like something I would say.

I have had similar incidents with my Gem.... nothing to major but little stuff that makes me aware of how he could be......

I asked a guy how much it cost to play the juke box, in a bar one night and my gem says to me "Why are you talking to him? and I say all I did was ask him a question, I gave him a strange look and was gee dude lighten up....are you telling me I can't talk no man or ask no man a question.... please.....

I have had another incident out at a bar with my Gem.... and he was talking to a guy and the guy was looking right at me..... when we left I looked at my gem and I said "did you see that guy staring at me while he was talking to you? and he said yea I saw him and I said how disrespectful....

I have learned over the years when in a situation like that don't smile say nothing just keep your focus on your man that way he won't have no reason to blow his top because he knew the whole time you was focus on him.....

I have been to bars wth my gem with booty shorts on and asked do I look ok? and he said yea......

My thing is if you agree that what I have on is ok to wear out with you then don't complain when I start getting looks and compliments.. Hell appreciate it.....

I personally think that your aries should have said something as soon as he saw the bartender...eyeing you....

Thanks Scorpionlady for understanding. I didn't realize it would turn into WWIII or I'd never had joked about it.
Mine has gotten jealous too but it's usually something we poke at each other about. I had a guy ask Aries if he could dance with me and Aries agreed! But I guess he thought if the dude asked his permission first it was ok.
I've noticed within the last few months he's getting more aggressive about things but it's in such small amounts I shrug it off as him just having a bad day or it's just not that big of a deal. This blow up must have been the breaking point.

The thing I threw back in his face was a situation just like this only the bartender was female and hitting on HIM. It got as far as her trying to give her number to him and then he remembered he wasn't single *rolls eyes* Anyway, it wasn't right that I brought it up but instead of yelling and screaming at him I told him that wasn't right and it would never happen again. We talked it out.

For now the situation has been a little weird at home. I think we both are confused and feel bad but I'm not sure if either of us think we are to blame. I mentioned to him today about going and staying at his brothers this weekend and getting away from each other. He looked really hurt 😢 but he said that was a good idea. I need my space for right now and so does he.

Oh... top is out of the trash. 😛 I found it laying on top of my dresser today. I think that was a peace offering but he didn't say anything to me so who knows.

I am sure you will be fine.....

One of my best male friends of ove 6 years is an Aries...I had a FWB with him for 3 months and then I had to walk away, because of his lack of communiation.......... I later found out after six months of not seeing him and going back to just being friends again that he wanted to see someone else... hell I was ok with it it was just FWB.... . the only thing I asked him to do was to communicate with me...he could have done what he wanted.....

Today, he is still trying to get back with me but I am done with him. I had to tell him I was seeing my Gem. My (aries) gf tells me to this day when she sees him out in the street and ask him have he talk to me lately he gets this really big smile on his face..... Then she calls me and says to me "What the hell did you do to that man?" I start laughing and say nothing......🙂

I had no intentions on dating him seriously for varies reason....

1. I don't like his style of cleanliness,
2. He accumalates to much junk
3. He always thought he was more intelligent than me, constant saying how I need to do this that and the other, My ideas was not good enough... he had street sense but he had very little book sense, I have street smarts and book smarts.
4. He wanted to try and change my way of thinking
5. He can't drive and hold a conversation at the same time....that threw me for a loop 🙂
6. He is a big show off out in public.

I can't understand the aries male mind.... hell the Gem mind is no better, I have to deal with two of them 🙂

My (taurus) sister been married to her aries for over 20 years..... I have only seen one big fight, and that was because he was drunk and he kept fucking with my sister and she was not in the mood..... I my son, mom and her children was there to witness it and break it up..... he has never laid a hand on her that I am aware of....

Hang in there all will be great....

Isn't it amazing how predictable a Scorpio is.



Nowhere did I say anything about you being drunk that you couldn't gauge your actions .. however, being a Scorpio, of course you would over-react.


What I said was that he was drunk and couldn't gauge your actions .... dumbass.

But, of course, Miss Intelligence who has comprehension problems .... implying that in his inebriation that he could't gauge your signals to bartender is absolutely ridiculous, eventhough that is exactly what you said.



Please ... at least attempt to keep your emotions in check long enough to use your brain.

