So this Aries ended up showing his true face

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So I have been posting on about this “relationship” with this aries guy. He ended up showing his true self, going mental on me, and blaming it all on me making me look like a clingy needy homewrecker.

First of all I am so mad so I really need to rant about this to calm down. And I’m also sorry for it and for the long message.

So after what happened last week, I told him to take some time and figure what he wanted and then we ended up slowly talking again and he was kinda giving me vibes that he wanted to hookup. So one day I asked him if he wanted to hookup and hours later he texed back asking where, apologizing for not texting sooner and he even called me ( which showed desesperation tbh ). Next day I texted him back, he asked me where I moved and so on and so forth and then said something like “nah, I have a gf haha”. So I got mad because as far as I was concerned they were broken up and he hit me up first. Since he told me they were exclusive I stopped contacting him and he was the one who came back to me (since we had long history and great chemestry, I thought he wanted to still be friends). And now with his attitude and games made me look like a class A hoe which I am not and I will never be.

So I told him “You are such a player grow up” and he literally started going mental on me. He started telling me how he never slept with anyone else since being with her, and then I told him that if he pretended to wanted to sleep with someone else then he was already there. So he said that he was just trolling me and he didn’t understand why I kept talking to him. And then he pretended to have blocked me. I wasn’t sure if that was aries ego pride hurt or if he really meant it (since he hasn’t been anything close to straightforward lately) so I said sure. And that pissed him off and he literally started humiliating me, telling me to get someone else and go I don’t know where and that I text him more and wtf. Like he was mental. So I let him rant for like 10 minutes and then I told him he should have been straightforward from the beginning not play games and lead me on. And to defend himself he said he has a gf from september and he thought I knew that. So I told him he only told me they were exclusive in november and he came to me when they broke up and then I blocked him.

Like I am so frustrated and dissapointed in him. We know each other for 3 years and he treats me like a random chick. I don’t understand how brain damaged can someone be to play like this with someone and make her look like a desperate clingy needy chick when he provoked it and made me believe he wanted to hookup. Like for real he has no life, he is embarrasing and dumb. He is such an attention seeker, probably his gf isn’t giving him any and he needs to go find some and boost his ego somewhere else. And probably they both deserve each other, I wouldn’t be with a guy who treats girl like this and plays with their feelings.

Like I’m not blaming it all on him, It’s my fault too, but honestly more his than mine. He’d never get a loyal woman like me again. And he will regret it.

And then, after he did all that he posted on snapchat ( a friend told me ) a photo saying he felt bad, unloved, betrayed, confused, angry, used, hated, defeated, worthless and saying how death wasn’t a loss, but what dies inside us what we live is.

Like... wtf. I just realized he is just an immature and insecure guy and a jerk. I just now that the Universe is going to get back at him for everything. And I also know he’s going to come back to me again like he always does and I’m going to greet him with a foot in his face.

Anyway thank you for taking time to read my rant ( if you did ) And also I know that not all Aries are like him - I met pretty decent and fun and normal aries guys by now - but he is the worst if them.
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Yes I definitely agree with you, he is definitely hurt and I hurt his ego. But he hurt me so many times and I even told him he hurt my feelings and he couldn’t care less. So now I don’t care if he is hurt or not since he is being a big selfish and immature baby. Thanks
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It takes an Aries someone to put him in his place for him to appreciate you more. I think he’s is hurt . They can be like babies sometimes. They think they don’t do anything wrong
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I didn’t miss an opportunity I honestly didn’t want to troll him or play dirty like him. I am more than that and I’m clearly not going to go down on his level. He was not worth it, not even the game. Besides I think his gf couldn’t care less
Posted by Ravishing
Fuck. You missed out on SUCH a golden opportunity to troll him and make him even angrier.

"Just stop. You're a cheater. And you know it. Bet it sucks to know the truth deep down inside."

*giggles*

"I'm telling your girlfriend, bitch."

LOL
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Yes exactly! I think he was sexually frustrated because he is in a long distance relationship and noticed I didn’t feel like putting up with him and exploted. Mentally damaged ppl you never now haha. We just gotta be more careful next time, thanks
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I'd be upset also after 3 years.

It's hard to believe sum guys simply can't admit their emotions to just blow up like that SMH.

This has happened to me twice both earth signs one guy I wasn't even dating. And knew him for 2 years.

A guy friend told me " a lot of these dudes have mental problems".

