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What Stops Aries & Caps Getting Along.....
Well this is the thing...
Im A Cap (& a typical one), we arent supposed to even get along with Aries...
In all cases, its Them that are attracted to me (although it doesnt take me long to respond 🙂
I am a Cap/Sag Cusp
The only thing i put it down to is that i do have a great sense of humour and can (and do) find the funny side of every situation, I do laugh a lot 🙂
And I notice that Arians also seem to have a great sense of humour, but beyond that....I dont know !!
Im A Cap (& a typical one), we arent supposed to even get along with Aries...
In all cases, its Them that are attracted to me (although it doesnt take me long to respond 🙂
I am a Cap/Sag Cusp
The only thing i put it down to is that i do have a great sense of humour and can (and do) find the funny side of every situation, I do laugh a lot 🙂
And I notice that Arians also seem to have a great sense of humour, but beyond that....I dont know !!
I'm not in a relationship with a Cap, but one has been my best friend for 15 years, we get along great.
That's too bad! 😢 I don't see why they can't get along.
I would say the number 1 reason that keeps Aries and Capricorns from getting along in relationships is communication. I can be quite moody so every time I get a hair up my butt or decide to act like a brat doesn't require a serious talk. 99.9% of the time it has nothing to do with the other person and I'm aware that I'm in a mood so I just lay low for an hour/2 hours/whatever. I always revert back to my normal self quickly like nothing happened but the Capricorn I dated had a hard time letting things fly just like that. I get flustered easily and forget that the things going on in my head aren't also being said out loud so I don't realize that I'm not communicating. Heh but mostly I just get annoyed with myself for being moody and then having to explain because really it's not a big deal
"i've found you caps to be so closed off with your feelings and emotions, and this aspect for a ram will never do."
Bingo!
I used to be very close with a Cap girlfriend and this was a huge reason we had issues.
Bingo!
I used to be very close with a Cap girlfriend and this was a huge reason we had issues.
i know a cap and aries best friend duo. they relate to each other on so many things but it can get ugly sometimes and in a weird, almost secretive way. they are both extremely stubborn and hard-headed. their relationship both thrives on and is compromised by the constant need to challenge each other. this need not only compels them to stay in contact but since neither of them possess the ability to agree to disagree it causes frustrations. especially when it comes to politics!
To: DB
From: Xtina
Aries woman and Capricorn Man- By Linda Goodman
(This obviously might not describe you in full since you are a cusper)
The unmistakable air of loneliness that hangs over a Capricorn man, even in a room full of people, draws the Aries girl straight to his side (LOL Soo true). To the sentimental, egocentric Ram, the reason for his loneliness is obvious. He's been waiting for her -- to show him how beautiful life can be. So she proceeds to show him. Aries never beats around the bush.
Her initial enthusiasm is stifled by the Capricorn man??s slow responses — his earthly immunity to her fiery Mars charisma and her impulsive emotions may finally lead her to decide he's too stuffy, aloof, and distant.
It could be the end of a promising relationship that might have been deeply satisfying, as well as financially successful. Why should she waste her time trying to break through his loneliness to show him that life is beautiful, when he obviously enjoys his isolation? He wouldn't recognize beauty if it knocked him over. She's wrong.
Capricorns do appreciate beauty. But he??ll never tell her about those pictures he painted in school when the teacher wasn't looking, or the music he use to drown himself in when no one was listening, before he buckled down to the serious problems of carving out his security in a mad world??_ unless he thinks she really cares.
It can hurt to lose someone you love because you??re unable to communicate your feelings, and this is too often the case between the quiet Goat boy and aggressive Ram girl. How can he let her know about all those secret dreams he wants to give her — how can he show her the lifelong romanticism hidden deep within his shy, funny Goat heart? Well, he should look at it this way: if she can't see more virtue in the exceptional than the exciting, she's not the right girl for him.
From: Xtina
Aries woman and Capricorn Man- By Linda Goodman
(This obviously might not describe you in full since you are a cusper)
The unmistakable air of loneliness that hangs over a Capricorn man, even in a room full of people, draws the Aries girl straight to his side (LOL Soo true). To the sentimental, egocentric Ram, the reason for his loneliness is obvious. He's been waiting for her -- to show him how beautiful life can be. So she proceeds to show him. Aries never beats around the bush.
Her initial enthusiasm is stifled by the Capricorn man??s slow responses — his earthly immunity to her fiery Mars charisma and her impulsive emotions may finally lead her to decide he's too stuffy, aloof, and distant.