Posted by Gingerscorp
Oh and P... if I wanted to post that I'm running around my house naked singing Boot Scootin Boogie I'll do it 😉 If you find it to be vile then skip over it. Until you flash your DXP police badge at me .......... I'll post what I want and it stays.

But thanks for the suggestion.

You know what, Ginger .. I don't really give a damn what you post, as far as for myself. But, of course, you are angry and obviously mis-guiding it at me .. just as you are apparantly prone to do judging by a mountain you made out of nothing.

I told you that for your own dignity .... you go on and on about how much of a wonderfully understanding woman you are, mature, proud .. and then air stinky laundry that should be kept personal ... simply because your emotions aren't in check.

But, if you choose to believe otherwise ... then sobeit .. shoot. In the end, when you grow up, you'll come to realize how childish you are here.

After the ass you made out of yourself here .. when I was simply telling you something valuable, and your emotions being out of control that you struck out at something that wasnt' even intended to be harmful, rather helpful ...



.. then I'd say that perhaps he is the one who should be worried .. because your true colors are ugly.




Eden has been stating this for awhile ... perhaps, she shouldn't be blown off so readily when she points out how ugly of a person you really are.

aw, p-angel! i make an ass outta myself constantly on here and u never swoop in and call me out on my bullshit! i don't always agree with u but i like how u don't hold back... even if it stings a little sometimes.

however, ginger, i think u and ur fiancee need to calm the hell down. also this marriage thing seems to really have ur knickers in a twist. i've seen this type of behavior be the undoing of a possible successful marriage. ur taking things way too seriously now that the concept of marriage has been factored into the equation. relax. take a breather. revel in the fact that u can stop looking for "the one". instead of flying off the handle about his over reaction take a different approach. it seems like this is affecting him too. just soothe him and his ego. remain playful and light-hearted. remind him that he's the only one, show it, then leave him alone to cool off. i know aries to be very direct ppl so tell him outright that u think u both over reacted and that u should probably give each other space for a moment.

i dunno. that's what i'd do anyway. i don't think it would be condusive to dwell on what u both did wrong. take it as a lesson learned and the next time u can try to apply ur new knowledge. oh yes. u will fight again. it is inevitable. even though i am a leo, and am supposed to be this melodramatic thing, i much prefer that drama to be performed on stage and not in real life.

gingerscorp...lets put the shoe on the other foot...

What if a female bartender was flirting with him? And he made a comment she wants to take me home with her. Just think on that for a minute.

My gem and I was at Red Lobster...he is very friendly so he naturally attracts attention...our waitress stood at our table for 5 minutes asking him where hes from and blah blah blah blah.....he knew I was getting agitated..because Im thinking dont you have a fucking job to do. But he made me feel better by moving in closer to me and hugging me and focusing his attention on me. Sorry I have to have my attention.

Just take his feelings into account...he loves you and you are about to be his wife....so naturally hes overprotective of you.

Im sure all this was innocent on your part but this is natural reaction of an aries....especially when they love you.

Posted by dward417
gingerscorp...lets put the shoe on the other foot...

What if a female bartender was flirting with him? And he made a comment she wants to take me home with her. Just think on that for a minute.

My gem and I was at Red Lobster...he is very friendly so he naturally attracts attention...our waitress stood at our table for 5 minutes asking him where hes from and blah blah blah blah.....he knew I was getting agitated..because Im thinking dont you have a fucking job to do. But he made me feel better by moving in closer to me and hugging me and focusing his attention on me. Sorry I have to have my attention.

Just take his feelings into account...he loves you and you are about to be his wife....so naturally hes overprotective of you.

dward....

She has experienced it on the other foot... you must have not read the part where the female bartender was flirting with him to the point of asking for his number.... so I am sure she knows what it feels like.

I am sure we all have experienced these small bouts with people flirting with our men/women that we love.....

For me... as soon as I see a person flirting with my gem...I don't have to say anything I just give the EYE look and will stand there and look her dead in her eye to the point where she either say what she has to say and get the hell away, that alone has kept the bitches away...... I feel if you got the guts to flirt with my man in front of me then I have every right to give you a piece of my mind...or the evil eye look....