The more you know.
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Oh wow that behaviour is insane! Clearly that was an insecure and dumb Aries, who couldn’t get the girl and ended up frustrated. Some guys are really immature. And they don’t even listen. Probably he got hurt and had no clue how to handle it. Did your friend get rid of him in the end ?
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This is a side of Aries M I absolutely can't stand.

At my old job, Aries team leader was madly infatuated with a co-worker of mine. He would ask her out tirelessly, she turned him down again and again to the point she went to HR.

Eventually she got engaged and his resentment towards her was frightening, he went from being the nicest guy in the world to the biggest creep ever. He got hammered at our Christmas party & told everyone that would listen... that they had sex several times and HE got bored and tired of her.

That ego is their downfall, makes them behave very childish and immature and they will blame it on you. Lol
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told me to stay away from him. And not to offend you, but you’re not a specialist, you gave your opinion in a nicely way and you can’t possibly be sure of what is going through his mind. ( again, no offense ).

I honestly see it as a way of learning, I’d rather learn on my skin if someone is like this and is doing that than listening to a person, not take changes and regret it. At least now I know.

And I also believe that we both had a little fault in this, I mean it takes 2 to start talking. I am that type of person who hates being played I can’t stand it. I mean fine you play me and you act like a disrespectful human when you barely know me that’s fine. But when we’ve been knowing each other for a long time? When we’ve been friends for a period of time? When we dated? That’s how you treat a person? Well excuse me if to me that’s just immaturity and rude behavior. If he wouldn’t have played games nothing would have happened. He should have been straight honest, not pretend and play with my feelings when he knew I had them and make fun. A mature and decent person would have stayed away. So, we both had our faults in this, I shouldn’t have put up with his bs and he should have not played me and made fun or whatever he did.

Thank you for your message 🙂
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Like I’m not blaming it all on him, It’s my fault too, but honestly more his than mine. He’d never get a loyal woman like me again. And he will regret it.
Naw girl. You're the idiot here. I warned you to stay away because he was using you. This is YOUR fault. YOU allowed this to happen.

And in case you forgot - I told YOU to stay away from him a month ago

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aries/i-can-t-understand-this-aries-man-9319528/

Hmm sounds like he’s cheating on the official gf. What I find baffling is your reluctance to admit more of your emotional involvement with this guy. Possibly trying to feed off the scraps he leaves behind and feeding your own hopes. Case in point: him not responding to your affections, telling you he has a girlfriend, and being in an open relationship. That all sounds like a pass time. He is probably very much in love with his gf but due to circumstances can’t be all in, so he’s using you for what he can get out of it.

And in case that you are wondering what those things are...they are the following:

- attention

- sex

- proximity

My guess is if his girlfriend was closer, he’d dump you in a second. That open relationship thing sounds like bs, otherwise why would he block your number? I’d say cut ties with him, because sooner or later he will.

And again 9 days ago

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aries/aries-man-came-back--9488666/?checkpg=1

He’s not interested.

He’s not playing games.

He’s just not that into you.



So I see nothing’s changed since last time...

You can't be faithful to someone who isn't yours to begin with. Quit being delusional and stop putting the blame on him when it was your fault to fall for his bullshit to begin with.

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consistent because you were consistent too. As far as I know Libra are a bit different from Gems and more loving. Geminis can be extremely inconsistent and moody and can confuse people and initiate trust issues. They don’t necesarily do it on purpose, that’s their nature so they do it without noticing. I was told so many times and even this guy said it. Just saying.
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He has moon in libra, venus in Pisces and Mars in Leo
Posted by queenaries_
What’s his moon, venus and mars sign

Libras are known to be wishy washy
No. The Aries had Libra moon and he never pulled the shit he did. Was consistent and never had to doubt his feelings for me. No excuse for his behavior and no excuse for the OP to accept shitty behavior.
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Hahaha omg on the first date— Well what can i say Aries can be extremely annoying and clingy when they really like you or want something from you. It also depends on the sign haha. I like aries and in general fire signs, but I feel aries is the most passionate, determined and fun of all of them
Posted by Harukka
Ewwwwww ...I can't understand how can anyone love aries men

Never forget that aries who beg me to marry him in first date I guess 😭😂😂😂😂



Crazzzzzy uggggh
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sounds crazy from both ways, though the guy deserved it for cheating. I mean if he knew she was there but didn’t want to meet with him maybe that was his immature form of revenge - but that’s no excuse. Usually when they’re in love they’re 100% faithfull, maybe he didn’t really want to be with her anymore or she was annoying who knows. But poor girl get cheater on sucks 🙈
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Posted by Miaou
This is a side of Aries M I absolutely can't stand.