It could be the end of a promising relationship that might have been deeply satisfying, as well as financially successful. Why should she waste her time trying to break through his loneliness to show him that life is beautiful, when he obviously enjoys his isolation? He wouldn't recognize beauty if it knocked him over. She's wrong.
Capricorns do appreciate beauty. But he??ll never tell her about those pictures he painted in school when the teacher wasn't looking, or the music he use to drown himself in when no one was listening, before he buckled down to the serious problems of carving out his security in a mad world??_ unless he thinks she really cares.
It can hurt to lose someone you love because you??re unable to communicate your feelings, and this is too often the case between the quiet Goat boy and aggressive Ram girl. How can he let her know about all those secret dreams he wants to give her — how can he show her the lifelong romanticism hidden deep within his shy, funny Goat heart? Well, he should look at it this way: if she can't see more virtue in the exceptional than the exciting, she's not the right girl for him.
So, you see, the Mars-directed instinct of the Aries girl might have been right. He really was waiting for her to come along, and show him how to paint rainbows. It's just that her initial approach might have been overwhelming for the more introverted Goat. Capricorns have difficulty coping with reckless action and abandon, even in the name of love. It takes this man a certain length of time to make sure he has a firm grip on the reality of romance, and even then, he proceeds with caution. This way, he's sure not to slip and fall, or make any mistakes he??ll regret as some future date. With Aries, it's —fly now — pay later.?? With Capricorn, it's —pay now — and fly later, with a clear conscience.??
Assuming Capricorn and Aries do reach across the chasm of their differences, and hang on to each other??s hands and hearts, the disparities between their outlooks on life must still be either overcome or over-looked. He??ll try to over-look them. She??ll try to overcome them. Even in tackling the problems of their differences, they??re different. It lies in their divergent approaches to a situation.
The situation: He has just hurt his knee, and the doctor has told him he shouldn't aggravate the injury by walking on it for at least three weeks. The knee injury spoils the skiing trip they??d planned in the mountains.
ARIES: —I'm sorry you can't come with me, darling. But I'm sure you won't mind if I go along with the others and try to enjoy myself anyway.??
CAPRICORN: —Do you know what you are? You??re selfish.??
ARIES: —Do you expect me to sit here and hold your hand, when I??ve been looking forward to this weekend all year? Couldn't you make an effort and come along, even if you don't ski—
CAPRICORN: —No, I do not wish to come along in my crippled state, and yes, I do expect you, if you love me, to stay here and hold my hand.??
ARIES: —Do you know what you are? You??re selfish.??
(Actually they are both right. They??re both selfish.)
Assuming Capricorn and Aries do reach across the chasm of their differences, and hang on to each other??s hands and hearts, the disparities between their outlooks on life must still be either overcome or over-looked. He??ll try to over-look them. She??ll try to overcome them. Even in tackling the problems of their differences, they??re different. It lies in their divergent approaches to a situation.
The situation: He has just hurt his knee, and the doctor has told him he shouldn't aggravate the injury by walking on it for at least three weeks. The knee injury spoils the skiing trip they??d planned in the mountains.
ARIES: —I'm sorry you can't come with me, darling. But I'm sure you won't mind if I go along with the others and try to enjoy myself anyway.??
CAPRICORN: —Do you know what you are? You??re selfish.??
ARIES: —Do you expect me to sit here and hold your hand, when I??ve been looking forward to this weekend all year? Couldn't you make an effort and come along, even if you don't ski—
CAPRICORN: —No, I do not wish to come along in my crippled state, and yes, I do expect you, if you love me, to stay here and hold my hand.??
ARIES: —Do you know what you are? You??re selfish.??
(Actually they are both right. They??re both selfish.)
On the physical side of love between them, the same kind of hurdles must be overcome before they find sexual satisfaction. When the Ram mates with the Goat, it's a blending of Fire and Earth, and these are not normally the most compatible of elements. His sex impulses are controlled by Saturn, the planet of solid resistance, self-discipline and permanence. Her are directed by Mars, the planet symbolizing the masculine principle of flaming penetration. Capricorn would rather remain lonely and starved for love than risk being burned by a temporary passion. Aries would rather risk being scorched than not even try. So she's usually the one to initiate sexual advances. Assuming the stars are favorable, and she catches him when he's too weak to resist the Capricorn man will respond to her fresh enthusiastic expressions of love with the kind of profound intensity only the Saturn-ruled can understand — and a depth of affection that will surprise her as much as it will delight her.