I don't see what she did wrong that was so tramatic that he had to go there with her....ok so she smiled she did not sit and do what he did with the female bartender....she wore that top he liked it and he was ok with her wearing it...if it was not then he should have told her right there, so he has to deal with the consequences of his women looking good and know that she will be looked at by other men, not only because she is beautiful but because she has on a sexy top 😉

Ginger girl do you I feel what you are going through... went through it with my baby daddy (pisces) for six years 🙂......

Being insecure within yourself and your relationship will rip a relationhip apart.

Oh P please. You're becoming emotional with all your silly little attempts at insulting me. Cute how it turns into personal shit when you can think of nothing to say. LOL Now suddenly I'm "ugly" inside. Talk about over reacting.

Am I angry at you? Nah... you assumed. I was just being a little sarcastic... as I tend to do. You sure as shit want to dish it out but you can't handle it in return. I'll refrain from namecalling as it's a little recess playground for me 😉 I told you however ridiculous your comments were they were appriciated. I didn't say it to be cute. I meant it 😉


"What I said was that he was drunk and couldn't gauge your actions .... dumbass."

Now where in the fuck did I ever say HE was drinking or for that matter drunk? Hmmmm? Oh... I didn't as he had to drive. A drunk person can't very well drive us home now can they? You jumped to that conclusion as you seem to do. Silly girl 😛 And then to go on with your childish namecalling because YOU failed to comprehend. Hmmmm...

I suggest P that you read more carefully before trying to "help" with your "valuable" advice.

Posted by No1delete2

ginger: Should his behavior worry me?

No. If you truly love this guy, you'll let this go...

First, you tell us that's he's been cool when "men flat out ask me for my numbers before in front of Aries." I can tell you, this Virgo would kick the shit out of any guy who asked for Debra's number in front of me!! I think your Aries Guy has been Super Hero patient up to this point...

Second, I think he finally had enough of the guys flirting with you. Some guys (myself included) have a long fuse, but that doesn't mean we won't explode if you keep putting a match to it!

Third, you're joking with him about the bartender did not help -- you unintentionally threw gasoline on a camp fire.

It may be "caveman" of us, but most guys think of a lover (and potential wife) as "their woman" -- and we don't take kindly to another man trying to muscle in...

Thanks DY. It's rare we go anywhere anymore because we busy and tired from planning not to mention kinda broke since we are paying for the wedding ourselves (thanks to my deadbeat biker dad) Anywho... so this is far and inbetween. It's 50/50 too. Sometimes it's him getting flirted with (men with war stories are in demand 😉 ) sometimes it's me. It's no big deal and something we joke about. This is really the first time it got SO outta hand.
There is a deeper darker layer to this that he kinda hinted at but since we've been just circling each other rather then talking I haven't gotten to the bottom of it yet. You being a military man probably understands some of this a little more then most. I do know because of how things went down... no need to go there... he is setting up a eval at the VA. That makes me .......wanna cry or something 😢 I do feel bad that I pushed him to that point but I'm genuinely confused at how it got there. It was never an issue before.
His reaction took me by surprise and it had me confused then instantly defensive and then scared.
You are right that I did make things worse and I told him ... maybe not in the best way but I told him I was joking and I didn't realize it would make him mad. That was basically what I said but it probably came out a little more um sassy then that.
He IS without a doubt a "caveman". I just wished it was something we could have discussed rather then went to war over. The thing is I feel comfortable with him enough to let my guard down and

Got cut off!!
Anyway.. now I'm on high alert and that's not fun especially at home.

"5. He can't drive and hold a conversation at the same time....that threw me for a loop
6. He is a big show off out in public."


I know these two VERY well. The driving part is the worst with out a doubt. He is constantly running stop signs and red lights. Even when I'm NOT talking to him.

The showing off was something I knew about him before. It it annoys me I ignore it and do my own thing but he's a really funny guy and mostly I find myself laughing at the things he does to be front and center.

I dont see any insecurity on his part....this is a natural reaction and if you think differently then you are selfish and you are NOT ready to get married.

You just cant go around flirting and think its okay and if a person is affected by it you immediately think hes insecure.

This has absolutely nothing to do with being an aries...it is what it is.