At my old job, Aries team leader was madly infatuated with a co-worker of mine. He would ask her out tirelessly, she turned him down again and again to the point she went to HR.

Eventually she got engaged and his resentment towards her was frightening, he went from being the nicest guy in the world to the biggest creep ever. He got hammered at our Christmas party & told everyone that would listen... that they had sex several times and HE got bored and tired of her.

That ego is their downfall, makes them behave very childish and immature and they will blame it on you. Lol
This reminds me on my friend Aries...once when we ere on vacations at sea side, her current bf came in same town but he was staying in another house near by and came with a friend. Later at night I went with a guy I met there but knew from before for a drink and saw her guy with some girls hooking up so I texted her. What she did was get drunk and keyed his car lol

I'd never expect such reaction lol if I did wouldn't say nothing at all
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I do get the concept of flirting, even though I cannot flirt on comand and I can’t even realize when I do it - it’s a gemini thing. And I understand what you are saying, but in this case it is different, I had a long history with this guy, we dated, hooked up, broke up, wanted to move in together so on and so forth, we knew each other for 3 years and he knew I had a crush on him. The point is you don’t flirt with someone else when you have a girlfriend! I was okay with it when they were broken up but it really pissed me off that he wanted to hookup and flirted with me and then told me he is back with his girlfriend. I mean it made me look like a hoe when I am not. If I knew they got back together I wouldn’t have even flirted or asked to hookup or talked to him. Like it makes me feel really bad about myself and it annoys me that he played me like that after we’ve been through, he had no consideration. He just wanted to make fun or keep himself entertained or whatever on my account. And yes I was extremely mad when it happened, more along the lines of frustrated and dissapointed. Thank you for the message
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on topic now...I think you don't quite get the concept of flirting and that all bs was just irrational. Had a guy once that was a friend of mine, we always went out in company of few more people, mostly as couples, but none of us ever hooked up. BUT when we chat on Fb he'd always start some kind of turning on sex talks etc which started annoying me at some point. So one time when it started like that again I told him meet me in 30mins, at some place, I'll come to pick him up, let's see that in act kinda thing. He ghosted up on that or just made some excuse and later on ghosted up, I don't quite remember anymore BUT I did not go rage on him or took it seriously or overthought it etc...it was simple flirt and that's it, who cares really? I f you can't do it simply don't do it. Btw I got Aries Moon so I could also have that potential to rage but it's just plane dumb. You seem more raged then him quite honestly from this post. People like that are to be avoided,specially when you see that side of them, really what's the point of even talking about it?
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and. But what if there’s strong background behind? I mean that can change things and make you way insecure. I am not trying to find an excuse, I’m just curious. Like in the beginning I was the one who did him wrong, broke things off with him, swear at him. Maybe that was kinda his payback. Besides, he comes with a family with issues, he was bullied while growing up, his dad used to hit his mom, they changed country and then his parents god divorced. He had a taugh childhood and he is still having a tough time now his mom has cancer and his dad ( whom he hates is blackmailing him ). Like maybe that changed things for him and doesn’t act like an usual aries. Also, aries don’t like flakey, like at some point they get tired. I know I read some things about it. Anyway, just saying maybe he figured he would be way more secure with the chick he is now and he won’t live him and come back whenever she wants. Just sayin’. Anyway you look like you have a ton of knowledge about this so I’d like your opinion.
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Maybe he was consistent because you were consistent too. As far as I know Libra are a bit different from Gems and more loving. Geminis can be extremely inconsistent and moody and can confuse people and initiate trust issues. They don’t necesarily do it on purpose, that’s their nature so they do it without noticing. I was told so many times and even this guy said it. Just saying.
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Posted by diamondgemini
He has moon in libra, venus in Pisces and Mars in Leo
Posted by queenaries_
What’s his moon, venus and mars sign

Libras are known to be wishy washy
No. The Aries had Libra moon and he never pulled the shit he did. Was consistent and never had to doubt his feelings for me. No excuse for his behavior and no excuse for the OP to accept shitty behavior.