If these two miraculously manage to get together, it's probably because he has the Moon in Aries, Sagittarius, Leo, Gemini or Aquarius — or because she has the Moon in Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo, Pisces or Scorpio. Then the differences between them (and there are undeniable differences) will tend to attract instead of repel. In other words, rather than become annoyed by his caution, stability and composure, she??ll respect him for these qualities she lacks and try to imitate them. Rather become uptight over her forceful drive, he??ll envy and admire it, and loosen up his laces a little himself. With harmonious Sun-Moon relationship in their mutual charts, love between Aries and Capricorn can grow into a deep and lasting devotion — sexually and otherwise.
However, with a square or opposition between their natal Sun and Moon signs, the Goat and Ram will either lock horns in constant battle, or become so bored with each other that they wander off someday and forget to return. Whatever their planetary positions, there's always the chance that his distrustful reserve in the beginning will petrify her natural romantic buoyancy, and they??ll never get beyond holding hands at the movies — or making magical promises with their eyes which they never keep.
(To be continued.... have to go to work 😛)
If these two miraculously manage to get together, it's probably because he has the Moon in Aries, Sagittarius, Leo, Gemini or Aquarius — or because she has the Moon in Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo, Pisces or Scorpio. Then the differences between them (and there are undeniable differences) will tend to attract instead of repel. In other words, rather than become annoyed by his caution, stability and composure, she??ll respect him for these qualities she lacks and try to imitate them. Rather become uptight over her forceful drive, he??ll envy and admire it, and loosen up his laces a little himself. With harmonious Sun-Moon relationship in their mutual charts, love between Aries and Capricorn can grow into a deep and lasting devotion — sexually and otherwise.
However, with a square or opposition between their natal Sun and Moon signs, the Goat and Ram will either lock horns in constant battle, or become so bored with each other that they wander off someday and forget to return. Whatever their planetary positions, there's always the chance that his distrustful reserve in the beginning will petrify her natural romantic buoyancy, and they??ll never get beyond holding hands at the movies — or making magical promises with their eyes which they never keep.
(To be continued.... have to go to work 😛)
Posted by sagiluvPosted by xtina
The situation: He has just hurt his knee, and the doctor has told him he shouldn't aggravate the injury by walking on it for at least three weeks. The knee injury spoils the skiing trip they??d planned in the mountains.
ARIES: —I'm sorry you can't come with me, darling. But I'm sure you won't mind if I go along with the others and try to enjoy myself anyway.??
CAPRICORN: —Do you know what you are? You??re selfish.??
ARIES: —Do you expect me to sit here and hold your hand, when I??ve been looking forward to this weekend all year? Couldn't you make an effort and come along, even if you don't ski—
CAPRICORN: —No, I do not wish to come along in my crippled state, and yes, I do expect you, if you love me, to stay here and hold my hand.??
ARIES: —Do you know what you are? You??re selfish.??
(Actually they are both right. They??re both selfish.)
LOL!!!!😄
The Aries sounds like a Sagii to me..click to expand
LOL No I think the Sag would have dumped him 😄
Maybe for a Sagi but for me at least their is an air of mystery about them that is very intriguing. I'm not to much into the shy quiet type, but strong and silent is what I like.
I guess since Caps are squared with me it makes them like a no-no, I can't have sort of thing, and there's nothing I like more than what I can't have.
Aries love their challenges 😄.
I guess since Caps are squared with me it makes them like a no-no, I can't have sort of thing, and there's nothing I like more than what I can't have.
Aries love their challenges 😄.
LOL that is why Aries and Sags are forever chasing each other, we love the game too much to ever stop 🙂.
Posted by LovelyMissAries
I totally didn't read through this topic, so if this has been said already... my apologies.
In my opinion... MOST of the Caps I've met are..well...boring. Highly perceptive... but boring. I need some play in the midst of all that 'work first' attitude too!
Spoken like a TRUE Aries.
I love the Aries board.
Ok let me try.
Cap is about FULL authority, and Aries is about FULL rebellion. That's what is stopping them from getting along.
When Cap sets the rules, Aries breaks them because she wants to and because she can. Its like a discipline master getting reviled by an angry rebllious student. Or that child who breaks all the train sets daddy bought because he told her specifically not to break anything.
What makes them get along? When they put their egoes aside and actually respect each other. Capricorn can help Aries stabilise their effusive, restless energy to channel to worthwhile pursuits. While Aries can offer Capricorn excitement and make them feel young again.
If they know how to work together, this is a great combi. But only if their egos are put to one side.
Cap is about FULL authority, and Aries is about FULL rebellion. That's what is stopping them from getting along.
When Cap sets the rules, Aries breaks them because she wants to and because she can. Its like a discipline master getting reviled by an angry rebllious student. Or that child who breaks all the train sets daddy bought because he told her specifically not to break anything.