Posted by dward417
I dont see any insecurity on his part....this is a natural reaction and if you think differently then you are selfish and you are NOT ready to get married.

You just cant go around flirting and think its okay and if a person is affected by it you immediately think hes insecure.

This has absolutely nothing to do with being an aries...it is what it is.

I'd agree if I "went around flirting and thinking it was ok". But that's not the case.

Aw DY you've calmed me considerably about all this. He's still gonna spend the weekend at his bro's to give me a little space and so I can decompress a little. Besides absence makes the heart grow fonder no? I know that well 😉

If you want to get down to it we are both hotheads but I really thought we knew each others limits. I just have to be more sensitive and careful. *shrug* It's a little disappointing because he was the one person I didn't have to watch my mouth around but now I see that I do. Nothing has ever been off limits when it come to joking/saying what was on our minds.

"THAT does concern me! Is he just careless / inattentive, or is there an element of road rage / aggressive driving involved?"

LOL No road rage besides the occasional yells or honks at the morons but he's just so spacey sometimes. He can NOT multitask to save his life. In our town every other block has a stop sign if you drive east to west. WELL... he will blow a stop sign and I tell him "Erm that was stop sign you just ran". By the time he pulls his head out of his ass/the clouds he looks over his shoulder like "Oh it was?" .... and blows through the next one because he's yet again not paying attention.
His excuse "I'm use to Baghdad ways of driving" Uh huh. 😛

I know this is a bump and we will get over it. Thanks DY so much for presenting the guys side. That's what I needed 🙂

Effedup... LOL That name... only an Aries. 😉
Thanks for your imput. There are some issues with his military service. He was a front line soldier from the beggining of the war so he saw some shit. I'm sure DY knows what kinda shit when I say 82nd and Fallujah. Yeah he was there and pretty much a cherry (private) at the time. Anyway... he's getting help. That much I can say. He HAD to take classes when he came home but he's reaching out on his own. It's tough for him and I try to understand and be supportive. Sometimes I just can't understand what he's going through. 😢

I think your aries man didn't realize that someone would be coming on to you
like that,and it made him angry! He was probably more angry at the bartender
than he was at you but he took his anger out on you because he figured that
he might have missed something that you may have done to provoke it.
I say this because my aries has done this more than once.
Aries men seem to believe that other men should respect other men when they
have girlfriends and they shouldn't flirt with them in front of them. They know
men will flirt with you anyway when they aren't around but when it happens
in front of them,they are not very happy with it!
If he loves you,he will come back! Make sure you didn't flirt with the guy back
and if you didn't,it should be fine.

I think you should freak out another 4 pages and babble on about this molehill you made into a major event ... he actually needs to know that you can't handle it.


Hopefully, he'll figure it out sooner rather than later.

She was playing a head game .... and it kicked her in the ass.


Typical Scorpio to fuck with their man's head, actually .... hopefully, he'll find out soon.

Posted by poopsie1

Posted by Ike 2.0
"was a little tipsy when we walked out and I giggled about it a little making a comment that I think that bartender wanted to take me home (laughing a nudging Aries a little teasingly) "


good job genius .

i think like Ike.

i like you ginger but to be fair, mercury in scorp can say things on the primitive side 😉. the problem here was not what that bartender did the problem was YOU thought that was a big deal enough to bring it to your aries' attention and further more, YOU planted this image of that bartender bringing you home in his head. that would piss the heck out of me as well. what you said sounds a bit disrespectful tbh.

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LOL Poopsie. Fair enough! I messed up. I'm not saying I didn't. I pushed him further then I should have. Lesson learned. I'm just a little taken back that it "went there". We are both harsh people with harsh humor. I went too far with it.......... I guess. Thanks for the honesty. I'll tread more careful in the future. 🙂
Things are looking better though. We talked. It's gonna be ok with a little more understanding and communication.