I'm an Aquarius with Gemini moon - I know about being flaky because I can be that way too. There was never any doubt about what he wanted from me. From the very beginning he chased and most of the work. He never was wishy washy. He's only ever been wishy washy with women he was toying/not serious about.
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and. No, I have the venus in Taurus his venus is in Pisces. Is it the same for Geminis with venus in taurus? I mean what you just said about taurus works for me too?

No, his family history and everything was not bulshit, that’s real, and I knew that from when we met, he didn’t tell me now. I know that things like these affect you psychologically so I wanted to know how it works with astrology. Oh and his moon is in Libra haha

Anyway, I’m definitely not going to be his rebound, that’s for sure. Like if he comes back when this chick breaks up with him, I’ll tell him straight to the point. If he wants something serious ( which I doubt ) will work, otherwise nah. His girlfriend is a scorpio, she gets drunk a lot and used to sleep around, so probably she will end up cheating on him sooner or later. They’re in a long distance relationship and He loves her too much to see that she’s kinda taking advantage of him.

But I’m not gonna let myself embarrassed by this guy anymore. His attention seeking reactions are already boring me to death.

Thanks for the information 🙂
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Ok I understand. But what if there’s strong background behind? I mean that can change things and make you way insecure. I am not trying to find an excuse, I’m just curious. Like in the beginning I was the one who did him wrong, broke things off with him, swear at him. Maybe that was kinda his payback. Besides, he comes with a family with issues, he was bullied while growing up, his dad used to hit his mom, they changed country and then his parents god divorced. He had a taugh childhood and he is still having a tough time now his mom has cancer and his dad ( whom he hates is blackmailing him ). Like maybe that changed things for him and doesn’t act like an usual aries. Also, aries don’t like flakey, like at some point they get tired. I know I read some things about it. Anyway, just saying maybe he figured he would be way more secure with the chick he is now and he won’t live him and come back whenever she wants. Just sayin’. Anyway you look like you have a ton of knowledge about this so I’d like your opinion.
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Maybe he was consistent because you were consistent too. As far as I know Libra are a bit different from Gems and more loving. Geminis can be extremely inconsistent and moody and can confuse people and initiate trust issues. They don’t necesarily do it on purpose, that’s their nature so they do it without noticing. I was told so many times and even this guy said it. Just saying.
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He has moon in libra, venus in Pisces and Mars in Leo
Posted by queenaries_
What’s his moon, venus and mars sign

Libras are known to be wishy washy
No. The Aries had Libra moon and he never pulled the shit he did. Was consistent and never had to doubt his feelings for me. No excuse for his behavior and no excuse for the OP to accept shitty behavior.

I'm an Aquarius with Gemini moon - I know about being flaky because I can be that way too. There was never any doubt about what he wanted from me. From the very beginning he chased and most of the work. He never was wishy washy. He's only ever been wishy washy with women he was toying/not serious about.

Well, the majority of friends/family that surround me are Aries. Yes, they can lose their temper really quickly and lose interest if they're flaky, but they're usually relentless with who they want. Plus, you said he has Taurus venus right? Well thing is, once they set their minds on who they want, they won't stop. They will chase and they will chase hard. All that background info is honestly just baloney or a pre-text from him, if he's using that as an excuse. My Aries went through something similar with his parents. Abandoned, abused, hard-life but he never doubted if he wanted me. He had someone on the loop that really wanted him when I kept rejecting him. He unfortunately strung her along while he was chasing hard for over a year. I finally caved and that girl was dropped instantaneously. Poor woman still pinned and chased even after he and I got together. He had to tell her to back off or he'll involve me to get her to back off.

Ime an Aries will always know with what he wants and go for it. There's nothing in this world that will stop him from doing so. A perfect celebrity example of this is Robert Downey Jr. His wife Susan rejected him and he pursued HARD. He went through abuse, drug addictions, hitting rock bottom... but that didn't deter him from going after his now wife. Aries men never let the negativity surround them bring them down (unless he has a depressing moon like Scorpio moon). But even then, they will always try and get out of that hole and on to the top of the hill. They're not the type to let negativity or bad circumstances get in their way, (hence the Ram - their sygil)... it's one of their most endearing qualities.

So if this guy is feeding you other crap, making pre-texts/excuses, or avoiding you. Chances are he's letting you down easy or keeping that door open for a "just in case". As all people tend to do on rebounds.
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