What makes them get along? When they put their egoes aside and actually respect each other. Capricorn can help Aries stabilise their effusive, restless energy to channel to worthwhile pursuits. While Aries can offer Capricorn excitement and make them feel young again.
If they know how to work together, this is a great combi. But only if their egos are put to one side.
"Hahaha "When Cap sets the rules, Aries breaks them' Sounds like fun "
Oh hell yes, its fun, but both usually end up with hurt egoes.
Oh hell yes, its fun, but both usually end up with hurt egoes.
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I don't know, because in reality, Caps and Aries are very similar. It's just that Aries is the child and is intrigued by everything around them, and that causes excitment, which causes us to be impulsive. Cappys.... they've seen it before, and they are cautious because of it, so they take their time.
I personally find capricorns interesting. But over time, their over caution can become a bit stiffling and suffocating. I want at least SOME excitement!!!
One cappy guy that I messed around with couldn't handle that I was a bit unconventional. I think at first it intrigued him, but then he realized that I wouldn't bend unless things were met half way. It seems like the moment he had to work for it, he got nervous. We had opened up to each other very emotionally, and had a lot of things in common. But his excessive partying, drug abuse, and other extra activities really put me off. I like to keep moving, not keep doing the same thing over, and over again.
The straw for me was when he started acting like a jerk.... which is fine, whatever. But don't chat up a girl at the bar right infront of me. You look cheap and desperate, and you are insulting me. Always, ALWAYS, act like a gentleman.... and sometimes Capricorn males don't live up to this standard, yet they impose this piety on others. I hate double standards.... the mere hypocracy of it makes me ill.
I personally find capricorns interesting. But over time, their over caution can become a bit stiffling and suffocating. I want at least SOME excitement!!!
One cappy guy that I messed around with couldn't handle that I was a bit unconventional. I think at first it intrigued him, but then he realized that I wouldn't bend unless things were met half way. It seems like the moment he had to work for it, he got nervous. We had opened up to each other very emotionally, and had a lot of things in common. But his excessive partying, drug abuse, and other extra activities really put me off. I like to keep moving, not keep doing the same thing over, and over again.
The straw for me was when he started acting like a jerk.... which is fine, whatever. But don't chat up a girl at the bar right infront of me. You look cheap and desperate, and you are insulting me. Always, ALWAYS, act like a gentleman.... and sometimes Capricorn males don't live up to this standard, yet they impose this piety on others. I hate double standards.... the mere hypocracy of it makes me ill.
howdy. i actually posted a new thread in the relationships section but i am so happy to find a topic already started....
i'm 35, capricorn and he's 50, aries. we met several weeks ago, looking for the same thing - an ltr. neither of us has ever been married, no kids, and both of us have always been picky in the past with whom we share our lives.
even though my father is an aries and i get along well with him and find him to be generous, loyal and protective - all things good in my opinion (though everything always seems to be about him, him, him), i know that caps/aries generally do not mix on a friendship/business level for several reasons; one being that they both want to lead. i'm the youngest of four and he's the oldest of three, so i'm not sure i wouldn't consent to his leading....
there is definite sexual tension and the kissing/making out is phenomenal (we both feel like we're in high school), so i know that if we progress, there is a huge possibility that we will mesh in that area. ....but both of us are looking for something more substantial. he's a great guy, totally together; i'm a great girl, somewhat together 😉 .... no, really - he is completely lovely, i am sweet, and i think we would be great together, if i can get these nagging feelings out of my mind that in the long run it might not work. you know us cappies...weighed down by the "what ifs" in life. i'm trying to get better at letting go...
also, due to this thread, i realize that i am moving at a slower pace than he is...or well, maybe i'm just not expressing it as much as he is. thank you for enlightening me as to how cappies tend to hold back until, sometimes, it's too late. i won't make that mistake. he really is a great guy. i'd hate to mess it up.
any other input would be greatly appreciated.
thanks so much.
i'm 35, capricorn and he's 50, aries. we met several weeks ago, looking for the same thing - an ltr. neither of us has ever been married, no kids, and both of us have always been picky in the past with whom we share our lives.
even though my father is an aries and i get along well with him and find him to be generous, loyal and protective - all things good in my opinion (though everything always seems to be about him, him, him), i know that caps/aries generally do not mix on a friendship/business level for several reasons; one being that they both want to lead. i'm the youngest of four and he's the oldest of three, so i'm not sure i wouldn't consent to his leading....
there is definite sexual tension and the kissing/making out is phenomenal (we both feel like we're in high school), so i know that if we progress, there is a huge possibility that we will mesh in that area. ....but both of us are looking for something more substantial. he's a great guy, totally together; i'm a great girl, somewhat together 😉 .... no, really - he is completely lovely, i am sweet, and i think we would be great together, if i can get these nagging feelings out of my mind that in the long run it might not work. you know us cappies...weighed down by the "what ifs" in life. i'm trying to get better at letting go...
also, due to this thread, i realize that i am moving at a slower pace than he is...or well, maybe i'm just not expressing it as much as he is. thank you for enlightening me as to how cappies tend to hold back until, sometimes, it's too late. i won't make that mistake. he really is a great guy. i'd hate to mess it up.
any other input would be greatly appreciated.
thanks so much.