Aww P a hug or is it you need to pinch off a grumpie?
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men are wired to protect what they feel is theirs and that's how he feels about you Ginger. your aries was worried someone could steal you from him. when he saw what he perceived as you enjoying the attention of the bartender he was most likely irked but when you commented on it, he might have questioned your commitment to him. perhaps you were feeling a bit insecure and that's why you made note of the bartender??s attention? your fiance loves you. you love him. you are in a committed relationship.

i agree with Dy and believe this is repairable with a good heart-to-heart and that pre-wedding jitters could have escalated the insecure feelings on both sides. make it a learning experience in dealing with each other in the future.

the level of trust in a relationship is paramount. let him know that he can trust you and that you only want to be with him. while it's nice to know you are attractive (you are gorgeous by the way) to other people, the only one who matters is the man you are going to marry.

good luck and let us know how it all goes down! 🙂

Hi Ginger,

Here's my half pence worth from a bit of experience - Aries/Scorp marriage - When we were dating (which I honestly didn't know that is what we were doing) I thought it was funny when he'd flirt or did the roving eye bit(smiling to myself & thinking,"What a silly ass") but once we were married, uuuhm, not sooo funny - Whole different ballgame for me and I told him so. Now as an Aries we are pretty irreverent on most things, taking anything or anyone, including ourselves too seriously is just not in the stars EXCEPT for marriage and the person we view as our favorite on the planet. Getting to the marriage stage is VERY hard for us but once there, it/we are the real deal-life long commitment-in it to win it. So when he did cheat I walked out the door for good. He was surprised but I reminded him what I had told him were deal breakers - no second chance to his surprise (It will never happen again... we'll buy a new house, we'll go to counseling, I fear being a parent...fear/shmear - No second chance? Who does that? blah, blah, blah) The funny thing is I'm not by nature suspicious or jealous - I would have had to have TRIPPED over their bodies for it to have enter my mind that he had done this. He, I guess out of guilt, started crying one evening and told me his little confession. That's when I packed a bag a left. Not because we don't forgive & forget but for me I viewed him as weak, someone I no longer admired or respected - totally lacking in character - wasn't strong enough to be my man per Sheryl Crow. I can respect someone I don't love but not the reverse. Prior to this he was frequently the star of my dream state but after that night never again. Weird. So Ginger, all this to say marriage is a huge factor I would imagine for your Aries and he is NOT joking anymore. I also want to say that you're not a mind reader and who knew he'd pick that evening for this to kick in with him.

Now if your Aries went hog wild (as we say in Texas) and punched his fist through a wall or kicked a door or stomped around with arms flailing, veins bulging and roaring at the top of his lungs, tell him you get it - he made his point, and he needs to cool it with the theatrics - and yes you have to say it just like that, do not beat around the bush this time - no subtly needed. (we understand parameters once set). Then you might say I love you and I would walk through fire for you - never doubt me again. End of story! And never, ever bring it up again if

Now if your Aries went hog wild (as we say in Texas) and punched his fist through a wall or kicked a door or stomped around with arms flailing, veins bulging and roaring at the top of his lungs, tell him you get it - he made his point, and he needs to cool it with the theatrics - and yes you have to say it just like that, do not beat around the bush this time - no subtlety needed. (we understand parameters once set). Then you might say I love you and I would walk through fire for you - never doubt me again. End of story! And never, ever bring it up again if you want him to trust you with his emotions. I can tell you love him deeply and will work out this hiccup.

Now on the other hand, if he pushed you, threw something at you, grabbed you or ANYTHING else to you - walk. Seriously. Again no second chances ever on this one no matter how much love or devotion you feel.

Sorry Ginger for the long message - hope this helps or makes you smile or both.

PaleoJane

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Ginger: If you want to get down to it we are both hotheads...

Really? A Scorpio hot head? Never seen one of those - honest!

Plenty of Aries hot heads though, for sure...

😉 Maybe it's the red hair? *shrug*
I will say DY that with Virgos they so soothed my temper. Though that is a good thing how they did it irritated me. They seemed to "disapprove" and look their nose down on such emotional displays. They made me feel really really stupid if I was mad about anything so I hid my anger *most* of the time with Virgos. After awhile it seemed I just learned to keep that fire to a minimum.

It's all cool and well now. There is still a slight tension but we've since talked and layed it out on the table. I asked him " How the HELL did it get to this?"
Anyway, thanks for all the comments. And I mean ALL the comments 😉
All is well in the Scorpio/Aries house ..........for now. LOL I've always always know that it's not going to be easy.