Cappiebelle- Courtesy of CancerianGoddess...
http://songsdomain.tripod.com/zodiac/index.html<BR>
Go to the relationship link on the left hand side, it will give you Linda Goodman's excerpt of Aries/Cap dynamics from her book Love Signs.
The section I typed in was between the Cap male/ Aries female compatibility, I'm not sure if they have the different male/female dynamics in there but I'm pretty sure they give the general excerpt.
http://songsdomain.tripod.com/zodiac/index.html<BR>
Go to the relationship link on the left hand side, it will give you Linda Goodman's excerpt of Aries/Cap dynamics from her book Love Signs.
The section I typed in was between the Cap male/ Aries female compatibility, I'm not sure if they have the different male/female dynamics in there but I'm pretty sure they give the general excerpt.
JMB2: thank you for the words of encouragement. yes, yes, omg, omg is right! i just don't want it to peter out (pun intended!) too soon.... though, i've always felt that men need sex in order to feel love and women need love in order to have sex. which....isn't true for most, but anyways.... i will heed your advice (and the advice of others on here) to allow myself to fall...it's an utterly vulnerable and frightening feeling, but also a very exciting one!
xtina: thank you for the link! i totally forgot about that website...
thanks, y'all. xoj
"Or that child who breaks all the train sets daddy bought because he told her specifically not to break anything."
Spoken like a true Aries hater! I'm sorry, but this is so not me.
Spoken like a true Aries hater! I'm sorry, but this is so not me.
JMB2: thank you for your addition.... what goes awry? without altering my own personality (which would not serve either of us, and i'm not into playing games), what can i do to not screw it up? i've heard/read: be spontaneous, don't tell him what to do, let him chase you, be energetic....
he calls and texts every day, and we see each other 3-4x week. he always makes plans to see me in advance, like, we're approaching this weekend and he's already asked for some of the following weekend. he told me he is seeing me exclusively, and because i am not a good juggler, i agreed to be exclusive. it feels strange calling someone your boyfriend/girlfriend at 35 and 50 years, but we're sheepishly admitting to it. it's cute.
any advice is appreciated, by anyone.
be well 🙂 xoj
he calls and texts every day, and we see each other 3-4x week. he always makes plans to see me in advance, like, we're approaching this weekend and he's already asked for some of the following weekend. he told me he is seeing me exclusively, and because i am not a good juggler, i agreed to be exclusive. it feels strange calling someone your boyfriend/girlfriend at 35 and 50 years, but we're sheepishly admitting to it. it's cute.
any advice is appreciated, by anyone.
be well 🙂 xoj
um...Dogsbody....i am sorry; i may have hijacked your thread! my apologies.... it just seemed a relevant place to post. i didn't mean to be rude, if i was at all. 🙂 xoj
Well, all i know is that I love Arians to death, but i know how the story ends!
Its always the same, starts off "Awesome" and somewhere down the track it turns "Pear Shaped"
And ive no idea why !!!
Its always the same, starts off "Awesome" and somewhere down the track it turns "Pear Shaped"
And ive no idea why !!!
Posted by xtina
Cappiebelle- Courtesy of CancerianGoddess...
http://songsdomain.tripod.com/zodiac/index.html<BR>
Go to the relationship link on the left hand side, it will give you Linda Goodman's excerpt of Aries/Cap dynamics from her book Love Signs.
The section I typed in was between the Cap male/ Aries female compatibility, I'm not sure if they have the different male/female dynamics in there but I'm pretty sure they give the general excerpt.
LOL Xtina, nice to know you pay attention to me *wink*
Here is another good site, it's been pretty true to every couple i know. I am with an aries and it's true what it says... down to the bottom line!
Here is the link for Aries Man and Capricorn Woman:
http://zodiac-traits.com/aries-man-capricorn-woman.html<BR>
Here is the link for Aries Man and Capricorn Woman:
http://zodiac-traits.com/aries-man-capricorn-woman.html<BR>
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